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LegacyUser · 31-10-2005 1:39pm #1

While at a nightclub recently, I spotted a girl from school and asked her a question. This girl isn't too bad looking but shes got a slutty reputation. While asking her the question she proceeded to shift me. I didn't know what to do so I went along. It didn't really trouble me that night but its been driving me crazy. What if everyone starts hating me because she shifted me?What if no-one believes my story that she came on to me? I was with some other girls that night that I liked, but what if everyone remembers me as the person who shifted a slut rather than someone who shifted these lovely girls. I don't really know what to do.

Victor · 31-10-2005 2:15pm

I don't think its a real problem. You both had some fun - its common for people to have fun.

While some small-minded people might comment that she's a slut / you kissed a slut (define a slut), most will actually be just that little bit jealous. You got to do something they didn't.

Separately aren't you being a bit judgemental calling her a slut?

jcoote · 31-10-2005 2:19pm

thats it i can't see any guys giving u grief but if they do they are jealous cos u got somewhere and if girls give u **** then its cos they are jealous cos they can't express themselves in the same way as the 'slutty girl' and just shift people at random

LegacyUser · 31-10-2005 3:46pm

Victor wrote:

I don't think its a real problem. You both had some fun - its common for people to have fun.

While some small-minded people might comment that she's a slut / you kissed a slut (define a slut), most will actually be just that little bit jealous. You got to do something they didn't.

Separately aren't you being a bit judgemental calling her a slut?

I didn't really have fun. I didn't know what to do. She kinda is a slut. Shes had sex with some lads on more than one occasion., and shes only 14.

Blondie86Star · 31-10-2005 4:19pm

14!! wtf!
ok well no1 will be angry at you or whateverm they'll just look at her as even more of a slut!

Maybe stay away frim her in the future if u dont wanna get wrapped up again

0utshined · 31-10-2005 4:48pm

Be less concerned about what people think of you, you'll enjoy life a lot more.

Also, stop calling the girl a slut.

AARRRGH · 31-10-2005 7:04pm

Put it down as experience! A shift is just a shift... You really have nothing to worry about. If anyone slags you off they are either jealous or pathetic.

When I was your age I shifted a few slappers. I always saw it as practice!!

Really, you are worrying over nothing...

LegacyUser · 01-11-2005 2:39am

( A )What was the question you asked this girl?

( B )the thing that stands out to me in in you're post is you worrying about what people think of you,(poor diddums)it did'nt bother you at the time (cos you were getting some)what about the girl?Blokes like you have probably got this girl the rep that she has.

BTW.I'm a bloke.

Red Alert · 01-11-2005 9:38am

yes indeed, many people probably went home not having got any at all. enjoy it, nothing at all to worry about.

Emmo · 01-11-2005 9:50am

Maybe adjust your ideas about her too buddy.

You should learn that if you do something you should take the consequences of your actions.

You kissed a girl, so what if she made the first move, you didnt stop her. Hence you where with a girl, if you didnt know what to do maybe she was doing you a favour?

By judging her you are perpetuating the myth that a girl / woman who enjoys being intimate with a guy is a slut but a man who does that same is a stud. This is a very poor way to act and you will find that in future you will not enjoy the company of liberal and sexually adventerous woman. A bad thing let me assure you.

Dont be so narrow minded.

How do you know this girl had sex with some boys, did you see it? Maybe her reputation of being a slut is misfounded? Perhaps as she does kiss and make the first move and not hide it, in a kind of chinese whisper style chain of events some young boys ideal gossip became fact?

Maybe someone jealous that this "easy" girl didnt kiss him decided to sully her name?

I know this happend in my youth so I would say that unless you have seen something happening you withhold judgement and be happy that you got to kiss a girl at the weekend.

Respect her and it might happen again, which believe me wont happen to a lot of other 14 year olds.

Emmo

Rotide · 01-11-2005 12:08pm

jan waynes wrote:

I was with some other girls that night that I liked, but what if everyone remembers me as the person who shifted a slut rather than someone who shifted these lovely girls

Pot? Call on line 2 for you from Kettle, something about your color.

So you went and shifted a few girls that night, and your calling this one girl a slut? Now i know double standards are inherant, but thats pretty blatantly hypocritical.

So what if you shifted her? Whats anyone going to say to you? "OH LOL U KISSED THAT GIRL". See how stupid that sounds?

Miss Fluff · 02-11-2005 4:58pm

Rotide wrote:

Pot? Call on line 2 for you from Kettle, something about your color.

LOL

Chucky the tree · 02-11-2005 7:03pm

i'd be more embarrissed about only getting a shift of the local slut. the local slut wouldnt even shag you? thats gotta be depressing.

Kablamo! · 02-11-2005 9:50pm

i'm sure she regrets it as much as you do tbh.

Jesper · 02-11-2005 10:00pm

Buddy just go read the Personal Issues board and you'l see what a problem is. Stop being a silly child. O and if you haven't already save you V-plates for someone you care about at 14 if this girl is sleeping around she is a slut and is to young to understand what she's doing. Do young people like you actually use contraceptive?

Stompbox · 02-11-2005 10:06pm

Yeah Jan. Get over it.

Victor · 02-11-2005 10:26pm

OK, take it easy folks.

WhiteWashMan · 03-11-2005 12:33am

jan waynes wrote:

While at a nightclub recently, I spotted a girl from school and asked her a question. This girl isn't too bad looking but shes got a slutty reputation. While asking her the question she proceeded to shift me. I didn't know what to do so I went along. It didn't really trouble me that night but its been driving me crazy. What if everyone starts hating me because she shifted me?What if no-one believes my story that she came on to me? I was with some other girls that night that I liked, but what if everyone remembers me as the person who shifted a slut rather than someone who shifted these lovely girls. I don't really know what to do.

so you shifted a couple of people and youre worried about your reputation with one girl?

perhaps a sense of perspective is needed?

on the other hand, she may be getting a ribbing for shifting you. you may not actually be gods gift to women you know...

Aisling(",) · 03-11-2005 12:37am

don't worry about it noone will remember you met her if she was meeting a lot of people.Also please stop calling this porr girl a slut I know it hurts and she may just be having fun.calling her a slut will just encourage other people to objectify and slag other girls.

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