Deal breakers and turn-off's in dating!

Hippykitten

Unkind to people & animals

MissD93

I'm in a very happy relationship now but a when i was single i absolutely gave no time to any fella who talked about the gym excessively. I dated a guy back three years ago, and it was essentially his personality he went a minimum of 5 days a week and would talk about it quite intensely.

Junkyard Tom

Dislike of tea.

Idbatterim

Junkyard Tom wrote: »

Dislike of tea.

Weirdos !

Rufeo

If they're religious

sabat

Works for one of the "big 4" professional services firms or one of the large Irish law firms.

"34, just got back from Australia/Canada after 8 years."

"World traveller"

" Yogi/reiki practitioner/massage therapist"

Thinks Dubai is cool.

"I'm 5"10' and I like to wear heels"

Dresses up in loads of rainbow sh*te for Pride and posts photos of herself with her really annoying looking gay friends.

Ficheall

Coronavirus.

Excessive apostrophe usage.

Jenneke87

sabat wrote: »

Works for one of the "big 4" professional services firms or one of the large Irish law firms.

"34, just got back from Australia/Canada after 8 years."

"World traveller"

" Yogi/reiki practitioner/massage therapist"

Thinks Dubai is cool.

"I'm 5"10' and I like to wear heels"

Dresses up in loads of rainbow sh*te for Pride and posts photos of herself with her really annoying looking gay friends.

Genuine question: why would point two be a dealbreaker?

Oink

God there was none of that shíte back when I was dating (and dateable).

These days, any outward sign of stupidity would be a deal-breaker:
Flat-earthers
anti-vaxx
“I’m not a racist but”
Strong political opinions without rational arguments
Rabid vegan

On a physical level:
Heavier than me yet shorter
Manlier than me (has happened)

ED E

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

Doesn't want kids.

Unhealthy or isn't into health and fitness.

Not a gentleman.

Rude to my family.

No sense of humor.
Unkind person in general or doesn't consider people's feelings.

Isn't passionate about life.

Not at all spiritual or at the other end of the spectrum uses spirituality as an escape.

They need to be able to see reality ....but at the same time rise above it.

Also he has to support me and my dreams and understand i need to make sacrifices and still love me. And he needs to be kind to me and turn up at all my stuff cheering.

He also needs to be protective.

Good luck with your 12 cats

ED E

IAMAMORON wrote: »

It sounds like a minefield out there....an awful lot of fusspots.

If you're not crazy the chances of being single reduce drastically over time. By late 20s the pool of singletons is largely populated by quirky specimens.

(Myself included)

vicwatson

People more interested in their “socials” than chilling the f out with the person sitting in front of them

suicide_circus

Jenneke87 wrote: »

Genuine question: why would point two be a dealbreaker?

presumably because ever second sentence will begin with "when i was living in australia..."

B.A._Baracus

Deebles McBeebles wrote: »

If you have ever said anything remotely like, "If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best", with a straight face. Die.

Unless you have massive tits.

I think that's code for they're a wan*er.
Cause what normal person would ever dream of saying that.

B.A._Baracus

Journee Odd Pensioner wrote: »

Noisy eater. It's just not going to work out.

Well I guess, it depends on what he's eating .....

















I'll get my coat :pac:

RebelButtMunch

Berets. The French hat. Only mad women wear them in my experience.

Sephiroth_dude

A Lyons tea lover !

Deleted User wrote: »

Well. Since my last relationship I have quite the list.

Be emotionally available.
Do not let your issues get in the way of having a healthy and intimate relationship.
Kiss me. All the time.
Don't be an anti-vaxxer. I spent three and a half years engaging in all sorts of mental gymnastics to manage that one.
Accept who I am.
No conspiracy theories please.
Listen.
Be kind.
Don't shut down and punish me.
Get to know my friends and family.
Do not even think you can control me and yes I did buy a cushion without your 'permission'.
Use your words.
Let me have your back because I expect you to have mine.

That's enough to be getting on with

Well hello there poly 😏

LirW

If I'd have to go back some dealbreakers would be:

Chewed fingernails/really neglected hands.
Seeing women/men/nationalities as a homogeneous mass (besides Italians, I fully support all hatred towards them :pac: )
Is unable to be empathic or relate to people.
Is a party hard-person.
Unadventurous.
An extremely fussy eater, especially if their own culinary skills stretch as far as frying an egg and throw chicken nuggets into the oven.
Someone whose career is their personality.
Narrow-minded.
Rude to others and being choleric.

Basically don't be a d1ck.

Also a big point deduction for not taking the shoes off in the porch where all the shoe racks are but always puts them into the most annoying spot in the hall.

Johnny Sausage

somone being a mingebag,

was out for a drink the other night after work, she said oh stay for another one, ill get them...

she orders 2 drinks and then sits their expecting me to pay for them

EmmetSpiceland

Idbatterim wrote: »

Safe to say many of you wouldn’t be dating “ no te watir charges” brigade !

Or at all, if we’re being honest.

Jim Root

sabat wrote: »

Works for one of the "big 4" professional services firms or one of the large Irish law firms.

"34, just got back from Australia/Canada after 8 years."

"World traveller"

" Yogi/reiki practitioner/massage therapist"

Thinks Dubai is cool.

"I'm 5"10' and I like to wear heels"

Dresses up in loads of rainbow sh*te for Pride and posts photos of herself with her really annoying looking gay friends.

excellent post, describes a lot of twats in my extended circle! Boarding a plane to an english speaking country is not a life accomplishment.

Snails pace

Jim Root wrote: »

excellent post, describes a lot of twats in my extended circle! Boarding a plane to an english speaking country is not a life accomplishment.

Why isn't it an accomplishment? Going to the U.K doesn't count, but to Australia? I've plenty of friends who went to oz who came back different people including myself but it's hardly ever talked about because we've more interesting things to talk about.

whisky_galore

Into pseudoscience; anti vaxxing, crystals, angels or any of that hippy dippy stuff.

Vegans, because eating out or in would be a pain forever. Like living with a finicky child.

Capt'n Midnight

branie2 wrote: »

Bad manners

That stuff gets me so worked up I could bust a blood vessel.

Deebles McBeebles

the beer revolu wrote: »

If she doesn't put her hand in her pocket, there'd be no second date.

What if she puts her hand in your pocket?

pgj2015

full time mad ba$terd

full time mammy

anyone who say my kids are my world (because they dont work or study or do anything but watch tv and look after their kids)

women who blame the government for everything, even though they are provided with job seekers allowance, medical card, childrens allowance, rent allowance, fuel allowance,BTEA allowance if they werent too lazy to use it etc from said government

sinn fein supporters

Jim Root

Snails pace wrote: »

Why isn't it an accomplishment? Going to the U.K doesn't count, but to Australia? I've plenty of friends who went to oz who came back different people including myself but it's hardly ever talked about because we've more interesting things to talk about.

Ok I'll give you a pass there if you don't drone on about it but I think we all know some folks who went over there clad in their Celtic/Gaa jerseys, sat in Irish bars for the year, swamped social media with boastful posts, came home, and never shut up about it!! If someone mentioned that to me on a first date alarm bells would ring!!

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Don’t be a judgmental ****. Don’t be sitting there at dinner or a coffee and judging people around you and then making comments to me. I have no time for that ****e and I will and have walked out (having paid for my dinner tho).

Mean spirited, rude, bitchy and being a gossip are the worst turn offs imaginable. I’ll put up with almost anything else.

KathleenGrant

My deal breaker would be dishonesty., have had enough of that.
A person who wouldn't make you a cup of tea or go for a walk with you but then buys expensive presents for birthdays and christmas to prove his affection.
Watches tv all the time
I don't mind lads who like routines (One guy I lived with liked the same meal on the same day of the week) but when it comes to "I only have sex at night-time" or "I only like sex in a bed" I can't hack it.
Smokers, sorry can't live with one.

Johnny Sausage

KathleenGrant wrote: »

"I only have sex at night-time" or "I only like sex in a bed"

ah jaysis hes missing out on a whole heap of fun

Feisar

Sinn Fein supporters - dated one once and the rhetoric was painful. Although anyone into politics in general, shysters one and all

Being a tighthole.

Controlling

Being disrespectful to my or her own family

Ill-mannered or outright rude to serving staff or anyone not in a position to call them out. Sure sign of a person of low character.

Assetbacked

sabat wrote: »

Works for one of the "big 4" professional services firms or one of the large Irish law firms.

"34, just got back from Australia/Canada after 8 years."

"World traveller"

" Yogi/reiki practitioner/massage therapist"

Thinks Dubai is cool.

"I'm 5"10' and I like to wear heels"

Dresses up in loads of rainbow sh*te for Pride and posts photos of herself with her really annoying looking gay friends.

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts wrote: »

At late 40s, you’d be doing very well to score 20 somethings easily. I think celeb men have skewed expectations in this regard.

Two words; daddy issues.

Feisar

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts wrote: »

At late 40s, you’d be doing very well to score 20 somethings easily. I think celeb men have skewed expectations in this regard.

Plenty of women with daddy issues out there!

Edit - Great minds think alike!

Higgins5473

I gave up drinking for about 4 months with the aim of 6 months just for a bit of a change and challenge as opposed to being a dipso. I worked with a girl who said its fairly common for a non-drinker to a be a red flag/warning sign for girls if they meet a lad (purely speaking about those that did drink and don't anymore). A few weeks later I fell off the wagon and got wrecked and rode her. She turned out to be a right c*nt too. Found it to be an interesting deal breaker, although harsh and judgmental going by all the non-drinker lads I know I'd say its actually fair enough.

PmMeUrDogs

Being rude to the people serving you in shops/pubs/restaurants.

Insults disguised as humour. No, it's not funny that you're slagging my appearance, I don't care how much you try to convince me it's a joke.

Any kind of controlling or clingy behaviour.

Using your phone on the first few dates - that's rude!

Later on, untreated sexual dysfunction.


Some mental health conditions. Depression and anxiety can be worked with, but I couldn't be with someone who has borderline or is narcissistic.

KathleenGrant

Johnny Sausage wrote: »

ah jaysis hes missing out on a whole heap of fun

You want to hear the conversation after I wanted to give him a blow job in his office. (After work I might add) He wouldn't eat lunch in his office cos it's for work so "doing dirty stuff" was never going to happen.

Feisar

Higgins5473 wrote: »

I gave up drinking for about 4 months with the aim of 6 months just for a bit of a change and challenge as opposed to being a dipso. I worked with a girl who said its fairly common for a non-drinker to a be a red flag/warning sign for girls if they meet a lad (purely speaking about those that did drink and don't anymore). A few weeks later I fell off the wagon and got wrecked and rode her. She turned out to be a right c*nt too. Found it to be an interesting deal breaker, although harsh and judgmental going by all the non-drinker lads I know I'd say its actually fair enough.

Harsh but fir IMHO, I can see how someone who doesn't drink due to being a problem drinker would be a red flag. What if after she has invested he falls off the wagon?

Still ya got the ride so ya can't complain!

Pauliedragon

Jealousy. Expecting me to not even look at another female let alone have a conversation with another woman without accusations flying. If you're that insecure see a doctor.

Captain Flaps

Samira Rough Seashell wrote: »

No longer looking but if I was.

Vegan/vegetarian - just love meat too much, also we are farmers and I’d have no time whatsoever for their anti-farmers rubbish.

Non-drinker and doesn’t like a good session fairly regularly.

Clingy

Sees going out with the lads regularly as anything other than normal and does her own thing with her own friends too.

Thick and not educated.

Not interested to some degree in doing fairly well in work, having a career.

Not getting on with my family.

Fitness fanatic.

Anti-catholic

This list explains a lot

Feisar

KathleenGrant wrote: »

You want to hear the conversation after I wanted to give him a blow job in his office. (After work I might add) He wouldn't eat lunch in his office cos it's for work so "doing dirty stuff" was never going to happen.

I tried to send you a msg but yer inbox seems to be full:P

pq0n1ct4ve8zf5

B.A._Baracus wrote: »

Well I guess, it depends on what he's eating .....






I'll get my coat :pac:

I have actually discreetly put my fingers in my ears during because the noise was putting me off so much!

It's some bit of odd wiring in my brain, but certain mouth noises are like nails on a chalkboard. There are certain friends who I avoid eating with over it. Even if someone is dehydrated and their mouth isn't properly lubricated I can't concentrate properly when they're talking to me because I want to punch them. I don't know if it would have been an actual deal breaker but when I started knocking around with my OH I definitely noted "ooh, quiet eater, good stuff".

KathleenGrant

Feisar wrote: »

I tried to send you a msg but yer inbox seems to be full:P

roper1664

GreeBo wrote: »

Someone ignorant and/or stupid.
Someone without interests (other than daily mail or love islandy type ****e)

This was exactly my ex: Love Island, an obsession with the Daily Mail Online and an obsession with her apartment. Other than those, she had nothing going on, except meeting her friends the odd time. Oh, and she was convinced that they have Chippers in Italy, because Italians are famous for good chips. My eyes are now wide open for those things.

canonball5

I went on a second date last week with this lovely woman. She had dinner plans with her friend so we only had 45 mins together. She turned up 15 mins late and when I said she was late she accused me of being controlling and that she didn't appreciate being called out on it.... There won't be a third date!!!

Assetbacked

Feisar wrote: »

Plenty of women with daddy issues out there!

Edit - Great minds think alike!

Idbatterim

canonball5 wrote: »

I went on a second date last week with this lovely woman. She had dinner plans with her friend so we only had 45 mins together. She turned up 15 mins late and when I said she was late she accused me of being controlling and that she didn't appreciate being called out on it.... There won't be a third date!!!

Only fifteen minutes late ? She was early by many women’s standards!

mimimcmc

lucky enough not to be in the dating pool anymore but there's 3 bigun's

Could never date a smoker (himself has one or two every now and again, but not in my presence).

A dead beat dad

a lad with a hairy back - boke

Thelonious Monk

KiKi III

B.A._Baracus wrote: »

I think that's code for they're a wan*er.
Cause what normal person would ever dream of saying that.

It’s a Marilyn Monroe quote.

The male equivalent is any Anchorman quote.

nkl12xtw5goz70

Not "on the market" but they'd be:

-- Smoking, drug use, or excessive drinking
-- Bad grammar/spelling
-- Every third word is "like"
-- Culturally illiterate. You don't have to be the editor of the Times Literary Supplement, but some awareness of art, literature, music, and culture before 1990 matters
-- Left-wing politics. A centrist is fine, but I couldn't deal with a Sinn Fein / People Before Profit type
-- Woke politics. Even worse
-- Expects a text exchange every 30 minutes
-- No ambition, goals, or plan in life
-- Bad table manners
-- Rudeness
-- Any signs of controlling or narcissistic behavior
-- Someone who just wants to complain rather than figure out solutions
-- Stuck in a rut or unwilling to try new things
-- Isn't physically affectionate