My cousin got mad at me

TheKittyKing

I was best friends with my cousin growing up. A few years ago on a night out, she got mad at me. I ignored her after that night. Eventually I wanted to reconcile with her but she ignored my efforts. I started to text her some home truths. I guess she didn't like what I had to say. All I ever wanted was for her to explain to me why she got mad at me. She said she was going to report me to the gardi for harassment. I never got a call from them. Would I be good now? Could I still maintain contact and get to the bottom of this with us?

 

89897

No, it was years ago and she clearly doesnt want to speak. Time to start making peace with it and moving on

Jim_Hodge

You were told to stop making contact, so do just that. Let it go.

TheKittyKing

She was my best friend and cousin. Its not over. Surely I am owed an explanation and closure from her.

ohnonotgmail

She doesn't "owe" you anything.

xyz13

Find a counselor/therapist.

Dslatt

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120469144#Comment_120469144

Nope

Larbre34

By your own description you became very unpleasant with her, so it's understandable that that's where she wanted to leave the relationship. She does not owe you an explanation for the original falling out.

Turn your mind towards moving on. Maybe read a suitable book about relationships and working on yourself or seek some counselling to assist with getting on with your life.

Penn

"I started to text her some home truths. I guess she didn't like what I had to say. All I ever wanted was for her to explain to me why she got mad at me."

If all you wanted was for her to explain why she got mad, you wouldn't have "started to text her some home truths".

Something happened that original night which was bad enough that she got mad at you. You ignored her after that, so at the very least given that you chose to ignore her, you know that something happened that night to make her mad at you, and instead of trying to find out there and then and make up for it, you ignored her until you wanted to reconcile.

You "started to text her some home truths". Even though she never has owed you an explanation or closure, you lost any right to it at that point.

Whatever relationship you had is over. Move on.

TheKittyKing

I did nothing wrong. I was always nice and good to her and I used to drive and give her lifts everywhere. She was never able to drive and failed the test 4 times. She got nasty to me one night and I just want to know why. I did nothing wrong on her.

Hannibal_Smith

Closed pending review.

@TheKittyKing can you check your PMs please