Deal breakers and turn-off's in dating!

Leg End Reject

Earthhorse wrote: »

That's just a trend.

I carry my butter dish around so everyone can see I'm on fleek.

Gretas Gonna Get Ya!

For some reason, I find myself more attracted to women with shorter finger nails... Really turned off by those big fake nails.

I guess I just like women who look more natural, rather than that overly manufactured appearance some women have. Plus if she can't do everyday stuff, without fear of breaking a nail... really what use is that? She'd just be an attractive ornament basically - that's no fun! :P

Raconteuse

This reminds me, my mother got the cat neutered recently and the vet gave him a gift of a furry ball toy, which he loves.

TuringBot47

Feisar wrote: »

Can we all agree stubbly is a disaster?

Yeah, not a fan of stubbly women.

Deebles McBeebles

Feisar wrote: »

Can we all agree stubbly is a disaster?

A nightmare, a slightly better version of what happens in Teeth.

I'd prefer a Paul McGrath in the 90's look, or a Paul McGrath nowadays look.

Gretas Gonna Get Ya!

Deebles McBeebles wrote: »

A nightmare, a slightly better version of what happens in Teeth.

I'd prefer a Paul McGrath in the 90's look, or a Paul McGrath nowadays look.

Now there's a man who had an immaculate tackle!

Floppybits

Gretas Gonna Get Ya! wrote: »

For some reason, I find myself more attracted to women with shorter finger nails... Really turned off by those big fake nails.

I guess I just like women who look more natural, rather than that overly manufactured appearance some women have. Plus if she can't do everyday stuff, without fear of breaking a nail... really what use is that? She'd just be an attractive ornament basically - that's no fun! :P

I find myself more attracted to women who are real looking rather than those who wear fake eyelashes (they look rediculous), fake nails and fake tan. Forgot to add who wants to wake up and find eyelashes or fake nails floating around the bed.

I have to say there is something sexy about a bit of a bush on a woman.

Leg End Reject

The linking of the hairless look to porn has made me think of "designer vaginas", the neat look all the women seem to have.

If if wasn't for the cost, the (I'd imagine) horrendous pain, risk of post-op infection and the thought of going to the loo after, I'd definitely get it done. Elimination of the "hanging gammon" I believe the technical term is.

Do men have a preference in this area?

Floppybits

Leg End Reject wrote: »

Do men have a preference in this area?

Speaking as a man, If we are going that far its not going to stop me.

Feisar

Leg End Reject wrote: »

The linking of the hairless look to porn has made me think of "designer vaginas", the neat look all the women seem to have.

If if wasn't for the cost, the (I'd imagine) horrendous pain, risk of post-op infection and the thought of going to the loo after, I'd definitely get it done. Elimination of the "hanging gammon" I believe the technical term is.

Do men have a preference in this area?

No sky to high;
No sea to rough;
No muff to tough!

No preference other than wet and warm.

EmmetSpiceland

Leg End Reject wrote: »

The linking of the hairless look to porn has made me think of "designer vaginas", the neat look all the women seem to have.

If if wasn't for the cost, the (I'd imagine) horrendous pain, risk of post-op infection and the thought of going to the loo after, I'd definitely get it done. Elimination of the "hanging gammon" I believe the technical term is.

Do men have a preference in this area?

Having buried it inside “inset” ones, “Simpson’s mouths”, “flappy flanges” and I can tell you they’re all the same.

Even had one with a big “bullet bean”, that was a bit of added fun.

They all work, pretty much, the same way.

Leg End Reject

EmmetSpiceland wrote: »

Having buried it inside “inset” ones, “Simpson’s mouths”, “flappy flanges” and I can tell you they’re all the same.

Even had one with a big “bullet bean”, that was a bit of added fun.

They all work, pretty much, the same way.

Some are just prettier even though there's no real "normal" and functionality isn't affected.

retro:electro

Floppybits wrote: »

Speaking as a man, If we are going that far its not going to stop me.

So you’re saying you don’t mind the floppy bits, floppybits?

Earthhorse

Floppybits wrote: »

Speaking as a man, If we are going that far its not going to stop me.

Depends. Is it presented in an adequately sized and tastefully chosen butterdish?

Presentation can make all the difference to a man's appetite.

pq0n1ct4ve8zf5

I was listening to a podcast recently where the conversation wandered around and got onto to the subject of the wonderful variety you find in that area.

One of the hosts described how she sometimes asks people to draw their fanny for her, they were discussing it with the producers, other staff in the building.

It was interesting but very sad how many were like I wouldn't know where to start because I never look at it. Now, it's not like you have to go out of your way to avoid seeing it but the feelings people were talking about; it makes me feel dirty, I hate it, I'm too shy.

They're one of all time best things that's ever existed in any universe, think of all she's done for you and you can't even look her in the eye :mad:

.....is it really that easy to get a look at it, or are you talking "sit over a mirror with a torch and a sketchpad"

SusieBlue

I never knew there were so many varities until I watched a few episodes of Naked Attraction. I just naively presumed everyone else's looked like mine :pac:

Feisar

EmmetSpiceland wrote: »

Having buried it inside “inset” ones, “Simpson’s mouths”, “flappy flanges” and I can tell you they’re all the same.

Even had one with a big “bullet bean”, that was a bit of added fun.

They all work, pretty much, the same way.

A huge clit I take it?

Floppybits

retro:electro wrote: »

So you’re saying you don’t mind the floppy bits, floppybits?

Well now that depends like, If there was surprise like a meat and 2 veg where I was expecting a bush, I have to say that would be a bit of a passion killer now.

Leg End Reject

Oh if I could draw I'd know what it looks like without having to check, and I've had great times with it. I just find the porn star aesthetic more appealing.

pq0n1ct4ve8zf5

[Deleted User] wrote: »

.....is it really that easy to get a look at it, or are you talking "sit over a mirror with a torch and a sketchpad"

Hand mirror, well lit room, lie down, pants off and fire away. Masturbation optional but encouraged.

Floppybits

Earthhorse wrote: »

Depends. Is it presented in an adequately sized and tastefully chosen butterdish?

Presentation can make all the difference to a man's appetite.

Would ya not just dive in?

pq0n1ct4ve8zf5

Leg End Reject wrote: »

Oh if I could draw I'd know what it looks like without having to check, and I've had great times with it. I just find the porn star aesthetic more appealing.

There's a makings of a new MS paint thread here

Floppybits

Journee Odd Pensioner wrote: »

It was interesting but very sad how many were like I wouldn't know where to start because I never look at it. Now, it's not like you have to go out of your way to avoid seeing it but the feelings people were talking about; it makes me feel dirty, I hate it, I'm too shy.
(

That is a bit sad really, it is a part of them why not like it?

mea_k

theguzman wrote: »

I had a series of unfortunate dates recently and it made me post this thread.

So the first date was with a 28 year old woman from Cork and boy did I misjudge that book by its cover badly. Midway through the date she started lecturing me for having previously dated a foreign woman and how I should have only dated Irish women. Low point was when she basically alluded that should we ever have sex that I'd have to be STD screened since those types are full of disease.

I excused myself to the bathroom and debated doing a runner but returned and handled it more maturely had her blocked within hours from all social networks and apps. She works in an ok job and I would have thought she'd have more interactions with foreigners than to have such disgusting viewpoints.

Prior to the date she kept sending me pictures of her two small dogs, including parading them around her local town in a push pram and the dogs seemed to have several sets of doggy clothes also. Her main conversatons were the dogs and her hatred for her sisters boyfriend who had gotten her sister pregnant and constantly disrespecting him due to him being useless in a low paid job. I didn't know the guy but from what I could gather he was trying his best for kid and mum.

Anyway got out of dodge there big time.

Fast forward to the second disaster, met another girl who was 33 and I was interested enough in her. Again like the first girl she was totally obsessed with dogs and has six dogs, a big alsation, two collies and a Labrador and two small fluffy pipsqueeks. Her life seemed to revolve around working 3 x 12 hrs shifts and then walking her dogs. No way Jose! I was out of there like a burnt cat out of hell, there was definite psychological issues going on with her and whilst she lacked the vile judgemental racist overtones of the first girl such an obsession with dogs is a severe turn-off for me. I could tolerate a really small house dog who would be confined to the porch or backyard but not having big dogs having free roam of the house and into the bed etc! Yuck!

Unusualy to have such a string of dating disasters but eh. dust myself off and try again. What would be deal-breakers in a situation like that?

I'll go out with you. But I have a dog ha ha

Deebles McBeebles

Would not having a job turn people off? I think I'd be very hesitant to go there.

Wanderer78

Deebles McBeebles wrote:

Would not having a job turn people off? I think I'd be very hesitant to go there.

Would turn many off I'd imagine, and understandable so

KiKi III

Deebles McBeebles wrote: »

Would not having a job turn people off? I think I'd be very hesitant to go there.

Yeah, I’d be reluctant unless there was a good reason. Like, doing a Masters or something.

Wanderer78

KiKi III wrote:

Yeah, I’d be reluctant unless there was a good reason. Like, doing a Masters or something.

The root causes of long term unemployment are very good reasons, but sadly, society has decided it's best to largely ignore them, it's highly unlikely you ll get to masters level if you're in that situation, of course there are exceptions to this, but most may never make it to that level of education

Deebles McBeebles

Going off on holiday would be a bit awkward too when one side would be presumably underfunded.

Johnny Sausage

Deebles McBeebles wrote: »

Would not having a job turn people off? I think I'd be very hesitant to go there.

depends, if there is a genuine reason or they are breifly between jobs then no.

if they were a welfare grabbing parasite like that benefit-baby factory Margaret Cash then absolutely ****ing not.

Earthhorse

Deebles McBeebles wrote: »

Would not having a job turn people off? I think I'd be very hesitant to go there.

Not at all. Gives you the upper hand in the relationship right at the start. It's like an open goal!

Wanderer78

Earthhorse wrote:

Not at all. Gives you the upper hand in the relationship right at the start. It's like an open goal!

Upper hand!

pq0n1ct4ve8zf5

Earthhorse wrote: »

Not at all. Gives you the upper hand in the relationship right at the start. It's like an open goal!

Look what mama got you baby, brand name biscuits! You're damn fcuking right the double choc chip ones. Only the best for my welfare queen.

Now get up them stairs!

Hammer89

This is going to sound very odd but I swear on my loved ones that it genuinely turned me off her.

I jump on and off of Tinder every now and again and this one day I matched with a lovely and pretty woman in her 20s. I was out on the town when I first messaged her, quite drunk, and I remembered in her profile that she liked facts. So I was like, 'Hey what's happening. You like me facts? Me too. Did you know Bruno Mars's first name is actually Peter.' It turned out to be a decent ice-breaker because we start bantering back and forth over the coming days, before I successfully get her number.

I was chuffed with myself and was sort of getting excited about meeting up and whatnot. I deactivate Tinder with the intention of carrying on speaking to her on Whatsapp, but when I go to message her I realise she hadn't been online in four days. Don't ask me why but I got turned off that a woman in her 20s didn't use Whatsapp regularly. I deduced that she must not have a great social status if she hadn't been online in days, and haven't spoken to her since. Listen, I realise this is completely ridiculous, to the point where it sounds made-up but it's absolutely true.

Johnny Sausage

Hammer89 wrote: »

This is going to sound very odd but I swear on my loved ones that it genuinely turned me off her.

I jump on and off of Tinder every now and again and this one day I matched with a lovely and pretty woman in her 20s. I was out on the town when I first messaged her, quite drunk, and I remembered in her profile that she liked facts. So I was like, 'Hey what's happening. You like me facts? Me too. Did you know Bruno Mars's first name is actually Peter.' It turned out to be a decent ice-breaker because we start bantering back and forth over the coming days, before I successfully get her number.

I was chuffed with myself and was sort of getting excited about meeting up and whatnot. I deactivate Tinder with the intention of carrying on speaking to her on Whatsapp, but when I go to message her I realise she hadn't been online in four days. Don't ask me why but I got turned off that a woman in her 20s didn't use Whatsapp. I deduced that she must not have a great social status if she hadn't been online in days, and haven't spoken to her since. Listen, I realise this is completely ridiculous, to the point where it sounds made-up but it's absolutely true.

imagine if somewhere on on boards she has written a thread about some lad ghosting her for no reason or that she doesnt use whatsapp often haha

Deebles McBeebles

Hammer, that is nuts! Surely the ideal would be a woman who isn't permanently attached to her phone?

SusieBlue

Deebles McBeebles wrote: »

Going off on holiday would be a bit awkward too when one side would be presumably underfunded.

This is the exact reason it would be a dealbreaker for me, I love to travel and opportunities would be seriously limited if one half of the relationship wasn't employed.

I'd actually even go a bit further than that too, because its a big negative and minus point for me if someone doesn't work 9-5 type hours.
I wouldn't care if they worked as a toilet cleaner, because it isn't snobbery around the type of job they do, I'd just ideally prefer if they worked similar hours to me.
My ex did shift work and we worked opposite shifts, which meant the two evenings he had off a week had to be divided between me, his friends, his family and his downtime...It just complicated things a lot.
Never again.

SusieBlue

Hammer89 wrote: »

This is going to sound very odd but I swear on my loved ones that it genuinely turned me off her.

I jump on and off of Tinder every now and again and this one day I matched with a lovely and pretty woman in her 20s. I was out on the town when I first messaged her, quite drunk, and I remembered in her profile that she liked facts. So I was like, 'Hey what's happening. You like me facts? Me too. Did you know Bruno Mars's first name is actually Peter.' It turned out to be a decent ice-breaker because we start bantering back and forth over the coming days, before I successfully get her number.

I was chuffed with myself and was sort of getting excited about meeting up and whatnot. I deactivate Tinder with the intention of carrying on speaking to her on Whatsapp, but when I go to message her I realise she hadn't been online in four days. Don't ask me why but I got turned off that a woman in her 20s didn't use Whatsapp regularly. I deduced that she must not have a great social status if she hadn't been online in days, and haven't spoken to her since. Listen, I realise this is completely ridiculous, to the point where it sounds made-up but it's absolutely true.

Did it ever occur to you that maybe she preferred to use another social media platform for staying in touch with people?
I'm in 5/6 groupchats, none of which are on WhatsApp. I go on it maybe once a week if that, even though I'd use other apps pretty much all day.
What a strange, bizarre reason to give someone the shove.

Thelonious Monk

Kids was a no no for me. Enough childless women out there. Also divorced women always went up in my estimation, less chance of wanting all that wedding nonsense again:)

Deebles McBeebles

How many dates would you have before going on holiday with a new romantic acquaintance?

pq0n1ct4ve8zf5

SusieBlue wrote: »

This is the exact reason it would be a dealbreaker for me, I love to travel and opportunities would be seriously limited if one half of the relationship wasn't employed.

I'd actually even go a bit further than that too, because its a big negative and minus point for me if someone doesn't work 9-5 type hours.
I wouldn't care if they worked as a toilet cleaner, because it isn't snobbery around the type of job they do, I'd just ideally prefer if they worked similar hours to me.
My ex did shift work and we worked opposite shifts, which meant the two evenings he had off a week had to be divided between me, his friends, his family and his downtime...It just complicated things a lot.
Never again.

There was a period of about six months or so where my partner and I were working opposite hours, we'd both have Sunday off but apart from that we'd almost never both be at home and both awake at ths same time.

We were living together, together a few years and it was still really tough, I don't know how a new relationship could make it work.

Leg End Reject

Deebles McBeebles wrote: »

How many dates would you have before going on holiday with a new romantic acquaintance?

It would depend on how normal they seem and how good the sex is. No point coming home with the landscape of the hotel room ceiling as your favourite memory.

SusieBlue

Journee Odd Pensioner wrote: »

There was a period of about six months or so where my partner and I were working opposite hours, we'd both have Sunday off but apart from that we'd almost never both be at home and both awake at ths same time.

We were living together, together a few years and it was still really tough, I don't know how a new relationship could make it work.

Yeah we were together a few years as well when he started those shifts and while I wouldn't say it caused us to breakup, it was definitely a major contributing factor.
I wouldn't even entertain starting a new relationship in those circumstances now.

Wibbs

Deebles McBeebles wrote: »

How many dates would you have before going on holiday with a new romantic acquaintance?

Four weeks is my quickest. Good holiday as it turned out.

Deebles McBeebles

Leg End Reject wrote: »

It would depend on how normal they seem and how good the sex is. No point coming home with the landscape of the hotel room ceiling as your favourite memory.

No, you would definitely want to be riding in more exciting places than the hotel room.

Deebles McBeebles

Wibbs wrote: »

Four weeks is my quickest. Good holiday as it turned out.

That is quick! What made the 2 of you bite the bullet and do it after a month?

Leg End Reject

Deebles McBeebles wrote: »

No, you would definitely want to be riding in more exciting places than the hotel room.

I didn't mean it like that, but whatever you're into yourself!

SusieBlue

Leg End Reject wrote: »

It would depend on how normal they seem and how good the sex is. No point coming home with the landscape of the hotel room ceiling as your favourite memory.

Amen to this. I once went to Amsterdam and left the hotel about twice over the course of 4 days...It was six months into the relationship and our first holiday together.
I majorly regret it now, its also really embarrassing when friends/family ask me for recommendations for their own trips there. I haven't a clue, sure I barely saw the outside of the bedroom door :pac:
If I go back I won't be making the same mistakes again.

Leg End Reject

I'll just clarify, i meant looking at the ceiling in boredom, Susie got the idea!