Relationship question

HoneyBe

Husband not interested in sex but masterbates regularly

Hi

Looking for some help and advice. We have been married for 18yrs and have two teenagers. Sex has always been an issue, as in I really like it and need sex and my husband doesn't. The amount of times we have sex has dwindled over time. Last year we had sex on 4 occasions however on these four occasions my husband didn't orgasim twice and this didn't bother him. I would think that if you haven't had sex in a long time especially for a man it wouldn't take long to climax. He says he isn't having an affair which I believe as he wouldn't have time with work, gym and his love of TV. I am seriously struggling and we have had this conversation many more times than I can count.he said last year that a sexual relationship isn't what he wants from me! I have thought perhaps he may be gay but I really don't think so as he is obsessed with boobs.

Also he has told me that he masterbates at least once a week. He says he doesn't like sex at night time which I do as I like to get in the mood and perhaps dress up for him but he perferes it in the morning. I'm not adverse as we have only had sex in the morning for about 15yrs.

He tells me he loves me often and I believe him

Long story short. How do I live this life as we have exams coming up over the next two years with kids and I don't want them disturbed.

Liberty_Bear

You have presumed he is having an affair, doesnt love you, was gay and have asked "How do I live this life as we have exams coming up over the next two years with kids and I don't want them disturbed."

You have placed your 'need' for sex on a pedestal and have not mentioned as to what might be the matter for your husband - is he suffering from any mental health issues, does he feel anxious.

You need couples counselling. Reading between the lines on your post I think you might be looking at it from the wrong angle.

Stop making assumptions on your husband.

Ive kept this as polite as I can...

Gant21

Schofield had Mickey problems and he a man in his 60s. Maybe your husband has Mickey issues.

Liberty_Bear

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118717145#Comment_118717145

There are times Ive resorted to Viagra if I wasnt in the mood - spoke with the pharmacist, no issues and away I went

Her hubby can avail of the same options too if its a physical issue once he sees his doc

HSE has more info

https://www2.hse.ie/conditions/erectile-dysfunction/

Gant21

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118717206#Comment_118717206

If her husband is gone like schofield all the viagra in the world won’t help their marriage.