Do you talk to your cousins?

Sheridan81

limerickabroad wrote: »

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Not many Undertone fans in the audience.:D

Nigel Fairservice

I have 11 first cousins on one side and only 1 on the other. The 11 on my Dad's side were all born abroad so I don't know them very well. I've never even met 2 of them. There's a big age gap between the eldest and the youngest in the family, 31 years I think. My mother and her brother were estranged so I don't know the one cousin I have on my mother's side. She only lives up the road. At this stage I don't have much interest in getting to know them.

My Dad was terrible at recognising his own cousins. My mother had to point them out to him at family occasions.

Sheridan81

Sheridan81 wrote: »

Not many Undertone fans in the audience.:D

I genuinely couldn't stand him!

A voice like a siren!

Pinch Flat

I'm in contact with one cousin on my mothers side. few through Facebook on my dads side but pretty superficial. a recent family death of an uncle on my mothers side brought the cousins around like vultures. Solicitors letters and everything. All over a very modest amount from a man who died in testate. Wouldn't bother with them after that mullarkey.

feargale

Signore Fancy Pants wrote: »

Only after I ride 'em.

Classy.

Ihavetheaids

No they are all dead

ILoveYourVibes

Yes of course.

_Kaiser_

Nope. Last time I saw any of them was 5 years ago. Before that it would easily have been a decade or more.

No loss whatsoever though. Don't talk to any of the remaining family either except for my sister tbh and she's the same way with them.

pgj2015

only when I bump into them. I have about 40.I only like about 5 of them max. some of them are awful tossers.

cj maxx

I'd have 60 or so cousins, most abroad so no

lucalux

Have about 35-40 first cousins and don't ever see or speak to any of them. Not intentional just never hung around with them much, and as we got older never saw each other.
My mam told me one of my cousins just had a baby, and having not seen her in years I still see her as a kid I used to babysit lol

RandomViewer

Sheridan81 wrote: »

Nope. My cousin is Fergal Sharkey and he doesn't like me.

But your aunties think you are perfect

andekwarhola

Not close to most of them but interact with them on social media and would meet them for a drink if I happened to be visiting the same part of the world. And one of my cousins would still be one of my best friends.

One cousin is my best friend and I'm very close to two others. All different branches of the extended family. I get on great with nearly all the rest of them, I'm just not especially close to them. There are two in one branch of the family that I absolutely despise, and I am not alone in that.

The_Honeybadger

Don’t really talk to my cousins as I don’t live near them, although I was very close to some of them growing up. I have several around my age and we have great craic and weddings and family events when we do meet but it’s not often.

My wife is the opposite. Her extended family are very close, almost to the point where it’s weird. There are around twenty of them that nearly all live in the same town, constantly in each other’s houses etc. We live about two hours away but when we visit for weekends or holidays it’s bonkers in my MIL’s house from morning until night with visitors. I can’t stand it tbh but she is in here element there, She is constantly in touch with all of them via WhatsApp and snapchat groups etc as well.

purplepanda

I can't see anyone really having 200 first cousins nowadays unless you count first cousins once removed / your cousins kids in the total. :rolleyes:

is_that_so

purplepanda wrote: »

I can't see anyone really having 200 first cousins nowadays unless you count first cousins once removed / your cousins kids in the total. :rolleyes:

With well north of 50 first cousins their lineage would reach 200 and beyond. In another generation we can have our very own village!

HBC08

I never really thought it to be unusual but reading the posts here the average seems to be about 20 cousins,I have almost 100 cousins and couldn't name half of them.
Ten aunts and uncles on one side and eleven on the other and then they mostly had big families too.

Ultrflat

I don't actually have any.

Lollipops23

Very close to some of them, some I'd easily go from one year to the next without seeing or hearing from them.

Getting hitched next year and one of my bridesmaids is a cousin I'm particularly close friends with. I don't have any full siblings so they're the closest thing I have to sisters.

Mr. CooL ICE

A Tyrant Named Miltiades! wrote: »

For arguments sake that's the equivalent of ten aunts, each having ten children... on both sides of the family
(10^2) x 2 = 200

Is that possible? I must be missing something

My dad has something like 85 cousins. My grandad was from a family of 15 (siblings, inc a priest) and grandmother from a family of 4. If my grandmother was from an equivalently sized family, it could easily have exceeded that. So yeah, possible.

An old school friend is cousins with what seems like half the town. Both his parents are from big families (10-12 siblings). They don't have massive families themselves but if it was one generation back, then again it would be possible.

Seamai

There was only one set of cousins we were anyway close to growing up but we've drifted as we got older. We don't have lots of first cousins but over half of them moved to Australia as kids, one set we were never close to start with but the other set are regularly in contact and fairly frequent visitors back home, bizarrely the cousin I'm closest to lives on the other side of the world. The final set of first cousins are all a good bit older, all girls (all boys in my family) and a little bit stuck up so there was never any mixing as kids, the only time there is any contact now is at funerals.

Optimalprimerib

I am close with about 4.

castletownman

I would be very close to the majority of my cousins on my Dad's side, mainly due that of the nine siblings in his family, seven of them live within a two mile radius of each other. One lives in south Dublin so really only an hour away, and visits pretty much every weekend, while the other lives in the US and comes home a couple of times a year. Don't see my mam's side as much as they are all in different counties, but when we have a gathering we have right craic and get on well.

We all essentially grew up together, well among the cousins in your age-bracket, and now among the next generation, the cousins are close as well.

There are a few though that come across as being too 'good' for the family after going to college, and wouldn't keep in contact with the rest of us. Went to school with one of them from the first day in primary all the way to the last day of secondary, and she'd hardly say hello to me now. I don't have a high-enough flying job I assume. And another who used to be as sociable as any man, but is now so under the thumb by his wife that he hardly keeps up to date with the happenings. But that's probably common enough in a lot of wider family circles.

Blessed that I have a strong family dynamic.