Sick of bad luck

TattyTeddy

secret_squirrel wrote:

If this is true



then why did you post this 10 mins earlier?



To be honest you have made several contradictory posts on this thread - which either goes to show what kind of state of mind you are in, or that you are attention seeking. TBH I think you're tending to the latter or maybe both.

Just have a look back a just your own posts and ask if you have presented anything at all consistent. You need some major time out - to find yourself and to sort out your head.

You are coming across as your own worst enemy, and sounding like you have a lot of maturing still to do....

Good luck with it....

Thanks but it IS possible to WANT to find someone but not necessily NEED to be with someone to be happy

Sleepy

TattyTeddy, the first step to beating a problem is to accept that it exists. Simply pretending that you have self-confidence can be an effective technique for overcoming the problem but first you have to accept that there's a problem and start pretending rather than lying to yourself.

Son_of_Belial

TattyTeddy wrote:

I'd quite happily have just had him as a shag buddy from day one but he wasn't on for that!!

**Splutter, cough, choke** He did what?! OMG, that's the best thing ever! Hey, I like the sound of you more and more! I've done the whole Fvck Buddies thing a few times and it's great (so long as emotions don't get involved).

Although, childishness aside, what if you were fvck buddies, and then he got a girlfriend and ended your little arrangement. Would you be p1ssed at this?

TattyTeddy

Hmmm... C things have changed now as he rang me today asking me to get back with him but I've been thinking it not a good idea but not sure. I would like to be shag buddies but to be honest, I think I'd be upset if I saw him with someone else

Son_of_Belial

Then it's not a good idea. As for getting back with him now, I'd advise against it... He's dumped you already, don't give him carte blanche to do it again. Make him see what he's just thrown away. That'll probably be the worst punishment. The realisation that he can't ever have you anymore. If you know you're going to be somewhere where he'll see you, wear a short skirt and high heels, fake tan whatever, doll yourself up to the nines and then be really palsy-walsy and flirtatious with other guys in front of him. It'll drive him nucking futs! and he'll see what a total idiot he was to have ditched you. Problem is that you need to be strong as well, and no matter how much he grovels at your manicured toe-nails in your best strappy shoes, don't budge in your resolve. It'll bother him for weeks. Trust me. There's nothing worse for a guy than seeing something that he could have had any time he wanted at one point, denied him forever, even though it's dangled right under his nose.

TattyTeddy

hhhmmmmmm i like your thinking but I really think I should put my game playing in the past!!! One more chance I shall grant him but then thats it completely.

Son_of_Belial

Well it's your funeral...

shellby

TattyTeddy wrote:

hhhmmmmmm i like your thinking but I really think I should put my game playing in the past!!! One more chance I shall grant him but then thats it completely.

what do think it's going to achieve cause i can tell you right now another break up and when that happens whats your next thread gonna be "what did i do to deserve this"
darling its written all over the three pages infront of you don't do it if you were insecure about the relationship before what do think its gonna be like now the guy slept with you then dumped you that's called a severence s**g sweetie and shows he has no respect for you
i know the only thing you want now is for someone to tell you that your making the right decision but no no no no no no your not
you need to find yourself who you are and what you want and you won't if your with someone who takes advantage of your insecurities which by the way would be alot less if you were in a trusting loving and caring relationship

don't be a fool girl there's nothing to gain but another heart ache and nothing to loose but your self respect

but if you do get back with him i bet the first thing he wants is a s**g then you'll know what he's like but you probably won't do anything about it anyway

Zulu

TattyTeddy wrote:

One more chance I shall grant him but then thats it completely.

...from the sounds of it, you deserve it.

shellby

Zulu wrote:

...from the sounds of it, you deserve it.

deserves what another heart ache
if thats the case normally i would agree because only a fool would put themselves back in that situation
but i have been that fool you think its the easier option but its NOT

Zulu

shellby wrote:

deserves what another heart ache

Exactly. Read her first couple of posts.

TattyTeddy

Zulu wrote:

...from the sounds of it, you deserve it.

And from the sounds of that...... I'd say you're not getting any!

Zulu

TattyTeddy wrote:

And from the sounds of that...... I'd say you're not getting any!

I love when people challenge others sexual activates over an internet bulletin board. :rolleyes:
Pathetic really.
10/10 for childishness.

Son_of_Belial

Zulu wrote:

I love when people challenge peoples sexual activates over an internet bulletin board. :rolleyes: Pathetic really.

I agree. How can you know what people get up to just from a single comment? Plus it pisses me off no end when people go "Oh, clearly isn't getting any" **Ooo, look at me, I'm having sex, I'm such a rebel!** Please. Are people really so childish that they see sex as a status thing now? Do you really think that you're better than people who for whatever reason aren't having sex on a regular basis? By implication, these people think they are better than, say, a 20 year old friend of mine who is drop dead gorgeous and could have any guy she wanted, but is in fact still a virgin? I know I won't be getting any for a while now that I've been single for the last week, and I'm OK with that. Sorry tattyteddy, I like the sound of you from your last posts but seriously girl... Grow up. OK, rant over

eyebrows

TattyTeddy wrote:

And from the sounds of that...... I'd say you're not getting any!

that backfired just a tad

TattyTeddy

Zulu wrote:

I love when people challenge others sexual activates over an internet bulletin board. :rolleyes:
Pathetic really.
10/10 for childishness.

Ha ha, how frightfully ironic. You say I judge over a post....... well u are judging me by a couple of things I write! Don't be such a hypocrite

Zulu

TattyTeddy wrote:

Ha ha, how frightfully ironic.

How frightfully sad... How is that ironic exactly?

You say I judge over a post....... well u are judging me by a couple of things I write! Don't be such a hypocrite

I couldn't care less how you "judge" me. I was just pointing out how terriably childish you appear, when you resort to questioning a random strangers sex life.

shellby

TattyTeddy wrote:

Ha ha, how frightfully ironic. You say I judge over a post....... well u are judging me by a couple of things I write! Don't be such a hypocrite

you asked for advise and simply couldn't handle it whren people told you the truth i can't believe that you can ask for sympathy but react so childishly when you are told what you don't want to hear

by the way humour my did you give him a second chance

TattyTeddy

shellby wrote:

you asked for advise and simply couldn't handle it whren people told you the truth i can't believe that you can ask for sympathy but react so childishly when you are told what you don't want to hear

by the way humour my did you give him a second chance

"advise" = adviCe
"whren" - when

Need I say more?

LundiMardi

TattyTeddy wrote:

"advise" = adviCe
"whren" - when

Need I say more?

Well you're really proving everyone wrong with your posts aren't ya? :rolleyes:

Maybe you're being petty because you know taking him back is the wrong decision? You can't handle facing that fact so instead of defending your actions you turn to childish remarks instead?

TattyTeddy

LundiMardi wrote:

Well you're really proving everyone wrong with your posts aren't ya? :rolleyes:

Maybe you're being petty because you know taking him back is the wrong decision? You can't handle facing that fact so instead of defending your actions you turn to childish remarks instead?

Oh praise the lord, you are so very right..... however did you know. Wow, I'm still reeling from your incredibly accurate figuring of me. Wow. You all seem to know me so well. My god.

shellby

TattyTeddy wrote:

Oh praise the lord, you are so very right..... however did you know. Wow, I'm still reeling from your incredibly accurate figuring of me. Wow. You all seem to know me so well. My god.

people really were just trying to help you grow up

Sleepy

Any chance this could be used as a case in point to add a rule banning posters that get bitchy when they don't like the (good) advice they're given?

vibe666

sounds rather like everybody here could do with getting a bit more loving.

what happened to trying to help someone with some problems?

seems like it's impossible these days for anyone do get any good advice without someone making a stupid comment and starting a flame war.

secret_squirrel

How does a bunch of posters trying to help someone - who appears not ready to accept help equal a flame war?

The OP has seen enough opinions now to see where the bulk of the advice is headed. Since she appears not to wish to head in that direction our work here is done. Close it tbh.