Meeting Girls

StephenInsane

I guess i kind of know what you're saying. If i'm in a pub and i see a girl making eye contact and she's nice, i'll definitely try to get to talk to her if i get a chance. It's really a subconcious thing.

But i know that just because she's making eye-contact doesn't mean that she definitely wants me. I've made heavy eye contact with girls i'd no interest in loads of times. And i know from experience from talking to girls who've made eye contact, more than half were having none of it when i chatted to them. Altough i've never experience the prolonged gaze and smile of which u speak.

DAEDULUS

Good advice, but i'd be worried i'd be starrin at them, waiting for them to stop, and they dont? then were just starrin at each other and i look like a perv? LOL

i know what you mean,lol but it kinda goes hand in hand with how you display yourself,if you dont look confident in how you walk,sit etc.. then it would probab ly come across as 'whos this freak staring at me',but if you are displaying this lack of confidence,then you probably wouldnt get the chance to make eye contact with her anyway

but if you strut around with your chest high,shoulders back and head up and have the kind of look on your face that says 'im king of the world' and make eye contact with a girl,it'l be more along the lines of 'whos the cocky son of a bitch,damn hes looks confident,RAWRRR'

Larianne

Yes, every girl does want the guy to come over to them. What happens a lot though is a guy could be making eye contact with you all night but then do nothing about it. Or it gets to the end of the night and they finally come over. But this is when you are tired and/or drunk and just want to go home. Or they’re really drunk and you REALLY wanna go home!! What’s the point in that.

If you include the whole group of friends rather than singling out the one girl, it makes the situation more relaxed and then the target girl can see how you interact with her friends. If you’re anyway decent, she’ll be more likely to give ya a go. Also, you could try going up to the group and say “Hey, I’m not gonna keep you long. Just I was having a discussion with my mates and….<insert question here>.” Apparently that gets things going as well.

Personally, if a guy comes up and chats with me, I’ll keep the conversation going if he’s interesting, funny and can hold a conversation. There’s nothing worse than trying to keep a conversation going with someone you’ve just met. Never ask them to “tell me a story” if it ain’t going well. And don’t appear nervous. If you’re nervous, you’re gonna make me nervous!

And sure if they aren’t interested, they aren’t interested. Most girls won’t laugh in your face. And if they do, karma will come back and bite them in the arse! Nightclubs aren’t the best places to meet girls unless you’re out to shag and even then it can be hard. If you’re looking to meet a decent girl, you’re better to head to a studenty bar, through mates mates/girlfriends, college and work or a sport.

Just relax and stop seeing us girls as alien beings.

Dilbert75

OP, I've only 2 pieces of advice, both from experience (and I'm now married with 3 kids now).

- If you feel uncomfortable meeting girls in pubs / cattle marts, sorry night clubs, try meeting them somewhere else. Like another poster said, a gym is good in that you often find similar-age people coming in after work, it can be easier to strike up conversation. There's much less pressure when you're only chatting. If you do find a rapport with someone, let it develop in its own time.

- If you start out by telling yourself you want to "meet" someone, you're putting pressure on yourself from the start. If you're only going out socialising, having the craic and the chat, you will probably feel more relaxed and therefore more confident (or less un-confident?). In my opinion, if you can't make friends with another person, its not likely that you will make a deeper relationship.

Rotide

2 things and these are the the gods honest truth.

Women LIKE bastards.

Women are turned off by computer geeks.

People on this board can argue all they want but it wont change the facts above.

AARRRGH

Rotide wrote:

2 things and these are the the gods honest truth.

Women LIKE bastards.

Women are turned off by computer geeks.

People on this board can argue all they want but it wont change the facts above.

The majority of boards.ie users ARE computer geeks so they are trying to reassure themselves that talking about computers is acceptable.

The sad fact about humanity is that women like bastards and that bastards are the dominant males in society.

Silverfish

Rotide wrote:

2 things and these are the the gods honest truth.

Women LIKE bastards.

Women are turned off by computer geeks.

People on this board can argue all they want but it wont change the facts above.

I like computer geeks.

Laguna

dublindude wrote:

The majority of boards.ie users ARE computer geeks so they are trying to reassure themselves that talking about computers is acceptable.

The sad fact about humanity is that women like bastards and that bastards are the dominant males in society.

The man is right people. The sexy girl you look at on the street/in the shop/at the club/at work does not want to talk to you about recompiling the kernel in unix. In my experience, women want a man who is an asshole under the illusion they can change him and make him a one woman man etc. The reality is they end up failing to change him, being used by him and then coming to the conclusion that all men are bastards (a theory they base on a bastard), thus creating a vicious circle.

chern0byl

Laguna wrote:

In my experience, women want a man who is an asshole under the illusion they can change him and make him a one woman man etc.

Keep telling yourself that this is the reason you get no action man. If you have any bit of confidence or assurance in yourself, women are no problem. The fact of the matter is that women in general dont know the first focking thing about what they want but you can tell em its you and they will believe it.

DAEDULUS

what a load of ****tteeeeeeeeeeeeee, bastards are called bastards for the simple fact that they are knobs,nobody likes them...
GIRLS ARE NOT ATTRACTED TO BASTARDS... FACT

girls are attracted to the cocky/arrogant type arent afraid to lightly slag girls about there insecurities...
i see guys making these judgments all the time and its just silly,eg. a guy will be talking to a girl with some of his friends around,he'l be joking with her and slaggin her a little(not insulting,playful but still to the extent where she is a little shocked, eg. saying to a fitness model, 'you know,if you werent so fat i might go out with you' ) and althought this guy isnt actually being an asshole to this girl, what he is saying is so far off from what his virgin friends were thought to say to girls throughout their lives,that they think hes being an asshole..then finally when they see him scoring the girl in the corner of the pub they make the conclusion...WOW SO GIRLS REALLY DO LIKE ASSHOLES

arbeitsscheuer

chern0byl wrote:

The fact of the matter is that women in general dont know the first focking thing about what they want but you can tell em its you and they will believe it.

Bingo.

Of course after a while it might dawn on them that what they want isn't you, but isn't that the whole point of the exercise anyway? Keeping going until you find the girl that doesn't change her mind in such a way...

P.S. As someone else said, B*stards don't get women because they're B*stards. They get them because they're confident. Ergo, if you are confident and not a B*stard, you've got the jump on em, man.

Rozie

If you're just a normal, good looking guy, there's nothing to be afraid of being more outgoing, just make up your mind to be all cheery and chatty some day.

If you're more the of strange type, a bit on the geeky side, or have some other stigma, you'll have to work yourself up a bit, but it's probably worth it.

LegacyUser

well thanks for the advice and I have tried it out. It made a difference alright. It is just a matter of going out and feeling confident in yourself. Although I did find it difficult and I held myself back to a certain extent but I suppose with practice you can only get better, right?


Thanks again...

WhiteWashMan

SebtheBum wrote:

P.S. As someone else said, B*stards don't get women because they're B*stards. They get them because they're confident. Ergo, if you are confident and not a B*stard, you've got the jump on em, man.

that would have been me.

but thats because i am exceedingly bright, and the majority of people who have posted in the last 40 posts dont appear to have a couple of ounces of common sense between them.

peple, you cannot catagorize anyone into any sort of pidgeon hole.

people are people.

thats the closest you will get.

al you can do to up your chances of meeting someone is to be yourself,a nd be confident in yourself.

if you are a computer geek, why would you go for someone that is going to be ored of listening to you talk about linux code?
why not try and find someonet hat is actually going to be able to talk to you about it (although, even for me that would eb the most boring relationship ive heard off!) but you see my point.
why do people so often try and meet people that they are just not compatible with?
and its nothing to do with looks!

to say that beautiful women dont like geeks is just rubbish. my partner is stunning, and shes a bit of a geek tbh.

stop thinking you know everything out there, and try learning something new for a change. reading these threads sometimes makes me dispair that intelligent people suddenly seem to lose their brain when asked for an opinion. come on now, start making sense...

dundalk cailin

if a girl is eyein up a fella, she is interested. i prefer if guy's ask me if im havin a good nyt etc, none of these cheesy chat up lines. if im not interested i they kinda get the idea in my responses, but im so rude as to walk away, ill still have a chat, make a new friend if nothin else!!

also if i like someone and he doesnt come over, ill go over and say hi, u myt get rejected, rejection is tough, but b persistent!!

AthAnRi

dundalk cailin wrote:

if a girl is eyein up a fella, she is interested. i prefer if guy's ask me if im havin a good nyt etc, none of these cheesy chat up lines. if im not interested i they kinda get the idea in my responses, but im so rude as to walk away, ill still have a chat, make a new friend if nothin else!!

also if i like someone and he doesnt come over, ill go over and say hi, u myt get rejected, rejection is tough, but b persistent!!

All girls like chat up lines, fact. the one i like is, The village called and they want their idiot back. Surely that would sweep any girl off her feet ;-P

Tobias Greeshman

AthAnRi wrote:

All girls like chat up lines, fact. the one i like is, The village called and they want their idiot back. Surely that would sweep any girl off her feet ;-P

Ha Ha!! Isn't that from a joke about George W. Bush!!! Good luck in using that chat up line, I reckon its being pretty successful alright :rolleyes:

OP: Forget about chatup lines they wont get you anywhere, your better off just having a chat to the girl. If you make her feel at ease with chatting to her, she's likely to be more interested in you. Which is likely to lead to either scoring her, getting her number or maybe both. I guarantee you will get more positive reponses using this than chatup lines, which rarely work!!

geraghd

DAEDULUS wrote:

not if they smile back...

That or she is a fruitcake.
Did the author of this thread ever consider of going out with girls from social circles rather than the random acts of the Irish social scene. I mean, you cant even hear yourself think in most pubs and nightclubs. unless of course the objective is just "pulling"... When did we first import that phrase from the UK btw??

geraghd

AthAnRi wrote:

All girls like chat up lines, fact. the one i like is, The village called and they want their idiot back. Surely that would sweep any girl off her feet ;-P

I always liked the following: "Hi, Im Mr. Right, I believe you were looking for me"

dundalk cailin

AthAnRi wrote:

All girls like chat up lines, fact. the one i like is, The village called and they want their idiot back. Surely that would sweep any girl off her feet ;-P

how could i resist that????

rainbow kirby

Women are turned off by computer geeks.

Are men turned off by female computer geeks?

Jonny Arson

rainbow kirby wrote:

Are men turned off by female computer geeks?

No way Kirby! :rolleyes:

AthAnRi

dundalk cailin wrote:

how could i resist that????

Told ye