Boredom

Nevyn

if you dotn have kids or a house together it is that simple,
you make a stand and things change for good or you go and get on with your life.

Misticles

he dosnt take me seriously! if i say something like that, he thinks i dont mean it an ill come straight back to him, and i hate the fact that he thinks like this

Nevyn

Then go.
If he donest take you seriously now then he never will.
Life is too short to drink bad wine.

OfflerCrocGod

Misticles wrote:

he dosnt take me seriously! if i say something like that, he thinks i dont mean it an ill come straight back to him, and i hate the fact that he thinks like this

You are repeating yourself OVER AND OVER again. People have been giving you the same advice and you give the same replies. What part of "Dump Him" do you not understand? Nearly 20 people have said the same thing and you still haven't acted upon the rather obvious advice; frankly it sounds to me as if you two are perfect for each other - you seem to be as lazy as he is! Just walk away from him and stop making crummy excuses.

Misticles

but i love him loads

jcoote

u love the feelin of security that u love cos he's just not into it..he's probably sound but he's not interested in a relationship wit u

crazymonkey

Leave Him, he is taking you for granted, and thats not good, he will never change,,,,,,,,,

Misticles

im mega confused

jcoote

ok so whats good about your relationship that has u confused

LundiMardi

jesus people relax will ya's!!??

In a way i'm kinda like the guy in question, i do like going out, it's just the 'getting out' that's a pain in the ass!! I'm a lazy ****er, i can't tell ya the amount of times i've bought tickets to gigs, and then come the night in question, i just don't feel like moving!! Some people are just like that!

Now don't take this the wrong way Misticles, but you're a woman, and so i'm natural going to believe that everything you say is just a tiny bit exaggerated to suit your side of the story, just a tiny bit!!:) Again, don't take that the wrong way.

I don't think he prefers the computer over you, you just think that because, well, as i said, you're a woman. You woman always over analyze everything.

Anyway, some people, like myself, are just the staying in type, we like to relax, watch a dvd, go on the net, the thought of driving ,getting a bus(especially getting a bus) just turns us off. I know before i met my gf i was ALWAYS in, i just prefered to be on my own and do my own thing.

I'm presuming this guy is the same, you just have to get him out of this mindset(may not be too easy). I presume he likes films, why would anyone who likes film not want to go to the cinema? The fact is that he probably does like going to the cinema, he just too lazy to actually get there! Which turns him off going altogether!

I'm just speaking from my own point of view, but it may help. You just have to keep nagging him to go, BELIEVE me, we DON'T like a nagging woman!!

jcoote

but have u started goin out since your gf has arrived and if u have fair feckin play...but the lad in question isn't puttin the effort in...is it a case that they are 2 different people

LundiMardi

possibly, but she still says she'd marry him though so there must be something about the guy, maybe he's good in bed.:D

I actually don't go out too often, but i don't see my gf that often either.

Beruthiel

Misticles wrote:

he dosnt take me seriously!

aren't you the dope for allowing that to be the case?

if i say something like that, he thinks i dont mean it an ill come straight back to him

well, don't you?!

and i hate the fact that he thinks like this

he thinks like that because you have allowed it and I doubt he cares enough about you either way to change, you cannot change someone unless they wish it for themselves.

you are 19, and are considering marrying him in the future, even though your relationship is not satifying you already, are you mad? you are on the road to no where and further down the line, you will break up and it coud be a lot more complicated then leaving right now.
In order for a long term relationship to last, both parties have to be happy with the way things are, you clearly are not, just because you care for him, doesn't mean that you can stay with him, it means that you are too weak to leave.
If he is not prepared to go out at least once a week and give you some time, let me tell you now, that as time goes on, he will care even less.
there are many other men out there who would suit you better, instead of trying to make him do something he doesn't want to, leave, get on with your life and find someone who will make you happier.

ADUB?

OP
It might be the way you are asking him to go to cinema out etc,
He might see it as nagging? maybe?

I suggest, sitting him down and saying we need to talk. Just u and him, with no computers in front of him, if its on ask him to turn it off, as what you have to say is important

Then be honest and as clear as possible without interruption. he can have his say after you finish talking. Say you feeling, bored and that you would like to go out once in a while, share the cost nothing to fancy and would be nice to treat each other now and again, get a bit of excitement and no same old same old etc.

See what he says, if he doesnt respond then I'd suggest you leave him, as you both too different (morelike he is too immature, and would rather play on a computer than have a grown up relationship)
Best of Luck

Kingp35

If it was me I would have dumped the person in question ages go. Whats the point in being in a relationship when you are bored all the time? He is never going to change because its obvious to everyone here that he doesnt care that much about you.

The fact that you are thinking you could marry this guy is just utter craziness!!

Do yourself a favour and give him an ultimatum to stop playing with his computer so much or you will dump him. If it was me I wouldnt even bother with the ultimatum I would just dump him anyway.

Man that guy sounds like the most boring person you could meet.

BizzyC

Guy sounds like a complete tool.

Get rid of him.

Misticles

ok thanks everyone for ur opinions

jcoote

evryone seems to be of the same opinion hopefully u can see past how u feel and get sorted...best of luck

BizzyC

Sorry mine was a bit abrupt, but the guy obviously has no real intrest.
The only reason you're there is for occasional sex.

You have to leave him now, while there's no complications.
If you stay togethor there'll be accomodation/children involved..

Good Luck