Did you every question your sexuality?

Pauliedragon

skooterblue2 wrote: »

Have you seen "two girls and a cup"?

I have a screengrab of it as my screensaver.

When i was 10/11 and as a young lad and saw trish stratus and Lita of the wwe.....Always hooked on women from then on....

Dr. Bre

Nancy Bewildered Serfdom wrote: »

When i was 10/11 and as a young lad and saw trish stratus and Lita of the wwe.....Always hooked on women from then on....

I loved Trish!

JupiterKid

I was about 14 or 15 when I was pretty certain that I was gay, as when I pleasured myself, forcing images of sexy women into my head - they would invariably be replaced by those of sexy men.

I struggled for quite a few years thereafter, going out with a couple of girls and losing my virginity with the latter girlfriend, hiding my sexuality until I could no longer live a lie and came out after my J1 in San Francisco where I pretty much threw open my closet doors. Sex with other men was 1000 times better than with any woman I had been with.

I can really appreciate a beautiful woman and there are some women - strong, intelligent, beautiful - that I am attracted to - like actresses Sigourney Weaver, Uma Thurman, Susan Sarandon and Julianne Moore - but my orientation is predominantly gay for sure. I’d say I am about 90% gay. Men do it for me on every level - physical, emotional, spiritual.

I do think that sexual orientation is a spectrum, with most people falling at either end of the scale. At times, it makes me very angry at how society oppressed and persecuted LGBT people. So many countless lives destroyed by intolerance driven by religion.

AllForIt

Wibbs wrote: »

Nope. As a lad of 9 I watched Charlie's Angels on the telly and was suddenly interested though did not know why. Jaclyn Smith in particular.

I was more impressed with the Six Million Dollar Man.

10fathoms

The second the curly wurlys on his balls tickled my chin I knew I'd gone "too deep" into exploring my sexuality and removed all doubt for me.

El Tarangu

No, not really.

Like, if I saw a chiseled man man with a six-pack, I would think to myself, "wow, he's really good-looking"

But if I saw the same chap with his big vein-y member in hand, with a lascivious look in his eyes, i wouldn't be into it.

Strumms

Kylta wrote: »

If I was into scarecrows i would fantasize about Worsel Gummage, he had loads of different heads, so no two BJ would be the same. Scarecrows that we're its all happening.

That fella would give you plenty of head.

BeerWolf

I'm asexual, so eh...

Kylta

Strumms wrote: »

That fella would give you plenty of head.

I agree but you'd have to be careful with his hungry head and his angry head, because one bite and you'd could endup dickless.

A Tyrant Named Miltiades!

A Tyrant Named Miltiades! wrote: »

Yeah. I think your sexuality exists along a spectrum, probably, and I've walked that line. I don't think it's fluid, though. I think you very quickly realize your position, and in that way, it's fairly black and white.

Ahh... in my experience from observing other people I'd say that's mostly true for the majority of people.

However, I was/am bisexual. My sexuality was fluid throughout my teens/20s/30s and has only in the last 6/7 years started to become fixated on women, although there remains a definite attraction for men. It's just that it's been years since I have met any male who really floats my boat.

I think it really depends on whether you meet someone fairly early in your life to settle down with. I didn't. My experiences were more casual and I didn't start having longer relationships until I hit my 30's.. and they never lasted longer than 2-3 years.

The Bishop Basher

I’ve never had any doubts about being straight. I’ve only ever fancied women or watched females in porn and the idea of being with a man would be a big turn off.

That said I am regularly mistaken for being gay by strangers and I’ve often been chatted up by gay lads on a night out. I asked one of them one night why he thought I was gay and he said I give off gay vibes.

If only I could have the same luck with the ladies !

Seamai

Seamai wrote: »

You do know that the Caramel rabbit was voiced by a lesbian............... Miriam Margoyles.

Lets do a bit of a thread crossover, isn't she one of the funniest comedians ever? I usually listen to podcasts when I go for a jog and one day I was listening to her being interviewed by Louis Theroux, I really had to stop because I was laughing too hard. Someone in the other thread said about Tommy Cooper that he just "has funny bones", I think you could say the exact same thing about Miriam Margolyes.

Wibbs

AllForIt wrote: »

I was more impressed with the Six Million Dollar Man.

So was I in one way. He was married to Farrah Fawcett.

Das Reich wrote: »

No. Since very young age fancing women even my grandmother would not escape she used to have shower without locking the door and I did saw it few times. Used also to hide inside a girls toilets at school to watch them pee by a small hole on the wall. I absolutely never had the same interest or curiosity for my same sex, even was disguted by them. Boys at my school used to share cigarettes, cups etc... if someone offered to me I would refuse. Also I could lick a girls feet but would wash my hands straight after some man shaked hands with me. But things changed after teenage I become less interested and curious about sex but still attracted only to women.

Feisar

BeerWolf wrote: »

I'm asexual, so eh...

but, but, titties!

Kylta

Feisar wrote: »

but, but, titties!

It reminds me of that ditty.
Titties in the morning, titties in the evening titties in the summertime

Gruffalux

I haven't ever questioned my sexuality for the one simple reason that the thought of getting really up close with another ladies fanny makes me truly shudder. But I do frequently admire other females, like if I see a beautiful arm, or hair, or eyes. I can be captivated with admiration. Much more so than I would admire male beauty. Attraction is the electrical charge with the male though which is not based on their objective aesthetics.
Having said that one of the most vivid dreams I ever woke up from was full on sex with a gorgeous black woman - I am not sh1tting ya! - and I was like wtf did that come from!

But nope, other people's fannies...nope.

Potential-Monke

I did, when I was in my mid-teens. Myself and the best mate experimented with each other. Don't think either of us were gay, just that we were not lucky with the ladies, and any sexual contact was welcome tbh. So I've given head and taken it up the hole. And I knew soon after that that no, I prefer women. It takes a strong man to be able to take it up the jacksie (and women too, in fairness). One thing I never did is kiss a man, so while I've had dick in my mouth and arse, never had a male tongue in either.

But haven't gone near a man since. I can at least say I tried and discovered it's not for me. But by Jesus do I love boobs and vaginas. I could spend hours playing with both, especially vaginas. Just love them. There's such a variety and I have my preference.

Being honest, I get neither sexes these days anyway. Pretty sure I've seen all the porn on the internet.

Leg End Reject

Potential-Monke wrote: »

I did, when I was in my mid-teens. Myself and the best mate experimented with each other. Don't think either of us were gay, just that we were not lucky with the ladies, and any sexual contact was welcome tbh. So I've given head and taken it up the hole. And I knew soon after that that no, I prefer women. It takes a strong man to be able to take it up the jacksie (and women too, in fairness). One thing I never did is kiss a man, so while I've had dick in my mouth and arse, never had a male tongue in either.

But haven't gone near a man since. I can at least say I tried and discovered it's not for me. But by Jesus do I love boobs and vaginas. I could spend hours playing with both, especially vaginas. Just love them. There's such a variety and I have my preference.

Being honest, I get neither sexes these days anyway. Pretty sure I've seen all the porn on the internet.

Your friend seems to have gotten the best deal, or did you switch roles?

Potential-Monke

Leg End Reject wrote: »

Your friend seems to have gotten the best deal, or did you switch roles?

Oh it was 50/50. And it was only one night, and not even in the romantic ways. Just a case of will we? Shur why not, let's see what it's about" kind of way.

Leg End Reject

Potential-Monke wrote: »

Oh it was 50/50. And it was only one night, and not even in the romantic ways. Just a case of will we? Shur why not, let's see what it's about" kind of way.

I'm being nosey now, so feel free to ignore, but did you prefer being the giver or receiver for each?

It's not often someone is so open about teenage experimentation.

JupiterKid

Like Potential- Monke, I also sexually experimented with a good mate in my teens - two mates, actually. Not full on sex - or kissing- but mutual masturbation where we wanked each other off.

We were about 15/16 at the time and at that age you are a packet of pure hormones and so horny you would shag a cracked plate. :pac: Both of these mates I experimented with are pretty much straight - and are now married with kids. One of these mates, we talked about what we did years back over a feed of drinks - and put it down to teenage randiness and laughed it off. I’m sure he still wouldn’t dare tell the wife though.

The other guy I experimented with, no way would he be willing to ever talk about those two experiences and that’s fine with me. Stigma and all that. Ancient history in any case.

Well done to Potential-Monke for being so honest and upfront about his same- sex experiences as a teenager. I have a feeling it’s actually pretty common with teenagers - especially boys - but due to societal stigma and shame around sexual matters remains too big a taboo for most to acknowledge.

Tig98

freshpopcorn wrote: »

Another issue I had was when I noticed a fella and I thought he looked good but I never wanted to do anything with him. I think I just wanted to look like him.

This is so damn true. Half the time I'm not sure if I wanna sleep with a guy or try copy him

Potential-Monke

Leg End Reject wrote: »

I'm being nosey now, so feel free to ignore, but did you prefer being the giver or receiver for each?

It's not often someone is so open about teenage experimentation.

Receiver for the blowie, giver for the sex! Strangely enough :pac: However, I can see why men like it. There was a feeling (quickly overtaken by a stinging sensation, but howsever) and it was quite nice! And fair play to anyone that gives good blowies, it's not feckin easy!

JupiterKid wrote: »

Well done to Potential-Monke for being so honest and upfront about his same- sex experiences as a teenager. I have a feeling it’s actually pretty common with teenagers - especially boys - but due to societal stigma and shame around sexual matters remains too big a taboo for most to acknowledge.

I feel the same, it happens a lot more than people let on, and even on here people may have this image they want to keep and admitting to a bit of teenage fun with the same sex may damage that image. Me, pretty sure only about 2 people know me in real life, and i'm also pretty sure both of them haven't posted in a very long time (except maybe 1, I can't quite remember if I know them IRL). Helps that I usually don't remember usernames so take every post as genuine unless it's screaming otherwise!

But I'll be honest, I'd admit it in real life too. I just won't put forward the conversation, but I'll admit (and have previously admitted) to experimenting. Shur if you haven't tried it, how can you be 100% sure? Isn't a **** technically gay? And women seem to love to talk to a fella who admits this. I was inundated with questions, and subsequently got an inside look into their lives as they suddenly started admitted to experimenting themselves (but usually only said this to me directly).

I feel very boring. I've never wanted to experiment, and have always known I liked the chaps. I can certainly admire the female form of others, but in a detached, observational, rather than lustful sense. I've never even been curious about dining below stairs, I'm just plain, uninteresting, straight.

I went to a girls boarding school and I do think teenage experimentation is more common than people realize as JK says, though it wasn't terribly open - at least not in my experience/observation. Although I am not particularly observant, tbh.

Dravokivich

In words that couldn't be put any better than the great landlord;

"I was never confused!"

Lyle

When I was mid-teens, I had it in the back of my head that I'd maybe be into lads in some way. With my first two female sexual partners, the sex just didn't work out well. With hindsight it was because we were just eejits and totally clueless, but at the time it made me ask myself some questions. I never recoiled from seeing a cock or anything the way some of my mates would, which made me think maybe I was actually gay, but I was far, far too self-conscious and utterly terrified of the stigma to act on exploring it. I just didn't do anything with anyone for a couple of years.

Got into college then and ended up in a sexual situation with another lad (gay) and a girl (straight). Everyone had a go off everyone in one way shape or form; I failed to maintain erection in the lads mouth and that girl rode me to orgasm in seconds. Those two fairly chronic embarrassments, combined with nearly breaking my neck fifty times a day with it swivelling to look at all these ridiculous women all over campus and pubs and just around the place, the likes of which I'd never seen in my tiny rural hometown, rather put the internal gay questions to bed for me.

Potential-Monke

Candie wrote: »

I feel very boring.

You don't have to experiment with the same sex to have experimented. Some people are just sure, or know (like yourself) what they do and don't like. The aforementioned lack of lady contact is what led to me experimenting, along with a friend who was basically in the same both and saw a mutually beneficial situation. I'm fairly confident that if I was successful with the ladies I wouldn't have been in that situation.

It is bad form that people used not be able to tell the truth, or at the very least openly discuss it. But a lot of that comes from old Catholic Ireland. Thankfully it's changed now for the most part (there'll always be the cnuts who just refuse to accept).

Re: my first sentence, my last girlfriend was, like myself, not very well versed in the art of love making. So we experimented, found what we both liked and didn't like, and I tell you, one of them you wouldn't expect and I get plenty of shocked looks immediately followed by genuine want-to-know questions!

Shefwedfan

I questioned it once, it told me nothing. Ten long hours later I spent. So I let it go

Leg End Reject

Potential-Monke wrote: »

Re: my first sentence, my last girlfriend was, like myself, not very well versed in the art of love making. So we experimented, found what we both liked and didn't like, and I tell you, one of them you wouldn't expect and I get plenty of shocked looks immediately followed by genuine want-to-know questions!

YOU HAVE TO TELL US!

I'd happily experiment with a woman as long as I wasn't expected to any of the below the waist stuff, she could work away though. :pac:

McGinniesta

I should be questioning my sanity considering some of the people that I've stuck my penis in over the years.

valoren

I guess the question you ask yourself is when you first started ****/schlicking as a youngster the emerging "bank" was populated with...

A. Exclusively opposite sex? Straight.
B. Exclusively same sex? Gay.
C. Mix of both sexes? Bi/gay/straight...tbc

I was A. Never "thought" differently and so never questioned it.

rainbow kirby

As a bi woman... yes. Many times.

Purple Mountain

Candie wrote: »

I feel very boring. I've never wanted to experiment, and have always known I liked the chaps. I can certainly admire the female form of others, but in a detached, observational, rather than lustful sense. I've never even been curious about dining below stairs, I'm just plain, uninteresting, straight.

I went to a girls boarding school and I do think teenage experimentation is more common than people realize as JK says, though it wasn't terribly open - at least not in my experience/observation. Although I am not particularly observant, tbh.

I was a teenager in the 90s and I barely knew what a lesbian was, I certainly didn't know there was bi-sexualism, so the idea of experimenting was a million miles from my randy thoughts of the boys in the CBS.

PsychoPete

It's not gay if it's a three way

fleet_admiral

Nope. I've been infatuated with dirty pillows and fannies since I was as around 10. Have plenty of gay male friends and find the thoughts of two men at it repulsive

Kylta

PsychoPete wrote: »

It's not gay if it's a three way

If both your holes are filled with cock and your a male its gay. Unless you were innocently bending over naked and these tWo naked guys were running along the road with excitement and didn't see you. Then accidentally trip on top of you where one (accidentally again) entered your mouth and other accidentally entered your arse. Then your not gay your just accident prone with a mouthful of gunk and a sore arse.

andekwarhola

Potential-Monke wrote: »

It is bad form that people used not be able to Re: my first sentence, my last girlfriend was, like myself, not very well versed in the art of love making. So we experimented, found what we both liked and didn't like, and I tell you, one of them you wouldn't expect and I get plenty of shocked looks immediately followed by genuine want-to-know questions!

I think it takes great bravery to type a sentence containing, 'well versed in the art of lovemaking' with a straight face.

mouldybiscuits

Kylta wrote: »

If both your holes are filled with cock and your a male its gay. Unless you were innocently bending over naked and these tWo naked guys were running along the road with excitement and didn't see you. Then accidentally trip on top of you where one (accidentally again) entered your mouth and other accidentally entered your arse. Then your not gay your just accident prone with a mouthful of gunk and a sore arse.

Hate when that happens

Ultrflat

TLDR

Yep, But I had issue's LOTS of issues.

I'm straight.