Am I mad??

daz42C

Okay I have been talking to this girl on msn for 6/7 months now. At first it was just a friendship and we found out that we had lots in common but for the past 2 months my feelings for her have changed and I began to fall for her! I never planned on telling her this but last night she told me that she really really likes me so I told her that I liked her.

But now she wants me to go to visit her, but she lives in L.A, and I am only 16, but I love her and she fears we may never meet.. Has anybody got any advice?

Kevin_rc_ie

What is she?
Have you seen her?
Are you certain she tells you the truth and who she says she is, is genuine?
Can you afford 1200 dollar flights?

Gone West

I paid $1300 for a return flight a few weeks ago.
Its very expensive, especially If you were to find out that this 'girl' might just be some old man who 'coincidently' happens to share your interests. TBH, youre only 16 theres plenty of other ways to meet chicks.
*standard response: join some clubs, etc to meet girls your own age in safety.

Kevin_rc_ie

Have you discussed this with your parents?

Boggles

daz42C wrote:

Okay I have been talking to this girl on msn for 6/7 months now. At first it was just a friendship and we found out that we had lots in common but for the past 2 months my feelings for her have changed and I began to fall for her! I never planned on telling her this but last night she told me that she really really likes me so I told her that I liked her.

But now she wants me to go to visit her, but she lives in L.A, and I am only 16, but I love her and she fears we may never meet.. Has anybody got any advice?

Pic??

Yv

if the relationship is something that can last long-distance (& if you're only 16 i assume you're hardly gonna move to america anytime soon) then you don't have to go see her right away. saying she thinks you'll never meet is a bit melodramatic, isn't it? if she really feels the same as you she should also consider a visit here.

but i think it's a bit unrealistic to fly all the way over there. you've never met her in person before, ppl are often different in real life to what they're like online (i don't mean they assume a different identity, it's just that ppl come across v differently in writing to what they would face to face). plus it's incredibly far away.

my two cents.

daz42C

Kevin_rc_ie wrote:

What is she?

A Spanish Girl

Kevin_rc_ie wrote:

Have you seen her?

Yes I have seen pictures of her

Kevin_rc_ie wrote:

Are you certain she tells you the truth and who she says she is, is genuine?

Almost 100% sure

Kevin_rc_ie wrote:

Can you afford 1200 dollar flights?

No

Kevin_rc_ie wrote:

Have you discussed this with your parents?

No

Kevin_rc_ie

have you spoken with her?

daz42C

Kevin_rc_ie wrote:

have you spoken with her?

Yes I have spoken to her 3 or 4 times over the phone

Kevin_rc_ie

i assume you get on very well.

where do you expect to stay while over "there", in her parents house? a motel? a hotel? or are you planning on working all this out later?

daz42C

Kevin_rc_ie wrote:

i assume you get on very well.

where do you expect to stay while over "there", in her parents house? a motel? a hotel? or are you planning on working all this out later?

Had not even thought about it because I had not been totally keen on going I was 50-50...

daz42C

Of course we get on really well, we like the same music, the same TV shows, we have the same personalitys

Kevin_rc_ie

don't go so. i thought you were really keen on going but wanted a reality check.

Boggles

daz42C wrote:

Had not even thought about it because I had not been totally keen on going I was 50-50...

Your not mad, your 16.Unless you have the bones of 3 grand forget about it your going no where. Ask her to come visit you - Much cheaper.

Kevin_rc_ie

meet here half way, how about shannon airport...

daz42C

Kevin_rc_ie wrote:

meet here half way, how about shannon airport...

I did think about that cos she is going to spain in about 2 months, I would definetley go to shannon!

Kevin_rc_ie

spain is doable. still awkward and will require at least 500 euro.

Riamfada

Post a Pic of her. Im seriously interested. How about you go to Spain. convince a parent to come. Its possible. I met the love of my life in Spain. When I was 15 and were still in touch.

heres Graham's advice. Go to Spain. Meet Her. It might be love. She might be a man. You might see past that and just go for it! Good Luck.

Oh to be 16 again

Kevin_rc_ie

ah but you'd require so much time just the two of you. i'd hate to travel to another country and have to lot and her dad all day.

daz42C

Grimes wrote:

Post a Pic of her. Im seriously interested.

No I won't post a pic of her man, Y are u interested?

Riamfada

Dont think with you mind. Dont think of the difficulties. Just do it. Find a way and deal with the consequences. If shes not worth that then forget about it.

You should know in your heart. (Ever see Love Actually? Rent It) . Just do it. Fcuk the pic I was only messin

daz42C

Grimes wrote:

Fcuk the pic

Okay

Riamfada

nevermind. Good Luck

kawaii

Follow yo dreams.

Don't let logic oppress your spirit. If you feel a calling then don't ignore it as you'll always look back and say "what if..."

d22isanarse

First of all it,s a lot of money and where are you gonna stay when you get there,TBH she might be an old man who likes 16 year old boys .Maybe you should try meet girls who are only a bus trip away..good luck..

nobodythere

Why doesn't she come and meet you? No rush to do it...

Skip

Yes, there is, what if you die in half a year? Life's so tiny, take the chance, be happy or sad, no matter, just do it, meet her in Spain.

chuci

my god why choose la when you can have spain? at least thats doable and a little more logical. one of my friends met up with a guy she was talking to over the net didnt end up too pretty.anyway at the same time you are only 16 but i guess there is no perfect age to be in love. i all for happily ever after endings but this seems a bit excessive doesnt it?well if you really wana meet her go to spain at least your in europe and a little closer to home. cant imagine your parents being too chuffed bout the situation though. theres my two cents also.best of luck

*Page*

hey anyone remember coolock lad met a girl on line and fell for her???

now so is his little bro....wow....
small world!!!

LundiMardi

man, you're WAY too young to be going to L.A, how old is this chick? If she's older than 18 i'd stay well away.

First thing's first, you've talked over the net, talked over the phone and seen pics, now its time to get yourself a web cam and talk face to face, thid way you KNOW what she looks like and you will know for sure if you like her, at least you'll see her, her facial expressions and witness how her personality is in real time, rather than what's been typed on a keyboard.

When you've done this then you can MAYBE think about meeting. But for now, that idea is WAY above your station.

Kingp35

seems like way too much effort for me and way too much money. think about it you meet her for the week or so in Spain and then she goes back to LA and your stuck in ireland. You are 16 so I doubt you are going to move to LA anytime soon and if you are planning on that you must be nuts.

Its great when you think about it but life isnt like the movies. Things like in Love Actually generally do not happen but that doesnt mean it wont work out for you because it could.

Anyway I have put forward the bad points that you will only see her a bit etc. but then again if you only have to travel to Spain even if you only see her for two weeks and its a holiday romance those two weeks could turn out to be one of the best two weeks ever. So to summarise you have to be realistic and think that a proper relationship is never gonna happen out of this but a holiday roamnce probably will and that is definitely worth the trip to Spain.

If it was me I would go to Spain and see her for that small amount of time but thats it leave it at that. Enjoy yourselves but leave it at that. Thats what I would do anyway

The Corinthian

daz42C wrote:

But now she wants me to go to visit her, but she lives in L.A, and I am only 16, but I love her and she fears we may never meet.. Has anybody got any advice?

If she is really Spanish then it would make more sense for her to travel to Europe. After all, she can always visit family.

Seriously, however, even if you met, what would happen? You move to LA? She moves to Ireland? Have you considered that, regardless of what age you are?

gom

hey Daz

I'd consider going to Spain to meet her there for a week or two. Or else meet her in NY. New York is only marginally more to travel to than Spain but substantially cheaper for here.
Your only young so my advice is if you want to meet her do. But don't be unrealistic. You can't really run away together and you definitly can't have a long-term relationship. Meet up in Spain or NY. Hang out. Have some fun and keep in touch. Just remember that if you tie your heart to her and don;t keep an open mind about other folks you could ruin the rest of your teenage and young adult years by being hung up on a first love you can never realistically be in a relationship with.

simu

Jeez - you're only 16. You'd be better off not going to meet her, moping about for a while and developing a general sense of bitterness towards the world before your next crush. It's something that will stand you good stead in future years!

jellie

ok, say you actually meet up, and like each other etc etc. what then? ur 16 and living on different sides of the world. dont mean to be so pessimistic, but really, where could it go from there?

Beruthiel

am I the only one here who is wondering what parent would allow their 16 year old child out of the country to meet up with some stranger they met on the internet?!

Gilgamesh

Beruthiel wrote:

am I the only one here who is wondering what parent would allow their 16 year old child out of the country to meet up with some stranger they met on the internet?!

was thinking the same thing tbh, just saw this thread.

have you even had a relationship AT ALL sofar?
if not, how do you know you really love her?
I would advise you to be VERY careful in handling this, like, get her to come over here instead.
If she doesn't then why should you go there?

If you haven't even talked to your parents, then how do you know that they will let you go at all, not even thinking of how you will afford going over.

planck2

Beruthiel wrote:

am I the only one here who is wondering what parent would allow their 16 year old child out of the country to meet up with some stranger they met on the internet?!

me thinks not

Kazaanova

Stranger things have been done for women in the past. I'm not sure how you feel about her, but surely if you shes so perfect and special and the one for you and all that, travelling to meet her could wait a year or two? Even if you go, you'd have to come back to Ireland eventually and you probably wouldnt get to see her again for a year or two so why not wait?

I wouldnt mention it to your parents yet, not untill you've made your mind up. Theres no need, you know your own parents better than us, so you can probably tell what their reaction to it would be.

If you could easily afford the trip, and I mean, not even notice the money gone, not scraping it together to be able to go. Then, why not go for it?

Only go if you're dead set on going, and I don't think you are, because if you were nothing any of us could say would change your mind.

daz42C

*Page* wrote:

hey anyone remember coolock lad met a girl on line and fell for her???

now so is his little bro....wow....
small world!!!

He is my little brother and he is a moran

daz42C

chuci wrote:

my god why choose la when you can have spain? at least thats doable and a little more logical. one of my friends met up with a guy she was talking to over the net didnt end up too pretty.anyway at the same time you are only 16 but i guess there is no perfect age to be in love. i all for happily ever after endings but this seems a bit excessive doesnt it?well if you really wana meet her go to spain at least your in europe and a little closer to home. cant imagine your parents being too chuffed bout the situation though. theres my two cents also.best of luck

Ia m just about to tell my Mam, and see what she thinks, also it is not as if I will drop evreything to meet her now, the question was meant to be would it be wise of us to meet soon (i.e a couple of months)

The Corinthian wrote:

Seriously, however, even if you met, what would happen?

I don't know, but I would like to find out

The Corinthian wrote:

You move to LA? She moves to Ireland?

Well she has already said she would like to in Ireland

LundiMardi wrote:

man, you're WAY too young to be going to L.A, how old is this chick? If she's older than 18 i'd stay well away.

First thing's first, you've talked over the net, talked over the phone and seen pics, now its time to get yourself a web cam and talk face to face, thid way you KNOW what she looks like and you will know for sure if you like her, at least you'll see her, her facial expressions and witness how her personality is in real time, rather than what's been typed on a keyboard.

When you've done this then you can MAYBE think about meeting. But for now, that idea is WAY above your station.

She is 17 (6 months older than me). I am currently saving to get a webcam, so is she!

And to the person who asked if I was ever in love? Yes I have

Son_of_Belial

Daz, you're out of your tree! This happened to me when i was about 18. She was from Connecticut. I met her in England when she was on holiday there, took the boat over and all. She was a lot different in person then on MSN and to be honest she was an idiot. Even more beautiful then her pic in real life, but an idiot all the same.

to the person who asked if I was ever in love? Yes I have

Erm... No offence but you're only a kid really... I very much doubt you even fully know what love is... I'd love to hear what your mother says. Jesus, I'd keep you away from the computer for a damn month!

daz42C

Son_of_Belial wrote:

Erm... No offence but you're only a kid really... I very much doubt you even fully know what love is... I'd love to hear what your mother says. Jesus, I'd keep you away from the computer for a damn month!

I am actually afraid to tell my mam, at the moment...but if she banned me from the computer I would go to an internet café..

daz42C

daz42C wrote:

I am actually afraid to tell my mam, at the moment...but if she banned me from the computer I would go to an internet café..

Yes, I just told my mam and she said it is my life and my heart and I can do what I want with them but I still have to go to College. I don't know why but she really stressed College My mam is cool!

Kazaanova

Son_of_Belial wrote:

Erm... No offence but you're only a kid really... I very much doubt you even fully know what love is... I'd love to hear what your mother says. Jesus, I'd keep you away from the computer for a damn month!

While its very very very very likely he doesnt. Its not impossible, a lot of people have seen true love at 16.

this is the ****!so funny!you the man daz!ill come with you for the craic!does she have any hot friends like the ones you see on the oc?man if she has a friend like summer!im fcuking there!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Gazza22

Yes, to put it plainly you are mad...

Sorry i am not being very nice...no man you obviously have issues, are you lonely or going through any depression because you are allowing a virtual crush to bloom into someting serious, just stick to enjoying the chat online

Tar.Aldarion

dont think you should go as far as america yer only 16!wait a bit,i dont think you should go but spain would be a way better chioice if you are convinced to go,why not wait a while and do that webcam thing

cuppa

yes u are mad,your saving for aweb cam,and you want to go to la,get a job first,and a bank account,my grass needs cutting im blond and 16 i like tv and music,,lets meet :rolleyes:

daz42C

gazza22 wrote:

Yes, to put it plainly you are mad...

Sorry i am not being very nice...no man you obviously have issues, are you lonely or going through any depression because you are allowing a virtual crush to bloom into someting serious, just stick to enjoying the chat online

Yeah I am lonely, yeah locked up in my room most of the time, the rest I am out on my bike like a fcukin spare muppet! Also I am coming out of a depression that was like real serious

BuffyBot

It's already been said, but it bears repeating. You really should find a more realistic relationship to pursue romantically, and stop investing so much into this one.