Partner cancer diagnosis - given the end date

Sunriser78

My partner has been living with cancer for a long time.

Just over two years ago, it got worse, but the treatment was working. We just got the results that it is progressing, and two years is the best case.

Has anyone been though this? I would really appreciate if anyone could share their experience.

We have teens and I just don't know how they will be able to cope. I don't know how I'll be able to cope either, if I'm honest.

wildwillow

The only advice I can give from my own experience is to be fully truthful with your children. They will notice a change in your emotions and will imagine the worst. Be upfront about the diagnosis and predicted life span. Include them in planning for the future and organising memorable family moments.
You will still have good times. They are used to an ill parent and will adapt. You need to take every ounce of help you can muster from family and friends.
Managing pain should be a priority so the suffering is lessened.

You are facing a difficult journey so be kind to yourself and be aware of exercise and diet to keep healthy and strong.

Sunriser78

Thank you for your reply. I'm sorry to hear you went through this. Heartening to hear from someone who has been through it through.

That is great advice. Thank you very much

Wanderer78

im truly sorry to hear this, my thoughts are with you and your family, please consider counselling for yourself and your family, the coming months and years are gonna be extremely stressful, painful are very overwhelming, such outside advice would make all of this more bearable, i wish you well

zoobizoo

Link in with the psych-oncology psychologist in the hospital who can help you and your family.

Tefral

Have you Laya? They have online Psychologists you and your husband could maybe chat with one of them first about how to approach it?