Dating during the Coronavirus lockdown

Gael23

Samsonsmasher wrote: »

I have never stopped dating. I am not going to be told by Dr Tony or anybody who I can or cannot meet.

I feel the same to a point but if my date is not comfortable I’m not going to push him to the way things are

hurikane

Samsonsmasher wrote: »

I have never stopped dating. I am not going to be told by Dr Tony or anybody who I can or cannot meet.

Be a tough job to separate you from your pam.

Curious as to how people are dealing with this now. It never really comes up as a discussed issue even though it affects quite a lot of people and we're looking down the barrell of another 3+ months of this

suicide_circus

Better celibate than a GRANNY KILLER

Padre_Pio

suicide_circus wrote: »

Better celibate than a GRANNY KILLER

Is this the new "you wouldn't download a car" advert? :eek:

Haven't stopped dating. Just found women who dont live with their parents.

ShineOn7

AdamD wrote: »

Curious as to how people are dealing with this now. It never really comes up as a discussed issue even though it affects quite a lot of people and we're looking down the barrell of another 3+ months of this

We've done 10 months of this, what's another 3?

And, if you're being cautious, it's longer than 3 months before we see significant drops in the metrics we need

Us cautious Singletons will hopefully be riding like the clappers again come September though

SusieBlue

A year and half is a very long time to wait if you’re looking to settle down or for something serious, depending on age. Actually age aside it’s a really long time if you want to meet someone.

I haven’t had much interest in dating lately, but I did go on a few during the summer and in the autumn.
I’m 29, if I was a few years older I wouldn’t have been wasting any time or waiting at all.

Jpmarn

I am single but I am sort of off the market since last March. But hopefully be back on the market when I get a vaccine and when most public health restrictions are lifted. And when all pubs are allowed to open and social distancing goes out the window. Male 49 years Limerick.

Gael23

Been chatting to a guy in Tinder, he lives alone so I’m not doing too much wrong if I visit

ShineOn7

ShineOn7 wrote: »

We've done 10 months of this, what's another 3?

And, if you're being cautious, it's longer than 3 months before we see significant drops in the metrics we need

Us cautious Singletons will hopefully be riding like the clappers again come September though

Another 3 months makes it over a year, that's a long time.

Mister Vain

Never had any luck on tinder before the pandemic so not much has changed. I'm waiting until yoga classes and dogging can start back up safely.

ShineOn7

AdamD wrote: »

Another 3 months makes it over a year, that's a long time.

Yes of course

But there's a new, much more contagious variant on the loose and one in every 20 cases (across all ages) have Long Covid. They're shíte odds to be dating new people right now tbh

Everyone needs to do their own risk assessment on things and that's kinda where I'm at for now

ShineOn7

Mister Vain wrote: »

'm waiting until yoga classes and dogging can start back up safely.

Lol

ShineOn7

It's Friday night

I just opened Tinder for the first time in ages and then closed it again. Sure what's the point for now eh?

Things we'll never take for granted again:

• Travel
• Hugging loved ones
• Festivals
• Dating/The Ride

Padre_Pio

ShineOn7 wrote: »

It's Friday night

I just opened Tinder for the first time in ages and then closed it again. Sure what's the point for now eh?

Things we'll never take for granted again:

• Travel
• Hugging loved ones
• Festivals
• Dating/The Ride

Until next year.

Mister Vain

ShineOn7 wrote: »

It's Friday night

I just opened Tinder for the first time in ages and then closed it again. Sure what's the point for now eh?

You could go on a socially distanced date and let her pull your baguette

Riodej1578

AdamD wrote: »

Curious as to how people are dealing with this now. It never really comes up as a discussed issue even though it affects quite a lot of people and we're looking down the barrell of another 3+ months of this

It's certainly an interesting one and probably not brought up enough. I would think a lot of people are back out there now dating, there's only so long you can wait. Certainly not 12 months +

doublejobbing 2

Mate of mine became single after 2 years recently, 35. Been on Tinder and Bumble recently, says like when he was last on it a few years ago you would get your 100 swipes and you would get at least 3 or 4 back same as I would back when I was on, whether they bothered talking back or not. .

Says he's been on it a week and got maybe a dozen swipe backs, and pretty much no convo out of them. Not like he has gained 7 stone or his hairline has dramatically receded in the last two years anyway, photo wise.

Have things got so hopeless re something to do and somewhere to go women have just given up even giving "likes" and are just scrolling it hitting No out of boredom? Has the government broken the will of the people this badly?

Even he is of the opinion of where would you bring a bird. No pubs, the weather generally has been the worst winter in decades. Unless she's dying for the ride particularly badly going to a random man's house from the internet isn't really most Irish women's style.

Also said Tinder has got ridiculously clunky and almost impossible to use without giving them 20 quid. Likes can now be hidden behind a paywall rather than showing instantly- if he gives a bird a like, if she isn't a paying customer she may well not even see his profile. Of his dozen swipe backks, 6 or 7 were in the first day, it's like they deliberately send out your profile on the first day, then give you feck all matches to try to convince you to upgrade packages.

SnuggyBear

doublejobbing 2 wrote: »

Mate of mine became single after 2 years recently, 35. Been on Tinder and Bumble recently, says like when he was last on it a few years ago you would get your 100 swipes and you would get at least 3 or 4 back same as I would back when I was on, whether they bothered talking back or not. .

Says he's been on it a week and got maybe a dozen swipe backs, and pretty much no convo out of them. Not like he has gained 7 stone or his hairline has dramatically receded in the last two years anyway, photo wise.

Have things got so hopeless re something to do and somewhere to go women have just given up even giving "likes" and are just scrolling it hitting No out of boredom? Has the government broken the will of the people this badly?

Even he is of the opinion of where would you bring a bird. No pubs, the weather generally has been the worst winter in decades. Unless she's dying for the ride particularly badly going to a random man's house from the internet isn't really most Irish women's style.

Also said Tinder has got ridiculously clunky and almost impossible to use without giving them 20 quid. Likes can now be hidden behind a paywall rather than showing instantly- if he gives a bird a like, if she isn't a paying customer she may well not even see his profile. Of his dozen swipe backks, 6 or 7 were in the first day, it's like they deliberately send out your profile on the first day, then give you feck all matches to try to convince you to upgrade packages.

Tinder is not as easy as it was years ago, it's rigged now. If you pay the money to see the likes they will be women on the other side of the country. Plenty of women on there for an ego boost and to pass the time or promote Instagram too.

All it's good for now is lowering your self esteem

It's funny though you can barely get a match with a fat one with 3 kids here but if you set your location to the Dominican Republic you will instantly get matched with gorgeous women. I think ill move there lol

ShineOn7

You know you're having your longest dry spell ever and you need more caffeine when you at first read this headline as:

"You’ll feel like fingering your TV against the wall"

When it actually said

Behind Her Eyes review: 'You’ll feel like flinging your TV against the wall'

https://www.independent.ie/entertainment/television/tv-reviews/behind-her-eyes-review-youll-feel-like-flinging-your-tv-against-the-wall-40117023.html

Mister Vain

Sex and covid.

the Terrence Higgins Trust recommends not kissing, wearing a face mask during sex and favouring positions where you're not face-to-face

https://www.bbc.com/news/newsbeat-53736087

Beasty

Extra option added for latecomers to the thread....

iagreebut

I'm not dating for at least another year, we're only going to tip the scales again in favour of the virus.

Admittedly I do have empathy for younger men and women who are looking to sow their wild oats and have kids.

I think that's the hardest part, especially a woman and a msn who wants to have a kid and her biological clock is ticking since last March and herself and her boyfriend are living miles away from each other, and they can't meet until there's a vaccine.
That's a tough one.
Or young men and women missing out on that drink and sex fuelled weekend in Liverpool or Galway or even Newcastle.
All that is in the past now, part of history.
No more weekenders for the lads and ladies, just stay at home and chat via wattsap or face time etc.
Technology is great isn't it, in time's like this where would we be without it.

A few gay friend's of mine are missing their holidays in Gran canaria, they always had a great time over there.
Meeting loads of people, having a laugh, group hugs etc...

Grindr is only used for chatting now, there's nobody meeting up anymore.
Supposedly they're losing money too and have increased the price of premium membership.
Plenty of fish are acting the maggots too, now nobody can see who looked at their profile.
This only came into effect a week or two ago.

Riodej1578

iagreebut wrote: »

I'm not dating for at least another year, we're only going to tip the scales again in favour of the virus.

Admittedly I do have empathy for younger men and women who are looking to sow their wild oats and have kids.

I think that's the hardest part, especially a woman and a msn who wants to have a kid and her biological clock is ticking since last March and herself and her boyfriend are living miles away from each other, and they can't meet until there's a vaccine.
That's a tough one.
Or young men and women missing out on that drink and sex fuelled weekend in Liverpool or Galway or even Newcastle.
All that is in the past now, part of history.
No more weekenders for the lads and ladies, just stay at home and chat via wattsap or face time etc.
Technology is great isn't it, in time's like this where would we be without it.

A few gay friend's of mine are missing their holidays in Gran canaria, they always had a great time over there.
Meeting loads of people, having a laugh, group hugs etc...

Grindr is only used for chatting now, there's nobody meeting up anymore.
Supposedly they're losing money too and have increased the price of premium membership.
Plenty of fish are acting the maggots too, now nobody can see who looked at their profile.
This only came into effect a week or two ago.

I would say most couples who are living apart are finding some way to meet. How do you keep a relationship going if you don't.

iagreebut

Riodej1578 wrote: »

I would say most couples who are living apart are finding some way to meet. How do you keep a relationship going if you don't.

They can't meet, we're in a lockdown and have to use an app or something.
It's sad but there's no other choice.
If they get caught going outside their 5k they're going to get in trouble and could be endangering each others lives and the lives of others and their vunerable friend's and loved ones.

This is a killer disease, there's no other way other than meeting virtually.
When restrictions are lifted and until they get vaccinated and both have a test to verify that they are negative there's no way they should meet up.

Maybe both wear a mask if they're meeting up, and stay 2 m apart, that's very important.

They'll have to self isolate for two weeks, then get another test just to be sure that they don't have Covid.
Meet up.
Then isolate for two weeks again, because who's to know that either has been in contact with you we're being told that we could be harming others unbeknownst to ourselves, then get another test before they go back into the community.

This is serious, we're in a pandemic.

Keep up the social distancing, it's the only way.

doublejobbing 2

iagreebut wrote: »

They can't meet, we're in a lockdown and have to use an app or something.
It's sad but there's no other choice.
If they get caught going outside their 5k they're going to get in trouble and could be endangering each others lives and the lives of others and their vunerable friend's and loved ones.

This is a killer disease, there's no other way other than meeting virtually.
When restrictions are lifted and until they get vaccinated and both have a test to verify that they are negative there's no way they should meet up.

Maybe both wear a mask if they're meeting up, and stay 2 m apart, that's very important.

They'll have to self isolate for two weeks, then get another test just to be sure that they don't have Covid.
Meet up.
Then isolate for two weeks again, because who's to know that either has been in contact with you we're being told that we could be harming others unbeknownst to ourselves, then get another test before they go back into the community.

This is serious, we're in a pandemic.

Keep up the social distancing, it's the only way.

2/10. Abysmal trolling level.

Either that or you're a PBP voter. As hard leftists and teachers are the only people aged under 60 remotely afraid of Covid (or claim to be).

SusieBlue

Riodej1578 wrote: »

I would say most couples who are living apart are finding some way to meet. How do you keep a relationship going if you don't.

Every couple I know are still seeing each other, even if they are following every single other rule to a tee.

In fairness expecting couples to go 14 weeks without seeing each other (by the time April comes around) is completely unrealistic.
That’s almost a quarter of the year and it just isn’t sustainable, especially when you factor in the two lockdowns last year.

HansKroenke

When you realise that puritanism is being advocated for by the covid restrictions crowd, you have to wonder if your own support for restrictions is actually hysterical. Some of us realised this nearly a year ago but more are now realising that a lot of those saying "practice social distancing, even if that means no dating for a year or so", are totally unhinged weirdos.

iagreebut

SusieBlue wrote: »

Every couple I know are still seeing each other, even if they are following every single other rule to a tee.

In fairness expecting couples to go 14 weeks without seeing each other (by the time April comes around) is completely unrealistic.
That’s almost a quarter of the year and it just isn’t sustainable, especially when you factor in the two lockdowns last year.

Well they should adhere to the guidelines, don't travel further than 5k to meet wear a mask and keep their distance.

If they're going against the rules and guidelines and they really love each other and for the safety of their vunerable loved ones, they're not helping to flatten the curve.

Padre_Pio

iagreebut wrote: »

Well they should adhere to the guidelines, don't travel further than 5k to meet wear a mask and keep their distance.

If they're going against the rules and guidelines and they really love each other and for the safety of their vunerable loved ones, they're not helping to flatten the curve.

Meh, you have to live your life. COVID is just another thing to deal with and get past.
I wouldn't let something like this ruin a serious relationship and prevent me from spending time with the person I love.

iagreebut

iagreebut wrote: »

Well they should adhere to the guidelines, don't travel further than 5k to meet wear a mask and keep their distance.

If they're going against the rules and guidelines and they really love each other and for the safety of their vunerable loved ones, they're not helping to flatten the curve.

You have said it twice now so I shall ask, what 5km limit? There's only a 5km for exercise. It doesn't apply to any other activity. Meeting your partner is either deemed 'essential' or it's not, there's no distance limit until group exercise is allowed again and I dunno if bumping uglies, sweat or not, is considered exercise.

iagreebut

Niner leprauchan wrote: »

You have said it twice now so I shall ask, what 5km limit? There's only a 5km for exercise. It doesn't apply to any other activity. Meeting your partner is either deemed 'essential' or it's not, there's no distance limit until group exercise is allowed again and I dunno if bumping uglies, sweat or not, is considered exercise.

It's actually considered not essential meeting your partner.

You see that's the big issue here, it's not a good enough excuse to say you're meeting your partner.

That's how fcked up it's gone,if I drove from Kerry to Clare got stopped in Limerick and asked where am I off to ?

I'm visiting my girlfriend/boyfriend guard... that's non essential 100 Euro fine now turn around and go home.

So the 5k limit is for exercise, there has to be a loophole then .

BuCkoTroN

iagreebut wrote: »

Well they should adhere to the guidelines, don't travel further than 5k to meet wear a mask and keep their distance.

If they're going against the rules and guidelines and they really love each other and for the safety of their vunerable loved ones, they're not helping to flatten the curve.

Well that is easy to say for people who live with each or live within the 5k limit of their partner.

I got dumped last week as a result of these poxy restrictions.

My ex girlfriend lived in a different county and we were following the rules quite strictly, as we both have parents who fall in the vulnerable category we agreed not to chance it.

We tried our best to keep in touch, do online activities etc.

What wound up happening she grew distant and her feelings changed towards love as a friend.

It's great for people to say that if people really love each other they can weather this, it's not that straight forward as that sadly.

It's way too much to ask and I resent that people thinking that people meeting their partner is not essential.

newuser99999

iagreebut wrote: »

It's actually considered not essential meeting your partner.

You see that's the big issue here, it's not a good enough excuse to say you're meeting your partner.

That's how fcked up it's gone,if I drove from Kerry to Clare got stopped in Limerick and asked where am I off to ?

I'm visiting my girlfriend/boyfriend guard... that's non essential 100 Euro fine now turn around and go home.

So the 5k limit is for exercise, there has to be a loophole then .

Would you say the same thing if it was a parent going weeks without seeing their child because of these restrictions?

iagreebut

newuser99999 wrote: »

Would you say the same thing if it was a parent going weeks without seeing their child because of these restrictions?

I cannot go against the guidelines laid out by Nephet, I think they're doing what's best for us and we're being told it's for the greater good.
These people care about our culture and well being.

I think you can add your family members as part of your support bubble.

Riodej1578

iagreebut wrote: »

Well they should adhere to the guidelines, don't travel further than 5k to meet wear a mask and keep their distance.

If they're going against the rules and guidelines and they really love each other and for the safety of their vunerable loved ones, they're not helping to flatten the curve.

Poor trolling

iagreebut

Riodej1578 wrote: »

Poor trolling

How am I trolling,is it not against the charter to accuse someone of trooling ???

KrustyUCC

batman_oh wrote: »

Just had a look through the new 'plan' and it seems that inter county travel is not permitted until we hit level 2 - as opposed to Level 3 last summer (Dublin never made 2 as far as I know).
Seeing as they have level 5 until 5th April with very gradual easing after that, it's going to be a long time before that kicks in. Absolute shambles of a government.

Looks like its 6 months + of not seeing a partner in another county if the government had their way

Totally unrealistic

doublejobbing 2

iagreebut wrote: »

It's actually considered not essential meeting your partner.

You see that's the big issue here, it's not a good enough excuse to say you're meeting your partner.

That's how fcked up it's gone,if I drove from Kerry to Clare got stopped in Limerick and asked where am I off to ?

I'm visiting my girlfriend/boyfriend guard... that's non essential 100 Euro fine now turn around and go home.

So the 5k limit is for exercise, there has to be a loophole then .

Just in case anybody is taking this fella seriously, which you shouldn't be, you are all aware that you are legally allowed outside 5km if you have one other household as a "support bubble"?

Technically both you and this household are meant to both be people that live alone, but I don't see how a lack of affordable non shared housing is our problem, so work away.

iagreebut

doublejobbing 2 wrote: »

Just in case anybody is taking this fella seriously, which you shouldn't be, you are all aware that you are legally allowed outside 5km if you have one other household as a "support bubble"?

Technically both you and this household are meant to both be people that live alone, but I don't see how a lack of affordable non shared housing is our problem, so work away.

Have you to have proof of the bubble ?

That's interesting, because how are we able to prove our bubble ?
I can't see how people can prove their bubble or do you have to register your bubble.

As far as I was concerned they'll slap the fine on you if they feel like you're out of your 5k without a valid excuse.

Do you have to prove that you and they live alone ?

MrStuffins

doublejobbing 2 wrote: »

2/10. Abysmal trolling level.

Either that or you're a PBP voter. As hard leftists and teachers are the only people aged under 60 remotely afraid of Covid (or claim to be).

doublejobbing 2 wrote: »

Have things got so hopeless re something to do and somewhere to go women have just given up even giving "likes" and are just scrolling it hitting No out of boredom? Has the government broken the will of the people this badly?

2/10. Abysmal delusion level. This is some weird incel-like stuff right here.

Sounds like your "mate" is trying to blame the government for him having the charm of and looking like King Kong's ball*ck. Pretty weak!

"Did ya get the ride last night?"

- "Nah, I was very close but I got rejected! It's all the Government's fault."

iagreebut

iagreebut wrote: »

It's actually considered not essential meeting your partner.

You see that's the big issue here, it's not a good enough excuse to say you're meeting your partner.

That's how fcked up it's gone,if I drove from Kerry to Clare got stopped in Limerick and asked where am I off to ?

I'm visiting my girlfriend/boyfriend guard... that's non essential 100 Euro fine now turn around and go home.

So the 5k limit is for exercise, there has to be a loophole then .

I dunno what loophole you are talking about, I wasnt really serious about classing sex as exercise and I know its not essential.

I was asking you why you keep suggesting that meeting your partner is OK within 5km. A suggestion you seem to be keeping with even after acknowleding its incorrect

iagreebut wrote: »

As far as I was concerned they'll slap the fine on you if they feel like you're out of your 5k without a valid excuse

doublejobbing 2

doublejobbing 2 wrote: »

Just in case anybody is taking this fella seriously, which you shouldn't be, you are all aware that you are legally allowed outside 5km if you have one other household as a "support bubble"?

Technically both you and this household are meant to both be people that live alone, but I don't see how a lack of affordable non shared housing is our problem, so work away.

AGAIN, theres no 5km personal limit. If the travel is essential, its essential and theres no distance limit. You cannot just meet your friend at home for a chat even if its only 1km away unless its within a bubble.

The bubble by the way is a 'support' bubble. Its for assisting somone with their day to day lives. In your scenario, its not a valid bubble. Considering its on the honour system though, only a complete idiot would get caught

ShadyAcres

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iagreebut

Niner leprauchan wrote: »

AGAIN, theres no 5km personal limit. If the travel is essential, its essential and theres no distance limit. You cannot just meet your friend at home for a chat even if its only 1km away unless its within a bubble.

The bubble by the way is a 'support' bubble. Its for assisting somone with their day to day lives. In your scenario, its not a valid bubble. Considering its on the honour system though, only a complete idiot would get caught

I totally agree with your post, there's all kinds of mixed messages going on.

Some people are suggesting it's ok to meet your boyfriend or girlfriend if you're both over the 5k
But NPHET the HSE and the government are suggesting it's unsafe to do so.

A support bubble is not for getting intimate now and again and enjoying your partner's company.
I'm lead to believe that suggesting that this kind of behaviour is potentially harmful to the elderly and vunerable, we're all potentially spreaders and can be carrier's of the virus.

Unless we get tested, cocoon for two weeks,get tested again before we meet.
Then cocoon for two weeks, get tested again just to be sure .

Am I wrong ?

Padre_Pio

iagreebut wrote: »

I totally agree with your post, there's all kinds of mixed messages going on.

Some people are suggesting it's ok to meet your boyfriend or girlfriend if you're both over the 5k
But NPHET the HSE and the government are suggesting it's unsafe to do so.

A support bubble is not for getting intimate now and again and enjoying your partner's company.
I'm lead to believe that suggesting that this kind of behaviour is potentially harmful to the elderly and vunerable, we're all potentially spreaders and can be carrier's of the virus.

Unless we get tested, cocoon for two weeks,get tested again before we meet.
Then cocoon for two weeks, get tested again just to be sure .

Am I wrong ?

Technically no.

In Lvl5 you're not to meet anyone inside unless you're in a support bubble, and a bubble is meant for helping the elderly or infirm who usually can't look after themselves.

The part I put in bold is incorrect. These guidelines only apply to necessary travel. They don't exist for visiting, because you shouldn't be visiting.

You can meet one person outside for exercise within your 5k, following social distancing.

Buuut.. let's face it. We all have our own risk level.

I meet my gf every week, she comes over to mine and stays the weekend, then goes back to her own place. I'm not going without seeing her for months on end. I'll happily pay the fines.

Loafing Oaf

Padre_Pio wrote: »

I meet my gf every week, she comes over to mine and stays the weekend, then goes back to her own place. I'm not going without seeing her for months on end. I'll happily pay the fines.

I feel the actual Padre Pio would really flourish in this situation, if he could lay aside the pesky vow of celibacy.:P Wonder would the guards buy the 'bilocation' story though...

iagreebut

Padre_Pio wrote: »

Technically no.

In Lvl5 you're not to meet anyone inside unless you're in a support bubble, and a bubble is meant for helping the elderly or infirm who usually can't look after themselves.

The part I put in bold is incorrect. These guidelines only apply to necessary travel. They don't exist for visiting, because you shouldn't be visiting.

You can meet one person outside for exercise within your 5k, following social distancing.

Buuut.. let's face it. We all have our own risk level.

I meet my gf every week, she comes over to mine and stays the weekend, then goes back to her own place. I'm not going without seeing her for months on end. I'll happily pay the fines.

Well it's your own responsibility and decision I cannot judge your risk assessment because you're both grown adults.
I'm not here to judge anyone or anything.
I do feel envious in a way because I'm probably too strident with my decision to stay put and sit it out.

I respect your relationship and the fact you are looking after your relationship and I wish you both well etc

Sometimes I do feel like shooting the breeze but it's someone like me who'd get caught.

doublejobbing 2

MrStuffins wrote: »

2/10. Abysmal delusion level. This is some weird incel-like stuff right here.

Sounds like your "mate" is trying to blame the government for him having the charm of and looking like King Kong's ball*ck. Pretty weak!

"Did ya get the ride last night?"

- "Nah, I was very close but I got rejected! It's all the Government's fault."

Think I asked you before. You're a close the pubs enthusiast arent you.

It must be absolute hell to be you or anybody like you. Like, lockdown is ****e for everyone, but for those who like the rest of us being in it, it reminds the rest of us that for some people, this is, and always has been, and always will be, their life. I'd hate to be you.

Tokyo

Mod: @doublejobbing 2 - rein it in with the personal attacks.