Height requirements in dating

billyhead

Antares35 wrote: »

I've a friend like that who lives vicariously through Instagram. I spend less and less time with her as we get older tbh. She's obsessed with who is following who and all that shíte. Any time we are out she has to get a pic of "the gals" having an amazing time so that her ex will see on Instagram that she's having an amazing time. It makes me weary. I just couldn't live like that.

On the topic of dating, she's absolutely brutal in her harshness towards guys. It's fine to have standards for yourself but she will just find random flaws with otherwise perfect and really nice guys, and be like "nope, next". She won't even take the time to have a chat. We were out with her one evening and she was due to meet someone she met online and as the poor guy approached the table she just turned to me and said "no, don't like him".

Then she complains about still being single. She often has a dig at me, saying I'm lucky to have my OH and he's so wonderful etc. He is, but I feel like saying to her "he's the kind of guy you wouldn't give a second date to because you'd say he was too nice or too friendly and might be weird" or whatever.

She probably looks like the back of a bus aswell.

FintanMcluskey

Galwayguy35 wrote: »

Are you living in Holland?

5'11 is a decent height.

Average height in Holland is 6 ft I think.

5’11 over there is equivalent to 5”8ish in Ireland

JeffreyEpspeen

billyhead wrote: »

She probably looks like the back of a bus aswell.

Irish women are very judgemental. In my experience, women from other countries are a lot softer and kinder; pleasant basically. I wonder if it's an insecurity thing, because they're generally (not all) overweight compared to women from other countries, don't dress as nice and aren't as conventionally attractive.


Sometimes I watch the Irish version of First Dates and they're notorious for leading a person on to give them an ego boost as well. If there's a lad who isn't conventionally attractive on it, you can see the air of superiority in their body language even though their looks are pretty much on par.


I found so many of them to be intimidating to approach on nights out in my younger days, body language aggressive bordering on irrational [and I noticed it towards lads I'd casually be speaking to in say the smoking area who would be speaking pleasantly! to them]. It's nigh on impossible to speak to one of them without having to be judged by their friends at the same time; something that doesn't happen at all when you reverse sexes.


I'm going on a bit of a tangent here, but basically, be nicer to people and don't be so catty and childish. Is it that hard?

Antares35

billyhead wrote: »

She probably looks like the back of a bus aswell.

No she's actually very attractive and takes very good care of herself, but as I mentioned before and it applies to men and women, looks will only get you so far in my opinion. Doesn't matter how much you can dazzle someone at first instance, if you're shallow or an ásshole people will figure that out quickly enough.

Antares35

JeffreyEpspeen wrote: »

Irish women are very judgemental. In my experience, women from other countries are a lot softer and kinder; pleasant basically. I wonder if it's an insecurity thing, because they're generally (not all) overweight compared to women from other countries, don't dress as nice and aren't as conventionally attractive.


Sometimes I watch the Irish version of First Dates and they're notorious for leading a person on to give them an ego boost as well. If there's a lad who isn't conventionally attractive on it, you can see the air of superiority in their body language even though their looks are pretty much on par.


I found so many of them to be intimidating to approach on nights out in my younger days, body language aggressive bordering on irrational [and I noticed it towards lads I'd casually be speaking to in say the smoking area who would be speaking pleasantly! to them]. It's nigh on impossible to speak to one of them without having to be judged by their friends at the same time; something that doesn't happen at all when you reverse sexes.


I'm going on a bit of a tangent here, but basically, be nicer to people and don't be so catty and childish. Is it that hard?

I've never been one of those women who travels in a flock. Thankfully my mix of friends is fairly gender balanced. But yeah you see it a lot with women I think into their late twenties anyway. You know the ones - all pretty much look the same, blonde extensions, faces contoured so that you no longer actually know what they look like! I know a guy who refuses to date Irish women because he thinks they are boring and thinks " foreign women are more interesting" - it's a bit of a generalisation to be fair. I'm sure there are boring and interesting people from all parts. Being foreign in itself does not make one interesting.

Anyway it's clearly working for him, he hasn't had a date with anyone for seven years, and he won't date online because it's "beneath him".

Antares35

Antares35 wrote: »

Anyway it's clearly working for him, he hasn't had a date with anyone for seven years, and he won't date online because it's "beneath him".

Is it Aongus Von Bismarck?

Church on Tuesday

Wow.

Sephiroth_dude

99nsr125 if you want to continue posting in this thread I would advise you improve you standard of posts, one and only warning.

Pherekydes

lavinia hathaway wrote: »

I am, but I may be too tall:D

No such thing!

It looks like Lavinia may have a bit more joy on Boards.

ShooterSF

Short arse here. OP if I could suggest anything, move abroad for a bit. I swear the accent in a foreign country is like a pair of stilts.

fin12

JeffreyEpspeen wrote: »

Irish women are very judgemental. In my experience, women from other countries are a lot softer and kinder; pleasant basically. I wonder if it's an insecurity thing, because they're generally (not all) overweight compared to women from other countries, don't dress as nice and aren't as conventionally attractive.


Sometimes I watch the Irish version of First Dates and they're notorious for leading a person on to give them an ego boost as well. If there's a lad who isn't conventionally attractive on it, you can see the air of superiority in their body language even though their looks are pretty much on par.


I found so many of them to be intimidating to approach on nights out in my younger days, body language aggressive bordering on irrational [and I noticed it towards lads I'd casually be speaking to in say the smoking area who would be speaking pleasantly! to them]. It's nigh on impossible to speak to one of them without having to be judged by their friends at the same time; something that doesn't happen at all when you reverse sexes.


I'm going on a bit of a tangent here, but basically, be nicer to people and don't be so catty and childish. Is it that hard?

Irish men can be pretty judgmental aswell and the ghosting from them is off the scale.

Rodin

Certainly would never date a woman taller than me.

fin12

Question for Irish guys here, how often would u text someone ur dating? Every day, second, third?

jmlad2020

fin12 wrote: »

Question for Irish guys here, how often would u text someone ur dating? Every day, second, third?

Every couple of days if I was keen on a girl and potentially everyday if there is something to specifically to speak about. Short messages. None of this talk all day crap, I am too busy for that ****e.

um7y1h83ge06nx

cannotlogin wrote: »

Needs an intelligent man to help her with her spelling!

I hope for her high requirements she would at least put in a bit of effort in bed and not lay there like a mouldy sack of spuds. Expectations run in both directions.

Xtrail14

A star fish I’d say.

JeffreyEpspeen

Rodin wrote: »

Certainly would never date a woman taller than me.

I can only recall seeing one woman who was taller than me - a female security guard in a shopping centre somewhere near Dublin.

um7y1h83ge06nx

Midget porn is a thing so I guess for some height is important.

cannotlogin

cannotlogin wrote: »

Needs an intelligent man to help her with her spelling!

She's definitely a solid 'swipe left'.

Sounds like an awful dose.

JeffreyEpspeen

Xtrail14 wrote: »

A star fish I’d say.

Chocolate starfish and the hotdog flavoured water. Keep on rollin' baby. You know what time it is.

jmlad2020

[Deleted User] wrote: »

She's definitely a solid 'swipe left'.

Sounds like an awful dose.

Or go on a date with her, give it a try but walk out on her midway with no word spoken. Just aim for the doors. I've done this to a similar dose. Feels good.

DEFTLEFTHAND

It was never an issue for me as I was 6ft 1 by late teens.

My partner is 5ft 9, which is tall for a woman.

The thought of a girl being 6ft plus is extremely unattractive to me.

Ultrflat

I had to slightly rework your post

I know a guy who refuses to date Irish women because he thinks they are boring and thinks " foreign women are more interesting" - it's a bit of a generalisation to be fair. I'm sure there are boring and interesting people from all parts. Being foreign in itself does not make one interesting.

Anyway it's clearly working for him, he hasn't had a date with anyone for seven years, and he won't date online because it's "beneath him".

When the below is on offer.

Antares35 wrote: »

But yeah you see it a lot with women I think into their late twenties anyway. You know the ones - all pretty much look the same, blonde extensions, faces contoured so that you no longer actually know what they look like!

What are men supposed to do?
It just sounds like a horrific experience to be around someone like that.

Antares35

Ultrflat wrote: »

I had to slightly rework your post


When the below is on offer.


What are men supposed to do?
It just sounds like a horrific experience to be around someone like that.

Well, it isn't all Irish women to be fair. Writing off an entire nationality isn't going to help him either. What if he meets a really nice woman who isn't part of the contour brigade and writes her off simply because she's Irish? I mean, he's free to pick and choose as he wishes that's his prerogative, but it isn't working for him.

Antares35

Why is it ok for men to say they don't want to date tall women, but when women say they don't want to date short men suddenly they are sizeist and shallow?

Xtrail14

Ride away, ye are all the same height in bed. What’s all the girl talk about.

Galwayguy35

Antares35 wrote: »

Why is it ok for men to say they don't want to date tall women, but when women say they don't want to date short men suddenly they are sizeist and shallow?

Its ok to have preferences, no point being with someone just for the sake of it.

I think what ticks people off is when someone is rude to another person about something they can't do anything about and both sexes can be guilty of that.

I'm not short but I'm bald and met someone for a date a few years ago and the first thing she said was she didn't like bald men despite the fact I had a recent pic up on my profile and had 'bald' in the bit of the profile about hair type.

I've been on dates where I wasn't feeling it but was still polite to the other person and would never just jump up and leave straight away.

Thankfully people like the above are in the minority.

nj27

I'm 6'5 and I have to admit that it does come with a couple of advantages dating wise, for instance and number of chicks have said they'd go out with me if I promised not to destroy their village. I often return after the date and do indeed plunder their village and dash the elders upon the rocks.

Antares35

Galwayguy35 wrote: »

Its ok to have preferences, no point being with someone just for the sake of it.

I think what ticks people off is when someone is rude to another person about something they can't do anything about and both sexes can be guilty of that.

I'm not short but I'm bald and met someone for a date a few years ago and the first thing she said was she didn't like bald men despite the fact I had a recent pic up on my profile and had 'bald' in the bit of the profile about hair type.

I've been on dates where I wasn't feeling it but was still polite to the other person and would never just jump up and leave straight away.

Thankfully people like the above are in the minority.

That's just really rude to say something like that to someone's face on a date.

Galwayguy35

Antares35 wrote: »

That's just really rude to say something like that to someone's face on a date.

Yeah I was a bit taken aback when she came out with it especially when I wasn't hiding the fact I was bald but as I said most people are sound.

lavinia hathaway

Galwayguy35 wrote: »

Its ok to have preferences, no point being with someone just for the sake of it.

I think what ticks people off is when someone is rude to another person about something they can't do anything about and both sexes can be guilty of that.

I'm not short but I'm bald and met someone for a date a few years ago and the first thing she said was she didn't like bald men despite the fact I had a recent pic up on my profile and had 'bald' in the bit of the profile about hair type.

I've been on dates where I wasn't feeling it but was still polite to the other person and would never just jump up and leave straight away.

Exactly this! Why be so pass remarkable about something that doesn't appeal to you? It just shows a total lack of respect from the beginning as well as poor conversation skills. Manners cost nothing after all, but they are sadly lacking these days in some people.

Rodin

cannotlogin wrote: »

Needs an intelligent man to help her with her spelling!

Anyone who mentions a 'star sign' is immediately a no-no.

Mad_maxx

Galwayguy35 wrote: »

Its ok to have preferences, no point being with someone just for the sake of it.

I think what ticks people off is when someone is rude to another person about something they can't do anything about and both sexes can be guilty of that.

I'm not short but I'm bald and met someone for a date a few years ago and the first thing she said was she didn't like bald men despite the fact I had a recent pic up on my profile and had 'bald' in the bit of the profile about hair type.

I've been on dates where I wasn't feeling it but was still polite to the other person and would never just jump up and leave straight away.

Thankfully people like the above are in the minority.

you should have replied that you dont like women who cant read ( hairstyle was in your profile after all )

might have softened her cough

Rodin

El Hecko wrote: »

Men are so damn stupid about these things smh. Seems almost every woman has at least a passing interest in astrology (and the paranormal). Don't be an arrogant atheist on these things. Read up on your star sign, learn which ones are compatible. Even just read her her horoscope and make her laugh.

Honestly you are missing a trick here.

Astrology is nonsense.
End of.

Ash.J.Williams

Purple Mountain wrote: »

If your penis really is that size, send me a PM urgently.

Jaysus 5ft dong meets the purple mountain:)

Rodin

Rodin wrote: »

Astrology is nonsense.
End of.

Absolute nonsense.

Surreptitious

What's all this about? I had relationships with tall and small. Am I the only one that doesn't care. Compatible personalities are the main focus really.

This thread is so toxic ahhah.

Just put your height in your bio and you'll filter out women who aren't interested in your height. You can't help someone not being attracted to you on a purely shallow app which is based 100% around swiping left or right for attraction.

Surreptitious

Surreptitious wrote: »

What's all this about? I had relationships with tall and small. Am I the only one that doesn't care. Compatible personalities are the main focus really.

Nah I don't care either. Despite some people thinking all women think the same. We actually don't.

theguzman

When I stand on my wallet I'm the tallest man around :D.

Being in good Physical shape, good looks, fashion sense, facial hair and good pick-up game, being experienced and good at sex and having wealth, financial security and assets is what helps attracts women especially the higher end top-tier women who can afford to be far choosier. The Ireland of today is far different in dating to around 15 years ago, inward immigration have given Irish men far greater diversity also to choose from and has forced Irish women to greatly up their own game to compete for the alpha males. Online dating apps have given both sexes far easier access to casual sex also and the Irish tragedy of alcoholism in finding a mate is slowly dying away.

El Hecko

El Hecko wrote: »

And yet you probably dismiss short guys as subhuman.

You quoted her saying she doesn't.

This thread is depressing. I think irish men are gorgeous on the whole. Very sad that so many of you seem to think irish women are subpar to the rest of the world.

El Hecko

El Hecko wrote: »

I don't believe her for one second that she considers short men to be attractive.

Well I'm sure you'd know more than she would about her own likes and feelings.

Do you want to tell me what men I like?

daheff

[Deleted User] wrote: »

This thread is depressing. I think irish men are gorgeous on the whole. Very sad that so many of you seem to think irish women are subpar to the rest of the world.

A lot of Irish women are overweight...and or smoke....or both. Very unsexy.

Imagine actually using the term chad in an unironic way

daheff

daheff wrote: »

A lot of Irish women are overweight...and or smoke....or both. Very unsexy.

Unlike irish men. You'd be hard pushed to find an overweight irish man or one that's a smoker. And certainly you'd never find one that's both!

El Hecko

El Hecko wrote: »

The main issue with Irish girls is that so many of you are unpleasant, if not downright aggressive and entitled feminists. Too many of you think you entitled to a 6' Chad when you're not all that much to look.

That's fine though. Us guys will stick to South American and SEA women.

Well they're welcome to you El Hecko.

Mister Vain

El Hecko wrote: »

The main issue with Irish girls is that so many of you are unpleasant, if not downright aggressive and entitled feminists. Too many of you think you entitled to a 6' Chad when you're not all that much to look.

That's fine though. Us guys will stick to South American and SEA women.

I used to think that way when I was going to pubs and nightclubs during my 20's, but after taking up new hobbies and interests outside of the pub scene, I started to think differently. Plenty of sound attractive Irish women out there if you know where to look.

El Hecko

El Hecko wrote: »

Every woman wants a man taller than her, height is attractive in men, full stop. That's why I cringe when someone tells a short guy to 'just find a girl who is 5'4 lol'.

The 5'4 girl wants a guy who is 6'+

Every woman? Wow!

I'm 5'4 and that's not true of me at all.

My sister is 5'8 and her husband is 5'5.

But please carry on with your broad generalisations.