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Husband stopped initiating

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  • #102
    mariaalice
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,630 ✭✭✭✭mariaalice


    What did the OP think was going to happen after week in week out for 10 years rejecting someone? it seems really strange that someone would not understand the effect that would have on their marriage the lack of insight into what was happening is very odd it comes across as very self-absorbed or something.

    It would be different if the OP has talked to her husband and acknowledged how important it was to her husband and tried to work on it as an issue, instead of brushing him off and hoping it would go away or something.



  • #103
    mariaalice
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,630 ✭✭✭✭mariaalice


    Sex is complicated and the op is not obliged to have sex everytime he asks but to not understand the effect it would have on the relationship seems to be a bigger factor. It's probably human nature to hope a problem will go away but real life is notike that.



  • #104
    jrosen
    Registered Users Posts: 1,629 ✭✭✭jrosen


    Where you always mismatched sexually? I dont think him trying to initiate sex a couple of times a week was excessive. In fact I would have thought it the norm. But 10 years of him trying and you knocking him back cant have been easy to take. Are you affectionate in other ways? Sex and intimacy is an important part of any relationship.

    It sounds like you can take or leave sex, have you always been that way?



  • #105
    99nsr125
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,202 ✭✭✭99nsr125


    https://boards.ie/discussion/comment/117626711#Comment_117626711

    Sex is part of intimacy it's the line that defines a relationship. Persistent rejection of it is simply persistent rejection of the relationship. In effect the op has insulted and her husband for 10 years, it may take a further 10 years of her making amends to rebuild the relationship.



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