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Can a toxic relationship be healed?

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  • 31-01-2023 1:33am
    #1
    onelove1
    Registered Users Posts: 13 ✭


    Anyone have experience of healing a toxic relationship? It is possible? Or must one just accept that one has to walk away?



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    kirk.
    Registered Users Posts: 4,957 ✭✭✭kirk.


    Life's too short not worth fixing those things



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    The DayDream
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    I think it generally takes an amount of personal growth by one or each person that isn't possible while in the relationship, so not really. Because for that to happen you need significant time apart, or else a total change of outlook that is rare to happen immediately, especially when still around the person who is pushing your buttons.



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    Oops!
    Registered Users Posts: 1,254 ✭✭✭Oops!


    No, and your fooling yourself if you think it can be..... Life is too short for that shite.



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    worded
    Registered Users Posts: 4,579 ✭✭✭worded



    Can be fun too. Making up for all those arguments

    Comedians view of Toxic Relationships


    https://youtube.com/shorts/PjClEtoy-3k?feature=share



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    Hannibal_Smith
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    You're only option is to walk away OP. The relationship is that toxic you don't want to bring a child into it. Get in touch with a friend or family member and talk to them. Or even try giving womens aid a call (1800341900) and start making your plans to leave. Its the only good option.



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    JPCN1
    Registered Users Posts: 895 ✭✭✭JPCN1


    No. Really no point in wasting time in one it’ll only lead to damage and hurt.



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    Thelonious Monk
    Registered Users Posts: 14,286 ✭✭✭✭Thelonious Monk


    No. Leggit. And if you ever get into a good normal relationship where you both respect each other and there's no raised voices or any of that mullarkey, you'll look back and ask yourself what kind of a lunatic idiot you were to have ever partaken in something like that. Or so I'm told...



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    yourdeadwright
    Registered Users Posts: 20,770 ✭✭✭✭yourdeadwright


    What is a toxic relationship ,its a very vague statement ,

    Completely depends on what your definition of toxic is really, there's no way anyone can answer you if they don't know what are the issue's ,



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    Tork
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    OP, I remember your previous post about having a medical abortion. I assume you've chosen not to go ahead with that, and are now desperately trying to make things right with your toxic partner. Did you ever speak to a professional, as was advised in the previous thread?



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    Galaxy00
    Registered Users Posts: 38 ✭Galaxy00


    No, you can't change someone else and if you don't like their behaviours, then maybe it's time to walk away, you wouldn't put up with it from a friend so why put up with it from a partner



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    bottlebrush
    Registered Users Posts: 8,192 ✭✭✭bottlebrush


    Toxic people see their behaviour as normal. They don't change. Just don't waste any more time hoping that things might get better because if they do it'll likely only be temporary before things revert to their normal again.

    You'd be better off on your own than in this situation.



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    Tork
    Registered Users Posts: 3,439 ✭✭✭Tork


    OP, in your previous thread you described the relationship as "Very toxic" and addictive. You also said that he had isolated you from your family and friends. My heart breaks for the child you're going to be bringing into this life. If you can't leave this man for your own sake, can you please think of your child? You'll be bringing an innocent person into this world who'll either learn that abusing their partner is the norm or that being abused is the norm. Honestly, what the hell were you thinking when you rushed back to your ex?



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