How old would you date?

IAMAMORON

KathleenGrant wrote: »

you got me there. That was a bad one!
No am posting while cooking dinner with one eye on tv and trying to figure what bet I'm doing on Pool v Utd.
Wasn't paying attention.

Dinner sounds lovely Kay.

What's on today?

Who are Poo?

purifol0

Dating - half my age plus 7

Riding - half my age (I wish)

Northernlily

Qwertyminger wrote: »

A friend of mine left her abusive boyfriend recently (both 30) Brilliant I thought. About five minutes later she was in a relationship again with a man in his 60s.

Do some people just hate themselves and have no self esteem or do you reckon they could be happy? If I were with someone twice my age all I could think about is how we'd only have half my current lifespan tops before I have to change his nappy.

Maybe your friend is happy in the now.

Northernlily

IAMAMORON wrote: »

That is just narrow minded stereotyping.

How crude.

It is also a colourful noun to emphasise a libidinous lover.

It sounds like you are not getting enough yourself? A distinctive pong of envy off your post.

Ooohh someone is touchy. Must have hit a nerve :-)

IAMAMORON

Qwertyminger wrote: »

A friend of mine left her abusive boyfriend recently (both 30) Brilliant I thought. About five minutes later she was in a relationship again with a man in his 60s.

Do some people just hate themselves and have no self esteem or do you reckon they could be happy? If I were with someone twice my age all I could think about is how we'd only have half my current lifespan tops before I have to change his nappy.

Moths love older guys, there is less bullshight going on.

60 year old blokes know exactly what they want and when they want it, birds love that.

begbysback

KathleenGrant wrote: »

you got me there. That was a bad one!
No am posting while cooking dinner with one eye on tv and trying to figure what bet I'm doing on Pool v Utd.
Wasn't paying attention.

Pool deffo, no value in utd parking the bus again.

HBC08

AdrianBalboa wrote: »

My husband and I discussed this a few weeks ago. The traditional view is very misogynistic: it’s considered alright, in the media, if some greasy middle aged man is creeping on younger women. Especially so if his wife is portrayed as some shrew or, forgive me for using a disgusting term, a “Karen” shrilly henpecking him in rollers while waving a rolling pin.

Alternatively if a woman is involved with a younger man she is accused of being some demented sex pervert à la Samantha in SATC, “mutton dressed as lamb” or a cougar (there is no equivalent term for a man). Ephebophilia is excusable if the elder of the couple involved is a male.

I may have strayed in the past with younger men but that was a long time ago, we have had marriage counselling and we need to move on. I warned my husband that if he ever considered leaving me for a young one that I would ride him so hard in the courts all he would have left are the ****ing fillings in his teeth. We’re in our early forties.

Sounds like he bagged himself a keeper and ye have a great marriage.

The Inbetween is mine

KathleenGrant wrote: »

you got me there. That was a bad one!
No am posting while cooking dinner with one eye on tv and trying to figure what bet I'm doing on Pool v Utd.
Wasn't paying attention.

2-0 United... Liverpool are rattled

IAMAMORON

Northernlily wrote: »

Ooohh someone is touchy. Must have hit a nerve :-)

My nerves are exhausted after the amount of touching they got last night.

They were kept fervently busy by my divine 27 year old lover. She rocks.

horsebox1977

Plumbthedepths wrote: »

I’d view a 30 year old (male/female) dating a 17 year old as a predator.

Imagine being 30 and going to someones debs.

Arduach

44 year old male. 34-48 age group. And no covert narcissists like my last relationship, seriously wreck your head.

Irish_rat

KathleenGrant wrote: »

Need to know or would like to know? There is a difference.

Haha. Well you said 20 years younger it would be interesting to know. Maybe tell us what they're age was 😅

Irish_rat

LilacNails wrote: »

Went out with someone 10yrs older than me. Kinda want them back.

Do tell us. What are they doing now?

Hellokitty1212

IAMAMORON wrote: »

My nerves are exhausted after the amount of touching they got last night.

They were kept fervently busy by my divine 27 year old lover. She rocks.

She may rock but she fictional!

Sam Hain

purifol0 wrote: »

Dating - half my age plus 7

Riding - half my age (I wish)

Don't think a 14 year old should be posting on this subject.

Sam Hain

Irish_rat wrote: »

Do tell us. What are they doing now?

Someone sexier.

99nsr125

AdrianBalboa wrote: »

My husband and I discussed this a few weeks ago. The traditional view is very misogynistic: it’s considered alright, in the media, if some greasy middle aged man is creeping on younger women. Especially so if his wife is portrayed as some shrew or, forgive me for using a disgusting term, a “Karen” shrilly henpecking him in rollers while waving a rolling pin.

Alternatively if a woman is involved with a younger man she is accused of being some demented sex pervert à la Samantha in SATC, “mutton dressed as lamb” or a cougar (there is no equivalent term for a man). Ephebophilia is excusable if the elder of the couple involved is a male.

I may have strayed in the past with younger men but that was a long time ago, we have had marriage counselling and we need to move on. I warned my husband that if he ever considered leaving me for a young one that I would ride him so hard in the courts all he would have left are the ****ing fillings in his teeth. We’re in our early forties.

It's a hardwired biological drive

Younger women are more fertile

Great double standard there by the way

chrissb8

No older than 5 years really tbh (I'm early 30's). I mean I would go and have a fling with someone even older than that and probably push it out to 50 in that case. But as far as having a relationship, I couldn't see it working. The emotional and maturity difference would be markedly different.

.anon.

chrissb8 wrote: »

No older than 5 years really tbh

I don't like to be judgmental, but that's awfully young.

Intuitive

Plumbthedepths wrote: »

I’d view a 30 year old (male/female) dating a 17 year old as a predator.

So would I to be honest. It may be legal but it ain't right. Too much of a power imbalance there

Tauriel

Hellokitty1212 wrote: »

Celine Dion and her now late husband. 12 too - never sat well with me that.

I think it's the same with Mary-Kate Olsen and her ex-husband.

BuboBubo

In my mid 40s. If himself left I'd consider 35 - 55. I'm female.

Church on Tuesday

Hellokitty1212 wrote: »

She may rock but she fictional!

Just like all the other accounts.

SCOOP 64

When you get over 50 you keep all options open.

BattleCorp

Hellokitty1212 wrote: »

Celine Dion and her now late husband. 12 too - never sat well with me that.

Catherine Ryan does a great skit on that relationship.

SCOOP 64

Hellokitty1212 wrote: »

Celine Dion and her now late husband. 12 too - never sat well with me that.

28 year age difference,she was 18 when they were a item he was 46, just makes you wonder what it was she seen in the older man,
say he was delighted.

Hellokitty1212

SCOOP 64 wrote: »

28 year age difference,she was 18 when they were a item he was 46, just makes you wonder what it was she seen in the older man,
say he was delighted.

It has the whiff of grooming about it to me - it may not be that but you get an uneasy feeling.

Antares35

I think age gaps are only really relevant where one party to the relationship is young. I had a relationship with a man who was in his late fifties when I was thirty. It had nothing to do with a lack of self esteem as someone implied earlier. You can fall in love with the person, as I did. I liked the fact that he was mature and didn't fúck around with game playing etc. In the end we broke up for reasons unrelated to the age gap but I don't regret the time we had together, it was a very happy period in my life.

Being honest yes I did occasionally worry that if we settled down and had children, that the probability was those children might lose their dad young, and that was a worry for me, but I don't think you can just assume any woman with an older man is a gold digger and any man with a younger woman is a predator. Those are such tired old clichés.

breezy1985

SCOOP 64 wrote: »

28 year age difference,she was 18 when they were a item he was 46, just makes you wonder what it was she seen in the older man,
say he was delighted.

My issue with this kinda thing is you only have the couple's word that it was all kept nice and innocent till she came of age like as if a switch was flicked when she turned 17 or whatever and suddenly they were attracted to the girls and they weren't at least being seedy before hand.
Personally I don't know how you can come to fancy someone you knew since they were 12 and you an adult.

As I type this MJs "You are not alone" comes on the radio

pgj2015

SCOOP 64 wrote: »

28 year age difference,she was 18 when they were a item he was 46, just makes you wonder what it was she seen in the older man,
say he was delighted.

I wouldn't be. why would a 46 year old want to be in a relationship with an 18 year old?


Thats very creepy.