Is making a gift to confirmation sponsor a thing/normal?

In the wind

Our son is making his confirmation today and his aunt who is 30 years old old is his sponsor.

My wife is telling me that we need to buy a gift for her to the value of about €200. I had never heard of this before and don’t remember it when I was making my confirmation.

Is this just runaway consumerism or is this actually a thing?

Also, what would be nice and appropriate for a 30 year old single female?

All advice appreciated on this.

Is it real?

How much is appropriate to spend?

What gift would be appropriate.

Thanks all for your advice. 🙏🙏🙏

Jim_Hodge

Having had a few kids confirmed and being a sponsor for a couple more, I've never heard of such a practice. Absolutely unnecessary. Being a sponsor is an honour and doesn't come with gifts.

Mo Ghile Mear

Ridiculous.

Say “Thank you .. much appreciated”…and treat her and whoever she has with her to the grub after.

In the wind

Right that's what I thought too. Utter BS wanton consumerism.

Now just need to tackle it with herself.

Arrgh!

Raoul

Never heard of it!

zoobizoo

Never heard of it either. A small token if you felt you had to get something. Bottle of Wine / Bunch of Flowers.

€200 is equivalent to a wedding present from 1 couple to another!

Alternatively, if you're being pressured into it, use 200 quid from your son's takings on the day!

HildaOgdenx

Mod - Moved to Family/ Parenting forum which is probably more suited to the issue.

Local charter now applies.

Hilda.

HildaOgdenx

Not usual, OP, in my experience anyway.

If your son wanted to give a small gift, as his own idea, it's nice to encourage that. But I haven't heard of the sponsor receiving a gift from the parents before.

Princess Calla

Never heard of it. If anything the gift comes from the sponsor, not to the sponsor.

As others said pay for her meal and a drink as she's a guest but leave it at that.

In the wind

Thanks everybody for the fast responses. Just as I thought.

Cheers everyone. 🙏🙏🙏

Deeec

No its not a thing. Im sure your having a nice meal out or party after the confirmation - thats enough of a thank you to the sponsor.

connected1

Definitely not a thing! The sponsor GIVES a gift/cash and in return they get a nice meal. That's it

10-10-20

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120615627#Comment_120615627

Yup, that's how it worked for me twice over in the last number of years including last week.

facehugger99

Can the €200 be backdated? I've been sponsor to two of my nephews and could do with the cash.

Big Bag of Chips

No! And certainly not €200 worth. Is the sponsor your wife's sister by any chance?

If you really want to give her something, give her a nice photo of the two of them on the day. No need for anything else.

€200 is a flipping wedding present!

JDD

Is your wife going to buy her a brown Thomas voucher, not give it to her and then spend it on herself? Because that’s what this sounds like. If she insists it’s a practice, ask her to call anyone on her phone, put them on speaker, and ask them the question 😃

downtheroad

Women. You wouldn't get a bloke making up this gibberish. The fascination with spending money on these days is ridiculous. What else has the missus lined up, bouncy castle, caterers, professional hair and make up, new dress, gift for thr child?

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In the wind

Yep, runaway consumerism in the pursuit of the dopamine hit. Savage primal behaviour in it's modern form. Urrgh!