Stepfather watching porn stuff - should I tell?

Jei

I incidentally watched my stepfather watching porn stuff. He has two children now with my mother and they seem to be pretty happy with one another, what should I do now? I think it would surely hurt her getting to know that and on the other hand the relationship with my stepfather has become better in the last time, so if I would tell her... Is someone able to show me a possibility?

Thank you...

Forget about it. Everyone does it. When you get a little older you'll understand more.

Saruman

I dont get it... whats the problem? Im not big on porn myself... though some girl on girl can be hot. But whats the problem. why would you consider telling?

Unless you are very young yourself and just dont understand... which is how you sound from your post.
No nothing to tell on. Porn is not a problem and there is nothing wrong with it. Plenty of "couples" watch it together.

Unless of course there are kids or animals in the porn in which case thats just wrong and and illegal.

bounty_hunter

Yeah, give over tbh. It's not a big deal.

jcoote

every man is gonna watch porn no matter how much he loves his family its just a natural part of being a bloke..we have hormones too ya know

Maccattack

Oh my god! :eek:

You should call the gards.












Tell them to bring beer and popcorn.

Jei

May you please stop mocking me. If you think that I am so young you may understand that this is very confusing. Or is THAT a problem?

jcoote

serious jei every guy will watch porn and i can understand why u are concerned...it doesn't mean that your stepdad is thinkin about being unfaithful or is gonna hurt your mother in anyway it just means that he finds the women on the screen atrractive..he's not really doin anything wrong maybe except for the fact that u seen him and are now worried about the situation...hope that helps a bit

Beruthiel

Jei wrote:

Or is THAT a problem?

could be, what age are you?
it's no big deal, there are far worse ways to spend your time.

Maccattack

Well ok.

Everyone else has replied saying its not a big deal - I kinda meant the same.

Maybe youre not happy with the opinions expressed here. Perhaps you want others to be discusted. The fact is a lot of people watch porn. yes, even 'normal' healthy minded people.

To each his own and all that. If it causes no harm to others then who really cares. This isnt Nazi Germany. People are (by and large) and should be free to do whatever makes them happy. Life is too short and quite often pretty miserable for a lot of people.

After all. Porn is simply people performing a perfectly natural act in front of a camera. We all have sex (hopefully!).

Maybe - could be wrong - you have a problem with your dad, or as you call him your 'stepdad'.

bounty_hunter

If you are very young, just know that there is absolutely no issue here, and you'll understand why when you're older. Of course if you are quite young and confused I can understand why this might make you slightly uncomfortable, but there is absolutely no need to go reporting it to anybody and creating a fuss. I can almost guarantee your mother won't have a problem with it like you do, there's no point in making it awkward for yourself.

And if you're not very young, you really need to just have a good look around and catch up with the 21st century.

Jei

Thank you jcoote, it helps indeed. The thing is that I think one should watch it together, not secretly. And maybe my mother knows and wants him to watch it alone. Nice imagination. I'll keep it.

@ Beruthiel
I'm 18.

jcoote

well see the sight of 2 people having sex isn't always appealing to a woman so men don't always ask and just go ahead with watching it on their own ya know...

men have to go hunting for the sex usually and that makes it a bigger deal to us than women of whom the majority of them can just go out and get it if they want it

Jei

Well thanks, you're right. It maybe was just... very unexpected, especially if he knows that I'm at home.
I know this is not Nazigermany and I don't life in stoneage. I sometimes watch it with my girlfriend cause she likes it, but that's the reason why I think it should be openly handled, don't you think?
I know, too, that my mother doesn't know, we wondered where the pages come from in the internet. This is what disturbes me. Not porn itself, everyone may do as they like.

jcoote

well see if your stepdad told your mother and she freaked out then he'd be pissed off because he caused an unnessecery argument...i think u only think people should watch it together because that is what your comfortable with in your current state of mind

Maccattack

Little story...

I had a job some years ago whereby I had to install video players in peoples homes. Remember when they had to be tuned in to the TV?

Anyway, Id always ask if they had a video tape i could use to get a picture. Well. The amount of times I was sat there tuning in a vcr with flickering images of horizontal folk dancing, I tell ya.

The good thing about it was that we also had to pick the vcr's up too. Guess what was periodically found inside...

gaf1983

Sorry to go off topic but it reminds me of a story I heard from a friend of mine who was in Canada for a year.

A friend of his out there worked in an old folks home. Anyway one day there was a fire-drill and everyone vacated the building except for one old guy who stayed in his room. It was her job to go and get him, so she opened the door to discover the 80something-year-old in front of the TV, headphones on, watching porn and happily cracking one off, oblivious to the fire alarm.

She said she couldn't have sex for about 6 months after seeing that.

jcoote

was it porn maccattack ...yeah everyone does it and its not harming anyone

Jei

Of course it is. Feeling comfortable with the state of mind is always the basis for any opinion, I think.
Unfortunately I have to go now, but you have convinced me. I'll stop thinking about it then and maybe ask him where to find the best pages to watch with my girlfriend!
I wish you a nice day.

toiletduck

ffs :rolleyes:

AARRRGH

I can understand Jei being freaked if his stepfather was ...doing things... while watching the porn.

Otherwise I wouldn't be too bothered. It's just embarrassing rather than anything else. More for him than you tbh!

Stompbox

Dont worry its completely natural, I suppose

dlofnep

Tell your mother and be rid of this sexually orientated pilgrim!

No seriously, what do you think would come out of telling your mother?

Gordon

toiletduck, if you have nothing to say then don't post.

Maccattack

toiletduck wrote:

ffs :rolleyes:

I was gonna say the same thing.

Mina Loy

all i have to say is 'lol' . who the hell cares! tis only nudie peoples

Victor

Jei, is your concern that he is doing it, the effect it has on his relationship with your mother or that you saw it?