Ruining a wedding

woodchuck

BrianBoru00 wrote: »

Yes YOU will get married once but the attendees will have a hundred or more weddings.
For bog standard matches the amount of people looking to watch it while attending a wedding will be in single digits but if you have a wedding fixed for the first Sunday of October in Westport and Mayo were facing into a replay or Ireland England Grand Slam decider on the same time it makes sense to make arrangements timing wise- the match is going to be on in the majority of hotels anyway so guests can view it in the bar.

Luckily I'm not getting married in a hotel venue

I've been planning my wedding for nearly 2 years, postponed 3 times due to the pandemic, and paying a 5 figure sum. So you'll have to excuse me if I'd prefer not to have a match on in the background when the day finally comes around!

freshpopcorn

Neyite wrote: »

I was a +1 for a massive wedding during the 94' world cup on the day Ireland were playing Italy. Every tv in the country hotel had that match playing. Kick off was at 9pm or for that, but there were two other matches that day also.


Absolute disaster and it could have actually been an epic wedding had she just decided to go with the flow and screened the match.

I didn't want to quote your whole post.

I'm fairly sure I read a post on here sometime and there was a big match on at the time and the couple got the hotel to turn off all the TV's in the hotel so people couldn't watch the match.

Couple thought they were great.

nialler1978

woodchuck wrote: »

Luckily I'm not getting married in a hotel venue

I've been planning my wedding for nearly 2 years, postponed 3 times due to the pandemic, and paying a 5 figure sum. So you'll have to excuse me if I'd prefer not to have a match on in the background when the day finally comes around!

Unless it’s Xmas day, there’ll be some match on where some guests are more interested in than your special day. It’ll be on in the background in some way shape or form. Sorry to disappoint. As a wedding attendee veteran I am absolutely delighted it’s over, every invite was like getting sent a bill, and the ones that tried to cut corners with costs were horrendous yet had bride and groom shouting from the rooftops about how little they spent.

Sorry, best of luck.

Sultan of Bling

woodchuck wrote:

Luckily I'm not getting married in a hotel venue

woodchuck wrote:

I've been planning my wedding for nearly 2 years, postponed 3 times due to the pandemic, and paying a 5 figure sum. So you'll have to excuse me if I'd prefer not to have a match on in the background when the day finally comes around!

As is your choice.

The only problem is if there is a big match on, people are very resourceful if they want to see it. They will have made plans in advance if they know it's not going to be shown at the wedding.

Larbre34

woodchuck wrote: »

Luckily I'm not getting married in a hotel venue

I've been planning my wedding for nearly 2 years, postponed 3 times due to the pandemic, and paying a 5 figure sum. So you'll have to excuse me if I'd prefer not to have a match on in the background when the day finally comes around!

Won't be your decision really.

Look out for a lot of face glow from the dining tables during the speeches.

jester77

Sultan of Bling wrote: »

As is your choice.

The only problem is if there is a big match on, people are very resourceful if they want to see it. They will have made plans in advance if they know it's not going to be shown at the wedding.

Yip, seen it before. Big groups taking a detour from the church to somewhere showing it and staying there until it's over, even missing some part of the meal.

chooseusername

woodchuck wrote: »

Luckily I'm not getting married in a hotel venue

I've been planning my wedding for nearly 2 years, postponed 3 times due to the pandemic, and paying a 5 figure sum. So you'll have to excuse me if I'd prefer not to have a match on in the background when the day finally comes around!

Would part of that 2 year planning involve arranging with RTE or SKY sports
not showing a match on your special day?
Believe me , if you tell the venue not to show a match, a way will be found!
Like an earlier poster, I was at a wedding where a match was factored into
the schedule , everyone was made aware that the break between the church
and the reception would cover the second half .
Great crack and it helped that Tipp won.
The worst thing is lads looking at a match on their phones under the table
and paying no attention to the goings-on, as Larbre said .

partyguinness

Pawwed Rig wrote: »

My wedding was a Monday night in July

I've been to a Monday wedding but it was very very small. I've been to bigger funerals. Civil ceremony, cold buffet/finger food. Couple together years with kids and didnt have to two cents to rub together. It was ****e TBH barely passed as a wedding.

Having a 'traditional' Irish wedding in a big hotel on a Monday night is not usual. I bet you will be very hard pressed to find many people here who have been to a Monday evening outside school term.

Plus at least in July it school holiday.

partyguinness

nialler1978 wrote: »

We played those cun...oops, I mean team twice in 1990, casco equaliser late on. Was that on the weekend?

No. Defo not the weekend. That qualifier was mid week as I missed most of it due to school-caught the last 10 minutes.

Beatty69

Jesus, the joy is really getting dragged out of this thread.

partyguinness

I have seen guests at weddings taking a sudden massive interest in some random game on the TV that I know full well they would not watch any other day of the week.

Let's be honest here. The traditional big Irish weddings are an effing dose and a half. Outside of the family and maybe a few close friends nobody really gives a crap about the speeches or wants to hear some BS stories that all of 2 people out of 200 will understand.

No wonder lads became terribly interested in Carlow v Laois in the first round of the Leinster Championship. It's just an excuse to get out of the torture of usual mundane toasting and too much food. Safety in numbers.

Please can we go back to funny wedding stories?

ckeego

partyguinness wrote: »

I have seen guests at weddings taking a sudden massive interest in some random game on the TV that I know full well they would not watch any other day of the week.

Let's be honest here. The traditional big Irish weddings are an effing dose and a half. Outside of the family and maybe a few close friends nobody really gives a crap about the speeches or wants to hear some BS stories that all of 2 people out of 200 will understand.

No wonder lads became terribly interested in Carlow v Laois in the first round of the Leinster Championship. It's just an excuse to get out of the torture of usual mundane toasting and too much food. Safety in numbers.

I’d say you’re some craic..

I would have had you as entertainment for our big day but you must have been booked out months before

spacetweek

My elderly father in law told me that he got some work done building a house on his wedding day. He worked a few hours in the morning until about 11 then got down off a roof and got changed and headed off to the church. This was in the 1960s.

PhilOssophy

Beatty69 wrote: »

Jesus, the joy is really getting dragged out of this thread.

I think its got infiltrated by the "I hate weddings and will ruin this thread as well as weddings with my misery" brigade. Just like every other thread on weddings. Here's an idea - ignore the thread and decline the wedding invite.

Maybe the stories are done and its time to unfollow.

partyguinness

ckeego wrote: »

I’d say you’re some craic..

I would have had you as entertainment for our big day but you must have been booked out months before

If you like Jack Dee...you are in luck..:D

Right, point taken. I'll leave ye alone.

Cilldara_2000

All TVs turned off will mean a pile of guests watching on devices or out in the carpark listening to the radio. The latter happened at a wedding I was at, in Kildare with a lot of GAA heads - half the guests, and the groom and the father of the bride, outside to listen on car radios. This was before smart devices, the match wasn't televised anyway, it was a big championship match back when Kildare were good, and we'd all have been at the match were we not at the wedding, so YMMV. In fact my mileage would vary now - I doubt that many of us who were outside that day would bother doing anything other checking the score periodically were the same scenario to arise now.

hopgirl

BrianBoru00 wrote: »

Can't understand people not making adjustments for guests to watch big sporting events.

I found most brides and grooms are very good at adjusting their plans by coming in early into the function room and having screens up for their guests to watch the match. Worked for one wedding where the bride and groom had no interest in GAA but their bridal party and guests were GAA mad and it was a replay. They even had their speeches at half time and finish them afterwards. Even put on Jerseys that their bridal party brought for them.
For another replay I don't understand is why they delay their guests coming into the function room. They requested no screens in function room that it be watched in the lobby. Just say by the time they came in they were drunk and drowning their sorrows not interested in their food as the team lost 🙁.

Turfcutter

If Frank Lampard and David Beckham were to post here and recount all the different mortgages they had to pay off for people and still didn't get the date they want. Would that count as a ruined wedding story?

Frynge

Sorry to keep on the football match theme and although not a wedding I felt I should share it.

I'm not a sports fan really and wouldn't know who is even in the champions league but a long time ago when Liverpool cam back from 3-0 in what i think was the champions league final i was at a production of Hamlet during the game and every time there was a score someone in the audience announced it.

Made for a better production.

chooseusername

Frynge wrote: »

Sorry to keep on the football match theme and although not a wedding I felt I should share it.

I'm not a sports fan really and wouldn't know who is even in the champions league but a long time ago when Liverpool cam back from 3-0 in what i think was the champions league final i was at a production of Hamlet during the game and every time there was a score someone in the audience announced it.

Made for a better production.

Would have been good if the actors got involved,
as they came back from 3-0 down to win on penalties.
"TWO three it is TWO three. That is the score .
Whether 'tis nobler...........

Boscoirl

Along the match theme

We were at friends wedding the same day as the second Lions test in 2009. The couple that were getting married were big into Rugby so the date was surprising. The match kicked off during the ceremony. So there was a few of us down the back trying to watch it on someone’s phone. Crazy new technology at the time. At one stage the stream froze. So he had to refresh it. But when it came back the volume came back in it with it. Cue a lot of people looking back at us and the priest giving dirty looks. The couple did know what it was but thought it was hilarious afterwards


I guy used to work with, he didn’t drink at his wedding as he had a hurling match the next day. He had a 2-3hr drive the next morning to the game as the wedding was down in the brides neck of the woods.

Porklife

The thread is about ruining a wedding, not people huddled around a phone watching rugby and the couple finding it hilarious 🙄

No more irrelevant sports stories.

Can we get back on track with funny stories about the happiest day of people's lives being ruined please?:p

PhilOssophy

Actually my sister was at a wedding where a whole table of people left after the starters because they had to go hurling TRAINING. Couple of tables, the lads got up, and they all went training. Came back later that night. This club would love to perceive themselves as being superior and would do it just to show off how dedicated they were.
Didn't ruin the wedding at all but I think the general perception was "you sad bastds". I think the WAGS were anything but impressed as they sat their at half-full tables.

Ande1975

I was 23 when I was a bridesmaid for the first time - to my now ex sister in law and brother who got married in the US. She was American.
My other older brother was the Best Man obviously.

He (the best man) warned me the night before not to look at him during the ceremony as (since neither of us could take anything seriously) - we knew we'd get into a state and there is nothing worse than not being able to laugh when you want to laugh)

It was started as a simple gesture, the priest tried to reach the groom's head and couldn't reach it and nearly fell off the step. I could see my bothers lip quivering on the altar and that set me off and like a yawn, it made him worse and infected my sister (also a BM). The glare we got from the groom just made it worse. The tension was cruel - not being able to laugh out loud.

I got a painful jab in the side from my mother which calmed me down a bit. My father of course LOVED it and asked what were we laughing at.

Years later my sister got married and I was her BM. The groom and his wife travelled home for it. My brother almost 15 years into his own marriage at this stage and miserable - proceeded to get sh/t faced at the reception. My sister's in laws also Yanks - gave a particularly long speech. My sister, the bride turned to me at the top table, did an eye roll and said would they ever shut up. Then we spotted our older brother making hanging gestures, shooting gestures, eye rolls, you name it. My sis asked me, is he really doing that, cue again we got a fit of the giggles. The glare we got from our mother was priceless - nodding her head as if to say 'what did I rear?' We pretended we were shedding tears at the lovely speech the groom's parents gave.

The two from the first are in the process of separating, the other two are blissful. You got to have a sense of humour about this.

Neyite

Was at one where the priest started off by welcoming everyone to the Requiem Mass.

Kinda apt as the marriage died a quick death not long after.

zetecescort

My grandmother used to make wedding cakes for friends and heighbours. She can list off 8 or 10 marriges that didn't last and she gets slagged that her cakes were cursed

ED E

Armed gardai are a great way to ruin the big day.

silliussoddius

Frynge wrote: »

Sorry to keep on the football match theme and although not a wedding I felt I should share it.

I'm not a sports fan really and wouldn't know who is even in the champions league but a long time ago when Liverpool cam back from 3-0 in what i think was the champions league final i was at a production of Hamlet during the game and every time there was a score someone in the audience announced it.

Made for a better production.

Alas, dear Frynge.

ontour2

From behind the bar...

Grooms brother was on his first trip home from Australia in 2 years and was best man. Was having great craic and a skinfull of pints. He decided to try his luck with one of the bridesmaids, as is expected in his role as best man. We know this as he announced it to us at the bar before heading out to the dance floor. Whether it was the beer, the confusing multi-colour dresses or the disco lights, he actually made a beeline for the mother of the bride. Now she was separated from the father of the bride so no foul there.

Roll on an hour or so later and the mother of the bride and the best man have disappeared upstairs to a bedroom, thankfully not the honeymoom suite!

In their ultimate lack of wisdom, another guest made a wise crack to the bride about her new brother-in-law becoming her step father. Bride looses the plot, starts crying and telling the groom to sort it out. Groom was a quiet lad who had no interest in walking in on either his mother in law or his brother. Bride demanded the master key for the bedroom from us but we politely declined. Groom came up to get a round of drinks for the few in the residents bar that had witnessed bridezilla. We didn't charge him for the round. The next hours were two groups in the residents bar, one was the groom with his work colleagues and the other was a group of women trying to calm the bride and not been sure whether more drink or sobering her up was the way to go.

Blitzkrieger

Toots wrote: »

Yeah I got the impression that it wasn't a group of random +1s but I suppose depending on how many guests they had overall, if there were 10 people missing from their seats it might be obvious just by looking. If they were all supposed to be at the same table it would be super obvious if most of a table was missing.

This happened a few weeks before my own wedding, and I mentioned it to the wedding coordinator at the hotel who told me they deliberately don't put big matches on the TV in the bar if there's a wedding, to avoid stragglers coming for dinner.

Missing the meal/speeches is perhaps a bit disrespectful, but if there's a big match on I don't see the harm in screening it - it's like two hours max out of the whole day.

Not a wedding but we had a VP giving out to us at a company BBQ one year for watching a match. It was early in the day, there was sod all people there yet, and while watching we were chatting with people from other departments we didn't see much, and a handful of people we'd never spoken to before. Isn't socialising the whole point of the day?

DublinWriter

Listen from 20:40, but not while driving.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6S6gOX-ktk4&t=1246s

Cork Lass

DublinWriter wrote: »

Listen from 20:40, but not while driving.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6S6gOX-ktk4&t=1246s

Absolutely hilarious :pac:

Beatty69

I was at a wedding maybe 15 years ago of a friend from college. 6 of us (all girls) had been invited but not our partners which was fine, cause the venue only catered for 100 we understood.

Great wedding, very intimate, beautiful food etc. However, father of the bride proceeded to ask each one of us to dance which was nice you would think. No, full on tried to grope and snog every single one of us!! And the dance floor was tiny! The mortification of trying to laugh it off but knowing it was probably really awful for the bride.

Now, he was separated from the mother of the bride but the fact that he was at least 25 years older than all of us and tried it with so many was awful.

Doublebusy

Would you say this ruined the big day
https://youtu.be/SaPiVFhCbSg

SCOOP 64

Doublebusy wrote: »

Would you say this ruined the big day
https://youtu.be/SaPiVFhCbSg

looks like it was going too roll over, did she put the seatbelt on?

Doublebusy

No seatbelt and a hospital visit
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/bride-rushed-hospital-wedding-day-20433666.amp

ckeego

partyguinness wrote: »

If you like Jack Dee...you are in luck..:D

Right, point taken. I'll leave ye alone.

In fairness, I love Jack D😂

spacetweek

ontour2 wrote: »

In their ultimate lack of wisdom, another guest made a wise crack to the bride about her new brother-in-law becoming her step father. Bride looses the plot, starts crying and telling the groom to sort it out. Groom was a quiet lad who had no interest in walking in on either his mother in law or his brother. Bride demanded the master key for the bedroom from us but we politely declined. Groom came up to get a round of drinks for the few in the residents bar that had witnessed bridezilla. We didn't charge him for the round. The next hours were two groups in the residents bar, one was the groom with his work colleagues and the other was a group of women trying to calm the bride and not been sure whether more drink or sobering her up was the way to go.

Am I the only one that thinks the bride needs to lighten up a bit? Her ma is single ffs. What's the big deal?

Princess Calla

spacetweek wrote: »

Am I the only one that thinks the bride needs to lighten up a bit? Her ma is single ffs. What's the big deal?

Yeah I'd have no problem with my mother having a one night stand with my brother in law. Especially as it was carried out so discretely.

Future family events will be so much fun.

Have you never heard of the expression don't sh1t on your doorstep?

Leg End Reject

spacetweek wrote: »

Am I the only one that thinks the bride needs to lighten up a bit? Her ma is single ffs. What's the big deal?

I think most people would rather their mother didn't openly ride a man young enough to be her son, especially at their wedding.

A little bit of discretion and respect for her daughter isn't too much to expect.

Pawwed Rig

Leg End Reject wrote: »

I think most people would rather their mother didn't openly ride a man young enough to be her son, especially at their wedding.

A little bit of discretion and respect for her daughter isn't too much to expect.

It was a good story for this thread to be fair :pac:

Leg End Reject

Pawwed Rig wrote: »

It was a good story for this thread to be fair :pac:

Yep, bet it's the only thing guests remember is that the bride's mother is a goer!

spacetweek

spacetweek wrote: »

Am I the only one that thinks the bride needs to lighten up a bit? Her ma is single ffs. What's the big deal?

Absolutely. Great story, but this has me scratching my head.

You know that episode of Friends where Monica Gellar throws a fit because her friend kissed her brother on her engagement night because it was 'her (Monica's) night'? Well that caused me to demote Monica from my third-favourite character to a lowly fifth. Her and Chandler could get lost, after that. I'm still mad about it tbh.

Same here. It's a party, let the people enjoy themselves.

ontour2

Leg End Reject wrote: »

I think most people would rather their mother didn't openly ride a man young enough to be her son, especially at their wedding.

A little bit of discretion and respect for her daughter isn't too much to expect.

The funny part of that one was that two days later the mother of the bride and the best man came back to the hotel, checked in for two nights and ordered a bottle of champagne to the room.
It took every ounce of professionalism to keep a straight face while delivering that order.
You would think they would have ventured to somewhere they were not known but obviously they felt that the hotel may have been a key ingredient!

PhilOssophy

Leg End Reject wrote: »

I think most people would rather their mother didn't openly ride a man young enough to be her son, especially at their wedding.

A little bit of discretion and respect for her daughter isn't too much to expect.

Especially her new brother in law!!!

Princess Calla

ontour2 wrote: »

The funny part of that one was that two days later the mother of the bride and the best man came back to the hotel, checked in for two nights and ordered a bottle of champagne to the room.
It took every ounce of professionalism to keep a straight face while delivering that order.
You would think they would have ventured to somewhere they were not known but obviously they felt that the hotel may have been a key ingredient!

Out of curiosity what ages are we talking about?

A young MOB and older BM or are we in complete cougar territory

ontour2

Princess Calla wrote: »

Out of curiosity what ages are we talking about?

A young MOB and older BM or are we in complete cougar territory

I had to google to check the rules on 'Cougar territory'

the woman is usually 35 years or older with the man more than eight years her junior

MOB - late 40s, BM - early twenties, so looks like it clearly qualifies.

In his defense, in a choice between the bridesmaids and the MOB, he did pick the best available option...

Trigger Happy

DublinWriter wrote: »

Listen from 20:40, but not while driving.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6S6gOX-ktk4&t=1246s

That's only brilliant...made my day!

Neyite

Leg End Reject wrote: »

Yep, bet it's the only thing guests remember is that the bride's mother is a goer!

The bride creating a massive scene like she did only ensured that the whole crowd knew rather than just a select few.