School - Did You Enjoy or Despise It?

JupiterKid

As the thread title asks, did you enjoy or hate school? Were you a dosser, a swot, or in between? Did you find school dull and boring? Were you bullied or were you a bully to other kids at school?

Do you have any distinct, funny or downright strange memories of your time in school?

I myself enjoyed primary school - a local mixed national school in the Dublin suburb where I grew up - had lots of pals, was very good academically, a bit of a goody two shoes I must admit and a teacher’s pet (the geography teacher - geography was by far my best and favourite subject).

Secondary school - a private Jesuit-run boys school in inner city Dublin - was a very different affair. The first three years were basically hell - especially second year. I was relentlessly bullied by three other boys in second and third year which only ended after an incident that left me in hospital and my parents threatening to sue the school and bring it to the attention of the media. Teachers were excellent in terms of the academic standards but little help with addressing the bullying. It was a rugby school and I hated rugby and team sports. I did excel at swimming, athletics and was on the school tennis team. 

Then my mother died suddenly in my Transition (4th) year in late 1990 - subsequently I was pretty much living independently in the family home (both my older sisters had moved out and my dad worked 5 days a week up in Belfast and did the 100 mile commute every Friday/Sunday) from 15/16 until I did my Leaving Cert in which I did very well and got the points to get the university course I wanted - Geography via Science. 

Looking back, I really don’t know how I managed to get through those years living at home on my own five days a week with such responsibilities but I was determined to prove to everyone at the time that I could. I also had a couple of school mates in my last couple of years in secondary school which was a huge improvement in the bullying and social isolation of 2nd abd 3rd year and in those years I matured fast both physically and mentally. 

College was a complete joy - I let my hair down, literally and figuratively and I thrived there. I’m still very good friends with a couple of old college mates and keep in touch with many others. University was incredibly liberating for me - I went to Trinity College for my undergrad in the 1990s and I could be myself, was accepted by others for who I am and alongside the learning I had an awful lot of partying! Came out as gay in my final year of college and apart from a couple of people who distanced themselves, family and friends were very accepting.

So tell us about your school days... 👨‍🏫 🏫

thefallingman

hated it as a kid Jupiter, but now as a much older man I realise it was the best time of my life, not the work or exams or fights obviously but just that time, innocence and youth !

messrs

Primary school was fine. Bullied all through secondary school so not so nice

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

Nope, did nothing for me. I was academically bright and got good grades with minimal effort up until about the junior cert where I unplugged myself from the Matrix and stopped bothering.

megaten

Think Primary and secondary were fine. Not sure if I could say I enjoyed or hated it because I don't think I understood it in those terms. I just understood that it had to be done

College was terrible though, was poorly suited to my course and probably academia in general. Wasn't able to compartmentalise my course from the time in general so I suffered socially too. I should have quit in retrospect but I didn't have an alternate idea I could realistically present to the folks and wasn't courageous enough to just quit and deal with the consequences.

Ever since my youngest days, to me it was a workplace. “Mamy and Daddy go to work, Kids go to school.” This work from home business woudl have blown my mind.

Gregor Samsa

Pretty much enjoyed primary school, although it was during the 70s/80s where the Christian Brothers still had a huge influence, and violence from teachers was common. I was never the target of it personally, but some of the stuff that went on was criminal. It's more looking back on it that you realise how fcuked up it was. It just seemed normal at the time.

I liked secondary school until the inter cert. For some reason I hated it for the two years of the leaving cert, but I don't know why. I had plenty of friends, no trouble and did well. But for some reason I really detested it. I think I was bored. The school was very strict, but also educationally closed minded. I had a Physics/Chemistry (the combined subject) teacher who wouldn't let us do any experiments. But we had to pretend we'd done them by writing them up into our lab book, in case an inspector ever came. I went to the career guidance teacher one day just before filling out the CAO form, saying I wasn't sure whether I wanted to do science or art in college. I was doing 3 science subjects for the leaving, and while my school didn't do art, I took it on myself as an extra subject in the leaving, and loved it. His answer was "Science and art are incompatible. You should apply for business courses." I wasn't doing any business subjects at all for the LC, and had no interest in it.

Got accepted into Trinity to do science, which I was really looking forward to, but at the very last minute (like a week before I was due to start), I decided I'd like to give art a try. Did a portfolio preparation course in a PLC and loved every minute of it (I'm luck that my parents were very supportive of my change-of-mind and the non-refundable deposit they lost). That got me into NCAD the next year, which I also loved, specialising in Fine Art Painting. Except for the first 3 months of 3rd year, during which I suffered awful creative block - which isn't much fun when you're expected to be creative for your qualification. I managed to get over that by forcing myself to take a chance with the type of art that I was really into, rather than what the rest were doing, and it worked out. I really enjoyed 4th year. People knock "arts degrees", and Fine Art Painting is even worse than a regular Arts degree, but I found it absolutely amazing, and I learned so much about problem solving and creative thinking that has stood to me thought my career. It's one of the few formal undergraduate educations where you're not learning facts at all - you're having to formulate and create and research your own body of unique work.

Obviously unemployable with a Degree in Fine Art, I ended up doing a FAS course in web and multimedia design, which was amazing. I learned so much. I really loved that. Got working in that field, then the company closed down, so I took the opportunity to do a full-time Masters in digital media, which I also loved. That was 17 years ago, I'm a manager in a technology company now, and I haven't felt the desire to go back to any formal education since.

All in all I've been pretty lucky that I've been very happy in any school or college I've been to.

NiceFella

Looking back, primary school was mostly good craic and must say I learned far more useful stuff here than secondary. One of our teachers thought us chess in fifth class and devoted an hour each day to games between students. Another organised football matches between classes. It was great way to have play time with focus. The plays put together were good fun too.

Secondary was shite mostly, prepping for exams you had no interest in whatsoever. I was very passive to the whole experience, kept my head down and said nothing most the time. I have to say I think I liked some of the teachers more than the students. I was academic enough, but probably went to the wrong school. It was just survival really. I have no friends from it really.

BrianD3

Primary school: I was a swot and good at everything except PE. I wouldn't say I loved school but neither did I hate it. I wasn't bullied in primary school. Single sex school.

Secondary: started off like a continuation of primary but got more confusing and less enjoyable as time went on. I was still a swot and did very well in the LC but not well enough. There was bullying but it was never physical in my case. Mixed school. Bad teachers. I cut off contact with everyone from school when we finished as was unhappy at what went on.

College undergrad: A great time, I was fairly swotty and did very well in a difficult major, I also enjoyed it thoroughly, had friends and used to look forward to returning after the summer break and after being home for weekend.

So, secondary was definitely the worst for me as I'd say it is for most people. I'd still pick my secondary school life over my current life (mid 40s) though.

Donald Trump

Did I enjoy my time in school? Well looking back on it now, I have to say the sex was great.

The negative side is that think you are flying and then suddenly the no-craic Principal comes along and starts going on about ethics and law blah blah and takes your all-girls-sixth-class history teaching duties away from you and has you fired.

Cyrus

I enjoyed school i have to say, secondary school we played a lot of sport, got on well academically, had good friends.

It was an all boys school so there was the standard physical confrontations and aggro but nothing life threatening, the teachers werent afraid to give us a clip either (this was in the 90s) but cant say it was any harm.

Definitely look back on it fondly.

Trigger Happy

School was grand but I have still yet to meet a teacher I like.

freshpopcorn

I was generally a well behaved student and didn't cause much hassle apart from talking. I wasn't the brightest tough.

I generally had friends and could mix with the booky kid or the rugby lad.

I found primary school fine. Teachers were generally grand also.

Secondary school was okay. There was the odd teacher I wasn't keen on and I got tired of it in 5th year and 6th mainly due to studying subjects that I felt were pointless. To much time was spent on the school uniform code and there was no real activities if you weren't into GAA.

There was the odd bit of bullying over the years but nothing major. I found I sometimes could sort of befriend guys who were trying to bully me.

College wasn't a nice experience. Some of the lectures were fairly sour and nasty and there was a good bit of bullying from the students also. It really turned me off the course I was studying.

blade1

The school was alright, a couple of teachers were right pr*cks though.

One especially, I said to myself if I ever met him outside the school I'd slap the head off him.

I never met him and he died a long time ago.

Good riddance to the sadistic c*nt.

I'm not religious but I'd love if there really is a hell.

Elementary school (primary) is a bit of a blur. High school I liked due to subjects I love like science, biology, etc. But I loved college aside from the parties and certain hot professors.

frosty123

Let's see as a young protestant lad going to a rural school in 'holy catholic 'ireland back in the day during the troubles I felt about as welcome as a bastard at a family reunion - in short I despised it.

Necro

Funnily enough I would have had the opposite experience to most of the posts here, really didn't like primary school and had a few issues with bullying though nothing really terrible compared to what others experienced.

Things turned around though in secondary and had a fantastic time, academically it was grand, could have been better if I was interested in applying myself 😂

I tried a few courses in college but nothing ever stuck properly. That being said I still had a great time while I was there... probably too good!

Cyrus

College was definately the pinnacle for me, got 5 years out of it, a 4 year degree and a masters afterwards, what a time to be alive!

opinionated3

Hated secondary school so much that it kind of still haunts me to this day. The pressure to do well, to get to college, to impress the girls, to look cool or be part of the coolest clique in your year etc. I was actually quite bright but struggled with maths. I have a few regrets in my life which I think about a lot, and a most of them stem from those days. I should have studied harder and been more clued in about my future. I'm lucky to work now in a reasonably well paid factory job albeit boring, but I still count myself lucky. Such is life i guess ......

Riddle101

I enjoyed it for the most part. Was never bullied although there were people who I disliked and didn't get on with. Admittedly I was a bit of a dosser but never a trouble maker. I did my homework and schoolwork but I only really half paid attention in class when the teacher was talking. If I was sitting with a friend we'd just play Xs and Os or chat during the class.

The banter in some of the classes was probably the best. We had a really sound English teacher who on Fridays would just spend the whole class chatting with us and taking it easy. We talked about all sorts of things from the usual news around the school to current events like the Dublin Riots in 2006. Oh, how I enjoyed those classes.

There were some things I disliked about school and would gladly change in a heartbeat if I had the chance to go back in time, but I do miss my days in school.

Green Finers

Wonder full topic.

I didn’t like it. No I hated it. I got bully. Not from other boys from the teacher and master. Daley beeting too.

I done well for my life. I work in document translation. Bulgarian and Romanian. So **** the teacher and bully master.

cj maxx

I enjoyed school generally. Though one of the things that helped was when in 1st year I cut the sh1t out if a bully . I never had trouble after that

Flinty997

Great memories of primary.

Secondary was in tough/rough school, long commute. I got on ok. But education definitely suffered.

AyeGer

I don’t have many memories of primary school except having to spend 2 hrs a day on irish. I enjoyed secondary’s school especially the last couple of years. Loads of fun and some great people in secondary school.

There was a big change for the better in how the teachers treated us in 4th and 5th years too.

Not sure what was worse ..the bullying or the silent treatment if you told.all through primary and secondary.failed both intercert and leaving cert .couldn't wait to leave.still effects me to this day..never understood it.

em_cat

I was home schooled thru primary & the first year of secondary. I absolutely loved it, being reared by my grand parents, it was eventful as we had to travel a lot because of my grand fathers's career.

I transferred to a full board school as my grand father passed and my grand mother shortly after. I really enjoyed the experience, of being in a full board school, I had access to labs and the library on a 24 basis and I loved it. Would say it completely failed to prepare me for the world at large though. I got used to doing my own thing at will and when I went to college the first year was really difficult.

I did double degrees, so didn’t really have a lot of time for extras like parties and socialising, however I did have flat mates so some times didn’t have much choice. I went onto complete my masters then work took over so didn’t do my PHD until nearly 10 years later.

I'm now retired, mostly because of an RTA in 2016, but I do consult occasionally as all of my friends and colleagues still work so being retired at my age is a little weird.

I'll confess, I still can’t get my head around the Irish school system and always horrified by some of the stories my OH and friends tell me about their experiences.

I attended a very nice school with mainly kindly teachers, but looking back on it I realise if I were tested I would very likely fit a diagnosis of ADHD, which makes it extremely difficult to focus. Someone described it very well on the radio the other day, like being a laptop with 20 windows own at the same time pulling on the processing resources. It describes me to a tee.

AllForIt

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Hotblack Desiato

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118577904#Comment_118577904

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Liberty_Bear

Despised it thoroughly. I was 16, fat, lonely and no idea what to do with my life. Drove me to suicide at 18 nearly as I struggled with coming out. Nothing went well for me. I was a bit of a SWOT as well.

Now at 39 going on 40 Ive the world at my feet, a good job and I enjoy bed hopping.

Things do get better with age!

JupiterKid

Looks like we all had a mixed bag of experiences of our school days.

There seems to be a bit of a trend in whereby those of us who had to endure bullying and social isolation in secondary school (especially the brutal early years of secondary, where bullying seems to be at its worst 😥) often then went on to have a great time in college, whereas those who were popular in their school (big fish in a small pond) often struggled with college life and not knowing anyone in their new setting.

Would be interested in hearing from some older posters about their school days. Before the abolition of corporal punishment in schools in 1982, there was a culture of fear and brutality in many Irish schools, with not just the cane or leather strap - but full beatings meted out to children on a regular basis. 😥😞🤬😡 We also now know that students were subjected to sexual abuse and rape by their teachers, whether religious or “lay” staff.

In one of my stints in alcohol rehab back in 2015, there was a lovely chap from the midlands who was regularly beaten to a pulp by a priest teacher in a Christian Brothers secondary school who took a dislike to him. This would have been in the 1970s. The attitude of his father when he told him of such abuse was that “you probably deserved it." Parents simply did not question teachers or schools back in those days. It scarred him badly for life and he attributes this as a major factor in turning to alcohol to blot out the traumatic memories. This man has now sadly passed away. 

His brother took his own life and later it transpired that the same teacher who physically abused the guy I knew also raped his brother and many other boys. The collective damage done to generations of Irish children by the sadists in the religious orders was immense. These wounds are still not fully healed - and the wresting of our school system away from the control of religious orders who did so much collective damage cannot come soon enough.

None of my mates with children (the eldest of which are in their mid to late teens) send any of them to religious-run schools. Gaelscoileanna for primary followed by Educate Together for secondary seems to be very popular these days.

cj maxx

I for one will always respect my father for the stance he took with the headmaster of my national school. I always found classes quiet easy but had a rebellious nature. When I wouldn't bow down for the sadistic basterd he visited the house threatening to expel me. Daddy, after I explained that I wouldn't allow my self to be caned for something I didn't do, merely backed me and said if expelled he send me to another local school.

freshpopcorn

@JupiterKid Just to clarify at college I didn't struggle at college life, had friends, etc

However my class essentially had a nice few Mean Girls in it.(Easiest way to put it) It was nothing to do with being out of a school environment, not knowing anybody/etc.

Strumms

Loved primary… had a cast of brilliant teachers aside from one …. … an utterly grim horrible individual and very bad teacher…. Looking back psychologically she might not have been in great shape as the smallest thing would set her off… if you pissed her off at 10.00, caught talking, got a load of homework wrong or whatever you were in the bad books… for the whole day… a psycho weirdo basically…zero fun. Only early ‘30s but an ignorant tramp…a load of deadly footballers and runners but she’d only allow us play basketball in PE…

was a very good school though that put a great emphasis on sport, social development and enabling early life skills…as much as educational learning…loved stuff like the fortnightly nature walk through adjoining college grounds, sports days… two per year, lots of field trips etc…

Secondary mixed bag…junior cert was grand, enjoyed it….only teacher I didn’t like was the Irish teacher.. she was an ok girl just qualified but just not any good, reading reviews on her, seems not much changed … leaving cert not so much… got lumbered with a few jock style dopey transition years who were put into our class who turned into a bit of a cancer in the class… the quality of teachers was not as high to say the least…especially the form teacher was piss poor…my Irish a subject I was great at suffered under his ‘teaching’… lad for physics was like a ghoul out of a horror film….

SamStonesArm

I thought it was alright. Wasn't really in secondary that often but it seemed grand.

Mundo7976

Hated primary due to how I was treated, both teachers & classmates.

Ended up being the only one from my class going to the secondary school that I did.

Loved secondary & did ok but couldn't wait to get out of it, became bogged down with a few things but I now realise the worst thing was my parents didn't guide me they way they should have.

My one reprise is that I can try and make sure my kids are better supported!

AllForIt

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118586805#Comment_118586805

To be quite honest with you JK, I think you're talking utter crap.

I'm not sure what your're expecting to get out of this thread, but you don't seem to understand the reality of life. Neither do weirdo leftists.

I don't mean to insult you, and I quite like you here, but this thread is ridiculous, and I fell for it myself which is why I deleted my earlier post.

You are bringing n here loads of personal experiences, other ppl's experiences, and I don't know what for.

You are making a huge deal about things that many people experience (edit, that they can get over). And to be quite frank with you, I think you're being a drama queen.

gammygils

Absolutely fcukin HATED it! Every day of it, I went to school in the 70's and 80's when corporal punishment was still in place so getting my hair pulled and getting slapped across the face and getting beaten with a stick for fcuk all was the norm. I used to go into school brickin it in case my homework was wrong or I couldn't recite my poetry or didn't know my fcukin Catechism would get bet around the head and "kept in" at lunchtime. That was National School.

Secondary school wasn't much better, getting "6 of the best" with a leather strap because I didn't know my Latin or Irish poetry and getting put up against a wall and bet around the head for not walking on the right hand side of the corridor (that was the rule) Christian Brothers School btw

Is it any wonder I'm so screwed up?

JupiterKid

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118589183#Comment_118589183

Hmmm...I’m being the drama queen here. Right... 🤨😏

What is the problem with a thread on posters’ school experiences? Some of us had very significant and life changing experiences in our school days. Everything I posted up is true.

Why is it offensive to you? Why do you think I have some sort of ulterior motive? That’s some projecting right there.

Lester_Burnham

Like most well adjusted people I haven't thought much about school since I left.

Gremlinertia

Had a rough time at both schools, a nun would frequently wallop poorer students in primary, secondary was bullying, i did myself no favours though, i was odd, not very socially exposed so didn't 'get' other kids my age. Looking back there's potentially some of my issues with depression surfacing in school so i was mostly a loner so singled out. So yeah, a mostly joyless exercise except that i loved english, history and art.

ThePentagon

My memories of primary school are quite positive. I went to an all-boys school from 2nd class to 6th class and the main things I remember are that I enjoyed most of the subjects we were taught (apart from bloody Irish) and that we played soccer at every sos and lunch break. I was a quiet kid but I don't recall being on the end of any persistent bullying - probably because I blended in with the bulk of the lads playing soccer. I'm sure other boys probably said or did nasty things to me but in that pre-pubescent state it did not have any long-term wounding effect on me.

Secondary school, on the other hand, was a huge, bewildering change. Firstly, it was around three times larger than my primary school so all of a sudden you felt like you were a mouse wandering among a herd of elephants (i.e. older kids). From day one I just felt completely intimidated and lost. I found all of it very stressful: the step-up in academic difficulty; the preposterous workload of homework; the often cold and arrogant teachers we had; the large number of scumbag pupils.

Unlike primary school, my secondary was mixed. While it was wonderful to be all-of-a-sudden around so many pretty girls just when puberty was unfolding, I was terribly shy and never really felt comfortable chatting to pupils of the opposite sex - what I remember is a sequence of unrequited crushes on girls in my year or the year below.

On the positive side, I was lucky to form friendships with a group of 7 or 8 other lads who were in the same boat as me. My best memories of secondary school are of hanging around with my friends - and those guys still form my core group of friends 20-something years later.

Thinking back on it now, secondary school was essentially one long endurance test, the main goal being to not be embarrassed or humiliated. So to answer your question, I despised it 🤣

p.s. For what it's worth all the schools I went to were typical Catholic-affiliated schools but that was never a problem for me. I was in school 1988-2001, so maybe I was lucky to miss the bad old days of corporal punishment, etc.

Hamachi

Had a very uneventful time at school. I went to a sports-mad, all-boys secondary school in my small hometown.

Loved the academic side of things and got very high points in the leaving. Socially, I just had nothing in common with the guys in my year. I’m from a pretty large, very close knit family. I also had a couple of friends from a sport outside school. I never had that innate desire to make friends in school.

I guess I was a social non-entity in school itself. I finished my leaving cert at 16 and moved to Dublin for university the week I turned 17. Haven’t spoken to anybody from school since the day I finished my last leaving cert exam. I’m pretty sure most of the people in my year would scarcely remember me, except for the fact that I stood out academically.

My wife finds this utterly bizarre. She has a large group of friends from school, with whom she is in regular contact. She is of the mindset that you either loved school or were horrendously bullied. She’s not able to comprehend that some people just glide through the academics, whilst being pretty ambivalent to the people in your year.

Seems like most people here had either a terrific or an horrendous time. Anybody else have an uneventful time, without making any enemies or forging close friendships?

fritzelly

From a time with the cane on the backside or the ruler across the hand - what do you think?

Had one psychotic teacher who slammed a door on a kids hand very badly and also the chalkboard duster being thrown across the room at your head with precision aim.

Would have criminal charges brought against them in this day and age

Also had some amazing teachers

But you had your friends...good times

Hotblack Desiato

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118589183#Comment_118589183

G'way and shyte.

Schools in Ireland in the 70s and 80s routinely physically abused pupils and somehow this was regarded as normal. There were plenty of sex abusers lurking around, too, both lay and ordained.

You can brush it all under the carpet and pretend everything was fine if you like. It just makes you look like a fool.

Tony EH

School for me was fine, if a little boring. I had the subjects that I liked and the subjects that I loathed.

Socially, I got on with most kids cos I was generally interested in what other kids were doing. That usually meant the the music they were into. I was a "longhair" and into metal, but I would trade tapes with the other kids into different stuff. So the Cure heads and the Ska kids with lend me their music and I'd give it a go. They rarely got beyond a mild curiosity for what I was into though. 😆

My teachers tended to give me a lot of leeway too. History teachers and English teachers took their time with me cos I expressed and interest and my maths teacher liked me cos I was into aircraft and his brother flew for Aer Lingus. He actually organised a talk for his brother to give the class because of my interest in planes. The poor guy, I bloody hated maths. General maths was fine, but theorems and whatnot I couldn't stand.

In the end I suppose I had an easy time of it during my school days and the more I look back on them the more I realise it.

Lewis_Benson

Hated it from the day I started primary school at the age of 5.

And anyone who went to Athlone Community College during the 90s knows what my secondary school days were like....rotton.

madmaggie

Primary school was grand, the teacher was just putting in time until her retirement, didn't give a toss what we did.

Secondary convent school I hated. Nuns were so snobby, I wanted to go to the vocational school but wasn't allowed. I really hated that place, and those stuck up b***hes.

@Hamachi

I had a tough time in school. Purely in terms of the learning experience, there were classes and teachers that I loved both at primary and secondary level, and some that I didn't like at all. On the whole though, I suppose I enjoyed much of the educational aspect.

What I didn't enjoy was the social aspect. While I was never bullied horrifically, I lived under a constant cloud of low-level mockery and intimidation, or alternatively, disinterest and invisibility. It was there in primary school but it was quite pervasive at secondary school right up until 5th year. I suffered from low confidence anyway, because I was socially awkward, had a stammer, was always smaller than average and I stopped growing when I hit 5'6.

I attended a private secondary school and although the optics were good, and many teachers were excellent, there was a big rough element in the school and a culture of mockery and low-level bullying held sway, especially in first, second and third year. The class I was 'streamed' into in particular was ghastly, and came to be dominated by a complete sociopath. @Hamachi The school day ran from 8:45am to either 7:30pm or 9pm, depending on your age (and it was also possible to board there) so it wasn't possible to glide through it. It was a big part of life during those crucial teenage years.

The school had enormous grounds and placed a big emphasis on sports -- which I totally avoided. A small group of us roughed it out together, bound by a mutual sense of being in social difficulty and a love of the X Files. But we were not natural friends. This was in the mid to late 1990s. Today I haven't a maintained a single friendship or Facebook connection with anyone from my school days. I feel quite sad about that, because many of the boys were decent.

We are now more than 20 years out. I have never attended a reunion, though several have been held and invitations were sent to me by the erstwhile 'student of the year' when we graduated. (He was and still is a good guy, and has been in the public eye a few times for a courageous but thankless stand he took on an emotive social topic a few years ago.)

Perchance when I was meeting some work friends for a meal one evening a few years ago, one of them brought along a friend who happened to be a fellow who had attended the school, in my Year for all five years of secondary school. There were only around 65 people in our Year from First Year through Sixth Year. I immediately recognized him. He hadn't a clue who I was.

I did much, much better socially and performance-wise in university and work after school ended. I view my school days as dark days overall.

Can not really remember if I loved or hated primary school.

Secondary school however I have nothing good to say about. The school/teachers/system failed me in just about every way each and every time I needed it. And all but 1 or at most 2 of the teachers I encountered there were awful in one way or another. All motivation - joy in life - interest in education - personal confidence - and sense of self was drained from me in the 6 years I spent in that school.

And it was not until I was nearing the end of my time in college - bordering on the near fringes of suicide ideation on and off - that I managed quite suddenly to stand up and start to piece the pieces together and go on a better path that lead to the person I am today.

Absolutely hated my whole time in formal education from primary to secondary. It wasn't the teachers, most of whom were fine, some great but mostly interchangeable. I thoroughly hated the rote learning focus in schools and the lack of understanding sought when learning most subjects, which I wasn't suited for. Couldn't get my head around most of the content, without knowing the component parts, and teachers never really taught learning strategies to improve retention. It was only as an adult that I learned such strategies/tools, and it would have made school far far easier had they'd been taught formally.

But mostly, as others have said, it was the bullying that killed the entire experience for me. Primary school was layered in misery for physical and emotional abuse, which in turn, scarred me for dealing with others my own age or older. That fed into secondary school, where the bullying shifted in manner but remained near constant. People are generally quite mean to those who don't fit in, and as I had an obvious shaking disorder, they had plenty of ammunition for their sadism. It's taken me two decades to resolve most of the issues I had to deal with from that time.

University was much better, but honestly, it often felt merely an extension of secondary school, at least until I realised I didn't have to play by the same rules as everyone else.

So, yeah, school... horrible experience.