Is your yoke what you want it to be?

LegacyUser

Ok. An actual problem. Please keep your pis taking to yourself.


Right. I'm an apparently pretty good looking guy and I have a problem that is wrecking my head and my sex life.

I am 24. I am quite attractive to the female kind. But I still feel somewhat inadequate, I think.

Basically, every time I'm with a girl I feel she is expecting the time of her life. And most of the time I dont think I can give that. I am 6'1" but I am fairly average sized down there. About 6" i think. Never actually measured.

I have a girlfriend atm and I'm extatic about the whole thing but I still feel that I should be giving more. So I turn to penis enlargement.

Just about every girl thinks about breast enlargement for benefit to her own self consciousness so this is the same thing.

I'm fully functional and I just want to somehow increase girth. So how do I go about that? It would settle me in a way that is hard to comprehend nevermind explain.

Anyone got it done or know of any good specialists or prices? Cheers for any help.

DonkeyStyle \o/

Leboeff wrote:

I have a girlfriend atm and I'm extatic about the whole thing but I still feel that I should be giving more.

Two words... give head.

jcoote

is it too short or is it just the width your worried about

LegacyUser

DonkeyStyle \o/ wrote:

Two words... give head.

He's right you know.....
FYI, six inches isn't really that bad.

It's as much about your attitude, confidence and approach as anything else. I guess there will always be some women for whom "size" does matter, but then again there are guys who are bigger naturally so in that case it matches up. Girls who like it bigger get the guys that are bigger.

In general though it's not the issue.

Sex is fun. Enjoy teh sex..
Get erotic and give massages and just spend time on foreplay including the aforementioned head. Talk to your gf about what she likes and what she doesn't.

Also I hate to generalise but don't think in terms of some guy with a big one giving it loads. If you think that satisfies a girl then you are mistaken. It's all in the rhythm..... (The pelvic bones are the key by the way..)

seamus

Apparently, an extremely large percentage of women never orgasm through penetration. So you're not alone.

Now, that's not to say that
a) Your girlfriend will never orgasm through penetration when with you and
b) You will always be unable to make any girl orgasm through penetration.

It's all about time and experience. As DonkeyStyle points out, there are other ways to make her happy. Take your time, delay actual penetration for a while, and concentrate on her. With the correct foreplay, your dick could be a lollipop stick, and she would still orgasm.

There is plenty of advice on foreplay and how to give her the most arousal during sex, on the net. Be assured that most other men have the exact same problem as you, or did at one time.

jcoote

yeah i have had that orgasm problem but it was definatly the lack of foreplay due to myself and my girlfriend living at home at the time thaat caused... foreplay goes a long way no doubt about it...also try different positions...you may not be "hitting her spot" by using the positions you are using

Iago

DonkeyStyle \o/ wrote:

Two words... give head.

There will be no better advice given on this thread.

Penetration is overrated, it's what you do beforehand that makes the difference. Take your time and use plenty of foreplay and it'll never be an issue.

delboy159

This type of question is common in so many parts of life.

Golf - Everyone wants a big 300 yrd drive, but the delicate stuff, chipping and putting is where the winning of the game lies.

Driving a car - you think it's all about turning the sterring wheel, accelerating and braking, but no one told you about the skill and practice needed to manage the gears, reversing into a tight parking spot etc.

Then there is the really abvious analogy ---

If you want to paint a wall - get a bigger paint brush.
If you want to paint a master piece - a small brush - and skill...

In reality if you want to pleasure a woman it's all about skillful arousal, not ramming it into her with a 10 inch mallet (unless she likes that sort of thing!!!).

I am probably the same size as yourself and if God offered me
a. an extra 4 inches
b. the knowledge to know where and how to touch a woman

I'd take option b. like a shot...

Does anyone else agree?

seamus

delboy159 wrote:

Does anyone else agree?

100% my friend. Well said.

jcoote

delboy159 wrote:

Does anyone else agree?

nail on the head my man..nail on the head

Iago

delboy159 wrote:

I am probably the same size as yourself and if God offered me
a. an extra 4 inches
b. the knowledge to know where and how to touch a woman

I'd take option b. like a shot...

Does anyone else agree?

Agreed, and for a small once off payment I can provide that knowledge to you, just call my toll free number 0800-HOT-SEX for details on payment methods and experience the difference

LegacyUser

Dont get me wrong. I have absolutely no problems with foreplay or afterplay and i can have a girl orgasm as many times as I want, and while I realise that, I think, 75% of girls cannot orgasm through penetration alone and I have been with many who certainly could and did, I just am curious as to what options are out there if any.

nobodythere

jcoote wrote:

nail on the head my man..nail on the head

There'll be none of that awful imagery in a thread like this please!

LadyJ

I was once with a guy who literally had the most massive cock I've ever seen in my life and penetration didn't make me cum.
He had to get to work on my clit. So do give that a go!

And seriously,the thing was enormous but it may as well have been a pencil tbh!

Nightwish

it is most definately WHAT u do with it that matters, not the size
there are positions which will help u penetrate deeper, so maybe u should research those, and give em a try

oh yeah, you can NEVER give too much head!

derek27

delboy159 wrote:

This type of question is common in so many parts of life.

Golf - Everyone wants a big 300 yrd drive, but the delicate stuff, chipping and putting is where the winning of the game lies.

Driving a car - you think it's all about turning the sterring wheel, accelerating and braking, but no one told you about the skill and practice needed to manage the gears, reversing into a tight parking spot etc.

Then there is the really abvious analogy ---

If you want to paint a wall - get a bigger paint brush.
If you want to paint a master piece - a small brush - and skill...

In reality if you want to pleasure a woman it's all about skillful arousal, not ramming it into her with a 10 inch mallet (unless she likes that sort of thing!!!).

I am probably the same size as yourself and if God offered me
a. an extra 4 inches
b. the knowledge to know where and how to touch a woman

I'd take option b. like a shot...

Does anyone else agree?

those words should have a web site of their own! i cant imagine anybody could answer the initial posters question in any way better than this. so many blokes have a 'disagreement' with themselves that their manhood is good enough or big enough. this is the best answer they could get! nice one delboy159.

Bottle_of_Smoke

How would you explain if they phucked things up? Crapfork!

Mr.Nice Guy

I'm no expert at biology but from what I've read, a woman's G-spot is located around 3 inches into her vagina. Generally, the average male penis is anywhere between 5-7 inches.

In other words, penis size tends to be overrated. As the old saying goes, it ain't the wand that counts but the wizard who weaves it.

Zillah

Mr.Nice Guy wrote:

I'm no expert at biology but from what I've read, a woman's G-spot is located around 3 inches into her vagina. Generally, the average male penis is anywhere between 5-7 inches.

In other words, penis size tends to be overrated. As the old saying goes, it ain't the wand that counts but the wizard who weaves it.

Normal penetrative sex does not stimulate the G-Spot. A normal orgasm is nothing to do with the G-Spot, that gets an orgasm all of its own. Apparently its a long, rolling (and far more satisfying one).

To the OP, you have a six inch cock and you think this is a problem? Do you realise thats actually above average? I suspect you watch/believe too much porn...

BrianD3

OP, your insecurity about your size is unfounded. 6 inches is about average. There have been a number of studies done on penis size, the most well known of which is one by Alfred Kinsey. Google Kinsey + penis size to find the stats for yourself.

You would be crazy to consider getting surgery to enlarge your penis. Size gains are usually minimal and there is a risk that you could be left with a non functioning or disgusting looking lad after the surgery. Pills and creams that claim to enlarge the penis are a total scam. Hanging weights from your penis will probably leave you with damaged tissue and a non functioning lad. Penis pumps are available but size gains are only temporary.

There is one natural method that *may* allow you to enlarge your cock a bit. Do a google search for Jelqing. You'll find stuff on light stretching and penis massaging exercises. There are many reports of this working, however this could be total BS and you could damage your lad trying to enlarge it.

As for the topic of whether size matters - lots of women say that it doesn't matter but is that what they really think or are they saying it so as not to hurt small dicked men's feelings? Would these women be satisfied if their b/f had a 2 inch penis? Do women claim that size is not important because admitting to liking big dicked men is seen by some as being "shallow" or "slutty"?

angel?

Its so isnt the size that matters its how u work at it before hand and how long u can keep her at the edge........drive a women mad before u enter and well the fireworks will cum.........

joejoem

There is a surgery that can be done to increase lenth. Your penis is atached by a tendon which holds it agains the pelvis. THis can be severed and you can get anything from 0.4 to 2 inches.

On the other hand I would say its not the size of your weapon its the fury of the battle. Im big but I dont think I have to work any less.

*Page*

sexual intercourse is great i love it!

but my guy gets me by how he holds me and kisses me.
its amazing sex with him...
but with every other person i've ever slept with i never came ever!!!
the first time with him and bobs your uncle i was in heaven.

Dr Cox's Ego

I agree with Delboy. And get down there and lap like a dog.

Ba_barbaraAnne

If it ain't broke - dont fix it! :-)

WhiteWashMan

Leboeff wrote:

Ok. An actual problem. Please keep your pis taking to yourself.


Right. I'm an apparently pretty good looking guy and I have a problem that is wrecking my head and my sex life.

I am 24. I am quite attractive to the female kind. But I still feel somewhat inadequate, I think.

Basically, every time I'm with a girl I feel she is expecting the time of her life. And most of the time I dont think I can give that. I am 6'1" but I am fairly average sized down there. About 6" i think. Never actually measured.

I have a girlfriend atm and I'm extatic about the whole thing but I still feel that I should be giving more. So I turn to penis enlargement.

Just about every girl thinks about breast enlargement for benefit to her own self consciousness so this is the same thing.

I'm fully functional and I just want to somehow increase girth. So how do I go about that? It would settle me in a way that is hard to comprehend nevermind explain.

Anyone got it done or know of any good specialists or prices? Cheers for any help.

if you think that sex is only about having an oversized penis, then i think you watch too much porn. the rest of us manage to get along fine with normal sized genetalia.

i havent read anything other than your initial post, so i dont know if tere are more details, but what i would suggest is that you feel inadequate, not because of your penis size, but becuase of your 'performance'.

or should i say, how you percieve your performance. as you get older, and you meet many people and you get 'experience' you will find out that sex is not always about making women have screaming orgasms for 3 hours. believe it or not, sex is not always like sex and the city.

learning how to touch, and be touched by a woman, and being in a realtionship with someone and exploring and finding out what makes each other tick, is far more rewarding than have 10 minutes of ultra fast pelvic thrusts into a piece of meat.

life is not porn.

Steveire

i googled jelqing and got to a site with extremely bad english, so not sure i'd follow any advice from it even though it seems genuine:

make shore you read and understand each enlargement exercise and program thouroghly before proceading.

it is recomended in all ocasions that the beginers penis enlargement program is used for a minimam of two weeks to get you and your penis used to the enlargement exercises and tequnices.

This exercise you can start anywhere weather your at home at collage in the car or at work!

it looks like engrish, but it's a co.uk website.

I could go on like this, but that would only be wasting your time. I really think it's it's time for a sex discussion board of some description.

LegacyUser

like the OP i too worry tons about my size, so much that I frequently cut sex short because I cant get fully turned on. I always got slaggings in the shower when young so maybe thats a bit of it, but from watching porn I'm especially embarassed theres such a difference. I was giving it doggy to this chick for a while too and it kept coming out so i gave up on that -the embarassment was awful. Over the years its mounted and i find myself growing more scared of sex, because of the disappointment awaiting. Im great at getting a girl to orgasm but penetrative sex, and cumming, is a nightmare. i did measure it and its around 5-6 inches, but its rarely fully hard, due to the mental problems i suppose, i remember getting a blow job off a whore and slowly going limp, she wasnt impressed.
If I stopped masturbation for a few weeks(was tempted to say hours, but this is serious) would i actually be any hornier?

StandnDeliver

i think its about confidence,than anything,personally i think the ability to touch a woman in the right places thats all you need and maybe her to tell u ur good in bed would help ya be confident and maybe even try new things in bed so ye can excel together

Suaimhneach

Its not the size of the boat its the motion in the ocean.

Also, *Page*, your post was in no way useful, and entirely far too much information for anyone to need to know. You too LadyJ.

Most of the advice been given is spot on. 6" is perfectly fine and you should stop worrying.

Also, there are two people in your relationship, maybe you should share your concern with the lady and she will probably reassure you not to worry. Communication is the key here. No point fretting over something that you shouldn't be, esp on your own.

John R

joejoem wrote:

There is a surgery that can be done to increase lenth. Your penis is atached by a tendon which holds it agains the pelvis. THis can be severed and you can get anything from 0.4 to 2 inches.

That surgery only increases the visible length of a flacid penis, it does nothing for the erect length. Only for the boys who want to prove to all their "mates" in the locker room that they are big.

A pretty stupid reason to have some butcher hack away at your genitals if you ask me.

TerrorFirmer

Jesjes wrote:

Also, *Page*, your post was in no way useful, and entirely far too much information for anyone to need to know. You too LadyJ.

Yeah I was thinking that, especially LadyJs..... :rolleyes:

life is not porn.

Exactly. Don't try to live up to preconceived notions of what sex should be. I can probably say, unless your penis has the girth of a matchstick, that you are absolutely perfectly adequate and with the right technique can provide as much for a woman as any man can.

amazingemmet

Just on the surgery note you can get your girth increased by some form of reverse liposuction. Gets good results (so i hear) the only bad thing is the fat gets reabsorbed into the body after a few years.

Nevyn

<Sigh>

Right look,
not every person you get entangled sexually with is going to be compatible.
The range of what is considered the 'norm' for men and women down there
is pretty wide and varies a lot;
too long, too short, too wide, too narrow, too deep, too shallow.

There are positions and excerises that can help no need for surgery unless
your less then 4 inches. Yes it means learning a few skills and reading up on things, http://www.loversguide.co.uk/ and the age old karma sutra.

Like any other accomplishment it takes aquring skills, pratice time and experience. Ideally we see this as something done in a loving long term realtionship or an extended playful one ,
one night stands arent so good for learning these skills.

Witches of Eastwick wrote:

SUKIE
Huge!

JANE
No. Small. Really, I prefer small.
Aesthetically. And huge can be a
problem. Sam was huge and there
were days I just couldn't face it.

ALEX
I'm sort of in the middle. But
honestly, what's the difference,
as long as it works...

sutty

op, I'd lissen to the advice given to you by Thaed and WWM. There are many places on a womans body that can "help" with stimulating her. It all depends on the woman. Ask her. Hell ask her to show you how she likes to be touched and so on. Then work on it from your own angle so to speak. As WWM said. Its more than pounding away for 10min. Best thing is to talk to your G/F and see what she had to say.

PS... the karma sutra is great fun to "look" through and see what you can do, like doing and that she can do and likes doing.

*Page*

Jesjes wrote:

Its not the size of the boat its the motion in the ocean.

Also, *Page*, your post was in no way useful, and entirely far too much information for anyone to need to know. You too LadyJ.

Most of the advice been given is spot on. 6" is perfectly fine and you should stop worrying.

Also, there are two people in your relationship, maybe you should share your concern with the lady and she will probably reassure you not to worry. Communication is the key here. No point fretting over something that you shouldn't be, esp on your own.

sorry what i was trying to say was that its not all about intercourse that makes sex good its about the rest of it..

the holding and caring.

its not all about penitartion!

xzanti

*Page* wrote:

sorry what i was trying to say was that its not all about intercourse that makes sex good its about the rest of it..

the holding and caring.

its not all about penitartion!

Here here

nesf

A late 2c... (Echoing WWM, thead, et al)


Hmm 6 inches? Meh, that's average mate. And definitely long enough. If you were sub 4 as Thead already said you'd have a problem. But 6? Nah, you're fine with that tbh.

Talk to some close female friends before getting yourself worked up about size. Women have different tastes, some prefer thickness, some lenght. Most of them want more from sex than just missionary anyways.

There are a myriad of positions that you can experiment with together. Some give deeper penetration, some shallower. Believe it or not, but guys with larger members have their own issues with sex. Some women find sex with them quite painful in most positions etc.

Also, start thinking outside the box. Look, you're "size" means relatively little. If she's turned on enough and you've done enough foreplay then she probably won't care about what size you are by the time it gets around to penetration (assuming you aren't freakishly small here).


There are also many points, not just the G-spot. Experiment, mess around, have fun together. Sex is not something that's better left not talked about. Sex is something that you should be able to talk about frankly and openly with each other about. Do this and then you both can be having a lot of pleasure, and it's a far better experience this way.

Sex is not just about rough hard "porn-style" intercourse. There is a lot more to it. Make more of an effort. Find out what she likes and get good at doing it. She should do the same of course. Learn how to give massages, a nice romantic massage using oils and such is well worth trying.

Open your mind and stop obsessing about your size. There is far more to sex than penetration. It's a fun part of it, but not the be all and end all.