how soon is too soon?

pdunno

basically, my gf and I recently went our separate ways from a long-term relationship. I've always been very sociable and enjoyed going out, but lately things are a little different in that I am now single again. Anybody have any opinions on how soon is too soon to start seeing other people?

The split was relatively amicable, wasn't really what I wanted but I've dealt with it the best I could. Basically it came down to certain differences which I wasn't really willing to change - or couldn't change (religious beliefs, belive it or not!!).

Any advice welcome

Victor

Don't propose to the next female you see today.

Window shop. Try on those that look interesting. Once you decide that no, you won't be going back to last year's fashions, take out your wad.

pdunno

defientely not looking to get straight into another relationship, enjoying suiting myself for a change

Talliesin

I'm afraid it's one of those how long is a piece of string questions.

I'm there myself right now. I'm not going to say no to an opportunity for fun and good company, but the idea of getting into another long term relationship is just not one that sits with where I am right now. How long will it be until that changes? Meh, I'll have a better idea of that when I'm there.

Of course, these things can take one by surprise sometimes. I can think of a few examples of that.

pdunno

Yeah I understand exactly what your saying, I know nobody can really give an answer, just looking for opinions really.

Just confused at the moment, even though I accept the fact that the relationship has run it's course, I was wondering if out of respect I should at least wait X amount of time before meeting up with other people and so on.........both respect for my ex and for new people.

I don't think I'm carrying any baggage from all this, but then again if I wasn't I probably wouldn't be posting about this here!!

Baz_

As long as while you are having your fun, you don't hurt anyone else, you should have nothing to worry about. In terms of your ex you might hurt her feelings the first time she sees you with someone else, but she has to learn at some point that you have moved on, I'm not saying be heartless but there comes a point where you're being to considerate too.

Nickibaby*

I wouldn't jump into a relationship straight away after a long term one. Give yourself a little time to get your head together.

I think a month or two would be plenty.

irlirishkev

You're thinking about it too much.

Just go out and enjoy yourself. You don't have to get involved with anyone.. just relax and go with flow.

K.

simu

Whenever you meet somebody you really really want to be with.

pdunno

ok, thanks for advice

Baldie

Go out with the lads, have a laugh with the lads. If you meet someone, you meet someone... Don't go rushing things. These things will happen when they are supposed to happen...