Relationships/Dating in 40s - what do women want

2lazytogetup

Can i ask what women are looking for in a relationship in their 40s. The online dating apps (and hate to generalise) have many women in their 30s that are looking to have kids. im assuming once 40s hit, there is less of an expectation that they will have kids. so whats the primary reason for them looking for men. is it action in the leaba, having someone to fix things around the house, someone to do things with.

mickdw

You should make this your first question on any date you go on. I'm sure they would appreciate your directness and your assumption that babies are out.

Xterminator

hi op.

it probably should be said women in their 40's are not a homogenous group with a hive mind. without meaning to be sarcastic, each and every one will have her own circumstances, and history.

What their motivations could be be - desire for intimacy and someone to share time with, physical needs, share costs of living, a partner can security for the future. they are just the ones that come to mind - nd I'm not a woman in your target audience.

2lazytogetup

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118544234#Comment_118544234

good idea. and i might ask any prospective how many times a week they will agree to do 'it' .

2lazytogetup

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118544235#Comment_118544235

thanks, i wanted to check if there isnt one blatantly obvious reason that i am not aware of. what you are saying sounds about right.

Mad_maxx

Most of the good catches are long taken at that stage

PHG

I’m struggling to see if this question is trolling or just along the lines of naivety, even stupidity! I’m a guy btw.

Maybe women in their 40s already have kids or didn’t want them. Can a woman not enjoy sex in her 40s? I dated a woman over 40 for years and can tell you she enjoyed it! Womens libido is at a it’s peak in late 30s and 40s, mens peak at 18ish, so you at 30 may be no match for a 45 year old woman. You can apply the same question to men in their 40s, no? Asking how many times will they agree to do it, is such childish question (guessing you are 15/16 years old with such a question?). Anyone at any age can have a varying degree of a sex life, it does not have to be defined by age.

If you are older than I asked and considering dating women in their 40s I would say your maturity is not there yet, and would include any women over 21 for that matter.

There are plenty of good catches in their 40s+ and plenty of bad catches less than 40. You have no idea of their circumstances and they yours, so sweeping generalisations or looking for them is not the way to go.

I'm around that age and currently single. I date women ranging from 30-40. I find older women are likely to want to move more slowly, in general. I guess at that age they're weary of men! Younger women still have a bit of hope in their eyes.

😂

Hannibal_Smith

Mod Note

@2lazytogetup, welcome to Personal Issues. The purpose of the forum is to help posters resolve an issue that is affecting them.

Given that (a) you seem to be looking for a discussion rather than advice (b) no one can advise you on what women in their 40s are looking for from a date and (c) gender generalisations are not permitted in this forum, I'm going to close the thread there.

Thanks

HS