Height requirements in dating

mr_fegelien

Why are people so strict on them? I'm a 5ft 5in man and a woman on Tinder told me I was cute but too short. Said most of her friends feel the same way.

She's definitely not alone as this is a sentiment shared by many women. In fact there was a study that showed the height of a partner is more important for women than men.

What are short men supposed to do?

Purple Mountain

If your penis really is that size, send me a PM urgently.

mr_fegelien

mr_fegelien wrote: »

What are short men supposed to do?

Wear lifts like Tom Cruise or resurrect the Napoleonic wars.

Redneck Reject1971

mr_fegelien wrote: »

Why are people so strict on them? I'm a 5ft 5in man and a woman on Tinder told me I was cute but too short. Said most of her friends feel the same way.

She's definitely not alone as this is a sentiment shared by many women. In fact there was a study that showed the height of a partner is more important for women than men.

What are short men supposed to do?

Go on a midget dating site?heh.

u140acro3xs7dm

I'd say you'd get on well if you said she was too heavy for you.

Just put 'No fat chicks' as your tagline thing..

KiKi III

mr_fegelien wrote: »

Why are people so strict on them? I'm a 5ft 5in man and a woman on Tinder told me I was cute but too short. Said most of her friends feel the same way.

She's definitely not alone as this is a sentiment shared by many women. In fact there was a study that showed the height of a partner is more important for women than men.

What are short men supposed to do?

Date girls who are 5”4 or don’t care.

SusieBlue

It’s just a personal preference, that’s all.
Height (for men) and weight (for women) are two areas that just seem to be an extra sensitive issue when it comes to other people not wanting to pursue things with them.

corner of hells

Dont overthink it Fegs , a friend of mine is 5 foot 4 , married a lovely girl whos 5foot 9in the States years ago.
He lives in a real Hill Billy area in the States and says he fits in perfect.
In saying that , she was a stripper in the bar he drank in.

Deleted User

Deleted User wrote: »

...or resurrect the Napoleonic wars.

Napoleon was not short - fake news.

OP, you can change lots about yourself, your hair colour, your intellect (read more), your weight, build, but height is a tough one, and you're not going to change womankind's preference anytime soon... so, bar a pretty horrific operation (I think they do it in China) to add height, you need to adapt. And that may mean dating girls smaller than you. Or win the lotto. Them's your choices.

mr_fegelien

Deleted User wrote: »

Wear lifts like Tom Cruise or resurrect the Napoleonic wars.

Tom Cruise has extraordinary wealth and fame that overpowers any unattractive features he may have including his lack of height.

He's also good looking

mr_fegelien

SusieBlue wrote: »

It’s just a personal preference, that’s all.
Height (for men) and weight (for women) are two areas that just seem to be an extra sensitive issue when it comes to other people not wanting to pursue things with them.

The thing is women in most cases can lose weight..Men can't gain height short of extreme leg-lengthening surgeries.

banie01

Purple Mountain wrote: »

If your penis really is that size, send me a PM urgently.

So...
Size
Does
Matter???


I KNEW it!!!!

kowloon

Purple Mountain wrote: »

If your penis really is that size, send me a PM urgently.

banie01

banie01 wrote: »

So...
Size
Does
Matter???


I KNEW it!!!!

You always KNEW it, you were just in denial

Lyan

Women don't date men shorter then them unless you are Danny Devito.

banie01

[Deleted User] wrote: »

You always KNEW it, you were just in denial

No...
I was in your mom :P

banie01

banie01 wrote: »

No...
I was in your mom :P

Ah, so you have experimented with heterosexual sex :pac:

kowloon

I knew a guy who was quite short but had the gift of the gab and some sort of magical quality that attracted women to him, so I wouldn't get too hung up on height. You can't change your height anymore than I can change my past so you may as well forget it and move on.

Redneck Reject1971

Look if they are more focused on your physical appearance and not on your intelligence.They are not worth the effort,so don't sell yourself short.There are people out there for you,so don't rush it.

Lyan

Being serious though, such preference is biologically encoded. Dating shorter men hasn't exactly been advantageous in the Darwinian world it seems.

Wabbit Ears

hmmm, a short man being overly angry about the fact he's short....

Are short men the male 'Karen'?

banie01

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Ah, so you have experimented with heterosexual sex :pac:

I'd like to say yes...
I checked with the wife and she said what I do is definitely experimental, but barely sex!

Still...

At least I'm tall, I have that at least.

Better Than Christ

Lyan wrote: »

Women don't date men shorter then them unless you are Danny Devito.

And who can blame them?

Rodney Bathgate

Better Than Christ wrote: »

And who can blame them?

Is he auditioning to play Gollum there?

Marcusm

Lyan wrote: »

Women don't date men shorter then them unless you are Danny Devito.

If Rhea Pearlman was taller then there could not have been more than a few inches in it.

Bernie Ecclestone is the gold standard for short man with tall women (the money helped, no doubt).

saabsaab

Being too tall isn't great either. Seats don't fit, legroom issues on pubic transport etc. Back problems.

Rodney Bathgate

Marcusm wrote: »

Bernie Ecclestone is the gold standard for short man with tall women (the money helped, no doubt).

Certainly didn’t hurt.

chrissb8

I'm 5, 7' foot. It's not an issue once you accept ok there are women out there who like height. That's cool, there are also women who don't even care about height.

Just like there are men who don't like tall women or prefer a certain body type. It's only people making excuses for themselves as to why they can't succeed romantically when they talk about height.

It's only a bit of rejection, someone said no, whoopdi di, move on with your day and move onto someone else who you fancy. Maybe don't tar women with one brush with generalising sayings like "they only like height" or my favourite ", if you have a job with a six figure salary, tall, good looking then a woman, will pay attention to you" It's all reductive and points to a pathetic victim mentality.

You'd swear the lovely mothers these people have weren't young and single at one point and got with a shorty themselves to give birth to their short a***!

Honestly though if you're even half decent looking and connect on an emotive and intellectual level you're golden. Most, from my limited experience, women mostly want a kind, nice man who they can feel good and comfortable around.

kowloon

Redneck Reject1971 wrote: »

Look if they are more focused on your physical appearance and not on your intelligence.They are not worth the effort,so don't sell yourself short.There are people out there for you,so don't rush it.

You have to pass the visual test first, intelligence is pretty irrelevant until you pass that, at least for situations where you aren't forced by circumstance to get to know each other.

chrissb8

chrissb8 wrote: »

It's only a bit of rejection, someone said no, whoopdi di, move on with your day and move onto someone else who you fancy.

Unless they are literally the next person next to the person that shot you down.

Although, it takes some balls to do that though, and I can guarantee you that type of person has had more sexual partners than most.

kowloon

Deleted User wrote: »

Unless they are literally the next person next to the person that shot you down.

Although, it takes some balls to do that though, and I can guarantee you that type of person has had more sexual partners than most.

Would that be the sling enough mud strategy?

kowloon

kowloon wrote: »

Would that be the sling enough mud strategy?

That's the keep going until you meet someone equally desperate, almost certain not to fail, helps if you've no shame, strategy!

Wabbit Ears

Agent Girthplumb wrote: »

On what basis is the OP angry? He actually seems quite sanguine on the matter.

I think most women probably would prefer to date the tiny OP than someone who uses words like sanguine.

Warbeastrior

Don't be discouraged OP. It's personal preference which is perfectly fine for everyone to have.
I do find that a lot of women seem to take joy in telling a guy that he's too small or making fun of smaller guys.

Figel Narage

I'm a tall guy but I feel for guys who are short. It's such a disgusting bullying behavior by anyone to look down on someone for their height, it's accepted for some reason and some guys are very hung up on it and rightfully so, the amount of women who only like tall guys is much higher then those who exclusively like short guys. Men may feel the same way about weight for women but not only do we not care as long as you are not morbidly obese, but you can stop being fat if you really want. You can't stop being short. I know this is a bit of a joke thread but it annoys me how short people are derided and it's accepted

Wabbit Ears

Wabbit Ears wrote: »

I think most women probably would prefer to date the tiny OP than someone who uses words like sanguine.

Needs a poll.

Charlie19

Tall enough to go on a rollercoaster will do me.

saabsaab

Wabbit Ears wrote: »

I think most women probably would prefer to date the tiny OP than someone who uses words like sanguine.

Sanguine, a perfectly good word.

saabsaab

saabsaab wrote: »

Sanguine, a perfectly good word.

Agreed, it's perfectly cromulent.

saabsaab

Figel Narage wrote: »

I'm a tall guy but I feel for guys who are short. It's such a disgusting bullying behavior by anyone to look down on someone for their height, it's accepted for some reason and some guys are very hung up on it and rightfully so, the amount of women who only like tall guys is much higher then those who exclusively like short guys. Men may feel the same way about weight for women but not only do we not care as long as you are not morbidly obese, but you can stop being fat if you really want. You can't stop being short. I know this is a bit of a joke thread but it annoys me how short people are derided and it's accepted

Knew a fella who was rejected for being too short. He was 6ft!

Fred Cryton

Big problem is women have way too much choice these days with online dating. There's the fear of missing out on something better if they settle.

No wonder the birth rate has fallen though the floor...it's going to be an absolute miracle if this generation manages to replace itself (actually, it's a certainty they won't).

There will be a big cohort of women who never settle, just perpetual dates...maybe pumping out one child aged 37 out of wedlock.

Figel Narage

saabsaab wrote: »

Knew a fella who was rejected for being too short. He was 6ft!

Christ almighty. 6 Foot is not short by anyone's standards, I'm sorry to go down this route but the discrepancies in standards between men and women are shocking.

Fred Cryton

Fred Cryton wrote: »

..it's going to be an absolute miracle if this generation manages to replace itself (actually, it's a certainty they won't).

This generation will have no problem replacing itself... it just wont be western.

Figel Narage

[Deleted User] wrote: »

This generation will have no problem replacing itself... it just wont be western.

Uh oh it's gonna pop off now haha

stateofflux

If i had a euro for the amount of times i've seen charismatic, funny & confident shorter guys with taller women id be rich.. on the flip side i've seen plenty of awkward, good looking and insecure tall guys....alone

The cliche specified requirements on dating sites do not always manifest in reality.

Figel Narage

Figel Narage wrote: »

Uh oh it's gonna pop off now haha

Yeah - apologies. It shouldn't go down that route.

mr_fegelien

Fred Cryton wrote: »

Big problem is women have way too much choice these days with online dating. There's the fear of missing out on something better if they settle.

No wonder the birth rate has fallen though the floor...it's going to be an absolute miracle if this generation manages to replace itself (actually, it's a certainty they won't).

There will be a big cohort of women who never settle, just perpetual dates...maybe pumping out one child aged 37 out of wedlock.

It's the liberation of women that's given them choice. Dating used to be better for men in the past (though evolutionary biologists will tell you that up to 30-40% of men never mated throughout history) because people got into relationships for practicality. Women depended on men more for a livelihood and thus even a short, unmasculine men could still woo a girl with a good job and desire to raise kids.

Now the dynamics have completely shifted. Women can get their own jobs and no longer rely on men so men are struggling to attract because their main asset in the past is no longer an asset. And even if it is for some women, it takes until a man is in his 30s to be settled compared to women's assets, beauty which develops when they become teens.

Figel Narage

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Yeah - apologies. It shouldn't go down that route.

Oh no don't apologize it doesn't bother me, I don't have the stats off hand but you are more than likely correct

kowloon

Figel Narage wrote: »

I'm a tall guy but I feel for guys who are short. It's such a disgusting bullying behavior by anyone to look down on someone for their height,

:pac:

Capt'n Midnight

Deleted User wrote: »

Agreed, it's perfectly cromulent.

I also offer my most enthusiastic contrafibularities