Teenage sexuality

Victor

How does an adult reconcile teenage sexuality (we know they are interested and many of them do stuff to some degree or other) with them still being "less than" adults / young adults / big children?

simu

Stay away tbh. o_O

Niall123

Give em space but not too much. Keep an eye on em (not literally). Act on what you believe.

Nevyn

The reason the age of consent it 17 is to protect teen from being presruised or cocerced into having sex with adults that are taking advantage of them.
Then again I know 15/16/17 year old who took advantage of adults.

The age of consent does not mean they are not sexual or sexually active more
that it is ment to be limited to thier peers as part of growning up.

From a young age children will masterbate cos it feels good.
http://www2.rz.hu-berlin.de/sexology/GESUND/ARCHIV/IES/USA08.HTM

Sexual Capacity and Autoerotic Play. It has been clear for several decades that infants are capable of reflexive sexual responses from birth. Male infants are capable of erections, and female infants are capable of vaginal lubrication (Allgeier and Allgeier 1988; Halverson 1940). Lewis (1965) observed pelvic thrusting movements in infants as early as eight months of age. Generally, these events appear to be reactions to spontaneous stimuli, such as touching or brushing of the genitals. However, the Kinsey research group (1953) did report several cases of infants less than 1 year of age who had been observed purposely stimulating their own genitals. In their cross-cultural survey, Ford and Beach (1951) reported that, in cultures with a permissive norm, both boys and girls progress from absent-minded fingering of their genitals in the first year of life to systematic masturbation by the age of 6 to 8.

Unfortunatly a lot of the research that deals with normal child sex play is
from the angle of child sexabuse. But there is futher research in what is
and is not normal childhood sexual play.

http://www.secasa.com.au/index.php/workers/50/131

Sexual Play:

0 - 3 Years: Children are egocentric and are not interested in, nor capable of any sort of social give or take.

3 - 4 Years:Boys and girls may hug and kiss and say they plan to marry when they grow up. The meaning is not clear.

4 Years: Awareness of genital differences around urinating. Play at school is more organised. Children act out sex roles by playing house. May show one another their genitals playing doctor.

Sometimes there can be a physiological response.

5 - 11 Years:Conventional rules of modesty take hold. Games like doctors decrease but kissing, touching and showing continue, interest in sex is apparent. Boys and girls profess hatred for each other.

Teasing occurs.
Pre-adolescence:

Tell jokes, write and whisper sexual words, talk about sex with same sex friends. Send notes. Some sort of coitus or attempt.
Adolescence:

Date, attend mix-sex parties, dances, play kissing games, go steady, exchange letters and gifts pre-marital sex - fondling of breasts and genitals, oral-genital contact, intercourse.

And all before they are usually 15 to 17.
Yes people develope at differnt rates and stage but to try close your eyes to
the sexuality of your kids and it causes a lot more problems.
Best we can do it make sure they can and will come to us with questions,
arm the with the facts about thier body, what is and no acceptlble behaviour in public and the confidence to say 'No' to things they are not comfortible with.
Teach them all about contraception and stis and to take responsiblity for thier own actions.

PJG

two daugther's under the age of 5. So for now at least I'm trying not to think about it.