approaching women

Loafing Oaf

Leg End Reject wrote: »

Panties.

Ugh

*vomits* No blue glow from behind my constricted pupils.

"Are your panties moist?"

Better?:P

Giraffe Box

Castlekeeper wrote: »

Well wherever he is, there's a pretty high standard of women, and bizarrely, the one that didn't interact was the least attractive one.

I think it's Drumshanbo.

Ubbquittious

Mr Feg don't over think it. Next time (after coronavirus) when you see a nice girlie in a shop go and talk. Go to the pub and chance your arm. Don't say anything too weird and u be grand. You will get the odd awkward moment and ones who will brush you off but don't mind them and move on

Leg End Reject

Loafing Oaf wrote: »

"Are your panties moist?"

Better?:P

They're not now! :pac:

Strumms

^^I think it would be helpful just to clarify.. ‘brush you off’ is not literal.

jaxxx

I'm allergic to women. Or maybe it'd be more accurate to say they're allergic to me since it's them being repelled and not I.. .. ..

kowloon

Cobalt17 wrote: »

Due to online dating, 18-25 year old men are limp-wristed and cowardly in terms of the “traditional” model of courtship.

I would say due to the internet they are very much not limp-wristed.

andekwarhola

It's fine to do if it's in a non-sleazy or annoying way and I've done it before - albeit years ago - but you have to accept the potentially negative variables involved - the woman might not find you attractive but would welcome somebody she did find attractive or she might be a bit freaked out by it - and respect that, get out of her space and not depart the situation fulminating about women generally/get over it.

Ubbquittious

Strumms wrote: »

^^I think it would be helpful just to clarify.. ‘brush you off’ is not literal.

Ha Ha

Conall Cernach

Only talk to women at bus stops if you have a trouser pocket full of change. Keep jiggling the change with your hand in your pocket while you talk to them as this will indicate to them that you not only have money but understand how Dublin Bus works. Panting and breathing heavily while talking to them will also demonstrate that you have good lung capacity and are in peak fitness and therefore a desirable mate. Irish women also have a keen interest in plumbing so if you tell them repeatedly that you have a massive Wavin pipe they will be impressed.

anewme

Some very low quality "men" on this thread.

Thankfully, not the norm.

anewme

anewme wrote: »

Some very low quality "men" on this thread.

Thankfully, not the norm.

More like a gang of 16 year old's. Still, it would explain why birth rates are falling in western nations if this is the standard...

Castlekeeper

Castlekeeper wrote: »

bizarrely, the one that didn't interact was the least attractive one.

What's bizzare about 'the least attractive one' not interacting?

Leg End Reject

[Deleted User] wrote: »

What's bizzare about 'the least attractive one' not interacting?

I'm guessing she should have been grateful that this stud acknowledged her.

This thread is hilarious, the serious answers are like a what not to do guide. The non-serious responses are funny. Let's just hope most can spot the difference.

Better Than Christ

mr_fegelien wrote: »

Told her she was pretty and she seemed to have received the compliment well contrary to what I hear from feminists online.

Assuming this happened, which it didn't, I wonder how good you are at reading people. What was it about her reaction that makes you believe she received the compliment well, as opposed to being a bit creeped out by the whole thing?

mr_fegelien

Better Than Christ wrote: »

Assuming this happened, which it didn't, I wonder how good you are at reading people. What was it about her reaction that makes you believe she received the compliment well, as opposed to being a bit creeped out by the whole thing?

She gave a "genuine" happy smile as opposed to a forced "polite" smile that women give when they're trying to be nice but feel uncomfortable



vs

anewme

Conall Cernach wrote: »

Only talk to women at bus stops if you have a trouser pocket full of change. Keep jiggling the change with your hand in your pocket while you talk to them as this will indicate to them that you not only have money but understand how Dublin Bus works.

This is brilliant!:D

Sorry about that

mr_fegelien wrote: »

She gave a "genuine" happy smile as opposed to a forced "polite" smile that women give when they're trying to be nice but feel uncomfortable



vs

Very Emmety post there.

Anyway, you'll have no problem with the ladies, just be yourselves.

pgj2015

mr_fegelien wrote: »

She gave a "genuine" happy smile as opposed to a forced "polite" smile that women give when they're trying to be nice but feel uncomfortable



vs

both of those are fake smiles.

Mister Vain

NSAman wrote: »

That only works if you are Chinese.

If you are Irish it could be seen as very culturally inappropriate!

It actually works very well with the Polish too, especially if you can say it in their language - "Yestesh piekna." It would be way too forward to say to an Irish girl.

Church on Tuesday

Thread has taken a very odd slightly disturbing turn.

ILoveYourVibes

Andrew00 wrote: »

If ur ugly and compliment a girl you'll get done for harassment or they'll call you a creep

If you are a creep you are a creep.

JuneMoon7

Deleted User wrote: »

More like a gang of 16 year old's. Still, it would explain why birth rates are falling in western nations if this is the standard...

I was just going to say..no wonder im single. I think im better off.

ILoveYourVibes

Deleted User wrote: »

More like a gang of 16 year old's. Still, it would explain why birth rates are falling in western nations if this is the standard...

I need higher my standards honestly!

I've actually just realized most of my friends are women. I know hardly any men.

posturingpat

Apologies if it's been mentioned already but I think it was a Gillette ad (the one about stopping toxic masculinity) . Seemed to show a man on the street going to approach a girl only for his friend to step in and stop him.
****e like that surely has young men fearing what will be made of them if they do approach a woman.
Sad way for the world to be.

ILoveYourVibes

I think if you are prepared to be her friend if she doesn't want a date then you can approach. If you are just going to dismiss her because she has a bf or doesn't want to date you. Then ..hmm..

Feisar

mr_fegelien wrote: »

Is it taboo to approach outside the setting of a pub where everyones plastered? Before this pandemic, I approached a woman my age in her 20s at the bus stop and had a good aul chat. Told her she was pretty and she seemed to have received the compliment well contrary to what I hear from feminists online.

But I've heard cold approaches are really not suitable for the culture of Ireland and would be found more in the US/South America/Australia etc...

This is your problem. Woman, as in singular. It's a numbers game and you gotta pump those numbers up, those are rookie numbers in this racket.

Leg End Reject

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

I think if you are prepared to be her friend if she doesn't want a date then you can approach. If you are just going to dismiss her because she has a bf or doesn't want to date you. Then ..hmm..

That's not true, if I fancy a man I don't want the consolation prize of friendship.

No one approaches strangers to add to their friends lists, friendships tend to develop organically.

Central Services

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

I think if you are prepared to be her friend if she doesn't want a date then you can approach. If you are just going to dismiss her because she has a bf or doesn't want to date you. Then ..hmm..

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sQDggdQ-eUo

ILoveYourVibes

Leg End Reject wrote: »

No one approaches strangers to add to their friends lists, friendships tend to develop organically.

I do!

ILoveYourVibes

Central Services wrote: »

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sQDggdQ-eUo

I didn't watch the video...i couldn't be bothered but ..cool!:)

posturingpat

posturingpat wrote: »

Apologies if it's been mentioned already but I think it was a Gillette ad (the one about stopping toxic masculinity) . Seemed to show a man on the street going to approach a girl only for his friend to step in and stop him.
****e like that surely has young men fearing what will be made of them if they do approach a woman.
Sad way for the world to be.

Sad. Utterly heartbreaking. You poor men. How can you be expected to live your lives without making unwanted advances on women in the street who are just trying to get on with their lives.

"men fearing what will be made of them if they do approach a woman". Any thought for the women who might be just a tad fearful of men twice their size, coming up to them at bus stops, or as in that ad, innocently walking down the street. To leer at the them and tell them they're pretty. Like our self esteem is based solely on some total strangers opinion of us. And then of course we have to smile and appear to 'receive the compliment well' so he doesn't turn on us.

ILoveYourVibes

Some of us are going to be lucky in life and love ..and some of us are not. It is what it is.

Moshman

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

Some of us are going to be lucky in life and love ..and some of us are not. It is what it is.

Which one are you?

ILoveYourVibes

Moshman wrote: »

Which one are you?

I don't think I will fall in love again.

In life a so so er.

posturingpat

Deleted User wrote: »

Sad. Utterly heartbreaking. You poor men. How can you be expected to live your lives without making unwanted advances on women in the street who are just trying to get on with their lives.

"men fearing what will be made of them if they do approach a woman". Any thought for the women who might be just a tad fearful of men twice their size, coming up to them at bus stops, or as in that ad, innocently walking down the street. To leer at the them and tell them they're pretty. Like our self esteem is based solely on some total strangers opinion of us. And then of course we have to smile and appear to 'receive the compliment well' so he doesn't turn on us.

So how do we go about the whole reproduction thing? Is there going to be designated places and times men are allowed approach women?

Ultrflat

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

Some of us are going to be lucky in life and love ..and some of us are not. It is what it is.

Never heard anyone self made say that. In fact most successful people have been disgustingly unlucky. Its not up to fate or luck. Its about the work you put in, you are rewarded by. Some people don't have to put the work in, but when **** hits the fan. There backs are against the wall they crumble. Those of us who fight back after every failure form a nimble agility to step over it like nothing more then a pot hole.

You learn more from failure.

posturingpat

posturingpat wrote: »

So how do we go about the whole reproduction thing? Is there going to be designated places and times men are allowed approach women?

There are loads of ways to meet someone. People meet through work, hobbies, sports etc all the time. Get to know each other, like each other, go from there.

There's dating websites and apps and even real life match matching services if that's your thing.

And there's places that have been normalised as meeting spots like bars and clubs. I think most reasonable people expect that there will be people approaching others in those sorts of places. That doesn't mean you have to go there for that purpose or be open to it but it's a far more reasonable place than the street, the bus stop, the wine aisle in Tesco.

It would be the icing on the cake of course if everyone in those bars were respectful of each other and made their intentions clear in a polite way without uninvited touching or anything like that and then accepted a 'no thanks' as suggested by another posted (since deleted). Unfortunately in my experience, and the experience of many women I know, this is often not the case and a polite no thanks from me has been met with anything from verbal to physical abuse. But at least in club/pub you have people around and bouncers. On a quiet street or a bustop or some other random place you can feel a lot more vulnerable and find yourself smiling to avoid those reactions.

And before anyone says it, yes I know men can be victim of unwanted advances too and can met with a nasty reaction if they turn those advances down and that's horrible but I think on the whole, men have less to fear from a woman crossing the street to walk beside them, telling them they're handsome.

ILoveYourVibes

Reddit Nazi wrote: »

Have you considered not living in the gettho?

You gonna pay for that?

Mister Vain

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

Does it's powers weaken at night? :pac:

There's probably a separate video for the night game. I wonder is there another video for bus stops.

ILoveYourVibes

Mister Vain wrote: »

There's probably a separate video for the night game. I wonder is there another video for bus stops.

or brunch :pac:

Dudes to secret to unlock it all ..PRETEND YOU ARE RICH AND LIVE NEXT DOOR TO BONO!:pac:

kowloon

posturingpat wrote: »

So how do we go about the whole reproduction thing? Is there going to be designated places and times men are allowed approach women?

How have you managed to escape this information for so long? No closer than two metres at any time. And wash your hands.

Moshman

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

I don't think I will fall in love again.

In life a so so er.

Hope you're a 98yo spinster, or I hope you're wrong....

Loafing Oaf

Leg End Reject wrote: »

That's not true, if I fancy a man I don't want the consolation prize of friendship.

Not even with benefits?:P

Charles Babbage

Public transport

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DFPu83ggTlM

Leg End Reject

Loafing Oaf wrote: »

Not even with benefits?:P

No, feelings would eventually get in the way. Casual sex isn't for me at all.

harry Bailey esq

JuneMoon7 wrote: »

Dont approach women waiting on a bus. That is bordering on confrontational and frankly, most women would find that threatening and creepy.

There was a thread on the go a good few years back and the gist of it was that the op was trying to initiate a conversation with some girl on the bus. She was staring out the window basically pretending not to notice, he was determined though so she took the extra measure of putting earphones in. The lovestruck op was relentless in his attempts to woo the fair maiden however and wasn't fazed by her polite rejections. He then upped his game and YANKED the f*ckin things out of her head, got up in her face and goes 'Hi I'm *John I saw you when I got on the bus and couldn't help but notice youve got beautiful/gorgeous/amazing.. eyes/arse/tits. At this point yer one, presumably terrified told him in no uncertain terms to **** off. Well the op was seemingly very upset by this and took to After Hours to let off steam resulting in one of the funniest threads I've ever read.

corks finest

harry Bailey esq wrote: »

There was a thread on the go a good few years back and the gist of it was that the op was trying to initiate a conversation with some girl on the bus. She was staring out the window basically pretending not to notice, he was determined though so she took the extra measure of putting earphones in. The lovestruck op was relentless in his attempts to woo the fair maiden however and wasn't fazed by her polite rejections. He then upped his game and YANKED the f*ckin things out of her head, got up in her face and goes 'Hi I'm *John I saw you when I got on the bus and couldn't help but notice youve got beautiful/gorgeous/amazing.. eyes/arse/tits. At this point yer one, presumably terrified told him in no uncertain terms to **** off. Well the op was seemingly very upset by this and took to After Hours to let off steam resulting in one of the funniest threads I've ever read.

He should move to Carrigaline,as the monsters,and they are the biggest" Wans" I've ever come across , would be delighted at a bit of attention

harry Bailey esq

corks finest wrote: »

He should move to Carrigaline,as the monsters,and they are the biggest" Wans" I've ever come across , would be delighted at a bit of attention

Duly noted
I'm fairly familiar with Carrigaline meself. Never noticed that lol. If anything the only attention I got was due to my accent, t'wasnt positive attention either. Attention is attention though I suppose...

JuneMoon7

harry Bailey esq wrote: »

There was a thread on the go a good few years back and the gist of it was that the op was trying to initiate a conversation with some girl on the bus. She was staring out the window basically pretending not to notice, he was determined though so she took the extra measure of putting earphones in. The lovestruck op was relentless in his attempts to woo the fair maiden however and wasn't fazed by her polite rejections. He then upped his game and YANKED the f*ckin things out of her head, got up in her face and goes 'Hi I'm *John I saw you when I got on the bus and couldn't help but notice youve got beautiful/gorgeous/amazing.. eyes/arse/tits. At this point yer one, presumably terrified told him in no uncertain terms to **** off. Well the op was seemingly very upset by this and took to After Hours to let off steam resulting in one of the funniest threads I've ever read.

He was either joking, or is currently in jail.