Mental health and CoVid-19

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Yes I think if close family could travel a bit further to sit in the garden with elderly parents a couple of times a week it would be a huge help. But unfortunately you'd have people using this as an excuse to go here there and everywhere. I'm really worried about an elderly relative of mine. But it seems impossible to build in a bit of flexibility without releasing mayhem.

Hobgoblin11

PTH2009 wrote: »

Anyone else struggle with this video call stuff ???

I hate been on camera and dont feel comfortable doing that stuff

yes it's very strange , getting prepared to let people into your home

fryup

PTH2009 wrote: »

Anyone else struggle with this video call stuff ???

I hate been on camera and don't feel comfortable doing that stuff

i hate it as well i look really old with a fat face rather be on the phone to be honest

(maybe its the webcam i have)

De Danann

Sebastian Unkempt Trademark wrote: »

I know of a few elderly people whose mental health and alertness is diminishing due to being forced to spend large amounts of time indoors and alone.

It would be great if the govt could relax restrictions in a way that could help alleviate the loneliness of our elderly population, without providing loopholes for the selfish brigade to start moving around all over the place and bringing us back to square one.

My grandmother diagnosed just before Xmas with the early stage of dementia.
Since the heavier restrictions started, it seems she's gotten quite a bit worse. I'd love to be able to visit her a couple of times a week and get her chatting, maybe do some brain training quizzes with her.

She's also not able to cope with not being allowed to see and hug the young grandkids.

Lavinia

PTH2009 wrote: »

Anyone else struggle with this video call stuff ???

I hate been on camera and dont feel comfortable doing that stuff

Can you ask to be just on call without video

robbiezero

Sebastian Unkempt Trademark wrote: »

Yes I think if close family could travel a bit further to sit in the garden with elderly parents a couple of times a week it would be a huge help. But unfortunately you'd have people using this as an excuse to go here there and everywhere. I'm really worried about an elderly relative of mine. But it seems impossible to build in a bit of flexibility without releasing mayhem.

A lot of people I have talked to are going to visit their elderly parents and close relations regardless next week while keeping social distancing when they get there.

ShineOn7

robbiezero wrote: »

A lot of people I have talked to are going to visit their elderly parents and close relations regardless next week while keeping social distancing when they get there.

Maybe outdoors and 6 feet away


Definitely not indoors

robbiezero

ShineOn7 wrote: »

Maybe outdoors and 6 feet away


Definitely not indoors

Ya. That would be the plan. Would make a huge difference to some elderly people to have their family visit even with that distancing.

ShineOn7

robbiezero wrote: »

Ya. That would be the plan. Would make a huge difference to some elderly people to have their family visit even with that distancing.

Yeah agreed. Kids smiling and talking to their Grandparents from a distance of at least 6 feet and completely outdoors will do all concerned a great deal of positivity

LilacNails

I'm quiet over whelmed again today.

I'm struggling most with having no one to call or chat too. My social outlet was mostly at work. I do have 2 or 3 friends but it's me that's made the effort most and have dropped a hint I'm struggling a bit.

I've just binged on so much crap. I don't want to leave the house. I'm sick of just walking, reading and watching TV. I'm feeling just so empty.

I'm scared what this impact is going to have on me in the future. All this time to think and being alone. I haven't had a conversation with someone since Saturday.

I have applied for some voluntary work, but I got no call back or they have enough people already.

There's no relationship with my family, that hurts a lot too, but that's something I cannot control. If anything any dealings usually makes me feel upset.

I'm jealous when I see people together walking around, I'm jealous of families... Yes theres no such thing as a perfect one but their lucky they have each other. Most don't realise what they have until it's gone.

I feel like I'm counting down the hours.

I just needed to get that all off my chest. Thanks for reading

PTH2009

Going through old gigs videos and thanks to past self been stupid and recording most things in portrait style I'm editing them now lol

You dont know the frustration ha

Tell me how

LilacNails wrote: »

I'm quiet over whelmed again today.

I'm struggling most with having no one to call or chat too. My social outlet was mostly at work. I do have 2 or 3 friends but it's me that's made the effort most and have dropped a hint I'm struggling a bit.

I've just binged on so much crap. I don't want to leave the house. I'm sick of just walking, reading and watching TV. I'm feeling just so empty.

I'm scared what this impact is going to have on me in the future. All this time to think and being alone. I haven't had a conversation with someone since Saturday.

I have applied for some voluntary work, but I got no call back or they have enough people already.

There's no relationship with my family, that hurts a lot too, but that's something I cannot control. If anything any dealings usually makes me feel upset.

I'm jealous when I see people together walking around, I'm jealous of families... Yes theres no such thing as a perfect one but their lucky they have each other. Most don't realise what they have until it's gone.

I feel like I'm counting down the hours.

I just needed to get that all off my chest. Thanks for reading

Hope that this post helped you a little bit.

It is a difficult period to be caught with so much time and finding it hard to fill it. Any insecurities and discomforts can be magnified in this environment.

I can empathise with you in some ways. I am single and at an age where all my peers have families, I do find myself thinking about what my experience is during this versus theirs and one sibling in particular posts updates on a group chat about how they and their children are spending the day and I am delighted for them, but each picture reminds me that I don't have that.

Generally, in terms of every day form, I have noticed a distinct drop off in terms of texts, memes, updates etc from people either directly or in group chats and take this as a sign that all people are suffering in dealing with this more and more as time goes on.

Yesterday, I called my former neighbour, an elderly lady who lives on her own and I spoke to her for ten minutes and she was very thankful I called, and it did me good.
Today, I'm going to call a guy I know here for the same reason, I think he will benefit from me calling, and I will too.

Could you reach out to a work colleague or two and see how they are doing? I know what you mean about being the one that always makes the effort, but some people just aren't good at picking up the phone.

One somber note to finish up on. Lots of people are struggling within the confines of their home for various reasons. Calls to support groups have increased over this period. We don't know what other people are dealing with and I'm not suggesting that your friends or family are in this category but they too are likely struggling with this and so are probably less inclined to engage.

r93kaey5p2izun

PTH2009 wrote: »

Anyone else struggle with this video call stuff ???

I hate been on camera and dont feel comfortable doing that stuff

Yes. It's not so much how I look, it's the fact they are able to see into my home. Due to my lease ending during the outbreak (but before protection measures were introduced), and my house purchase being severely delayed, I am living in a situation where I am frequently the subject of verbal abuse, and people shouting abuse and making racist comments in the background is an unfortunate reality. I can just about cope with this myself in private, but being required to open it up to others is quite unbearable.

ShineOn7

LilacNails wrote: »

I'm quiet over whelmed again today.



I feel like I'm counting down the hours.

You (and all of us) are one day closer to the world feeling safer

I'd a terrible day yesterday, there was almost some man tears. But I'd just 3 hours sleep the night before so of course my mind was over amplifying everything. Today, after 7 hours sleep last night and exercise today, I feel a lot better

Tomorrow; I might feel like shít again. But days like today give me hope

LilacNails; if your thoughts turn very dark please reach out to one of the helplines

LilacNails

Tell me how wrote: »

Hope that this post helped you a little bit.

It is a difficult period to be caught with so much time and finding it hard to fill it. Any insecurities and discomforts can be magnified in this environment.

I can empathise with you in some ways. I am single and at an age where all my peers have families, I do find myself thinking about what my experience is during this versus theirs and one sibling in particular posts updates on a group chat about how they and their children are spending the day and I am delighted for them, but each picture reminds me that I don't have that.

Generally, in terms of every day form, I have noticed a distinct drop off in terms of texts, memes, updates etc from people either directly or in group chats and take this as a sign that all people are suffering in dealing with this more and more as time goes on.

Yesterday, I called my former neighbour, an elderly lady who lives on her own and I spoke to her for ten minutes and she was very thankful I called, and it did me good.
Today, I'm going to call a guy I know here for the same reason, I think he will benefit from me calling, and I will too.

Could you reach out to a work colleague or two and see how they are doing? I know what you mean about being the one that always makes the effort, but some people just aren't good at picking up the phone.

One somber note to finish up on. Lots of people are struggling within the confines of their home for various reasons. Calls to support groups have increased over this period. We don't know what other people are dealing with and I'm not suggesting that your friends or family are in this category but they too are likely struggling with this and so are probably less inclined to engage.

Thanks so much for this post, Tell Me How. You seem to get where I'm coming from and understand my feelings, that alone brings me some comfort. Almost makes me feel seen and heard.

I felt sorry for myself a while after that post. The ****e I bought, I dumped it, I know it only makes me feel like crap when I eat it and I guess it gave me some control again with my feelings by getting rid of.

I got up off my ass and went for a cycle. Felt SO much better. It was a lovely evening, the route I went was it long and hilly so was challenging. Your always guaranteed a good sense of achievement after it.

It passed away 2hrs. Was in a far better place and am again today.

Even though the days are long I guess it still allows for time for it to be made a better one.

leahyl

Hi all, I'm honestly so grateful that I can work from home because otherwise I think I'd go mad. I'm still living at home (nearly 35 ) and single so I'm trying to keep my mind off the fact that I can't socialise with anyone and my chances of meeting someone in the next few months are now definitely zero....it's tough sometimes but I know there are many people way worse off than me. I try to keep things in perspective. I am trying to find my own place to call home for a few years now and haven't been successful so far - I think it would be easier if I wasn't living at home because at least then I wouldn't be worrying about bringing home anything to my parents when I do the shopping - I could just drop any shopping at their door - my anxiety is bad, mainly, because I am worried about my parents - even though they are in good health generally...but they are over 70...

I think everyone has their own worries and different circumstances which present different challenges.

This is a nice thread to have (one of the few on the Covid forum!) so that people can have a chat and express how they are feeling without judgement

sc9736

Hi All,

Just reading through the thread, a lot of us are struggling.

I won't go into circumstances, put I am abroad (usually get back every 2 weeks) and alone in my big new house. I'm recently separated and was due to have my kids over all of Easter and hopefully whole of summer. I haven't seen them in 7 weeks.

I've hit very dark times, I had a major panic attack last week during a presentation which is something I have never had before. I am lucky that I can work from home and have an amazing team plus very busy but the whole uncertainly and being alone is a huge thing to deal with.

I am usually a very active person who has run numerous marathons but I just can't be bothered training now. My sleep and eating patterns are stupid. Luckily where I am living has not been as bad as other countries and we are easing a lot of restrictions but I don't know when I can leave.

It's probably one of the hardest stages in our lives and even though the dark dog comes, I try to find a way out and keep saying this can't last forever.

Chins up all.

Goose76

The talk in today’s Irish Times of cocooning going on until there is a vaccine has set my mental health back ten steps. I’ve been panicky since reading it. My parents are 70+ and already have to cocoon.

uli84

Anxiety through the roof for me since all those recent talks about NOT easing the restrictions ðŸ™

freshpopcorn

I was watching Beat the Chasers Tonight and Britain's got Talent at the weekend and I said to myself when will we ever see a studio audience in a program again
and when these things were filmed nobody really imagined the position we'd be in now!(Not trying to depress people).

LilacNails

Feeling a bit....meh...dont want to wallow in it...so I'm going to binge watch The Inbetweeners on the channel 4 app. Spend too much time watching and listening to serious stuff..... Bit of comedy never does much harm!

mr_fegelien

They were talking about an increase in suicide during this pandemic. Is that possible?

Tell me how

mr_fegelien wrote: »

They were talking about an increase in suicide during this pandemic. Is that possible?

Anything is possible. People are more stressed at this time. They have concerns about health, their livelihood etc. Stress and worry can contribute to depression and anxiety and unfortunately suicide can be a consequence from that.

That doesn't mean that it is guaranteed to increase, there is also some reports that some people are now less stressed because they have realized over the last few weeks just what is really important in life and it isn't spending all time at work or worrying about it when you are not there.

ShineOn7

mr_fegelien wrote: »

They were talking about an increase in suicide during this pandemic. Is that possible?

Of course it is



There was reports of multiple suicides in a city (I forget which one, it was 7 weeks ago) when all this started. If I remember right a good few were businessmen who saw the severity of what was coming

never_mind

sc9736 wrote: »

Hi All,

Just reading through the thread, a lot of us are struggling.

I won't go into circumstances, put I am abroad (usually get back every 2 weeks) and alone in my big new house. I'm recently separated and was due to have my kids over all of Easter and hopefully whole of summer. I haven't seen them in 7 weeks.

I've hit very dark times, I had a major panic attack last week during a presentation which is something I have never had before. I am lucky that I can work from home and have an amazing team plus very busy but the whole uncertainly and being alone is a huge thing to deal with.

I am usually a very active person who has run numerous marathons but I just can't be bothered training now. My sleep and eating patterns are stupid. Luckily where I am living has not been as bad as other countries and we are easing a lot of restrictions but I don't know when I can leave.

It's probably one of the hardest stages in our lives and even though the dark dog comes, I try to find a way out and keep saying this can't last forever.

Chins up all.

Really sorry to hear you are going through a tough time. I am also a runner and I slacked off at the start of this because I felt there was no point. Can I just suggest you go for it and get back into running? Even do two easy runs a week... I promise you it makes you feel 10000% times better!

uli84

mr_fegelien wrote: »

They were talking about an increase in suicide during this pandemic. Is that possible?

I unfortunately personally know 1 person who took her life, few weeks earlier posted a comment on Facebook group that suicide numbers will increase due to covid-19

fin12

uli84 wrote: »

I unfortunately personally know 1 person who took her life, few weeks earlier posted a comment on Facebook group that suicide numbers will increase due to covid-19

Sorry to hear that.

fin12

I was thinking if people post some things that have been positive or they feel positive about the lockdown.

For me it’s been very good for my dog who is getting a lot more attention and exercise.

Nice not been stressed in the morning trying to get to work.

uli84

Ugh can’t sleep, this evening news were not good news...

ShineOn7

uli84 wrote: »

Ugh can’t sleep, this evening news were not good news...

Why? It was very positive news actually