Married but stag party wants a strip club

Suppose it'll depend on the strip club but in my experience of being the miserable bastard of the group means having ridiculously hot 20 years old rubbing on me no matter how many times I told them I was just waiting for my friends.

twowheelsonly

No idea obviously where or how long this stag is on for but the strip club bit is probably going to be an hour or so out of the whole thing.

My advice would be to go along with it, have a pint at the bar, move on to the next place. Groups don't tend to stay too long in these places anyway.

Tell your wife in advance, I guarantee you she won't be too surprised.

Don't make an issue of voicing your 'objection' to others on the stag. Maybe something like "That's not my scene at all but sure I'll go along and have a pint anyway". No-one will bother you then.

Basically a strip bar is a regular bar / nightclub with an option of strippers or lap dancers. Choice is yours, same as you can choose to drink pints, whisky, wine or water. It's just a bit of a laugh on a weekend full of laughs so if you treat it as such you'll be happy enough in yourself.

TP_CM

Yeah I think you're right. I don't know why I thought stag parties spent like 4 or 5 hours there. And I thought on entry there was just naked women everywhere. I forgot there were private dances and things.

I'll probably go along and just have a pint at the bar unless the stag party divides and others go elsewhere. It's the last of this in my life i think. My other 'closer' friends and their close friends wouldn't be into this sort of thing. I'd say they'd rather do completely different stuff. The difference here is that I'm friends with someone who has a huge network of people I've barely met before. He's either with me or with them.

I'd say my wife would be fine about it if I mention it but I'd rather know for sure it's happening before bringing it up.

Isn't it weird it's a seedy, dominant, control sort of situation for lads, but for girls it's more a playful, joyous, bit of craic (and I use that word advisedly).

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118444239#Comment_118444239

Welcome back to the 19th century. TP, no reason to think girls don’t enjoy it too when on hen parties.

gifted

I was only going out with my g/f ( now mum to my 3 chicks) for a couple of months when I got invited to a stags weekend away in Birmingham. We all flew over on the Saturday morning, drinking all day, headed to a lap dancing club and I just stood at the bar supping me pint when I was approached by a woman and she started chatting to me. Yapping away and I was telling her about my gf back home in Ireland when she asks if I want a "dance" ...nah your grand says I....sure didn't I tell you about the girl I'm going out with back in ireland......she was looking at me as if I'd 2 heads....lol lol

Popped outside and phoned herself and told her the story.

She was pissing her sides laughing and said at least she can trust me.....

Go to the club and enjoy it....you're not going to do anything in there are you?

Donald Trump

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Thanks for the tip.

So I just pretend to be a miserable bastard and I'll get the top of the pick giving me freebies? 😉

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Didn't get any freebies and funny enough the first 5 got hotter and hotter then they started throwing some real hail Marys at me. 😂 It was pretty wearing for an hour constantly repeating "No thanks" and for the last 15 minutes having a couple of Eastern European chicks hanging out of me asking if I'm gay. 🤣

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You need a better group of friends if that's the case.

cj maxx

OP, as someone said its girls doing a job. Like the chippendales were for women years ago. I hate strip clubs myself, but in NY lads out from home used to want to go, for the novelty. They'll probably get you a private dance , which is the most excruciating uncomfortable experience I've ever had.

foxsake

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that last sentence is a bit much. they can't have been good friends to begin with

OP- just opt ou of the club bit , you be surprised you'll probably have a few other lads who don't want to go. I doubt you'll be alone.

or you could go , unless you are paying for dances the girls will ignore you- so it become a pint (albeit a bit pricey)

thefallingman

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a bit much for you perhaps, not for me and others in this thread.

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058226806/married-but-stag-party-wants-a-strip-club

Also married with kids, glad to be out of the whole singleton life and was never into 'lads' nights out. I also don't drink.

Look if you're uncomfortable, just skip it. No one worthy of the name 'friend' will mind one bit. I have friends going back to childhood and I never went to their stags at all, let alone a strip club. It's just not my scene and they were cool with it. Make an appearance at some point, or don't.

893bet

Interesting “holier than you” comments coming out.

Not holding people in the same regard. And how people need a “better” group of friends.

Fascinating recent social perspective really as stripping is not exactly “new”.

seamus

You don't really have to opt yourself out of it, you don't really have to do anything at all there tbh. I was at a stag about a decade ago where they all decided a strip club was the place to go at the end of the night. I'd never been before, had no real desire to go, but I was still enjoying the night so went along.

Very non-plussed about the whole thing. The younger married/attached lads like myself either took a couch or stood around, drinking ordinary beer at expensive prices (think it was €6/7 a bottle). It was a higher-class place, so didn't feel "seedy". At the end of the day it was a room with loud music and a bunch of suggestively-dressed attractive women wandering around. Aside from the one on the stage taking her clothes off, you might as well have just been in an ordinary nightclub.

As a married man with no intention of getting a lapdance from a stranger and who has seen plenty of nudity, it was basically just boring. Some of the older lads (50s+) went to a "private" area, I didn't ask any further questions.

For the OP, you won't miss anything if you don't go. There's a good chance the strip club will be the end of the night, so I'd definitely poke some of the other lads who aren't single and arrange with them to go somewhere else instead.

the whole year inn

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Go home, leave wife , abondon kids.

Happiness

I could fit all that on my grave stone

To the OP go if you want , or head for a pint by your self , don't have to explain anything to anyone. If no one joins you so what . If it at the end of the night then head home.

c.p.w.g.w

Been in 2 strip clubs in my youth(rugby tour & lads holiday)...felt very uneasy in them, just not comfortable at all

Sono

married with kids myself, I was brought to a strip club on my own stag by the lads, I didn’t ask to go but I went along with it. One of the lads paid for a stripper for me.

going on a stag in a couple of months and I know for a fact the lads on the trip will want to go to a strip club, I will most likely avoid it.