Deal breakers and turn-off's in dating!

Ficheall

I don't have a social media account. Unless boards counts. Certainly wouldn't share that.

Seamai

Gretas Gonna Get Ya! wrote: »

Well, that depends how round 1 went I suppose... did he win, or did you get a few nice digs in yourself!? :P

No, I just clammed up, the night finished sooner than it should have, I made up some pretty feeble excuse but when he asked if we could meet again I said, No, he was quite taken aback at my bluntness, he asked why, I answered that I wasn't impressed with his behaviour and left.
Got a few calls after but never responded to them.

Seamai

Ficheall wrote: »

I don't have a social media account. Unless boards counts. Certainly wouldn't share that.

Neither do I, unless you count a WhatsApp group with my brothers for arranging family get togethers.

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts

Candie wrote: »

You can get a plain white porcelain one almost anywhere. Fairly sure I bought the one I have in a supermarket. I'd subscribe to the view that all serveware and dishware should be plain white porcelain, others may have more imagination (and taste).

My dish is a nice brushed stainless steel one. A very handy, hard-wearing yoke that I can drop with impunity. Dunnes, I believe but I bought it probably six or seven years ago now.

Seamai

Elessar wrote: »

Yeah I get that. For me, with exes, there's just something bizarre about "just' being friends with someone you've made passionate love to, shared your life with and were best friends with in a close relationship with. And then to meet their new partner who is now doing all these things with them. I can't do it and can't be friends as much as I would like to. I don't like being seen as second best, or that I'm some kind of consolation prize when first place goes to a new person. I dunno. Just doesn't work for me. We're either completely together, or not at all, without wanting to sound harsh about it.

The social media thing was more the fact that she basically equated me with a serial killer and a rapist, to my face :eek:

Well in the case of that ex there were years of silence before the friendship was rekindled. I've never undertood people who can go from being an item to besties in the blink of an eye.

I also have exes that I'd cross the street rather than talk to.

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts wrote: »

My dish is a nice brushed stainless steel one. A very handy, hard-wearing yoke that I can drop with impunity. Dunnes, I believe but I bought it probably six or seven years ago now.

Nice, I like the white but can appreciate the practicality of a metal one. Though if you put a fresh block of butter in the metal one, you can't give it 10sec in the microwave to take the chill out.

I used to have a melamine one that withstood a great deal of abuse, it was a fantastic thing, unbreakable. Then time moved on and a dishwasher entered my life, and the melamine dish met it's Waterloo in the intensive cycle.

KathleenGrant

Dating stories, flirting and ads for butter dishes in the same thread. You can't beat it.

KathleenGrant

KathleenGrant wrote: »

Dating stories, flirting and ads for butter dishes in the same thread. You can't beat it.

Which reminds me. I put a man in hospital on our first date.

Well, I say I put him in hospital because it makes me sound badass, but really it was pneumonia wot did it.

Dr. Bre

People who fart on a date - big turnoff

KathleenGrant

Candie wrote: »

Which reminds me. I put a man in hospital on our first date.

Well, I say I put him in hospital because it makes me sound badass, but really it was pneumonia wot did it.

Years ago my sister went to a friend's grad. They just went as friends but she admitted later they snogged. He came out as gay shortly after. We always give her hell about turning him gay.

Gynoid

People used to be able to go out with each other and have very different political opinions. Atheists even married Catholics. The horror, I know. Somehow it used to be okay to argue strongly on political matters and still like the other person. An offbeat kind of example from the UK of this phenomenon was the strong friendship between GK Chesterton and HG Wells. Wells was an atheist who wrote science fiction and Chesterton was strongly religious and deplored in many of his essays the foolish refuge that many took in futuristic fiction. And yet they respected and loved each other (platonically). I like to think of that kind of humane accommodation of other peoples freedom of conscience. I find the polarisation of present times to be very square and stuffy.
I think Brexit will be roughly okay.
I think Trump is as bad as any of his predecessors.
I have a pyrex butterdish and I use it!!

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts

Candie wrote: »

Nice, I like the white but can appreciate the practicality of a metal one. Though if you put a fresh block of butter in the metal one, you can't give it 10sec in the microwave to take the chill out.

I used to have a melamine one that withstood a great deal of abuse, it was a fantastic thing, unbreakable. Then time moved on and a dishwasher entered my life, and the melamine dish met it's Waterloo in the intensive cycle.

I overlap my butter-buying so that a new block is softened and ready to go when the last one is finished. This is the serious stuff in life right here. :pac:

Always Tired

Elessar wrote: »

On a date the other night with a girl:

"It's a red flag for me if a guy is not on social media" after discussing instagram and I mentioned I don't really do social media. "I mean, what is he hiding? He's probably a serial killer or a rapist".

Followed by it's a red flag for her if a guy isn't friends with his exes, when I mentioned I don't do friends with exes.

A lot of red flags from her in one evening I must say

It's a red flag for me whe they're always looking for red flags.

I also couldn't be with anyone who posts those weird passive aggressive memes about what a 'real man' is like, how men should treat women like princesses, or how much of a badass boss b*tch they are or whatever.

Oh, and the funniest ones are posts about how they 'don't need the drama' when you know they are the biggest drama magnets ever and the reason they are on the lookout for so many red flags is they are still dealing with some psycho ex that they didnt properly vet and got pregnant by, and now the rest of us have to suffer. But her kids are her world and if you can't deal with that swipe on, she's looking for a real man not a boy.

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts wrote: »

I overlap my butter-buying so that a new block is softened and ready to go when the last one is finished. This is the serious stuff in life right here. :pac:

Next-level organizational skills there, ODB. Serious stuff indeed!

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts

Candie wrote: »

Next-level organizational skills there, ODB. Serious stuff indeed!

Thou shalt not run out of butter.

Earthhorse

Gynoid wrote: »

People used to be able to go out with each other and have very different political opinions. Atheists even married Catholics. The horror, I know. Somehow it used to be okay to argue strongly on political matters and still like the other person. An offbeat kind of example from the UK of this phenomenon was the strong friendship between GK Chesterton and HG Wells. Wells was an atheist who wrote science fiction and Chesterton was strongly religious and deplored in many of his essays the foolish refuge that many took in futuristic fiction. And yet they respected and loved each other (platonically). I like to think of that kind of humane accommodation of other peoples freedom of conscience. I find the polarisation of present times to be very square and stuffy.
I think Brexit will be roughly okay.
I think Trump is as bad as any of his predecessors.
I have a pyrex butterdish and I use it!!

On the other hand you have this.

http://i.imgur.com/TgIQf.jpg

People have always discriminated to some degree about sleeping with the enemy. We just happen to be going through particularly divisive times right now.

Potential-Monke

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts wrote: »

Thou shalt not run out of butter.

As long as it's Kerrygold and not some diet butter!

While I haven't been in the dating game for quite a while, obsession with Social Media would be a turn off. I don't mind it being used, but posting a picture of everything with some "witty" caption would melt my buzz. And I do like animals, but couldn't date someone who allows them into the bed, regardless of how 'clean' they are.

Deal breaker would be someone who considers gaming or watching anime childish. I'd know there and then we're not compatible.

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts

Potential-Monke wrote: »

As long as it's Kerrygold and not some diet butter!

Diet butter. Diet. Butter. Diiiiieeet... buuuuttter. No, sorry, does not compute.

Loafing Oaf

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts wrote: »

Diet butter. Diet. Butter. Diiiiieeet... buuuuttter. No, sorry, does not compute.

You better believe it's not butter!:P

Potential-Monke

Loafing Oaf wrote: »

You better believe it's not butter!:P

Exactly, all that fake butter like Low Low, and Dairygold crap. Proper full creamy butter or nothing! And Kerrygold being the cream of the crop.

Earthhorse

I couldn’t date anyone who wasn’t playful.

Also couldn’t date anyone mean.

That’s honestly the only things I can think of.

beejee

Anyone with a third buttock can thankfully fook right off out of it.

Seamai

Earthhorse wrote: »

I couldn’t date anyone who wasn’t playful.

Also couldn’t date anyone mean.

That’s honestly the only things I can think of.

Meanness is not an attractive quality in a person.

Always Tired

Earthhorse wrote: »

I couldn’t date anyone who wasn’t playful.

Also couldn’t date anyone mean.

That’s honestly the only things I can think of.

How about having a tail? Is that not a dealbreaker? Cuz if not, it sounds like a puppy would be your ideal mate.

KiKi III

Dealbreaker: Anyone who has what seems like a greater than average interest in butter and how it's presented/ served.

Earthhorse

Seamai wrote: »

Meanness is not an attractive quality in a person.

Yes, I know, but some people are only privately mean, if you know what I mean.

Always Tired wrote: »

How about having a tail? Is that not a dealbreaker? Cuz if not, it sounds like a puppy would be your ideal mate.

What, do you think I’m sick or something?

A puppy couldn’t possibly date a horse.

2 fast

SusieBlue wrote: »

I get unsolicited dick pics quite regularly, I always reply informing them that I've screenshot it and that I've shared it in my group chat with my friends. I'm not lying either, I do often share them with my friends, because they're also on the receiving end of them.

This is usually met with anger about "invasions of privacy" and how I'm so disrespectful, its a pity they weren't so concerned with respecting me and invading my space.
I once opened a snapchat from a guy who I had been seeing, with his full morning glory on show. I was with company at the time in a public place and almost dropped my phone in my haste to get the picture off the screen. I was mortified in case anyone had seen.

Its highly disrespectful to send unsolicited pictures of your genitals to anyone, if you're brazen and arrogant enough to do it then be prepared to suffer the consequences, as far as I'm concerned.

Total agreement, I dont understand why fellas get so work up when called out. No one wants a dick pic send it to yourself in future!

Feisar

KiKi III wrote: »

Dealbreaker: Anyone who has what seems like a greater than average interest in butter and how it's presented/ served.

I feel like that was a personal attack, LOL.

Butter is great!

2 fast

2 fast wrote: »

No one wants a dick pic send it to yourself in future!

Does that require a return address?

KathleenGrant

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Does that require a return address?

Or a boomerang dick.

beejee

2 fast wrote: »

Total agreement, I dont understand why fellas get so work up when called out. No one wants a dick pic send it to yourself in future!

It's practically a hobby at this point. I have it randomised, so once I send a Dick pic to myself, I won't know when I'll receive it.

3.30pm on a Tuesday in dunnes, phone chirrups, check message, continue shopping with boosted confidence.

A life hack, if you will.

fifth

My no-no's:

"Just back from 7 years in Dubai / Oz / Canada etc. " Or travel obsessed types.

Doesn't want kids (or has 3-4 with an ex..)

Up at the crack of dawn and doesn't like a lay on in the morning

Out every weekend getting smashed

Raging feminists who talk about smashing the glass ceiling at every opportunity

Butt / underwear pics plastered all over her instagram

'Powerlifter'

Likes 'the happy pear'.

(And yes I'm single obviously)

Potential-Monke

fifth wrote: »

Doesn't want kids (or has 3-4 with an ex..)

This is what I'm blaming on my current singleness, I don't want them but at 36 it's not exactly a trait potential partners look for. It has nothing to do with my mental health, slightly pudgy body, being 5'6" and ginger though.

SharpshooterTom

Ficheall wrote: »

Ah now, Thomas, that's bs. If you make the effort and go out and meet a few people - find a common interest or something - and just be yourself, I can guarantee you that by this time next year, you'll be 34.

And posting on boards telling everyone I'm a 34 year old virgin. :pac:

I'll make it an annual commitment, then when I hit 40 I'll be sending in application forms for the Hollywood reboot if anyone wants me. :cool:

Loafing Oaf

ThomasFlynn wrote: »

I'll make it an annual commitment, then when I hit 40 I'll be sending in application forms for the Hollywood reboot if anyone wants me. :cool:

Ronan Mullen already lined up for that, he'd be the fiftysomething virgin by that stage though...

Geuze

SusieBlue wrote: »

I get unsolicited dick pics quite regularly, I always reply informing them that I've screenshot it and that I've shared it in my group chat with my friends. I'm not lying either, I do often share them with my friends, because they're also on the receiving end of them.

I am stunned that anybody would actually send such a photo.

Maybe I'm out of touch, but I consider this utterly bad.

The Princess Bride

Dr. Bre wrote: »

People who fart on a date - big turnoff

Please tell me this hasn't actually happened?

beejee

The Princess Bride wrote: »

Please tell me this hasn't actually happened?

It happened to me once. This really, really long fart, must have been 10+ plus seconds. I was disgusted looking at her. It wouldn't have been too bad but the stink was powerful, like a bloated corpse had burst like a balloon releasing it's noxious gases across the entire restaurant.

I took one last look at her, apologised and left.

JupiterKid

I forgot to add these to my earlier post:

Stinginess and being a tight-arse. It’s one thing to be careful with money,
but being mean and tight is a very bad trait in a person;
Being a freeloader;
Being dismissive of opinions different to their own (really comes into the Arrogance category);
Being closed-minded and limited in one’s worldview.

Tell me how

JupiterKid wrote: »

I forgot to add these to my earlier post:

Stinginess and being a tight-arse. It’s one thing to be careful with money,
but being mean and tight is a very bad trait in a person;
Being a freeloader;
Being dismissive of opinions different to their own (really comes into the Arrogance category);
Being closed-minded and limited in one’s worldview.

To be fair, no one would list any of the above as being things which they find attractive in a potential partner.

They are, to some degree, subjective as to what constitutes such categorisation in an individual which does mean both parties are a poor match for each other but also means someone else might not think that the person accused as being this way is guilty of it.

Ghosteen

Tell me how wrote:

They are, to some degree, subjective as to what constitutes such categorisation in an individual which does mean both parties are a poor match for each other but also means someone else might not think that the person accused as being this way is guilty of it.

My head hurts after reading this :pac:

Tell me how

Ghosteen wrote: »

My head hurts after reading this :pac:

Reading it back, it does wander a bit...

creditcarder

JupiterKid wrote: »

I forgot to add these to my earlier post:

Stinginess and being a tight-arse. It’s one thing to be careful with money,
but being mean and tight is a very bad trait in a person;
Being a freeloader;
Being dismissive of opinions different to their own (really comes into the Arrogance category);
Being closed-minded and limited in one’s worldview.

Yeah, my ex went to a gaming pub with a dude and he was about to leave becaue there was a 5 $ charge.

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts

Muh list of dealbreakers:

- arrogance or general cockiness
- being a know-it-all
- being excessively two-faced (I believe everyone has said two-faced things at some point or another but just bitching about absolutely everybody is tiresome)
- being really moany and joyless
- having crap taste in music, films, TV shows etc. (subjective, I know but I know what my parameters are)
- being a person who says “I told you so”
- being lacking in empathy
- being lacking in common sense and pragmatism
- being too fond of the sauce

Deebles McBeebles

If she doesn't know who Paul McGrath is, its off.

If she doesn't tear up thinking about his magnificence against Italy in 1994, its off.

KiKi III

Deebles McBeebles wrote: »

If she doesn't know who Paul McGrath is, its off.

If she doesn't tear up thinking about his magnificence against Italy in 1994, its off.

Even if she was 6 at the time?

Deebles McBeebles

KiKi III wrote: »

Even if she was 6 at the time?

I was 11, no excuses when it comes to Paul McGrath!!!

KathleenGrant

Deebles McBeebles wrote: »

If she doesn't know who Paul McGrath is, its off.

If she doesn't tear up thinking about his magnificence against Italy in 1994, its off.

Yep agree with you here.

frosty123

Off the top of my head...smelly breath esp garlic, bad language, extreme political views, loud laugh

pgj2015

Any woman that wore a repeal the 8th t shirt.