Heartfelt dilemma in 21st century

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Disclaimer: first of all i would you to know that i used good translation tool before i post this here, but it effectively keeping meaning of what i want to tell, just for your comfortable reading experience. My own grammar level and ability to use English is pour as you can find in this intro.

A year ago, I met a very interesting lady.

We are quite different. She is very attractive, infinitely beautiful, unusually interesting, and well-mannered, and that’s about all I know about her so far. Due to my limited English and Gaelic skills, I couldn’t start a proper conversation with her right away. I won’t even mention how my mind seems to go blank whenever I see her.

As a Muslim by birth, I understand that our backgrounds, education, and worldviews might be different. But despite that, my heart and soul can’t seem to let go of the thoughts I have about her.

Last week, I visited the place where we first met and finally had a brief conversation: She said, 'Hello, how are you?' I replied, 'All good, thank you. What about you?' She responded, 'Not too bad.'

But after that, I couldn’t keep the conversation going—I just froze and forgot most of the English I know. Honestly, I’ve never really had a relationship before. My only experience was in early secondary school, and it was mostly just messaging on social media, not real-life interactions.

Now, I’ve grown and understand more about proper social behavior. In my culture, I should ask her father's permission to speak with her, as he is her mahram. However, someone told me she might be offended if I approach her parents before speaking to her directly.

But that’s what I feel obligated to do, otherwise, it could be considered inappropriate according to my beliefs.

Another thing that worries me is that I’m not wealthy at the moment. I’m working hard to get a good education and improve my knowledge, which I hope will help me build a better future. I have clear goals—like building my own home hopefully, both in my hometown and in Ireland. But I know it’s not easy, especially with the high costs of living here. That said, I don’t want to leave Ireland, and I find her truly special.

I’ve lived in former Muslim lands, so even though the culture and heritage of my hometown are very different from Ireland’s, I do plan to visit occasionally because most of my family still lives there.

Anyway, I’ve poured my thoughts out here, but the main question remains: do I even stand a chance to connect with this lady before she meets a nice Irish guy and marries him?

HildaOgdenx

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