2021 Bride/Groom

Pink11

Pink11 wrote: »

Rime Arodaky having a rare sale, some beautiful dresses included: https://shop.rime-arodaky.com/categorie-produit/collections/vintage-rime/

I think non traditional bridal style is beautiful. The Freddy dress is my favourite of that lot. The more edgy looks are fab but I love a dress.

Thanks for sharing

Coille2020

We are getting married in late August. With all the latest news on vaccines, 70% to be vaccined
by end of May and everyone to have been offered Vaccine by end of August, is it wrong for me to hope for my original numbers by August ? I am talking 200 plus numbers. it is 7 months away so we are hoping the country will someway be open by then.

Coille2020

Coille2020 wrote: »

We are getting married in late August. With all the latest news on vaccines, 70% to be vaccined
by end of May and everyone to have been offered Vaccine by end of August, is it wrong for me to hope for my original numbers by August ? I am talking 200 plus numbers. it is 7 months away so we are hoping the country will someway be open by then.

It isn't wrong for you to hope but I would do so cautiously. The opening up will be gradual even with a large number of the population vaccinated. I think after we get to magic 70%+ there will be a waiting period to see how things go. Keep an eye on Israel as they are releasing the efficacy data from their program.

I don't think there will be any scenario this year where we will have zero restrictions, be that a cap on indoor numbers, social distancing or mask wearing in certain environments. We are getting married in October and I've accepted it won't be a free for all.

nikpmup

We're mid August... we think there'll definitely be restrictions. I'm going to email our venue today and see if they've any availability for later in the year or even early next year.

woodchuck

My parents have said they'll only stay for the ceremony and won't stay for the drinks reception or dinner if they're not vaccinated. They're in the 60-65yr bracket and don't have any underlying conditions, so I'm not hopeful that they'll be vaccinated by our wedding date in May.

Is anybody else in a similar situation?

Raisins

woodchuck wrote: »

My parents have said they'll only stay for the ceremony and won't stay for the drinks reception or dinner if they're not vaccinated. They're in the 60-65yr bracket and don't have any underlying conditions, so I'm not hopeful that they'll be vaccinated by our wedding date in May.

Is anybody else in a similar situation?

Not exactly put as starkly as that but similar.

The one thing I will say is that for obvious reasons people in that age bracket and older are really anxious at the moment generally speaking in my experience. They’re watching the news a few times a day and they’re tuned into every case number and every NPHET statement. Given where we are a country it’s a very worrying time. A behavioural psychologist on the radio was of the opinion that people were changing their actions based on the case numbers and hospitalisations rather than the rules per se. In other words the state of the virus has a huge impact on people attitudes and decision making. That has an influence on how a person would react to a wedding invitation this week even for a wedding in the summer.

I would be as adaptable with them as you would be with everyone else who might not be there for travel reason or quarantine or close contact. In other words without putting them under pressure maybe you could nod along but keep the space for them and then see how they feel the week of the wedding.

woodchuck

Thanks Raisins. Yeah I completely understand where they're coming from. They have been severely restricting their movements since March 2020 so the idea of being a room with 25 other people with masks off while eating dinner is terrifying to them.

Intellectually I understand their decision, but it's still very upsetting. My siblings won't be attending either (one waiting for the vaccine and one in Canada), so I'll literally have no family there to celebrate with me on the day. Whereas my fiances parents are very supportive, think we should go ahead in May and are happy to attend and help in any way they can.

I'm trying to prepare for the worse case scenario that they won't be vaccinated and will only stay a half hour for the ceremony. I feel we're in a very difficult situation as to whether or not we keep ploughing ahead with our plans for May or postpone (again!) to try and have my family there. We really don't want to keep postponing indefinitely though, as nobody knows when everything will truly be back to normal. We're mid-30s and want to start the next stage of our lives. I don't think my parents understand that though, as they're pressuring us to postpone again.

woodchuck

woodchuck wrote: »

My parents have said they'll only stay for the ceremony and won't stay for the drinks reception or dinner if they're not vaccinated. They're in the 60-65yr bracket and don't have any underlying conditions, so I'm not hopeful that they'll be vaccinated by our wedding date in May.

Is anybody else in a similar situation?

Are you angry with them? Do you feel like such an important day doesn't matter to them? You don't have to answer those questions here but it might be no harm to have a think about how you feel towards them now. They have no underlying conditions yet are very fearful of Covid.
There may be a part of you that feels "for Jaysus sake can they not put that to one side and just celebrate with me".

There's nothing wrong with any of those feelings but they may be getting in the way of empathy towards them. You can intellectually understand where they are coming from but I think in order to get a bit of peace for yourself you need to have understanding from an empathetic place.
From reading your posts down through the years Woodchuck empathy isn't something you lack

Raisins

woodchuck wrote: »

Thanks Raisins. Yeah I completely understand where they're coming from. They have been severely restricting their movements since March 2020 so the idea of being a room with 25 other people with masks off while eating dinner is terrifying to them.

Intellectually I understand their decision, but it's still very upsetting. My siblings won't be attending either (one waiting for the vaccine and one in Canada), so I'll literally have no family there to celebrate with me on the day. Whereas my fiances parents are very supportive, think we should go ahead in May and are happy to attend and help in any way they can.

I'm trying to prepare for the worse case scenario that they won't be vaccinated and will only stay a half hour for the ceremony. I feel we're in a very difficult situation as to whether or not we keep ploughing ahead with our plans for May or postpone (again!) to try and have my family there. We really don't want to keep postponing indefinitely though, as nobody knows when everything will truly be back to normal. We're mid-30s and want to start the next stage of our lives. I don't think my parents understand that though, as they're pressuring us to postpone again.

Honestly we’re in a similar boat and I’m guessing a lot of people are and my advice would be not to defer on that basis but it’s obviously not a right or wrong answer.

The essence of the wedding will be the ceremony. If they’re there for that then that’s the most important thing. You won’t be without family at the wedding. You’ll probably be over the moon and thrilled afterwards and the rest will work itself out. You’ll feel they witnessed it and supported. After that the level of engagement with the celebrations themselves will be a detail. It’s not even clear yet what level of curfew (11.30), music, dancing will be allowed and if allowed which guests will want to do that and which ones will keep distance. I’d be inclined to park who exactly will end up partaking in all the celebrations and what exactly they’ll look like when considering whether to go ahead of not. That’s easier said than done.

cazzer22

woodchuck wrote: »

Personally I'm hopeful that this will be our last level 5 lockdown. If the most vulnerable members of society have been vaccinated and the hospitals aren't being overwhelmed, it would be very difficult to justify further lockdowns.

I reckon there'll be a very gradual easing of restrictions between now and Easter. Starting with schools in February, then reopening construction and non-essential retail. At some stage before Easter I think we'll be in a kind of "level 3 plus" or "level 5 minus" situation (or level 4 if they ever decide to use it!), where restaurants will be allowed to reopen for outdoor dining and they'll lift the 5km limit. I think they'll wait until after Easter weekend at the beginning of April before they allow indoor dining for restaurants. At that point, I think we'll be back into proper level 3 territory, which allows 25 guests at a wedding.

So personally I'd be hopeful for your wedding on 10th April French Toast! I don't have a crystal ball, but it's just my own thoughts on how it might play out (I've thought about it a lot as we're mid-May!). Hopefully it'll mean that it will also be one of the safest times to host a wedding before the vaccines are fully rolled out. Community transmission is bound to be low after such a prolonged period of restrictions.

I needed to read your post, thank you. I know you're only predicting, but you're talking a lot of sense. Love your positivity.

XxMCRxBabyxX

Starting to get really worried about the alterations I need on my dress. I want the underlay of my dress changed completely. Does anyone know if there are any dressmakers taking appointments during this lockdown or if it's even allowed? Our wedding isn't until June but I'm getting anxious about when anywhere will be allowed open again.

Note: I'm not trying to advocate breaking lockdown rules at all. Just that I've heard it might be possible.

confusticated

XxMCRxBabyxX wrote: »

Starting to get really worried about the alterations I need on my dress. I want the underlay of my dress changed completely. Does anyone know if there are any dressmakers taking appointments during this lockdown or if it's even allowed? Our wedding isn't until June but I'm getting anxious about when anywhere will be allowed open again.

Note: I'm not trying to advocate breaking lockdown rules at all. Just that I've heard it might be possible.

I don't think it is possible at the moment but they are definitely taking appointments for a few months' time. My seamstress contacted me in December and we set an appointment for end of March, my dress is due in in February and the wedding is in May but I have no idea how much altering it will need and she said that was plenty of time. So I'd say you could probably make an appointment for March/April and be relatively safe. You could always send them photos of the dress and of what you want to change to give them an idea of how much work there is and they'll let you know a timeframe.

woodchuck

I was in touch with the person who will be doing my dress alterations last week. Our wedding is mid-May and my first appointment is the end of March. She said it'll likely be 3 appointments and 50euro for each appointment. I asked about alterations during level 5 lockdown and she said they're still going ahead. Generally they're one-on-one appointments and wearing masks. Whenever she's been asked about it at a checkpoint, it hasn't been an issue, as weddings are still allowed to go ahead (even if there are only 6 people) and bride's still need their dresses.

I don't know if we're allowed post recommendations on here, but PM me if you want her information! Based in Dublin.

BCG89

I had my first dress alteration appointment 2 weeks ago. Also based in Dublin if you want to pm for her details!

Neyite

It's probably at the discretion of the seamstress - for example if they are cocooning themselves. Like make up and hair, they get up close and personal so I can imagine they want to be careful.
It depends on the Garda but I did see on facebook that someone was turned back at a checkpoint because they deemed collecting the dress to be non-essential.

For me, I've my dress here at home and I plan on booking my dressmaker anyway soon. I've two recommended to me locally so I'll chat to both and see what can be done.

woodchuck

Neyite wrote: »

It's probably at the discretion of the seamstress - for example if they are cocooning themselves. Like make up and hair, they get up close and personal so I can imagine they want to be careful.
It depends on the Garda but I did see on facebook that someone was turned back at a checkpoint because they deemed collecting the dress to be non-essential.

For me, I've my dress here at home and I plan on booking my dressmaker anyway soon. I've two recommended to me locally so I'll chat to both and see what can be done.

I think that's what worries me - the inconsistent approach taken by the guards. My seamstress is within our 5km (just about), but I could still get stopped by the "wrong" guard and told to turn back. If I said I was going to the supermarket, they probably wouldn't bat an eye, but I don't want to lie (particularly if I have the dress laid out on the back seat!).

Also while I have a drivers licence, I've been a horribly nervous driver the past year and have barely driven at all apart from going to the local supermarket (anxiety levels just through the roof in general because of the pandemic). I'd like to try and drive myself to the appointments to build up my driving confidence again, but I'd prefer to have the OH with me in the car for support. I feel I'm more likely to get singled out by the guards though if there's two of us in the car? As in it's an essential journey for me, but not technically for himself, we could get ourselves into trouble (even though he wouldn't even be getting out of the car!). It would probably be fine if himself was driving and I said I needed him to drive me to the appointment, but I really do want the driving practice with him as a passenger for moral support We can't even just go for a spin these days for fear of checkpoints.

French Toast

Level 5 extended until March 5th.

We're April 10th and would be happy to go ahead with 25 guests - meaning we'll need Level 3 or lower.

Strange and unsure times but we're still hopeful.

woodchuck

French Toast wrote: »

Level 5 extended until March 5th.

We're April 10th and would be happy to go ahead with 25 guests - meaning we'll need Level 3 or lower.

Strange and unsure times but we're still hopeful.

Fingers and toes crossed! Assuming/hoping we get to level 3 by then, I still think it will actually be one of the safest times to have a wedding. Think of what it was like last June/July after months of lockdown. There were still restrictions, but it generally felt much safer because the numbers were so low after such a long period of lockdown. And that was without a vaccine!

zedhead

Does anyone know/has had a wedding with the registry office. From my reading of the regulations the numbers apply to guests only and exclude the bride/groom and key suppliers for weddings. However I have seen that for registry offices it means the total number. So at the moment if it were 6 then you would only be allowed 4 guests and if you wanted a photographer/videographer they would have to be included in the 4. And similarly with 25 it would be us, plus 21 guests plus photographer and videographer. We had been going on the assumption that these numbers were guests only and not so sure now.

Raisins

zedhead wrote: »

Does anyone know/has had a wedding with the registry office. From my reading of the regulations the numbers apply to guests only and exclude the bride/groom and key suppliers for weddings. However I have seen that for registry offices it means the total number. So at the moment if it were 6 then you would only be allowed 4 guests and if you wanted a photographer/videographer they would have to be included in the 4. And similarly with 25 it would be us, plus 21 guests plus photographer and videographer. We had been going on the assumption that these numbers were guests only and not so sure now.

Where did you see registry offices are different? I think it’s the same.

zedhead

Raisins wrote: »

Where did you see registry offices are different? I think it’s the same.

There was a thread in a facebook group for weddings in ireland on mask wearing for the couple in the registry office and a few people in the comments mentioned they had married recently and 6 was the total number including them and photographer.

I should probably just call the registry office closer to May when we have more of an idea of if we are at 25 or 6 and what that means.

woodchuck

I'd call the registry office now, just so you know where you'll stand if the numbers are still 6 on your day.

It's possible they're being more strict on numbers if it's an issue with the size of the room for example. So you should ask about level 3 and numbers of 25 also - just incase they need to reduce that too

Naid23

woodchuck wrote: »

I'd call the registry office now, just so you know where you'll stand if the numbers are still 6 on your day.

It's possible they're being more strict on numbers if it's an issue with the size of the room for example. So you should ask about level 3 and numbers of 25 also - just incase they need to reduce that too

Just this morning I spoke with someone in the Naas registry office and was advised that because of the size of the room, its quite small, that it included the couple and registrar and 2 witnesses so 5 in total. Rang the one in dublin city and its 10 including the couple at the moment.

Was told that in naas unless it goes to level one that it will be 5 people.

zedhead

Naid23 wrote: »

Just this morning I spoke with someone in the Naas registry office and was advised that because of the size of the room, its quite small, that it included the couple and registrar and 2 witnesses so 5 in total. Rang the one in dublin city and its 10 including the couple at the moment.

Was told that in naas unless it goes to level one that it will be 5 people.

Oh that's great to hear. We are the dublin city one so we could have our 6 plus the registrar and photographer. I will give them a call tomorrow and see what the room allows if we are at level 3 and can have 25 people.

cazzer22

French Toast wrote: »

Level 5 extended until March 5th.

We're April 10th and would be happy to go ahead with 25 guests - meaning we'll need Level 3 or lower.

Strange and unsure times but we're still hopeful.

Hi French Toast, wedding guest numbers were 25 well before Christmas as it was a sort of level 4 plus and even into level 5. The numbers only reduced to 6 on the 2nd of Jan, so I really do feel we will get our 25. I'm the 10th of April too. Crossing everything for you. I think 25 is feasible and considering the numbers are below 1000 now, we are in a better position.

AppleD

Was hoping for 50, we're 30th of April. But I don't think its realistic.

Going about the task now of trying to move to late August/September. At least we have a better shot of having 50 then. Moving suppliers is gona be some craic. :rolleyes:

BCG89

We have just postponed from March to end of July. Very few of our suppliers can move with us but I found it fairly easy to get new supplies having done all of the research/searching first time around. We got it all sorted over the weekend, not as daunting as I thought it would be!

Lollipops23

BCG89 wrote: »

We have just postponed from March to end of July. Very few of our suppliers can move with us but I found it fairly easy to get new supplies having done all of the research/searching first time around. We got it all sorted over the weekend, not as daunting as I thought it would be!

I was the very same when we moved from April to August. We said the most important after the venue was our celebrant, who we felt a rapport with. Thankfully she was able!

I was a bit worried about the photographer, purely due to the €500 deposit we'd given him. When I rang he told me that he'd had a couple with our new date cancel just 24 hours earlier! They're in Oz so it makes sense.

Have to say, I'm happier every day we changed.

AppleD

BCG89 wrote: »

We have just postponed from March to end of July. Very few of our suppliers can move with us but I found it fairly easy to get new supplies having done all of the research/searching first time around. We got it all sorted over the weekend, not as daunting as I thought it would be!

Thanks, moved the hotel and ceremony today

I've only heard back from photographer who can't move, not sure if he will keep deposit.

I've emailed the other suppliers too so lets see, can source new ones if needs be.

I just feel with shops not opening until March, it would all be a bit rushed to get stuff sorted, get dress fitted, get wedding rings, get trials done.
I know the numbers might still be 50 or less but at least things should be open over the summer.

Has anyone here sat on a chiavari chair? We are considering hiring them for our wedding day but I'm wondering how comfortable they would be. Also we have 1 or 2 large guests and the chairs look delicate.

matrim

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Has anyone here sat on a chiavari chair? We are considering hiring them for our wedding day but I'm wondering how comfortable they would be. Also we have 1 or 2 large guests and the chairs look delicate.

I've sat on them at weddings and they were comfortable. Sturdiness will probably depend on build quality but you should be fine.

But I'm a bit biased because I hate the look of most chair covers and would like almost anything else.

matrim

matrim wrote: »

I've sat on them at weddings and they were comfortable. Sturdiness will probably depend on build quality but you should be fine.

But I'm a bit biased because I hate the look of most chair covers and would like almost anything else.

I hate chair covers as well. If we don't hire chairs we will use the venue ones without the covers.
There are a number of suppliers online. We were quoted €900 for 80 chairs including vat and delivery. No way will we pay that. There is another company which are priced at €3.50 each but I wonder are they not as well made.

Michellenman

Chivari chairs come with our package but from the outset before we had a venue I said I wouldn’t pay extra for them. The only time you see chairs is when the room is totally empty. Once people are seated they put their jackets on the back of their chairs or the room is full enough that you can’t even see chair backs anyway.

My sister in law was quoted €5 per chair for chivari chairs from her venue (the venue owned them, the charge was in order to swap them out of storage for the regular chairs...). €500 for chairs seemed unnecessary to me.

In saying that, you didn’t ask for my opinion (sorry! ) and the chairs are comfortable and you could trust (in as much as you can with any piece of furniture) them to be fit for purpose and handle people of all shapes an sizes sitting on them.

woodchuck

I also hate chair covers! Is there any reason you can't just use the venue chairs without the chair covers? As Michellenman said, once people sit down and hang their jackets on the back of them, you don't really notice the chairs anyway. I just don't know if I could justify spending hundreds to hire chairs if the venue has ones you can use.

Michellenman

Michellenman wrote: »

Chivari chairs come with our package but from the outset before we had a venue I said I wouldn’t pay extra for them. The only time you see chairs is when the room is totally empty. Once people are seated they put their jackets on the back of their chairs or the room is full enough that you can’t even see chair backs anyway.

My sister in law was quoted €5 per chair for chivari chairs from her venue (the venue owned them, the charge was in order to swap them out of storage for the regular chairs...). €500 for chairs seemed unnecessary to me.

In saying that, you didn’t ask for my opinion (sorry! ) and the chairs are comfortable and you could trust (in as much as you can with any piece of furniture) them to be fit for purpose and handle people of all shapes an sizes sitting on them.

All opinions are welcome and my fiancé will especially like yours

I agree with you that once people are seated and the coats go in the back nobody will pay a blind bit of notice to them. I have a little vision for how I'd like the ceremony and reception rooms styled. If we can get the chairs at a good price I'll be happy and if not sure I'll come up with a way to make the regular chairs look nice

woodchuck

woodchuck wrote: »

I also hate chair covers! Is there any reason you can't just use the venue chairs without the chair covers? As Michellenman said, once people sit down and hang their jackets on the back of them, you don't really notice the chairs anyway. I just don't know if I could justify spending hundreds to hire chairs if the venue has ones you can use.

We could but they would look a bit out of place against the overall look. Have you sat on a chiavari chair?

woodchuck

I can't say if I have or haven't tbh... I didn't know what they were until you mentioned them and I did a quick google

Is it possible you're overthinking the look of the chairs though? In the grand scheme of things that go unnoticed, I reckon they're high on the list. Provided they're not covered in hideous fabric or something, hiring chairs separate to what the venue provides wouldn't have even occurred to me.

woodchuck

woodchuck wrote: »

I can't say if I have or haven't tbh... I didn't know what they were until you mentioned them and I did a quick google

Is it possible you're overthinking the look of the chairs though? In the grand scheme of things that go unnoticed, I reckon they're high on the list. Provided they're not covered in hideous fabric or something, hiring chairs separate to what the venue provides wouldn't have even occurred to me.

I would like our guests and us to walk in to the room and think how beautiful it looks. I may be projecting because it is something I would notice. We will see

Teach30

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Has anyone here sat on a chiavari chair? We are considering hiring them for our wedding day but I'm wondering how comfortable they would be. Also we have 1 or 2 large guests and the chairs look delicate.

I’ve sat on them and they’re fine but with a few drinks in I wouldn’t take much notice of comfort! I would say older people might find them uncomfortable if seated for a long period of time. They can be very narrow on the seat and back and if well used a little bit rickety so maybe ask your venue to sit in them?

They definitely do look nice if that’s the look you are going for. When you walk into the room people will notice them, I have a good few pics of friends reception rooms set up and they look great.

Teach30

Teach30 wrote: »

I’ve sat on them and they’re fine but with a few drinks in I wouldn’t take much notice of comfort! I would say older people might find them uncomfortable if seated for a long period of time. They can be very narrow on the seat and back and if well used a little bit rickety so maybe ask your venue to sit in them?

They definitely do look nice if that’s the look you are going for. When you walk into the room people will notice them, I have a good few pics of friends reception rooms set up and they look great.

Aha yes that is what I was worried about. We have a number of older guests to invite. My uncle is in his early 80's and my dad will be 79. I will be making a visit to the venue as soon as we can travel to remind myself of how it all looks. Have you heard from any older people who found them uncomfortable? Will you have them at your wedding?

Teach30

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Aha yes that is what I was worried about. We have a number of older guests to invite. My uncle is in his early 80's and my dad will be 79. I will be making a visit to the venue as soon as we can travel to remind myself of how it all looks. Have you heard from any older people who found them uncomfortable? Will you have them at your wedding?

Yea my mother and aunts wouldn’t be fan and they’re in their 70’s. I’m not having them as I’ve seen them done to death! They were very new and fresh 6 or 7 years ago but I wanted something a little more modern.

We have high back, soft seating chairs that are wide on the seat. From what I can see they look comfortable and are a good height for the tables. I won’t be decorating them or getting the room done up apart from the flowers and whatever the hotel does. I’m not not getting a separate crowd to style it, waste of money imo.

You could ask your venue for separate chairs for your parents and your uncle? I know our venue has terribly tacky chairs for the b&g but I’ll be asking for different ones to them!

Teach30

Teach30 wrote: »

Yea my mother and aunts wouldn’t be fan and they’re in their 70’s. I’m not having them as I’ve seen them done to death! They were very new and fresh 6 or 7 years ago but I wanted something a little more modern.

We have high back, soft seating chairs that are wide on the seat. From what I can see they look comfortable and are a good height for the tables. I won’t be decorating them or getting the room done up apart from the flowers and whatever the hotel does. I’m not not getting a separate crowd to style it, waste of money imo.

You could ask your venue for separate chairs for your parents and your uncle? I know our venue has terribly tacky chairs for the b&g but I’ll be asking for different ones to them!

They are very common alright.
Wedding stylists are all the rage these days. I can do it all myself so definitely won't be paying for one of those.

The more I think the more it makes sense to go with the chairs already there. They might not look as well but I want people to feel comfortable.

Actually because Chiavari are so used then not having them could be a win!

Thanks

marbilio

Hi everyone,

Sorry if I am clogging up the forum with this message but I was just wondering if anybody on here is planning on getting married in Rathsallagh. I would really appreciate if you could PM please because we just have couple of questions and I was hoping to speak to someone.

Thank you and fingers crossed for eveyone's big day this year:):):)

XxMCRxBabyxX

RANT WARNING

I’ve really hit a brick wall in the last week or two. We’re not until the beginning of June and we’ve agreed that we’re going to go ahead unless the numbers are 6 but everything has me anxious - the extended lockdown, the daily numbers, retail being closed, no travel etc. We’re trying to sort out rings and accessories but can’t go to a shop to get ring sized, can’t travel to get dress alterations, we don’t know if we can have a band or the illustrator we’ve booked, blah, blah, blah. I’m just exhausted from everything. I’ve had to delete all the Facebook pages I follow because I can’t handle another post about people postponing with weddings later than ours.

Is it terrible that I’m getting jealous of all my friends who have gotten engaged recently who (hopefully) won’t have to deal with this crap?

woodchuck

Rant away XxMCRxBabyxX!

I'm having a bad day of it myself. I'm trying to research things like decor, invites, memory box etc and just feel like a damned fool tbh. I'm like why am I even bothering if we're just going to have to postpone again. I was hopeful that we'd have at least 25 guests by May, but I'm less sure now. Particularly with all the talk of vaccine delays and it's looking like schools may not even start to open again until March. The original level 5 included schools being open, so we won't even get "down" to level 5 until March/April. What hope is there of getting to level 3 by May? Our venue doesn't have accommodation, so I was hoping to stay in a nice hotel somewhere else that night and have a sort of minimoon within our own county - as sh1t as that sounds, even that might not be possible anymore.

My new prediction is that they're going to prioritise getting the numbers down as low as possible for July and August, prioritising those months for reopening hospitality, as they're the traditional holiday months. We'll probably have enough people vaccinated by the end of August that we can keep hospitality open at that stage. Before July though? I'm no longer hopeful.

Is it terrible that I’m getting jealous of all my friends who have gotten engaged recently who (hopefully) won’t have to deal with this crap?

I don't think so. I think it's completely understandable. I had a dream recently that my brother got engaged and my first reaction was "Well! They're not going to be a Covid couple. They'll actually get to enjoy their engagement and run up to the wedding". I can see myself becoming a horribly bitter and resentful person when it comes to other peoples weddings for years to come.

Hey everyone,

My Fiancé and I have decided to go ahead this Spring. We will have a happy occasion, even if it doesnt look like what we thought it would be when we started planning two years ago. Things are different, and we decided to roll with it for our own reasons.
I'm going to unfollow the thread for a while, as I just need to give my head some space.
I wish you all the very best with your plans, whether that's to postpone, go for a micro wedding, or have 2 weddings. I know it's easier said than done, but try not to stress too much!

I'll let you all know how it goes

Goose76

XxMCRxBabyxX wrote: »

RANT WARNING


Is it terrible that I’m getting jealous of all my friends who have gotten engaged recently who (hopefully) won’t have to deal with this crap?

Ah I completely understand. We are booked for March and resigned to postponing but haven’t pulled the trigger just yet.

In terms of friends though, try to think that you’ll be married and taking the next steps in your married life (whatever they may be - house, kids, whatever) when your friends in the future will only be just getting engaged or planning their weddings. Think of the thousands of couples across the country postponing getting engaged or even talking about marriage until “after covid”. Many would kill to be in our positions right now, planning a wedding.

The lady in my dress shop actually said she is seeing couples move weddings FORWARD ( as best they can ) lately because people don’t want to out their lives on hold or delay having children any longer.

I completely understand your feelings but on the dark days try and just see it from this perspective too maybe. The marriage is what counts really, not so much the wedding. And you can always have a huge relaxed wedding party afterwards in the future.

XxMCRxBabyxX

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Hey everyone,

My Fiancé and I have decided to go ahead this Spring. We will have a happy occasion, even if it doesnt look like what we thought it would be when we started planning two years ago. Things are different, and we decided to roll with it for our own reasons.
I'm going to unfollow the thread for a while, as I just need to give my head some space.
I wish you all the very best with your plans, whether that's to postpone, go for a micro wedding, or have 2 weddings. I know it's easier said than done, but try not to stress too much!

I'll let you all know how it goes

I hope this wasn't my fault! Wishing you the best of luck Eskie! Looking forward to seeing your update!

XxMCRxBabyxX

Goose76 wrote: »

Ah I completely understand. We are booked for March and resigned to postponing but haven’t pulled the trigger just yet.

In terms of friends though, try to think that you’ll be married and taking the next steps in your married life (whatever they may be - house, kids, whatever) when your friends in the future will only be just getting engaged or planning their weddings. Think of the thousands of couples across the country postponing getting engaged or even talking about marriage until “after covid”. Many would kill to be in our positions right now, planning a wedding.

The lady in my dress shop actually said she is seeing couples move weddings FORWARD ( as best they can ) lately because people don’t want to out their lives on hold or delay having children any longer.

I completely understand your feelings but on the dark days try and just see it from this perspective too maybe. The marriage is what counts really, not so much the wedding. And you can always have a huge relaxed wedding party afterwards in the future.

You're totally right. I'm completely delighted for all the couples, just a bit selfishly downhearted for myself. I still can't wait to marry my fiancé and am excited to be his wife!

zedhead

XxMCRxBabyxX wrote: »

RANT WARNING

I’ve really hit a brick wall in the last week or two. We’re not until the beginning of June and we’ve agreed that we’re going to go ahead unless the numbers are 6 but everything has me anxious - the extended lockdown, the daily numbers, retail being closed, no travel etc. We’re trying to sort out rings and accessories but can’t go to a shop to get ring sized, can’t travel to get dress alterations, we don’t know if we can have a band or the illustrator we’ve booked, blah, blah, blah. I’m just exhausted from everything. I’ve had to delete all the Facebook pages I follow because I can’t handle another post about people postponing with weddings later than ours.

Is it terrible that I’m getting jealous of all my friends who have gotten engaged recently who (hopefully) won’t have to deal with this crap?

We're May and I know exactly how you feel. I am really hoping that we are at 25 by then but I am starting to lose hope.

We are going ahead either way but if we are still at 6 we need to decide what that looks like. Will we be able to find somewhere that can do a meal for just the 6 of us? Do I wear my dress and everything if all we can do is the registry office with no meal or anything. Do we bother with the photographer for the 30 minute ceremony in the registry office or lose a big deposit paid on that? If thats all we do, do we postpone a reception again for later in the year?

It is hard not to be jealous of others, but at the moment I am focused on finally getting to marry my fiance, the details don't matter as much!