Deal breakers and turn-off's in dating!

KiKi III

Rufeo wrote: »

Mam, this thread grew a life of it's own.

It’s not one for your Mam really.

Rufeo

Lol yes. My poor mother.

KathleenGrant

Candie wrote: »

I don't know who Paul McGrath is. And I'm not even sorry.

Awwww Candie, I always liked you............now we will never be friends.

KathleenGrant

I am a fan of chest hair, much prefer it to the waxed chest look men have now. I don't think men need to shave/wax/ trim below either. Why would I be pulling hair out of my teeth? This may be crude but if it's not longer than his pubic hair it's not much good to me.

Always Tired

Omg my ex who I posted about earlier in the thread who always got the names of things wrong, who I have blocked on all social media, sent me a LinkedIn request today.

I found this bewildering as I am not on LinkedIn, but anyway I clicked on the link to her page in the email, as I was curious to see what professional capacity she might be working in, seeing as when we were together she managed to get fired from such difficult jobs as cashier and barista, for not being able to do things right.

Her profile says she is a 'self thought artist.'

God love her.

Always Tired

Btw she is not self taught. I actually taught her. I had to, because when she asked to use my oils to try painting, I found her a couple hours later hunched over the corner desk, struggling mightily because she couldn't thin the paint. Because she was using water with them.

Deebles McBeebles

KathleenGrant wrote: »

I am a fan of chest hair, much prefer it to the waxed chest look men have now. I don't think men need to shave/wax/ trim below either. Why would I be pulling hair out of my teeth? This may be crude but if it's not longer than his pubic hair it's not much good to me.

That's the thing, Kathleen. You trim away the foliage and the tree looks mightier. That's half the reason men in porn shave the whole shebang off. The other half being crabs, presumably.

Always Tired wrote: »

Omg my ex who I posted about earlier in the thread who always got the names of things wrong, who I have blocked on all social media, sent me a LinkedIn request today.

Having a LinkedIn account, total deal breaker.

Earthhorse

Always Tired wrote: »

Omg my ex who I posted about earlier in the thread who always got the names of things wrong, who I have blocked on all social media, sent me a LinkedIn request today.

I found this bewildering as I am not on LinkedIn, but anyway I clicked on the link to her page in the email, as I was curious to see what professional capacity she might be working in, seeing as when we were together she managed to get fired from such difficult jobs as cashier and barista, for not being able to do things right.

Her profile says she is a 'self thought artist.'

God love her.

Sounds like a looker.

Eircom_Sucks

KathleenGrant wrote: »

I am a fan of chest hair, much prefer it to the waxed chest look men have now. I don't think men need to shave/wax/ trim below either. Why would I be pulling hair out of my teeth? This may be crude but if it's not longer than his pubic hair it's not much good to me.

lol love it

Eircom_Sucks

Always Tired wrote: »

Omg my ex who I posted about earlier in the thread who always got the names of things wrong, who I have blocked on all social media, sent me a LinkedIn request today.

I found this bewildering as I am not on LinkedIn, but anyway I clicked on the link to her page in the email, as I was curious to see what professional capacity she might be working in, seeing as when we were together she managed to get fired from such difficult jobs as cashier and barista, for not being able to do things right.

Her profile says she is a 'self thought artist.'

God love her.

sounds like somebody is not over his ex

facehugger99

I honestly couldn't be with someone I didn't respect intellectually. I have no patience dealing with stupid people.

A sense of humour is really important too.

Also massive tits, obviously.

The One Doctor

Deebles McBeebles wrote: »

If you have ever said anything remotely like, "If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best", with a straight face. Die.

Unless you have massive tits.

Massive tits excuse almost everything else.

That's one thing I cannot understand about gay guys. They're missing the boobs. The poor suckers. I mean I have a willy and a prostate and am happy to have them, but to never appreciate big tits? Come on. That's like being a bacon-obsessed vegan.

mlem123

Anyone who expects me to be as bald as a coot :L

After years of shaving etc I got an ingrown hair, that turned into a cyst, that I had to go to a dr for, who nearly sent me to Hospital as it was so painful and large, I decided no man was worth going through that again :P

I shave my legs/underarms and just tightly trim down there and my life has been more comfortable since haha

optogirl

mlem123 wrote: »

Anyone who expects me to be as bald as a coot :L

After years of shaving etc I got an ingrown hair, that turned into a cyst, that I had to go to a dr for, who nearly sent me to Hospital as it was so painful and large, I decided no man was worth going through that again :P

I shave my legs/underarms and just tightly trim down there and my life has been more comfortable since haha

totally agree. Not going to put myself through all that and risk infection just so I can make my fanny look more like a child's. It's fashion and really not worth it.

pq0n1ct4ve8zf5

optogirl wrote: »

totally agree. Not going to put myself through all that and risk infection just so I can make my fanny look more like a child's. It's fashion and really not worth it.

Ah here, I have a big old bush but I don't think there's any need for that. If people prefer the look and feel of shaved that's their choice. It's their box like.

optogirl

Journee Odd Pensioner wrote: »

Ah here, I have a big old bush but I don't think there's any need for that. If people prefer the look and feel of shaved that's their choice. It's their box like.

Yeah I know. I'm talking about my box.

pq0n1ct4ve8zf5

optogirl wrote: »

Yeah I know. I'm talking about my box.

With pretty clear shade thrown at others. "just to make it look more like a child" "it's just fashion"?

But grand, stick to that line if you want.

Edit:

Like if someone said "I keep mine totally shaved because I don't want it to look like a cave woman's and stink. It's just laziness and I'm not about that", you'd be grand with that, yeah, coz they're just talking about their box.

Deebles McBeebles

Every box is sacred,
Every box is great,
If a box is wasted,
God gets quite irate.

optogirl

Journee Odd Pensioner wrote: »

With pretty clear shade thrown at others. "just to make it look more like a child" "it's just fashion"?

But grand, stick to that line if you want.

Edit:

Like if someone said "I keep mine totally shaved because I don't want it to look like a cave woman's and stink. It's just laziness and I'm not about that", you'd be grand with that, yeah, coz they're just talking about their box.

But it is just fashion? I used to wear flares, now I wear skinny jeans. It's fashion. I'm not 'throwing shade' on anyone.

Gretas Gonna Get Ya!

Journee Odd Pensioner wrote: »

Ah here, I have a big old bush but I don't think there's any need for that. If people prefer the look and feel of shaved that's their choice. It's their box like.

She has a point though. It is fashionable for some men to want fully grown women, to resemble pre teen girls... which is more than a bit disturbing tbh!

I'm sure it's not solely driven by men, but mostly it is.

Raconteuse

Jeez I wouldn't dream of having a bald box.

But a very bushy one can actually be sore for some women when a hair is pulled (there are varying textures of pubic hair). It's also sore/itchy though when the other extreme.

So it's a real snatch 22...

Nah it isn't really - just wanted to say that. It's about balance though - too bushy can be uncomfortable (fashion my box) and too closely groomed the same. So an in between trim that still retains a pruned bush is the aim. A tidy-up is all. No wanting to look like a child.

optogirl

Raconteuse wrote: »

Jeez I wouldn't dream of having a bald box.

But a very bushy one can actually be sore for some women when a hair is pulled (there are varying textures of pubic hair). It's also sore/itchy though when the other extreme.

So it's a real snatch 22...

Nah it isn't really - just wanted to say that. It's about balance though - too bushy can be uncomfortable (fashion my box) and too closely groomed the same. So an in between trim that still retains a pruned bush is the aim. A tidy-up is all. No wanting to look like a child.

I do tend the lady garden, but it's not too pruned!

Feisar

My balls are definitely smellier if I've them veeted, would any of the lads notice the same?

Thelonious Monk

I would just trim down below, if I were to totally shave down there it would look so ridiculous because my chest and belly and legs are like a gorilla's so I'd just have this totally bald patch in the middle of all this fur. I love being hirsute though.

optogirl

Thelonious Monk wrote: »

I would just trim down below, if I were to totally shave down there it would look so ridiculous because my chest and belly and legs are like a gorilla's so I'd just have this totally bald patch in the middle of all this fur. I love being hirsute though.

I was actually just lamenting the lack of hairy chested men these days! I love an oul Des Kelly Carpet Belly.

SusieBlue

I think most people just do what they find most comfortable and convenient for their lifestyle.
I really don't think it has anything to do with fashion or wanting to look pre-pubescent.

I get a full Hollywood every 5/6 weeks or so, because that's what I like. Not cause I'm trying to impress anyone or be fashionable.

Deebles McBeebles

Yeah its not that we want women to look like they have a 3 year olds fanny lads. Thats fairly disturbing. Its more about the logistics, similar to how some women prefer a trimmed or shaved set of balls to gargle.

Johnny Sausage

optogirl wrote: »

I was actually just lamenting the lack of hairy chested men these days! I love an oul Des Kelly Carpet Belly.

PM sent

Leg End Reject

A hairless adult box looks different to a pre-pubescent box, just as an adult penis and testes look different to the pre-pubescent version.

Sex hormones at puberty cause changes to both. A preference for less hair doesn't represent a desire for a child-like appearance.

optogirl

SusieBlue wrote: »

I think most people just do what they find most comfortable and convenient for their lifestyle.
I really don't think it has anything to do with fashion or wanting to look pre-pubescent.

I get a full Hollywood every 5/6 weeks or so, because that's what I like. Not cause I'm trying to impress anyone or be fashionable.

but you didn't just come to the conclusion yourself that you wanted to remove all the hair on your fanny - It absolutely is fashion. In the '70s very few people were doing it. Now everybody does it. I'm not knocking it - we're all fashion victims to one extent or another but it is most definitely in vogue. I accept that my statement about looking like a child's was from a personal standpoint and I didn't mean to say that that's why women do it or men like it.

Thelonious Monk

optogirl wrote: »

I was actually just lamenting the lack of hairy chested men these days! I love an oul Des Kelly Carpet Belly.

Glad to hear there are still fans of the Burt Reynolds torso. I wouldn't be a fan of bald ladies down below either always freaked me out a bit, it's a ridiculous standard women are held to these days not helped by everyone thinking it's normal from porn.

pq0n1ct4ve8zf5

SusieBlue wrote: »

I think most people just do what they find most comfortable and convenient for their lifestyle.
I really don't think it has anything to do with fashion or wanting to look pre-pubescent.

I get a full Hollywood every 5/6 weeks or so, because that's what I like. Not cause I'm trying to impress anyone or be fashionable.

Aye I'm half and half. Full glorious foliage up front, shaved underneath. Works pretty well for...things.

Haven't shaved my legs in years though :cool:

Leg End Reject

SusieBlue wrote: »

I get a full Hollywood every 5/6 weeks or so, because that's what I like. Not cause I'm trying to impress anyone or be fashionable.

It's not as if we walk around flashing it to show how on-trend we are. :pac:

the beer revolu

Is wanting underarms to look like that of a child's considered a bit pervy, too??

What about liking clean shaved faces - a bit pedo?

Legs??

optogirl

the beer revolu wrote: »

Is wanting underarms to look like that of a child's considered a bit pervy, too??

What about liking clean shaved faces - a bit pedo?

Legs??

One more time

I accept that my statement about looking like a child's was from a personal standpoint and I didn't mean to say that that's why women do it or men like it

Thelonious Monk

the beer revolu wrote: »

Is wanting underarms to look like that of a child's considered a bit pervy, too??

What about liking clean shaved faces - a bit pedo?

Legs??

Yes. You're all paedos.

tjhook

Anyway, what's wrong with a good butter dish?

optogirl

tjhook wrote: »

Anyway, what's wrong with a good butter dish?

It's fine for keeping vegemite in

Leg End Reject

tjhook wrote: »

Anyway, what's wrong with a good butter dish?

I think we can all agree that it should be hairless.

SusieBlue

optogirl wrote: »

but you didn't just come to the conclusion yourself that you wanted to remove all the hair on your fanny - It absolutely is fashion. In the '70s very few people were doing it. Now everybody does it. I'm not knocking it - we're all fashion victims to one extent or another but it is most definitely in vogue. I accept that my statement about looking like a child's was from a personal standpoint and I didn't mean to say that that's why women do it or men like it.

Well I started because I was a swimmer and didn't want my bits sticking out the sides, and went from there really.
I found doing the bikini line much more comfortable and gradually I ended up getting more and more of it waxed till I was getting everywhere done :pac:

I couldn't tell you how any of my friends tend their lady gardens, it isn't discussed. I'm currently single so no one even sees mine anyway.
And its not like society would judge someone either way, because how would they even know unless everyone got their bits out in public?
That's why I reject the notion that its fashion.

pq0n1ct4ve8zf5

Like, is women wearing trousers "just fashion" considering 100 years ago it was very rare? That was driven by fashion, but it's also more practical and comfortable.

Pube removal is a trend that's endured and increased for like three decades now. It's catching on. I don't doubt that fashion is playing a part, and I don't think it's acceptable for people to feel pressured to remove hair to fit in and I certainly don't like this nonsense about it being unhygienic but there are reasons beyond fashion why people might decide they prefer being hairless/waxed whatever.

friendlyfun

Someone who doesn't appreciate my beard or the style of skirts I wear.

Deebles McBeebles

Thelonious Monk wrote: »

Yes. You're all paedos.

On my way to the station now to get myself added to the list.

Johnny Sausage

Deebles McBeebles wrote: »

On my way to the station now to get myself added to the list.

again?

Deebles McBeebles

Johnny Sausage wrote: »

again?

Well, she was just 17
You know what I mean
And the way she looked was way beyond compare
So how could I dance with another (Ooh)
When I saw her standing there

Thelonious Monk

Deebles McBeebles wrote: »

On my way to the station now to get myself added to the list.

Good stuff I had reported your posts to the Garda already but your initiative might help you in court

Deebles McBeebles

Thelonious Monk wrote: »

Good stuff I had reported your posts to the Garda already but your initiative might help you in court

Very odd experience. The Garda at the desk was looking at me like I was some sort of.....paedo. I've reported her to her superior and expect she shall be relieved of her duties post haste.

Johnny Sausage

Deebles McBeebles wrote: »

Very odd experience. The Garda at the desk was looking at me like I was some sort of.....paedo. I've reported her to her superior and expect she shall be relieved of her duties post haste.

you must've forgotten to bring them in their free coffee

Earthhorse

Leg End Reject wrote: »

I think we can all agree that it should be hairless.

That's just a trend.

Feisar

Can we all agree stubbly is a disaster?