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  • 28-09-2005 8:29pm
    #1
    Pixie4
    Closed Accounts Posts: 101 ✭✭


    I was in a long distance relationship until 2 days ago when out of the blue my now ex b/f told me that he couldn't handle seeing so little of me and decided that not seeing me at all was better. I'm totally confused...we went on holiday for the first time only 3 weeks ago....his suggestion. It was the longest amount of time that we had spent together since we got together a year ago. But he siad that since we came back he realised that he can't handle seeing so little of me, that he had feelings for me but that it wasn't enough for me...I'm gutted...I can't understand...any advice/help??


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  • #2
    secret_squirrel
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,357 ✭✭✭secret_squirrel


    Being in a long distance relationship myself its fairly obvious. Speaking from my experience there comes a stage when you want more - when you really want to make a life together. Its incredibly difficult to do that in a LD relationship. The amount of effort you have to do to keep it going is incredible.

    I suspect the holiday gave him a glimpse of what what really possible in your relationship - only to be denied by the distance factor. Hence rather than allow the relationship to be less than it could be he has chosen to end it.

    I quite often have that feeling - fortunately I havent acted on it, but Im conscious that in the back of mind there will come a time either to end it or to make the move to reduce the distance.

    Of course its also possible that 5 days together was too much for him and he's decided that you dont have a future that way!


  • #3
    Pixie4
    Closed Accounts Posts: 101 ✭✭Pixie4


    I have gone over those possibilities in my mind too but it just doesn't make sense,we spent the whole weekend together,everything seemed as normal and just as I was about to leave I was landed with his decision. To tell you the truth I think its a weak excuse..then again I'm hurt and need someone to blame


  • #4
    secret_squirrel
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,357 ✭✭✭secret_squirrel


    Pixie4 wrote:
    we spent the whole weekend together,everything seemed as normal

    May I suggest whilst you were having a normal time of it the breakup was in the back of his mind and he was sweating bullets*, thinking to himself seeing her like this then losing after the weekend is just too painful - time to end it.


    *Poetic license I dont know what he was thinking - merely offering a possibility


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