Embarrassing problem - Bed wetting after alcohol

Kennek1

So I work, I play sports I am a genuinely smart guy. Social and love a pint. I have a problem. If I drink more then 6 pints and decide to go to bed, I could piss the bed.

I really am finally looking for help as I tried to dip and die this situation for to long but when it comes to stags, weddings and being with girls I try to stay up all night just to keep going to the toilet and not be my own bed or some beautiful ladies bed (rare🤣).

It's such a nuisance. My mother is my greatest hero as she has cleaned up after me so many times after big games when we would go on the beer and say nothing. She is the only person I eventually told after being confronted. The regret!

Apart from not drinking to much, has anybody got any suggestions on how to stop the bladder?

Kennek1

Ps. I'd try to stay awake among as I can so I can pee as much as i can.

Atlantic Dawn

What kind of fluid output do you have during the time you are drinking those 6 pints? Also are you drinking a lot of other fluids like water before you go on the beer, if so how much? Is your BMI high or low?

Victor

There are products like sanitary pads (that you wear in your pants): https://www.boots.ie/mens/menshealth/male-incontinence Incontinence sheets for the bed and then various types of mattress protector, some of which are fully water proof.

However, all of the above are reacting to the situation, perhaps have a chat with your GP about the underlying issue.

rolling boh

Definitely see your doctor if you layed off the beer do you still go to the loo as much if you were drinking something else during the day like coffee etc .

fran38

Man, I feel your pain. You're not the only one with this type of issue. I'd go easy in the beer while you figure this out. I've no concrete answers bar the above. Let us know how you get on ya?

notAMember

Have you talked to a doctor or googled this?

If it helps, it's called nocturnal enuresis

It's a fairly common problem, affects some more than others. Alcohol can irritate muscles in the bladder. Plus, alcohol is a diuretic, which means it causes you to produce more urine. It does this by inhibiting the production of a hormone called vasopressin.

Are you a coffee or tea drinker too? Caffeine can make it worse again.

It's a bit like the guy who walks into a doctor and says, it hurts when I do this. And the doctor says, stop doing that. Have you considered drinking less alcohol?

cheekypup

I’m male 46 years old and I had this problem in my late twenties up until a couple of years ago.

I would wet the bed even though I wouldn’t have drank that much. After drinking I would stay up as long as I could to try and empty my bladder but sometimes tiredness would take over and I would fall asleep and wet the couch. I’ve wet my own bed, my partners’ bed, and hotel beds, anywhere really and this was when I wasn’t even that drunk. The final straw came about 12 years ago when I stayed over in my partners Aunties house and again not even that drunk, went to bed, though I’d emptied the bladder, but low and behold the bed was wet the next morning. It was my partners’ cousins’ bed and even though my partner was aware and understanding of my problem, she made me tell her Auntie what had happened.

 THE SHAME.

It made me realise that it was a problem I had to deal with as it was now starting to affect life outside of my own comfort zone where I could keep it a secret. I promised my partner on the way home from her Aunties house that I would go to the doctor and I did.

The doctor prescribed me a nasal spray called Desmopressin (Google it). This definitely worked for me, I don’t know how it works but it does, although what you don’t pee at night time you will make up for that in the morning. My GP recommended I take it before a night on the beer but I tried that and my bladder would be full and I couldn’t pee till the spray wore off. So I would drink away, pee normally and take it before I went to bed, but as I say, it’s still in your bladder so expect a few visits to the toilet the next morning. I remember a heavy weekend on the beer in Liverpool and getting the train from the city centre to Manchester Airport, I must have peed about 6 or 7 times on an hour and a quarter train journey. The passengers must have thought I was odd but I didn’t care as I knew getting up to piss 6 or 7 times on a train was a lot better than pissing the bed.

While the Desmopressin spray worked a treat and it still does, I only use it now if I’m away from home and I’m going really heavy on the beer which is because of a happy coincidence.

I took up running 5 and a half years ago after I got my right hip replaced. Then 2 years ago I started having the same problems with my left hip and my GP referred me to a specialist and also recommend I get physio to help strengthen the muscles around the deteriorating hip joint. The physio gave me exercises to do, Crab Walks, Squats, Bridges etc. and over time I could feel my hips and thighs getting stronger. I also noticed over time I wasn’t peeing the bed and I wasn’t using the spray. When I was with my physio 6 months ago I told him about my embarrassing problem and he explained to me that the cause of the bedwetting might have been a weak pelvic floor and the exercise for my hip would also strengthen my pelvic floor and thus strengthen my bladder.

I hope my story helps your situation and I also hope I didn’t breach any rules on medical advice. I’m eleven weeks on from my second hip replacement, I’m back running, I wake up in a dry bed every morning, I rarely use the spray, I still love a pint and I’m not embarrassed anymore and would gladly share my experience if it helps others

thefallingman

Could be a bladder or prostate issue op I’d get an X-ray done in that area, could even be a trapped kidney stone, is your pee stop start on normal days with no booze ?

Furze99

If I drank six pints, I'd be scuttered!!

Stheno

Moved from work problems

theteal

OP, I think it's actually quite common. I know of at least 3 blokes that are/were prone to a sleepwalk pi$$ after a skinfull - granted, I've never heard of them actually doing it in the bed but I don't think anybody would admit to that. In saying that, 6 pints would be a quiet night back then, I'd hear stories of this after the pub - nightclub - after session kind of night. I think the solution for 1 was to lay off the whiskey - that was the trigger.

The only solution I can think of is the one you don't want, I'm afraid.

El Tarangu

Don't drink more than 6 pints, would be the solution that jumps out at me.

Big Bag of Chips

Go to your doctor. If you know it happens after 6 pints, then the doctor is likely to tell you to stop drinking more than 6 pints.

There could be urology issue that needs to be investigated or, if it is only linked to alcohol consumption then the solution seems obvious.

And please God don't tell me your mother is still cleaning up your bed, washing your sheets etc for you. I assume you are an adult man. Clean up your own pissy bed.

bitofabind

Don't drink more than 6 pints then? Good for your liver as well as your bladder.

wildwillow

I can't believe a mother would still change a bed for an adult. Four year olds can strip a bed and bring laundry to the laundry room.

The solution is to drink fewer than six pints, but do get a check up in case it has an underlying cause.

amdublin

I think you need to have a chat with your doctor

I also think that hearing about your mother cleaning up for you instead of telling you to stop drinking so much is the most Irish thing I've ever heard in my whole life

standardg60

As suggested above, caffeine may be the culprit here. If the OP indulges in coffee, tea or particular fizzy drinks that is most likely their issue

Wheety

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119461032#Comment_119461032

And not the 6 pints?

skallywag

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119457452#Comment_119457452

Maybe try upping your intake gradually, your body should adapt.

OP, this is a lot more common that one would think, I've had bouts of this when I was younger, went on for a few years. The first time it happened I actually thought that water had leaked down somehow from the attic and into my bed, I got up and told my dad, he came into the room and could see instantly what had happened, I was in complete denail. Also have friends who had similar experiences, though you will find that most folk wont bring this up so easily in open conversation.

I would even partially wake up sometimes and think that I was in the jacks and go for a piddle in the corner of my room etc. One pal even once went into his parents bedroom and piddled all over them in the bed, you can imagine their reaction to that ...

This phase lasted for 2-3 years for me, and then for some reason just stopped. I cannot think of any reason why.

The Mighty Quinn

Honestly, if it was only alcohol that made me piss the bed, I'd stop drinking alcohol.

The trade-off of having your pints but bedwetting and stress of it isn't worth it.

amdublin

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119462378#Comment_119462378

Or drink less so you are not passed out comatose. Two instead of six etc

zoobizoo

As my gran said to me years ago after I told her I'd have 6/8 pints a night:

"Would you ever sit and drink 6 pints of tea?'

Eh no, that would be ridiculous. Forgetting about the alcohol, 6 pints of any liquid in a sitting is a lot.

I don't give my 4 year old more than a few sips of water before bed as he'll pee him self.

Deal with the shame or deal with the volume you're consuming.

You are a grown man wetting the bed after drinking alcohol and you don't know what to do about it? The answer is obvious - either drink less, or quit drinking. Alcohol doesn't suit you.

YellowLead

Just see your gp! It could be something easily fixable and you’ll wonder why you haven’t done it sooner.

My ex had the same issue - would always piss the bed after a nights drinking no matter how long he stayed up trying to make sure he’d gone to the toilet enough. He had an operation to have something expanded (can’t remember what) and problem solved - he regretted he waited until late 30s to get it seen to.

Sonic the Shaghog

Jesus Christ I can't get over it. Grown men who'll happily piss the bed and let their mothers or girlfriends see it happening and still won't give up the beer. The absolute state of it. Not to mention the women that put up with it. If it was happening from all liquid if feel sorry but no sympathy here

Calahonda52

Adult pull-ups, pelvic floor exercises, ( don't over do them as you will weaken the pelvic floor before it gets stronger) , rubber mattress cover.

Been there, not with drink but after cancer surgery.

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2057532462/that-walnut-sized-organ-the-prostate#latest

cj maxx

Apart from obviously seeing your doctor, I'll give you a tip ,from experience. Make sure your last pee before bed is a sit down one. It empites the bladder SO much more than standing , why do you think while drinking equally with a girl / woman they need to go MUCH less

TheW1zard

7 pints is too much

Bipass

you should stop drinking and then see your gp to check for underlying issues. good luck

apache

Knock the pints on the head....

sporina

stop drinking so much.... tis bad for you anyway,. 6 pts = 12 units.. the weekly rec allowance for men is 17 units per week and thats with 2/3 days alcohol free days... 6 pts = binge = problem

up for anything

Give up beer if that's what does it. It won't kill you to forego it. It's a simple fix. As for letting your mother clean up your piss - that's another story.

pjdarcy

Maybe switch to shorts after your fourth pint so you're not consuming so much liquid later in the night?

Liberty_Bear

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058258343/embarrassing-problem-bed-wetting-after-alcohol

Im alarmed that you said aside from not drinking. Maybe there is a genuine medical condition which might be underlying it. Im a diabetic, six pints and I might move on to shorts as if I drink too much I end up with a massive bladder problem and cramps! Alcohol stimulates the production of alcohol, ADH and this increases the pressure on the bladder. Hope it gets solved.

The DayDream

Sorry but the advice you don't want to hear is the only sound advice. Which is often the case in life, unfortunately.

Some people can't handle drink because it makes them act way out of line, some because it makes them vomit, some because it doesn't mix with their medication, some because it causes issues with their skin becoming flushed or irritated, some need to avoid it because it doesn't mix with their meds, some get addicted to it. There's all sorts of reasons. Pissing the bed is one pretty solid reason I'd say.

I actually find it quite amusing, and an interesting insight into our attitude towards drink that you think this is a problem because it happens after MORE THAN SIX PINTS.

No man really needs more than 6 pints. It's plenty. Any more after that point adds nothing to any man's personality, trust me. And, it will usually ensure he is a total writeoff the next day (unless he is a full blown alcoholic).

I have a skin condition and you know what my limit is before I get a flareup that lasts 2-3 days? 1 pint. I literally cannot have 2 without my skin going mad. And I know I'll never stop at one so I had to just stop altogether.

It is a drag but the suffering of enduring social events sober is nothing compared to what happens to me physically after I drink, especially when you factor in the hangover. Most drugs actually end up being more trouble than they're worth, I have found.

I admit I find weddings and such difficult to enjoy cold sober and wish I could get a buzz on like everyone else, but I always just think to myself, 'I might be suffering a bit now but they'll be suffering a lot more tomorrow and I'll be fresh as a daisy and not waste the whole day in a heap.'

And really, I'm not actually suffering. I'm more present at the event, will remember it, and can control my thoughts, speech and actions a lot better. I won't get into any stupid drama. And I suppose I always take this for granted but waking up dry is pretty deadly too.

Gael23

I would go and see your GP to investigate f there are by medical causes.

maninasia

Cut back on the beer, drink spirits or just dont drink as much or at all.

Six pints would be seen as a lot of alcohol and booze in most countries. Its bad for ya.

MarkR

Must be the IT in me, but I'd have to try to drink six pints of water, see does the same thing happen. Slamming six shots to test is it just the alcohol probably isn't a great idea.

Have you tried that 0.0 beer?