Second date

Erose88

Hi Boardsies,

I find myself with a concondrum. I met a woman recently from a dating app (I am also female). We went on a first date for coffee a few weeks ago. First date was ok, not great, not bad either. She was polite, sweet, engaging and able to hold a convesation, but I felt no spark. We have been texting in between and are supposed to be going a second date the weekend. We live 90 minutes or a bit more away from each other as I live in the sticks so getting matches nearby rarely happens. I am sure based on our convesations we have little in common in terms of interests, lifestyle, or work. I'm a social drinker, she is teetotal, no big issue. However, this may not matter to some people but the teetotal thing I think bothers me, as I feel if I ever want to have a social drink at weekends as many do, I will be judged. She also is way more into wellness culture than I am; alternative medicine etc. You can probably get the picture.

I am thinking I should cancel this second date as the effort and cost involved, my gut is telling me it may be a waste of an evening, but I might be wrong. I am not even sure I fancy her although I saw her for a few hours and she is objectively attractive and engaging but very serious about life and we had few to no laughs on the first date. Should I cancel this second date? I don't want to waste anyone's time. Bearing in mind I will have to drive an hour and back to what might be a good date, but I suspect will be a bit meh or just so so like the first one. What would you do? It is hard to match or even get a date with anyone living in a very rural area.

Appreciate your help.

Thanks,

AllForIt

I think if you're not eager for a second date, and clearly you are not, you should cancel.

Erose88

I did cancel it in the end and it was fine.