2 month old won't shut the **** up since she was 2 weeks old. Nurse said it's colic, "be grand".

J-B

I’m really sorry to hear it is so tough for you both. Our first child was similar & I can remember the non-stop screaming and distress. It is absolute hell for everyone - can really identify with a lot of what you are going through like not being able to go to a cafe etc. It’s so hard when you are both so wrecked with no respite. We ended up being referred by GP into A&E after multiple visits to the GP, hysterical baby, gastric upset etc. The hospital put him on strong anti reflux meds & special formula which really really helped. After that the GP was able to keep prescribing the meds. I’m not saying that your baby has reflux but what you are describing is not normal & you need to get a paediatrician team to help. Well done on getting the GP involved - our first GP didn’t believe us so we changed GP & the difference was amazing.

Also totally agree that you should take any help offered, even having short breaks from the crying/stress can help massively. Self care is so important for you both.

appledrop

God love you OP it's not easy.

There is definitely something not right it's just this frustrating time until you figure out what it is.

Hound them until you figure it out. It was amazing the different when we found a solution for our son with the reflux( It didnt go away but reduced a lot). Not saying that's the issue with your daughter but something not right. Could definitely be an intolerance as others have said or silent reflux.

Your comment about the cafe brought me back! We couldn't go anywhere with my son either in those first few months due to his reflux. I remember one day I had to go to shops for groceries and he was screaming for bottle early( I had one ready to make up if needed) so I fed him in the shopping centre and then afterwards he got sick all over the floor and me. I nearly died but staff were lovely.

Yep it's not easy, for your own sanity do what you have to take leave so that you can both take turns minding the baby and getting some down time aswell.

selfbuilder22

my babies face was worse,it was very dry and scaley for approx 4 weeks,not sure whether it was the CMPA or a bad case of baby acne tbh.
I agree with the others you could take annual leave now knowing you have the parents leave for future use,I’m sure the 6 week rule isn’t fully enforced either you could check it out might need to give 2/3 weeks notice instead.

pc7

if it’s not the feeding there is a term ‘high needs baby’ and it might fit too. Very tough on you, if you google you’ll see some of the things fit, stressed, can’t be put down etc.

But medical help seems best route first to try rule everything else out.

notAMember

All my babies had skin like this too, no intolerances. I think I remember it was just part of their baby development, and it passed. Like teenage hormonal acne.

Agree with others, you both need rest. Did you get some time off work?

And 110% agree with the others, please feel no shame in asking anyone to take a baby for a few hours when she might be fussy or crying. No-one expects a perfectly behaved baby, this is a fantasy expectation you've set for yourself.

On the baby refusing to lie down and sleep… maybe I just had thick stupid babies and yours is the smartest kiddo on the block, but I had a hot water bottle warming up the bouncy chair for a few mins, and swapped the boob with a soother when they fell asleep on me. I was able to then do a switch, gently put the baby in the warmed bouncy chair with their soother and they were somehow fooled. Warmth + small bits of bouncy movement + something in the gob = Fake Mama.