girls buying drinks?!? for boys???

pickarooney

Ah, the thread wouldn't be complete without WWM having a good dig at the Irish and their nasty ways.

the_syco

I'll buy the first drink. Then I'll either do rounds, or each buy our own. This is for mates, family, and it'll be the same if I ever get a date. I've seen how leeches take the "man's" money, whilst she earns money, and I don't like it one bit.

I'd actually loose respect for her if she didn't buy any drink. I hate leeches.

WWM: in England, do the women ever pay for their drink?

Amz

uberwolf wrote:

buy back or put out. TBH

So if we buy back we don't have to put out?

... Damn!

funk-you

i'd have no problem paying for whole nights out as long as some sort of a gesture was made back ie: just an offer of a drink, if it wasn't by the third round i'd be extending my middle finger and walking away. presumtuous women are the worst.......remember you aint doing me a favour by goin out with me. in saying that i do pay for more than my gf but i also earn twice what she does. as for meals etc... i'd pay unless she's uncomfortable with it. the chivalry thing has nothing to do with paying for anything, its the way you act and treat your girl with respect.

had a friend rant on to me during the week(he's a poor student boo hoo, been there done that) about how unfair it is that he drinks pints all night but still has to pay for all his girlfriends vodka red bulls, i know they can be expensive but would it bother most people?

suppose another factor would be if you are short of cash you'd be watching it more. still though, its only money. it wont matter to you after your next pay cheque.

DonkeyStyle \o/

I sit in the pub waiting for girls to come up and offer to buy me drinks... doesn't happen very often though.

stagolee

WhiteWashMan wrote:

as my partner says, 'ireland is the only country in the world where a man can come up to a woman, offer her a drink, and if she turns it down for some reason, he will turn around and tell her shes a stupid cúnt anyway...'

and you know what, shes right!

i dont know about that , that just sounds like the behaviour of an utter arsehole, and you get arseholes in every country unfortunatley, we dont have a monopoly on them

skywalker

pwd wrote:

I've been out with a couple of girls who insisted on paying for everything (ie for my drinks and food too). I've been out with girls who brought no money and assumed I should pay for them.
The latter seemed presumptious, arrogant, and quite inconsiderate; especially when I did not have much spare cash. It caused me not to respect them.
The former was charming and made me respect them more. It also made me more inclined to trust them: I've been with total leeches, in every sense, and I'm wary of that happening again.

Just out of interest, how have you found out that they havent brought out a penny with them? I mean did they bring it up at the start? I can safely say if a girl ever said that to me, Id be wondering how she paid for her taxi home, as I headed out the door a minute later.

misswex

Well I think it should be 50/50, would feel very uncomfortable if somebody paid for everything and its just nice to buy the person a drink back, natural way of things I think.

matrim

funk-you wrote:

had a friend rant on to me during the week(he's a poor student boo hoo, been there done that) about how unfair it is that he drinks pints all night but still has to pay for all his girlfriends vodka red bulls, i know they can be expensive but would it bother most people?

I've a friend who always does this. The worst thing is that when it is her round she will but herself a pint but if anyone else is buying she gets a vodka and red bull (doesn't even keep the red bull to use in 2 drinks).

I've tried doing the same to her a couple of times and I tought she was going to refuse to buy me the drink, she got so sulky about it.

I wouldn't mind but she earns about half again as much I do

boneless

DonkeyStyle \o/ wrote:

I sit in the pub waiting for girls to come up and offer to buy me drinks... doesn't happen very often though.

Same here... I will accept drink- but not cash!! I have a tiny bit of pride left...

eyebrows

matrim wrote:

I've a friend who always does this. The worst thing is that when it is her round she will but herself a pint but if anyone else is buying she gets a vodka and red bull (doesn't even keep the red bull to use in 2 drinks).

what a scabby wee bítch.

hullaballoo

Do girls feel patronised by guys buying all night? or do they just see it as a free night.

skywalker wrote:

Btw hullaballoo, whats with the "Only after a few dates" option. Precedent will defeinitely be set if your paying everything on the first few dates, if you suddenly stop so will the relationship.

Au contraire. i've had a gf for 3 yrs, she never expects a fcuking thing except for me to treat her the odd time which I don't mind doing.

Maybe it's because I earn more from my part-time job then others do in theirs, thereby making me feel like i have a bit more to throw around.

Tbh, i usually buy three or four for my gf, then she might pay for her own if she wants more. That system works for me, and i think it reflects ill-breeding if you accept a drink from a girl.

ionapaul

Ill-breeding? Ah get over it, you've lost the debate on this, no need to stoop to insults!

dondonjordan

Of course girls can buy guys drinks.

It depends of course if they are friends or if they meet in a pub.

In that case the guy should offer the girl drinks. If she refuses you know she's a keeper.

cmcquaid

i think that its common courtesy to buy at least a few drinks for a girl and if she offers to buy you one back after these it shows shes not a leech

Sherifu

hullaballoo wrote:

and i think it reflects ill-breeding if you accept a drink from a girl.

That's the biggest pile of **** i've read on boards for some time.

goin'_to_the_PS

I am MAN wrote:

It should be equal. I think paying a womans way is old fashioned now.

end of story

BizzyC

As a guy, I feel obliged to pay but,
I find that a lot of girls these days get annoyed if you always pay their way.
My gf gives out when if don't let her pay some of the time.

WhiteWashMan

pickarooney wrote:

Ah, the thread wouldn't be complete without WWM having a good dig at the Irish and their nasty ways.

ahh, and as ever, you dont like my opinion....

the_syco wrote:

WWM: in England, do the women ever pay for their drink?

and like everyone here, im sure each and every one of them have their own opinions on whether or not a bloke should pay on a date.

but since you have said 'ever' in your sentence, im probably going to have to go with an answer along the lines of, im sure that the vast majority of themhave purchased themselves a drink at least once in their lives.

pickarooney

WhiteWashMan wrote:

ahh, and as ever, you dont like my opinion....

Ah no, I'm just too much of a bollocks to chime in when I actually agree with something.

Besides, it's hardly your opinion now, is it?

WhiteWashMan

did i say it was my opinion?

can you point me directly to where you think i said it?

pickarooney

7cm up and alightly to the left, perhaps further if you've a 19" screen.

WhiteWashMan

show me the quote please

Giblet

I've had girls buy me pints before, tis great, just like any type of free drink is great!

CathyMoran

In an ideal world: I believe that the person who is earning more should pay more than the person who is earning less. While my best friend was finishing college I would never let him pay for anything as I was working.

I do not mind paying my fair share, however I did date someone who picked an expensive resteraunt then left his wallet at home, he even expected me to pay for his bus ticket, he did that a few times, needless to say, he is an ex. In a relationship there has to be give and take. For a first date it is nicer if the girl offers to go 50/50 then he refuses and she buys him a drink...after that a bit of give and take.

She-Ra

True enough girls spend more on looking good but I'd never expect to be bought for all night so round for round works... if a guy said to me he'd spent so much money on his clothes so could i carry him all night.. i'd be havin' an issue!

simu

She-Ra wrote:

True enough girls spend more on looking good but I'd never expect to be bought for all night so round for round works... if a guy said to me he'd spent so much money on his clothes so could i carry him all night.. i'd be havin' an issue!

Indeed - besides, women do that for themselves as much as anyone.

Altheus

I hate buying drinks for girls, why? They're so bloody expensive. I mean, I'd feel bad asking a girl for the change for a bus, never mind a €5 drink...

That said, me and the girlfriend have a good system, usually one buys the drink, the other the smokes and taxi.

pwd

rkm wrote:

That's the biggest pile of **** i've read on boards for some time.

me too

daithimac

when i have the money i buy the drinks, and most of the girls from my experiance would expect me to. I also work in a pub and i see that when new couples come in they usually take turns buying rounds but with most of the married couples the bloke buys all the beer. you've been warned lads

4Xcut

Thb the whole thing of a man traditionally paying the way was that women didn't work or were payed much less. In this day and age if a woman is working she should pay her way aswell. I'm not saying be cheap but with the price of a night out its rediculas(sp?) to expect a guy to pay for everything all the time.