Ruining a wedding

GingerLily

Everyone got a thank you card from us for attending the weding, and if they gave a gift we mentioned that too.
So many people were so generous, I didn't feel the need to hold a grudge of someone didn't give a gift (genuinely cannot remember who didn't), plus I'm a firm believer that it's never too late to give a weding gift anyway and guests have at least 12 months before it's actually late!

Lollipops23

razorblunt wrote: »

If it's in a hotel then there'll be a safe at reception. Best to hand them in as and when they come. Numbering them helps too.
Shouldn't have to worry about getting drunk and forgetting the vast majority of cards will be handed in way before the meal.

Just need to watch out for the ones given if anyone comes to the Afters and get those handed in asap.

I just checked with our venue, apparently there's a safe in the bridal suite! Glad I checked, the best man can just nip off every few hours to sort it!

cml387

razorblunt wrote: »

If it's in a hotel then there'll be a safe at reception. Best to hand them in as and when they come. Numbering them helps too.
Shouldn't have to worry about getting drunk and forgetting the vast majority of cards will be handed in way before the meal.

Just need to watch out for the ones given if anyone comes to the Afters and get those handed in asap.

Someone I know handed in their passports and tickets for the honeymoon they were departing for, the Sunday after their wedding.

So they arrive down on Sunday morning (flying out that day) to be told by an aashen faced recepeptionist that the safe was on a timelock and couldn't be opened until Monday. The hotel had to sort them out with another honeymoon.

Toots

mohawk wrote: »

One wedding I was at had a post box at reception but you had to sign a logbook when posting it also. At least in that circumstance if the card goes missing the bride and groom can still acknowledge the guest and thank them.

Log book is a good idea. It might look a bit crass but at least you'd know the card went in. My sister in law got married last year and they had a sweet cart at the wedding and the company also did wedding post boxes, but these had a little combination lock at the back like a hotel safe - by the looks of it, it would have been difficult to just sneak a few cards out of it without being noticed.

A girl I used to know had a wishing well yoke at her wedding for all the cards but it was basically just an open container, no lid or anything. About 4 people actually used it and everyone else just gave the cards to the wedding party. I heard someone trying to hand one in at reception, and the receptionist told her to use the wishing well, but the guest refused because there was money in the card and anyone walking past the well could have just lifted the cards.

KevRossi

I know a best man who robbed all the money out of the cards. I mean all of it. Admitted it too. The rumour was it was used to pay off gambling debts to some dodgy people, but I've no idea if that's true or not.

He never paid them back fully, probably half the money. He's still mates with the bride and groom AFAIK.

The story is well known around Co. Roscommon.

BaZmO*

Jeez. Just nominate someone that has a bit of sense to take the cards. If the Best Man is a flake just get someone else to do it.

BattleCorp

I'd never give someone a card on the day because cards do go missing from time to time. I'd give it to the couple either a week before the wedding or a few weeks afterwards.

BattleCorp

BaZmO* wrote: »

Jeez. Just nominate someone that has a bit of sense to take the cards. If the Best Man is a flake just get someone else to do it.

I've seen many a sensible person get sloshed and then turn into a gobsh1te.

PhilOssophy

BattleCorp wrote: »

I've seen many a sensible person get sloshed and then turn into a gobsh1te.

Also, its quite normal for people to give the cards to the best man / grooms man - its a bit tacky to say "can everybody give their cards and gifts to Uncle Jimmy"

KevRossi

When a former college mate of mine (who's a dose on drink) was a best man to his brother, his mother (very down-to-earth lady) or one of his sisters hovered around him all night. If he got a card they took it off him straight away and stuck it in the mothers handbag. Nothing went missing.

Motivator

I don’t know these people but was chatting about this thread at lunchtime and one of the lads I work with was at a wedding about 5 years ago in Lanzarote.

The bride went out a few days in advance but the groom said he was delayed with work and didn’t go on the flight with the wife. He arrived out the day before the wedding along with the last guests. Got to the hotel, met the bride and headed down for a walkthrough of the church and rehearsal etc. There was a big party organised in a restaurant they had booked out and after dinner the groom stood up and announced that he couldn’t go through with it, he was up to his balls in gambling debt and had basically cleared out their account and couldn’t afford to pay for the hotel and basically the wedding was off.

He had spent the few days on his own trying to win back the money he had lost but instead lost everything and cleared out their joint account. His father caught him up by the neck and a row erupted. It went ahead the next day and both sets of parents pitched in and paid for the wedding. Wasn’t the nicest wedding to be at apparently.

optogirl

We had our wedding at a place which changed ownership between us booking & getting married there. When we went out to meet the new managers before the wedding they were the snottiest pair of bit*hes ever & we were totally taken aback by their attitude- they were in a hurry to get all bookings off their hands and renovate so we were a fly in the ointment by expecting to use their lovely manor to have our wedding in...We had a fantastic day but the manager did her best to cause issues:

1. My brother in law was walking my one and a half year old niece around outside. Manager asks him ' have you a highchair organised for her?' My bro in law explains that someone is coming to collect my niece before the food. Laura motions to my friend comforting his crying 8 month old and asks 'any chance they'll take that one away too?'

2. At one stage (about 10 mins after the ceremony when I'm outside schmoozing) she came over to me and barked 'there's a problem with your table plan. It's not going to work. You need to sort it out now' She was so snotty. We sorted it out, all was fine.

3. Before we walk into the room for the meal she is waiting to announce us so I say 'Can you just say Bride & Groom instead of Mr & Mrs xxx, I'm not changing my name. 'Oh' says she, with a look of disdain, 'you're one of them'.

4. Before the speeches she asked that we announce that she has lost her Nokia phone. We do that. 10 minutes later (10 minutes into the speeches) she asks if we can do it again. My husband says 'were not actually bothered about your missing phone.' She says 'I left it in the bathroom and somebody's lifted it'. We look at her in disbelief and she walks away. .....then......... she rang the Gardai. My husband went out to talk to them and said they were absolutely sound about it and were giving him knowing looks as if they'd been here before! I didn't know they'd been until after they had left and they never came inside. We just found it so pathetic. A Nokia? Here's 20 quid ya mad old bint, buy yourself a new one.

We were on such a high that we actually just feel sorry for her and the next day were crying laughing about it but what a truly horrible person.

PhilOssophy

Motivator wrote: »

I don’t know these people but was chatting about this thread at lunchtime and one of the lads I work with was at a wedding about 5 years ago in Lanzarote.

The bride went out a few days in advance but the groom said he was delayed with work and didn’t go on the flight with the wife. He arrived out the day before the wedding along with the last guests. Got to the hotel, met the bride and headed down for a walkthrough of the church and rehearsal etc. There was a big party organised in a restaurant they had booked out and after dinner the groom stood up and announced that he couldn’t go through with it, he was up to his balls in gambling debt and had basically cleared out their account and couldn’t afford to pay for the hotel and basically the wedding was off.

He had spent the few days on his own trying to win back the money he had lost but instead lost everything and cleared out their joint account. His father caught him up by the neck and a row erupted. It went ahead the next day and both sets of parents pitched in and paid for the wedding. Wasn’t the nicest wedding to be at apparently.

Sounds like your man Tony O'Reilly, AKA Tony 10. At his wedding he needed a horse or something to land or he wouldn't be able to pay for it. Gambling is such a disease.

Turfcutter

I was at a wedding ceremony where the priest clearly had an axe to grind about the descending morals he was witnessing.

His sermon was mainly a very long recap on Catholicism 101 - heaven, hell, purgatory. Not the time nor the place.
What didn't help was the bishop was one of the co-celebrants. This probably put it on the priest's head that he should put on a good show.
The bishop was seated behind him and like the rest of us, looked absolutely catatonic with boredom listening to all this. The entire ceremony wasn't far off 2 hours in length, which is nearly twice the average running time.

Anyway, said priest started sniping about the custom of couples living together before marriage.
The clincher was that at communion time he asked that those in the congregation who were cohabiting outside of wedlock should not come forward to accept communion.

I think any co-habitees went up for communion, either to defy yer man or else not out themselves.

Lollipops23

Turfcutter wrote: »

I was at a wedding ceremony where the priest clearly had an axe to grind about the descending morals he was witnessing.

I was at a similar wedding out west- the bride and groom live abroad these days and it was easier to let his parents organise the whole shebang (her own pair are lovely, but very mild mannered and were totally steamrolled by his two).

Come the day, it was your standard church ceremony and hotel reception. His da insisted on doing a speech where he congratulated the couple on sticking with tradition, 'when it's not considered fashionable by some to get married in the eyes of god'. Lots of awkward looks around the room.

charlie14

Turfcutter wrote: »

I was at a wedding ceremony where the priest clearly had an axe to grind about the descending morals he was witnessing.

His sermon was mainly a very long recap on Catholicism 101 - heaven, hell, purgatory. Not the time nor the place.
What didn't help was the bishop was one of the co-celebrants. This probably put it on the priest's head that he should put on a good show.
The bishop was seated behind him and like the rest of us, looked absolutely catatonic with boredom listening to all this. The entire ceremony wasn't far off 2 hours in length, which is nearly twice the average running time.

Anyway, said priest started sniping about the custom of couples living together before marriage.
The clincher was that at communion time he asked that those in the congregation who were cohabiting outside of wedlock should not come forward to accept communion.

I think any co-habitees went up for communion, either to defy yer man or else not out themselves.

It`s improved somewhat over the years, but even still if Catholic priests were a village there`s no chance of them running out of idiots anytime soon.
He sounded like a mad old fecker. I doubt he ate many weeding meals after that show.

pgj2015

GingerLily wrote: »

Everyone got a thank you card from us for attending the weding, and if they gave a gift we mentioned that too.
So many people were so generous, I didn't feel the need to hold a grudge of someone didn't give a gift (genuinely cannot remember who didn't), plus I'm a firm believer that it's never too late to give a weding gift anyway and guests have at least 12 months before it's actually late!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eakJ06TTYPs

Collie D

optogirl wrote: »

We had our wedding at a place which changed ownership between us booking & getting married there.....

Why the **** would someone like that get into the hospitality industry? God help them if they ever actually did have ****ty guests.

Louis Friend

My brother works insanely hard and his boss earns a lot of money. Anyways, the boss, who attended the wedding, gave him a card with a gift in it. When my brother and his wife opened the card, there was a €50 voucher in it.

They thought it was a bit mean, but thought nothing of it. But then the boss apologised for not getting them a gift but said he wouldn’t have a notion what to get, hence the voucher. He then said he wanted them to get something special with the voucher.

Fair play to my brother, as he smelled something off about it and said “X, there was €50 in the card...”.

Yer man went white. It turned out he’d gone to buy the voucher(s), one for €500 for my brother and one for €50 for his niece who’d passed her driving test. And he’d mixed them up! And he thought it was weird when the niece called over to his house to thank him for the gift! Fair play to the guy, he presented my brother with a voucher for €450 shortly after.

Pale Blue Dot

I always think it's dangerous telling other people's stories but in this case the bloke in question is English and I don't think he peruses Boards!

So this bloke and I worked together day in, day out in the same company over in the UK when we were in our late 20's. He's actually a gent for the most part but one of these who is a renowned nightmare on the drink on a night out - always completely out of it before anyone else is more than a few pints in. It was a bit of an issue with the GF as she had to constantly look after him and apologise for him whenever he's was on the drink. But somehow she put up with him and they were quite happy together. He would actually go on about how she was the love of his life and all that! I think they'd been together four, maybe five years, at this point.

Anyway her best friend was getting married and she was chief bridesmaid. Naturally himself is invited as her plus one. Now her and her best friend had known each other since they were kids. They'd grown up together and had that sort of friendship that was more akin to sisters. So he was warned, just for once, to be on his absolute best behaviour for the wedding. He promised he wouldn't be a problem and she could focus on bridesmaid responsibilities.

I think he made it through church service OK but come the reception he was well oiled. By the time they were halfway though the meal he didn't know where he was, could barely function and was getting funny looks from all the other guests ("Who's this gob****e?"). He'd simply gone hell for leather on the booze and was making a tit of himself. His poor GF was meanwhile trying to split her time between bridesmaid duties and keeping an eye on him. Unfortunately during one of his unsupervised moments he decided to get up from the table and beeline straight for the immaculate (and uncut at this stage) wedding cake. To aghast horror of all the other guests he drove his hand straight into the middle and pulled a bit out (think along the lines of a fatality in Mortal Kombat). He took a big bite, getting it most of it on his face and suit. Decided it wasn't up to much and loudly proclaimed ' This cake is f***'n s**t', and threw it away. By away he through it to the side without looking. When he turned around he realised he's thrown it all over the father of the bride. By this stage there was a moment of silence before all hell broke loose and the father of the bride went for your man. In the end the GF grabbed him and put him to bed. In the morning she dumped him then and there and he literally never saw her again. It wasn't just because of this but I think she was fed up of him acting the gob****e all the time and this was the very big straw that did it.

Now that's his version of the story so I'm minded to believe it was actually worse. It took him quite a long time to get over her but he's now been in a relationship with another girl for the best part of a decade. We're still in the same company but in different branches in different parts of the UK. I bump into him one every year or so normally at a company function. He's still an absolute nightmare on the drink though so I don't know how much he learned from the above. I think the new GF just has an even higher tolerance for his antics!

Motivator

PhilOssophy wrote: »

Sounds like your man Tony O'Reilly, AKA Tony 10. At his wedding he needed a horse or something to land or he wouldn't be able to pay for it. Gambling is such a disease.

Very similar story but no it wasn’t him! Funnily enough it might have been around the same time as well. I’ve heard different stories about weddings abroad where, because it’s a bit cheaper than an Irish wedding, lads will try and win the money to pay for it. I’ve never heard of it working.

JayRoc

Turfcutter wrote: »

Not the time nor the place.
.

Exactly. Where did he think he was, church or something?

afatbollix

Here's a story about my own wedding, Went fine, Kept speeches short, Fed them quickly with good food, and kept some cash behind the bar for a bit.

A friend of mine had a new wife of his own, A Brazilian who he quickly married after her visa ran out.

For years after everyone asks how is the girl in the red dress? His wife was the one in the red dress.

She was pissed from about 1pm, Seen more of her arse than I did of her face as she was falling all over the place. Thankfully she was wearing boxers kind of underwear.

Anyway, at about 9pm my father-in-law was in the gents, and in she roars, 'I'm coming in' Can't be arsed going up to the ladies as it was upstairs.

Pulls down the shorts and reverses up to the urinal and let's rip.


Their marriage lasted about 6 more months, We're still going and people still bring up about the girl in the red dress.

lab man

Lollipops23 wrote: »

I'm getting married in 15 weeks (from Sat) and have learned quite a bit from this thread, particularly how common it is for the envelopes to go missing! Will ask our best man to be extra careful...

Alot of ppl in my area, west clare give the card to the groom or brides parents a day or 2 before wedding

Purple Mountain

afatbollix wrote: »

Here's a story about my own wedding, Went fine, Kept speeches short, Fed them quickly with good food, and kept some cash behind the bar for a bit.

A friend of mine had a new wife of his own, A Brazilian who he quickly married after her visa ran out.

For years after everyone asks how is the girl in the red dress? His wife was the one in the red dress.

She was pissed from about 1pm, Seen more of her arse than I did of her face as she was falling all over the place. Thankfully she was wearing boxers kind of underwear.

Anyway, at about 9pm my father-in-law was in the gents, and in she roars, 'I'm coming in' Can't be arsed going up to the ladies as it was upstairs.

Pulls down the shorts and reverses up to the urinal and let's rip.


Their marriage lasted about 6 more months, We're still going and people still bring up about the girl in the red dress.

No effing way!!

Leg End Reject

Purple Mountain wrote: »

No effing way!!

He's obviously Chris De Burgh, he wrote a song about her.

suicide_circus

KevRossi wrote: »

I mentioned this thread on a Zoom call with a work colleague today, asked him had he anything to mention. Then he told me that he was actually engaged to be married before his present wife (I never knew this).

They were together a few years, then it came to arrange the wedding. Reception was to be held in a hotel that held 200 max. His mother-in-law to be, wrote up a list of people from her side that had to be invited as well as her friends and local movers and shakers. It came to just over 140 people! That left just over 55 people from his side of the family and the bride and grooms friends and work colleagues.

There was no budging and the venue could not be changed. Mother in law threatened to stay at home if it wasn't done her way. Eventually he relented on this.

MiL also got her friends to do flowers and cake and they were charging utterly extortionate prices. Neither of them had any experience at the job, just did it as a hobby.

Some other friend of hers was to do the wedding car. Turns out it was a 10 year old BMW 5-series that looked like a ball of shyte. He wanted an invite for himself and the wife and €300 for the day.

Priest had to be flown in from the USA at their cost, as well as a hotel for him for 4 nights. Bridesmaids outfits were budgeted at something like €600 a pop. MiL was to be given a voucher for €1,000 or €1,500 for Brown Thomas for her outfit.

With all the rows on this and a lot more, the relationship broke down and they split up. Cost him about €5,000 in lost booking fees and deposits but he was glad to get out of it.

His own wedding a couple of years later was 12 family in a chapel Italy and a Bar-B-Q for 150 at a local football club when they got home.

Drunken messes causing a scene are one thing but selfish narcissists like this MIL are sickening

Purple Mountain

Leg End Reject wrote: »

He's obviously Chris De Burgh, he wrote a song about her.

Lol

chooseusername

The line "keep his belly full and his liathróidí empty" advice to the bride
doesn't always go down well nowadays.
I've seen the bride give the best man a clip,
but it didn't ruin the wedding.

PARlance

Louis Friend wrote: »

My brother works insanely hard and his boss earns a lot of money. Anyways, the boss, who attended the wedding, gave him a card with a gift in it. When my brother and his wife opened the card, there was a €50 voucher in it.

They thought it was a bit mean, but thought nothing of it. But then the boss apologised for not getting them a gift but said he wouldn’t have a notion what to get, hence the voucher. He then said he wanted them to get something special with the voucher.

Fair play to my brother, as he smelled something off about it and said “X, there was €50 in the card...”.

Yer man went white. It turned out he’d gone to buy the voucher(s), one for €500 for my brother and one for €50 for his niece who’d passed her driving test. And he’d mixed them up! And he thought it was weird when the niece called over to his house to thank him for the gift! Fair play to the guy, he presented my brother with a voucher for €450 shortly after.

General word of caution with vouchers. I know of a case were someone bought their staff very generous vouchers but they had all had a 0 missing. So a 500 voucher was 50 etc. It only came to light when one brave member of staff asked him outright... Dutch courage may have been involved but the vouchers weren't in line with previous years so the staff had a fair idea something was amiss.

Not sure what happened in the end but he did go to the department store to follow up with it. Someone at the store had a good Christmas with the balances anyway.

If ever buying one as a present, it might be best to do a balance check at another till or the following day etc.

Champagne Sally

afatbollix wrote: »

Here's a story about my own wedding, Went fine, Kept speeches short, Fed them quickly with good food, and kept some cash behind the bar for a bit.

A friend of mine had a new wife of his own, A Brazilian who he quickly married after her visa ran out.

For years after everyone asks how is the girl in the red dress? His wife was the one in the red dress.

She was pissed from about 1pm, Seen more of her arse than I did of her face as she was falling all over the place. Thankfully she was wearing boxers kind of underwear.

Anyway, at about 9pm my father-in-law was in the gents, and in she roars, 'I'm coming in' Can't be arsed going up to the ladies as it was upstairs.

Pulls down the shorts and reverses up to the urinal and let's rip.


Their marriage lasted about 6 more months, We're still going and people still bring up about the girl in the red dress.

I genuinely thought we were going to have a "The Crying Game" moment in that story

razorblunt

My Dad tells one about a friend of his getting married back in the 80s. One of those weddings where the father of the bride paid for everything. This made yer man very nervous and also incredibly reluctant as he knew it would hang over him but himself and his (now) wife agreed to just let it be done and move on.
It came to the wedding day and all was going well, except one of the group of friends was missing, they thought maybe he was late to the church or something but then he definitely wasn't there at the wedding.
The Groom came round later and asked "where's Tom?", he was told they hadn't seen him all day, rang his house eventually to check in and he was out but left it go.

Turned out the father in law had gone through the invite envelopes and dropped 20-25 invites into the bin. These only impacted the other family side of course. The friend never mentioned he didnt get invited as it would be awkward and the couple were mortified, especially as they had to go round to each apologising. Things were ok between then particularly as over the years this kind of shíthawking became more and more prevelant but there would have been some of those that wouldn't have believed it happened.

razorblunt

cml387 wrote: »

Someone I know handed in their passports and tickets for the honeymoon they were departing for, the Sunday after their wedding.

So they arrive down on Sunday morning (flying out that day) to be told by an aashen faced recepeptionist that the safe was on a timelock and couldn't be opened until Monday. The hotel had to sort them out with another honeymoon.

Imagine!

GingerLily

razorblunt wrote: »

My Dad tells one about a friend of his getting married back in the 80s. One of those weddings where the father of the bride paid for everything. This made yer man very nervous and also incredibly reluctant as he knew it would hang over him but himself and his (now) wife agreed to just let it be done and move on.
It came to the wedding day and all was going well, except one of the group of friends was missing, they thought maybe he was late to the church or something but then he definitely wasn't there at the wedding.
The Groom came round later and asked "where's Tom?", he was told they hadn't seen him all day, rang his house eventually to check in and he was out but left it go.

Turned out the father in law had gone through the invite envelopes and dropped 20-25 invites into the bin. These only impacted the other family side of course. The friend never mentioned he didnt get invited as it would be awkward and the couple were mortified, especially as they had to go round to each apologising. Things were ok between then particularly as over the years this kind of shíthawking became more and more prevelant but there would have been some of those that wouldn't have believed it happened.

That's shocking, I actually found out through texting guests who didn't RSVP that some didn't get our invitations (we sent e-invites).

Really recommend to anyone getting married to following up on RSVPs to make sure there's not been any issues with invites!!

NewbridgeIR

GingerLily wrote: »

That's shocking, I actually found out through texting guests who didn't RSVP that some didn't get our invitations (we sent e-invites).

Really recommend to anyone getting married to following up on RSVPs to make sure there's not been any issues with invites!!

I know someone who sent all their invitations by registered post which also included a stamp-addressed envelope for the reply card. I was one of the guests.

Anyone who didn’t reply by the specified date got a reminder invitation in the post, also sent registered.

It was a good wedding. Four choices of main course, bar was free for the entire duration and the bride’s parents insisted on paying the accommodation bill for every guest.

GingerLily

NewbridgeIR wrote: »

I know someone who sent all their invitations by registered post which also included a stamp-addressed envelope for the reply card. I was one of the guests.

Anyone who didn’t reply by the specified date got a reminder invitation in the post, also sent registered.

It was a good wedding. Four choices of main course, bar was free for the entire duration and the bride’s parents insisted on paying the accommodation bill for every guest.

I guess when money is no limitation you can do these kinds of things

corner of hells

afatbollix wrote: »

Here's a story about my own wedding, Went fine, Kept speeches short, Fed them quickly with good food, and kept some cash behind the bar for a bit.

A friend of mine had a new wife of his own, A Brazilian who he quickly married after her visa ran out.

For years after everyone asks how is the girl in the red dress? His wife was the one in the red dress.

She was pissed from about 1pm, Seen more of her arse than I did of her face as she was falling all over the place. Thankfully she was wearing boxers kind of underwear.

Anyway, at about 9pm my father-in-law was in the gents, and in she roars, 'I'm coming in' Can't be arsed going up to the ladies as it was upstairs.

Pulls down the shorts and reverses up to the urinal and let's rip.


Their marriage lasted about 6 more months, We're still going and people still bring up about the girl in the red dress.

Its possible i know who that it is , i worked with a bloke who married his Brazilian girlfriend with marriage lasting roughly six months, he wouldn't go into a lot of detail but spoke about a bad day at a wedding.
She stalked him for months after the separated, waiting outside where we worked, outside where he lived and following him anywhere he went.

HildaOgdenx

GingerLily wrote: »

That's shocking, I actually found out through texting guests who didn't RSVP that some didn't get our invitations (we sent e-invites).

Really recommend to anyone getting married to following up on RSVPs to make sure there's not been any issues with invites!!

This reminds me of a situation that happened in a company I worked in, some years ago. A colleague was getting married, and one day everyone was thanking her for the invitations, and enthusing about them.

Except me, because I didn't get one. I wasn't that bothered tbh. Entirely up to her who she wanted to invite. Someone else must have told her, because she came to tell me I was definitely invited. Anyway, that evening, the person in the downstairs flat dropped it up. It had been delivered to them by mistake.

Grand wedding, again there was crying, copious weeping by one of the sisters in law, but it was late at night, she probably just had too much to drink, and most people didn't notice.

I know of another situation where someone asked everyone in a particular group of friends, except one person. The bride said to that person when every else had received their invitation, 'oh sure you can come along anyway'... she didn't.

I think that's what my granny would have called a piper's invitation. I'm not sure of the origin of the phrase, but she used to say it in the context of a non invitation, 'you might as well come along' kind of thing.

PhilOssophy

I've often wondered about the e-invites. I've got a couple of them and never attended. Just rejected. Luckily, both have been from tenuous links.
In the grand scheme of things, if you are inviting 200 people, that will cost you maybe 150 euro in invites/postage.
To me, e-invite screams "we couldn't be bothered going to the effort of writing out invites, we'll just fill in your email address" (and hope it doesn't end up in your junk folder!).
I have heard of people sending out paper invites to aunts/uncles/family and e-invites to the rest of the "riff-raff".

dotsman

PhilOssophy wrote: »

I've often wondered about the e-invites. I've got a couple of them and never attended. Just rejected. Luckily, both have been from tenuous links.
In the grand scheme of things, if you are inviting 200 people, that will cost you maybe 150 euro in invites/postage.
To me, e-invite screams "we couldn't be bothered going to the effort of writing out invites, we'll just fill in your email address" (and hope it doesn't end up in your junk folder!).
I have heard of people sending out paper invites to aunts/uncles/family and e-invites to the rest of the "riff-raff".

Is it not more to do with older relations maybe not being au fait with emails etc? And that younger generations are more likely to know their friends' email addresses but not their postal addresses?

PhilOssophy

dotsman wrote: »

Is it not more to do with older relations maybe not being au fait with emails etc? And that younger generations are more likely to know their friends' email addresses but not their postal addresses?

Honestly, I don't think I could tell you 5 of my friends e-mail addresses any more. 10-15 years ago I would have but now I'd be asking "Are you still using that old hotmail e-mail address".

I just found the whole thing to be extremely classless but maybe that is just me (although from talking to friends, I know it wasn't!)

robindch

cena wrote: »

Has anyone here ruined a wedding or been to a wedding that was ruined? Let us say, someone has stood up during the mass service and said that this person should not marry him or she.

Was at one wedding abroad where the Irish mother of the Irish groom had insulted her son during the wedding photos at the church door, then stomped over to the mother of the bride to have the following exchange:

Bride's ma: Mary, do you think that for today, we could bury the hatchet?
Groom's ma: No! (while stamping her right foot on the ground)
Bride's ma: Oh Mary, that's so sad.

At this, I went over to the best man, a similarly strapping lad of some six feet/100kg and explained what had happened, a brief conversation ensued between the two of us, then we spotted the diminutive Irish ma a few yards away, then:

Best man: Mary, any chance we could have a quick chat with you?
Groom's ma: Yeah (walks over to us, and we invite her just around the corner of the church a few yards away).
Best man: Robindch and myself heard and saw what you said just there to the bride's ma. That's beyond out of order. One more comment like that from you and the two of us will physically remove you from this wedding, return you to the hotel and confine you to your bedroom, by force if necessary. Do we have your unconditional agreement that you will remain civil to everybody until you return home to Ireland?
Groom's ma: Uh, yes (mouse voice, face white).
Best man: Thank you.

And, you know what, she was absolutely fine for the rest of the trip.

Padraig Mor

cml387 wrote: »

Someone I know handed in their passports and tickets for the honeymoon they were departing for, the Sunday after their wedding.

So they arrive down on Sunday morning (flying out that day) to be told by an aashen faced recepeptionist that the safe was on a timelock and couldn't be opened until Monday. The hotel had to sort them out with another honeymoon.

Something similar here with my sister in law. Wedding was fine. Few days later herself and new husband were all packed and ready to fly to the Caribbean early the next morning......and then I got a phone call from him. They'd mixed up their days and had actually been meant to fly that morning, not the next one and had, of course, missed their flight - which meant their return flight was then cancelled. They got there in the end a few days later, but the wedding present money took a battering!

tayto lover

Louis Friend wrote: »

My brother works insanely hard and his boss earns a lot of money. Anyways, the boss, who attended the wedding, gave him a card with a gift in it. When my brother and his wife opened the card, there was a €50 voucher in it.

They thought it was a bit mean, but thought nothing of it. But then the boss apologised for not getting them a gift but said he wouldn’t have a notion what to get, hence the voucher. He then said he wanted them to get something special with the voucher.

Fair play to my brother, as he smelled something off about it and said “X, there was €50 in the card...”.

Yer man went white. It turned out he’d gone to buy the voucher(s), one for €500 for my brother and one for €50 for his niece who’d passed her driving test. And he’d mixed them up! And he thought it was weird when the niece called over to his house to thank him for the gift! Fair play to the guy, he presented my brother with a voucher for €450 shortly after.

I thought Delboy was at the wedding when I read that.

tea and coffee

Padraig Mor wrote: »

Something similar here with my sister in law. Wedding was fine. Few days later herself and new husband were all packed and ready to fly to the Caribbean early the next morning......and then I got a phone call from him. They'd mixed up their days and had actually been meant to fly that morning, not the next one and had, of course, missed their flight - which meant their return flight was then cancelled. They got there in the end a few days later, but the wedding present money took a battering!

Reminds me of our honeymoon. Morning of and I couldn't find my passport. I had put it "in a safe place " . Ripped the house apart looking for it. Gave up, drove like the clappers to Department of Foreign affairs to get an emergency one, back when that was a thing.
Missed our flight by mere minutes. They took pity on us and sent us via Paris on the next flight to Milan.
Flew to Paris and waited around . Got on a really crappy Alitalia plane. About 20 mins into the flight, the captain came on to say we had to go back. People were crying and praying. We arrived back in Paris with fire engines alongside.
Waited many many more hours. Finally arrived in Milan and the car hire place was long shut. Had to taxi it at midnight to the hotel.
Not the best start, but mainly self inflicted. Rest of it was lovely

Bogwoppit

tea and coffee wrote: »

Reminds me of our honeymoon. Morning of and I couldn't find my passport. I had put it "in a safe place " . Ripped the house apart looking for it. Gave up, drove like the clappers to Department of Foreign affairs to get an emergency one, back when that was a thing.
Missed our flight by mere minutes. They took pity on us and sent us via Paris on the next flight to Milan.
Flew to Paris and waited around . Got on a really crappy Alitalia plane. About 20 mins into the flight, the captain came on to say we had to go back. People were crying and praying. We arrived back in Paris with fire engines alongside.
Waited many many more hours. Finally arrived in Milan and the car hire place was long shut. Had to taxi it at midnight to the hotel.
Not the best start, but mainly self inflicted. Rest of it was lovely

Did you find the passport after?

NewbridgeIR

GingerLily wrote: »

I guess when money is no limitation you can do these kinds of things

Yes, very well off family but always generous and down to earth.

tea and coffee

Bogwoppit wrote: »

Did you find the passport after?

Yes I did. And here is the weird part. It was where I had left it!

chooseusername

tea and coffee wrote: »

Yes I did. And here is the weird part. It was where I had left it!

It's always in the last place you look for it.

hopgirl

Was at one wedding everything was going great noticed the brides father a bit drunk before the meal. Later the bell rang for dinner and we all headed to the function room. I thinking gees they are taking their time to call in the bride and groom. I could see the groom parents sitting at the top table but not the brides parents. Turned out that they were looking for the brides father as he had disappeared and wasn't in his room either. Eventually they found him sleeping in another guest room. Her father would be fond of the drink and promised his daughter he wouldn't get drunk.
At another wedding the groom was drunk during mass. Afterwards they went to get photos taking the photographer had a tough time trying to get some good photos as they were a bit over the place. Got to the reception but they were nearly holding him up. He lasted until the starter and then was put to bed. Wasn't even there for the speeches or the first dance. Him and his friends were drinking the night before the wedding and in the morning.