What's the craic with Tinder?

Limpy

On a scale of 1 to 10 how close are the women to there profile pictures, looks wise?

unhappys10

Limpy wrote: »

On a scale of 1 to 10 how close are the women to there profile pictures, looks wise?

It varies, some are the same, some are nothing alike and anything in between.

I met one girl on it, between her and her photos there was a difference of about 10 years and 10 stone*

Needless to say I made a quick escape.

*10 stone may be a slight exaggeration.

JustAThought

unhappys10 wrote: »

It varies, some are the same, some are nothing alike and anything in between.

I met one girl on it, between her and her photos there was a difference of about 10 years and 10 stone*

Needless to say I made a quick escape.

*10 stone may be a slight exaggeration.

Filters and photoshop apps don’t help with the truth either!! Any pic taken from above is going to take a lot of fat off a face and should be taken with a large dose of salts!!

B.A._Baracus

Tinder, pof and what not are great for woman - lots of attention and mails. Downside is you get a lot of guys looking for sex etc.

The aforementioned apps and sites are horrible for men. Like all these things are 80% (even more?) populated by men. Average guy can send out 50 messages and be lucky to get one mail.

Yes there are success stories but they are in the minority. See on paper dating sites shouldn't make money when you think about it. As if it was easy to meet somebody there wouldn't be as many returning users (those who genuinely want relationships as they get involved) and you wouldn't be paying the site for more messages (for those looking for hook ups)

See years ago dating websites like another friend had a membership only to send messages. Make their money up front. It was uncharted territory back then. Some websites still have that modal but the major ones like tinder, pof etc offer you free messages and likes.

Because they can dangle the carrot of "meeting someone" - they're just around the corner you just need to send out more messages etc. So that premium package looks tempting. It's all balls tho :pac:
But you can understand their business modal because, as said above, if it was so easy to get a date or sex they'd be closed shops. Membership only. Pay before you click send. It's not that tho.

... Cause 80% are blokes lol... Not to mention the baggage of people ... The weirdos ... The window shoppers... The ego boosters. Etc.

unhappys10

JustAThought wrote: »

Filters and photoshop apps don’t help with the truth either!! Any pic taken from above is going to take a lot of fat off a face and should be taken with a large dose of salts!!

Yeh spotted that early about the photos from above, similar to the tip of an iceberg above the water

This one just used photos that had to have been 10 years older, either that or they were of her younger, slimmer better looking sister.

An Australian friend of mine calls them decepticons!

kapisko1PL

I met my wife on tinder LOL

Limpy

Most bio's for the women state no ONS ect. Id say a large % of men Just want the ride. From using other apps back in the day the women who stated no one night stands were the most gamey.

Mr. CooL ICE

Went on a total of 3 dates through online apps. Last one is my girlfriend with whom we have one child and another on the way. So yeah, they can work.

I chatted to a handful more but you know soon enough if it's possible or not to build a rapport or not. If somebody is there to waste time, it's up to you to realise that and not indulge them.

Feisar

B.A._Baracus wrote: »

Tinder, pof and what not are great for woman - lots of attention and mails. Downside is you get a lot of guys looking for sex etc.

The aforementioned apps and sites are horrible for men. Like all these things are 80% (even more?) populated by men. Average guy can send out 50 messages and be lucky to get one mail.

Yes there are success stories but they are in the minority. See on paper dating sites shouldn't make money when you think about it. As if it was easy to meet somebody there wouldn't be as many returning users (those who genuinely want relationships as they get involved) and you wouldn't be paying the site for more messages (for those looking for hook ups)

See years ago dating websites like another friend had a membership only to send messages. Make their money up front. It was uncharted territory back then. Some websites still have that modal but the major ones like tinder, pof etc offer you free messages and likes.

Because they can dangle the carrot of "meeting someone" - they're just around the corner you just need to send out more messages etc. So that premium package looks tempting. It's all balls tho :pac:
But you can understand their business modal because, as said above, if it was so easy to get a date or sex they'd be closed shops. Membership only. Pay before you click send. It's not that tho.

... Cause 80% are blokes lol... Not to mention the baggage of people ... The weirdos ... The window shoppers... The ego boosters. Etc.

As said above 2013-15 was some sort of golden age. "Marco Polo wandering the silk road." Not sure exactly what that means but it seemed like anything one wanted was there for the taking.

Man Vs ManUre

I tried to join tinder once but it refused me saying I was too good looking that I would cause havoc with the women on the site. I told my missus this the first night I met her in a bar years ago and she was well impressed we been together since.

pgj2015

Brian Hartman wrote: »

Even the average looking girls are bombarded with attention on these apps. And why is a girl going to bother exchanging messages with an average looking guy when she can have the hot guy?

All that matters online is your face.

The average looking women should stick to average looking men because if they date good looking men from Tinder, the good looking men will just use them for the ride then move on, they wouldnt be seen dead with the average looking women but will use them for a ride. where as the average looking men might want to actually be their boyfriend. Then you will hear hear the average looking women moaning about all men just want one thing lol good enough for them.:)

B.A._Baracus

Mongfinder General wrote: »

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/gay-man-tinder-tricked-straight-13327740.amp


It's a zoo. You'll need to be careful. Loads of horror stories.

What a freak.

mikemac2

Deleted User wrote: »

Stick with the personal ads in the farmers journal. Can’t go wrong.

Irelands Own ftw

I even remember pre-internet the Buy & Sell had a relationship section. I might be wrong but I think you rang a voicemail service and got to listen to the persons message

Awww bless

JasonStatham

Let's talk about the real rubbish site...match dot com. It's Woeful.

I presume you one is going on dates these days with the Coivid thing going on?

JasonStatham

JasonStatham wrote: »

Let's talk about the real rubbish site...match dot com. It's Woeful.

I've never graced that particular dating site with my presence.

Why's it so bad?

ShatterAlan

Church on Tuesday wrote: »

I'm guessing you are a woman?

Yes, for some people it's grand, for the vast majority it's a waste of time. A person is far better dating in real life IMO.

It depends what you are looking to get out of it.

With Tinder you DO date "in real life".


You just happen to meet/get acquainted first on the platform.


It's just a newer version of personal ads or penpals.

Mister Vain

A big problem I have with dating apps is the awful photos. I was talking to a girl on Bumble yesterday and her photos were either very dark, half her head was cropped off, or she was tucked away somewhere in the corner of the frame. Then you have the group photos where you end up playing a game of Where's Wally. There are some good looking girls with great photos but of course I never match with those ones.

pgj2015

Mister Vain wrote: »

A big problem I have with dating apps is the awful photos. I was talking to a girl on Bumble yesterday and her photos were either very dark, half her head was cropped off, or she was tucked away somewhere in the corner of the frame. Then you have the group photos where you end up playing a game of Where's Wally. There are some good looking girls with great photos but of course I never match with those ones.

I have seen women I know on pof who if you didnt know them would think shes not bad when the reality is they definitely are. they must be hiring some top photographers to have them looking half decent.

unhappys10

pgj2015 wrote: »

I have seen women I know on pof who if you didnt know them would think shes not bad when the reality is they definitely are. they must be hiring some top photographers to have them looking half decent.

Definitely some undiscovered talent there when it comes to photography and selfies.

Some of them were so different, did they think people wouldn't notice when meeting in person?

pgj2015

unhappys10 wrote: »

Definitely some undiscovered talent there when it comes to photography and selfies.

Some of them were so different, did they think people wouldn't notice when meeting in person?

some of them look like a good 8 or 9 out of 10 when they are actually a 3 at best.

Homelander

Tinder is decent. Despite what people make out, 90% of people of either sex are there to just meet someone. I've had a few girlfriends through it, and really all you have to be is not Quasimodo and able to engage in decent conversation. Having a good, interesting profile that invites questions, and decent photos, goes a very long way.

cj maxx

Mongfinder General wrote: »

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/gay-man-tinder-tricked-straight-13327740.amp


It's a zoo. You'll need to be careful. Loads of horror stories.

Ah it's his own fault for taking off the blindfold. He was having a great time before that.:)
Though I'm am struggling how he confused giving anal sex as vaginal

Mister Vain

pgj2015 wrote: »

I have seen women I know on pof who if you didnt know them would think shes not bad when the reality is they definitely are. they must be hiring some top photographers to have them looking half decent.

Some of them are great at finding flattering angles for selfies. Although the opposite can be true too. I have worked with women that I thought were very attractive but looked dreadful in their facebook photos. I think some sort of live chat roulette style dating app would be better for gauging the attractiveness of someone because photos can be so deceptive.

I remember reading a similar thread a while ago and one poster said she was talking to guy on tinder and they had arranged to go on a date. Then she decided to check him out on facebook and realised he had a couple of teeth missing so she cancelled the date and gave no explanation.

kowloon

I'm new to the whole online dating thing since Covid and have a few thoughts:

I didn't try Tinder but did try Bumble and it's basically a picture rating service where women have to send the first message, so Tinder with a gimmick.
I can't tell you about the Men's profiles but most women don't fill in basic information so all you can go on is the picture. It's basically an app designed for women who want to filter out the quality men without having to be bombarded with messages from ugly men. You're a product and the app is a catalogue. You can write a little about yourself but it's limited to about the length of a Tweet so best of luck if your magnetic personality can't be captured in a paragraph.

The other site I've tried is Plenty of Fish and it's a bit better in so far as you can write a bit more about yourself but women have to deal with piles of messages and men have to send piles of messages so it's a lot more of a time sink for the average person than a swipe left/right type app. .

There are some good points: I skip empty profiles or the narcissistic ones with pictures taken in a studio. Anyone who says they won't reply to a man less than six foot or a salary less than six figures is a bullet dodged as far as I'm concerned and you can pick out personality traits and the likes at a glance that you might not discover until after you've sunk some time into a random person at a bar.

Online dating is a bit like online arguing, you can treat people like **** and get away with it because you're safe from repercussion. The experience has only reinforced my opinion that we're just stupid animals with a layer of civilisation smeared on top. I'm sure there's a whole Pareto distribution thing going on where everyone is selecting for who they determine to be one of the best 20% of the opposite sex, so it's a bit of a marathon for the rest of us to be noticed.

All that said, I look like dog**** and I've still managed to get a date in the middle of a pandemic. Granted I might end up being lured somewhere to be murdered for my phone but the joke's on them, it's a Nokia and I don't carry cash anymore.

unhappys10

I'd be wary of Bumble for anyone who deletes their profile.
I deleted all dating profiles when I met my wife.
A couple of years later one of her friends messaged my wife to say they saw me on it.
I genuinely deleted it and I'm happily married.

I can only assume they were bots or something.
Luckily my wife believed me!!

kowloon

unhappys10 wrote: »

I'd be wary of Bumble for anyone who deletes their profile.
I deleted all dating profiles when I met my wife.
A couple of years later one of her friends messaged my wife to say they saw me on it.
I genuinely deleted it and I'm happily married.

I can only assume they were bots or something.
Luckily my wife believed me!!

Someone on Boards mentioned that some of these sites reactivate accounts to pad out the numbers, but I'm pretty sure it's illegal to keep deleted data in the EU and I don't think Bumble themselves would do it. I fully expect bots scrape all the profiles and store them away for future scams though. Nothing online isn't copied and stored.

JasonStatham

Tinder is rubbish.

Man Vs ManUre

JasonStatham wrote: »

Tinder is rubbish.

Does Rosie know you’ve been using it??

pickarooney

kapisko1PL wrote: »

I met my wife on tinder LOL

That must have been awkward

.anon.

kowloon wrote: »

You can write a little about yourself but it's limited to about the length of a Tweet so best of luck if your magnetic personality can't be captured in a paragraph.

Whatever you write doesn't need to encapsulate your entire personality. It just needs to provoke a positive reaction (i.e. a laugh or an 'oh, he seems nice') and give them something to message you about.

JasonStatham

Man Vs ManUre wrote: »

Does Rosie know you’ve been using it??

Sssshhhhhh

sheepsh4gger

sheepsh4gger

SusieBlue

^ I only watched about 4 minutes of the second video but it’s beyond creepy. That guy seems completely unstable and unhinged. The way he harassed that woman, following her around trying to humiliate her was just weird.

I had to look up a few of the slang words he used because I didn’t know them.
Apparently calling a woman a ‘roastie’ means she’s sexually active.
I would suggest anyone who is having issues attracting women, who uses disrespectful language like that, should look internally at their own shortcomings rather than blame the evil ‘roasties’ for not being into them. I wouldn’t touch a guy with ideations like that with a barge pole.

Edit: just watched the end of the video, where he catfishes a woman using pics of a male model. When he meets her and she’s shocked and surprised that he isn’t who he said he was, he abuses her and calls her shallow.
What an absolute cretin of the highest order.

unhappys10

SusieBlue wrote: »

^ I only watched about 4 minutes of the second video but it’s beyond creepy. That guy seems completely unstable and unhinged. The way he harassed that woman, following her around trying to humiliate her was just weird.

I had to look up a few of the slang words he used because I didn’t know them.
Apparently calling a woman a ‘roastie’ means she’s sexually active.
I would suggest anyone who is having issues attracting women, who uses disrespectful language like that, should look internally at their own shortcomings rather than blame the evil ‘roasties’ for not being into them. I wouldn’t touch a guy with ideations like that with a barge pole.

Edit: just watched the end of the video, where he catfishes a woman using pics of a male model. When he meets her and she’s shocked and surprised that he isn’t who he said he was, he abuses her and calls her shallow.
What an absolute cretin of the highest order.

The likes of that lad could do with a visit from Zed a la Pulp Fiction.

SusieBlue

SusieBlue wrote: »

^ I only watched about 4 minutes of the second video but it’s beyond creepy. That guy seems completely unstable and unhinged. The way he harassed that woman, following her around trying to humiliate her was just weird.

I had to look up a few of the slang words he used because I didn’t know them.
Apparently calling a woman a ‘roastie’ means she’s sexually active.
I would suggest anyone who is having issues attracting women, who uses disrespectful language like that, should look internally at their own shortcomings rather than blame the evil ‘roasties’ for not being into them. I wouldn’t touch a guy with ideations like that with a barge pole.

Edit: just watched the end of the video, where he catfishes a woman using pics of a male model. When he meets her and she’s shocked and surprised that he isn’t who he said he was, he abuses her and calls her shallow.
What an absolute cretin of the highest order.

There's always the same theme: women aren't into me, and it's all their fault. It reeks of resentment, bitterness and entitlement and they wonder why no one is interested.

Church on Tuesday

SusieBlue wrote: »

^ I only watched about 4 minutes of the second video but it’s beyond creepy. That guy seems completely unstable and unhinged. The way he harassed that woman, following her around trying to humiliate her was just weird.

I had to look up a few of the slang words he used because I didn’t know them.
Apparently calling a woman a ‘roastie’ means she’s sexually active.
I would suggest anyone who is having issues attracting women, who uses disrespectful language like that, should look internally at their own shortcomings rather than blame the evil ‘roasties’ for not being into them. I wouldn’t touch a guy with ideations like that with a barge pole.

Edit: just watched the end of the video, where he catfishes a woman using pics of a male model. When he meets her and she’s shocked and surprised that he isn’t who he said he was, he abuses her and calls her shallow.
What an absolute cretin of the highest order.

Yup it's pretty sad stuff.

That's what happens when you're brainwashed by TRP and PUA nonsense; it all comes back to a lack of self esteem which manifests itself into bizarre chip on the shoulder behaviors like this.

What a clown.

Boards has its share of those societal dangers.

Sheep Shagger

Mongfinder General wrote: »

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/gay-man-tinder-tricked-straight-13327740.amp


It's a zoo. You'll need to be careful. Loads of horror stories.

Some of that stuff has to be made up by the 'victims'

Sure they didn't know.....

kowloon

SusieBlue wrote: »

^ I only watched about 4 minutes of the second video but it’s beyond creepy. That guy seems completely unstable and unhinged. The way he harassed that woman, following her around trying to humiliate her was just weird.

I'm pretty sure he's committed an actual crime, so sticking a video of it online is not very clever. Notice the Pepe (the frog)? I think that's a calling card for woman hating trolls and trumpists online, I think it's a 4chan thing originally.