Threesome or moresome

LegacyUser

Last friday night, my girlfriend headed out into town straight after work with some mates as did I.

I got back to our apartment before they did & being in the state I was in just stripped off & hit the sack, my girlfriend came in some time later with one of her friends & well... stuff happened.

We basically ended up having a threesome, I was asleep when it started & kind of semi remember waking up to them doing stuff to me. They were naked & I don't know if anything happened between them before I woke up (it was early early morning).

It was very enjoyable but a little embarassing the following morning

I'm 23, my girlfriend & her mate are both 22, we've been living together for the past three years. My girlfriend is very beautiful (as is her mate), myself, I wouldn't consider anything great, I often wonder what she's doing with me.

Her mate has now suggested that we make what happened a regular thing, my girlfriend has no serious objections, nor do I, but her mate wants to bring another (female) friend of hers that we don't know too well in on the act too, this friend has a partner (male) who may come along to further sessions if they happen.

I honestly don't know where this is going to end up. The first time there was a lot of drink involved & it happened - fair enough, it was a bit embarassing the following morning, but once that passed it was grand. As I've said, we both have very few reservations about it happening again, but I don't want to get into an orgy situation.

Any advice would be appreciated.

LegacyUser

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seamus

Sounds like a dream come true, but you need to know if you can cope with it. It's fairly safe to assume that your g/f is bisexual, or curious at the very least. If you're gonna do it again, try make sure there's little or no drink involved - it'll be easier for people to see if they actually enjoy it or if it was just the drink.

The 2 big questions - can you cope with your g/f being with another women, ie kissing, groping when you're there? How would you feel if you weren't there?

Will you cope if another man comes along? They're saying next time there'll be 3 women. Another man will come into it eventually, you can't keep adding more women, it won't work. Not to be crude or abusive, but how would you feel with your g/f going at it with another man, or even being naked near another naked man?

This is the kind of thing you need to 150% sure you wanna do it, or it will end in tears. At the very best, your g/f will lose some good mates, and at the very worst, you will lose your g/f and loads of mates. My best advice is to leave out the alcohol next time. If everyone is still keen after that, then go for it, you lucky sod!

BuffyBot

Interesting situation.

First point is that you seemed to enjoy it. If the good feelings outweighed any guilt/embarassment etc, then it would seem the threesome did not apparent harm.

Secondly, your girlfriend seems open to the idea, and seems to enjoy it. Some blokes would give their left arms for a girl like that.

However, you don't seem too comfortable about letting another person in on the act. To put it simply, I'd say if you aren't comfortable, don't do it. Try another session with the two girls first, to see if you want to explore this further. You say you don't know where it will end. Let it end where you want it to end - say no when it gets to much, and tell your girlfriend why you aren't comfortable with it.

These things then to go two ways - one is that it all turns out brilliantly, and everybody has a bit of fun and that it. However, they can turn out badly. Discuss this in depth with your girlfriend before doing it again. Establish some "rules" with her and the other girl (and other involved parties) so everyone knows it is just a bit of fun and nothing further is to come of it.

Good luck man

LegacyUser

Well... The thing is, I wasn't with the friend (and she's pretty much as much my friend as hers) in a fully sexual way - we didn't have full sex, stuff happened, but we didn't go the whole way, I draw the line at that (does it still count as a threesome?)

I'd expect the same of her if another guy was to come into it. Being naked in the company of others is no big deal, everybody has either a penis & testicles or vagina an breasts (I'm not being sterile about it - just don't see the point in being "laddish"). We're of the opinion that you've seen one, you've seen them all.

I really don't think my girlfriend is bisexual nor am I. We're pretty open, if we see someone who's good looking/fit, we'll point them out to each other - that's the way it's always been.

I think we both enjoyed it, I think we'd both enjoy it if it continued, we just don't want to get into an orgy situation where all of a sudden there's naked people slobbering all over each other everywhere.

Given a choice, if you were in my situation, would you continue ? (I'd be interested to hear a girl's perspective too - if you could mark your reply with a male/female, I'd appreciate it.)

A blonde, a brunette... all I need is a redhead to complete the set

Borzoi

Was ina similar but slighly larger situation previously, 3 boys 2 girls, no multiple partners at the same time, just a lot of moving around if you get my drift. As per yours, there had been a lot to drink.

Gotta say, done it, interesting, would probably do it again, but as another once off. here was no emotional ties. The guys new each other, the girls knew each other but there was no relationships.

On a regular basis it's bound to effect your relationship with your girlfriend, and i can't see how it would be for the better. I may be over cautious, but who do you love?

And as for extending the circle to include another man, with your girlfriend, are you nuts?

kayos

Well its like this most if not all guys always go on about 3somes and the like. You've done it and you enjoyed it so fair play. GG, playd, shots all.

The best thing to do is take time to make up your own mind dont be pushed into it and for heavens sakes make sure you really, really talk this one through with your gf. If you both enjoy it well and good fire ahead. The main thing to ask yourself though is could you bare to see another guy feeling up your gf? If you have any problems dont let that situ arise but at the same time remember she has no problems with another girl feeling you up so be careful in what you say.

I dont know what I would do if I was in your shoes. I could be all laddie about it and say the more the merrier but to be honest I dont know if I could even go through with a 3some when a gf was involved but thats just me.

One thing I think should be included in this topic is STD's. If your gf's mate has ppl lined up for things she clearly has done this before and maybe quite often which leads to the big issue here AIDS and STD's be careful.

kayos

Jackoman

Exaclty like Kayos says, would you mind if there is another guy feelng your girlfriend. It would sound like your girlfriend has done stuff like this before, and if you have been living with her for over three years, do you think she was doing it behind your back. Sometimes as much of a fantasy as it is, you have to ask yourself is it cheating. Trust and commitments in a relationship[ is a pretty big thing. If you are with her for the ride, excuse the pun, then go for it. But if you feel very serious about her I have the feeling you might get hurt from all of this if it were to continue.

Personally, my own opinion, if I am single I am all on for threesomes, if they dont mean anything to me, just worked out lucky. But when I am in a relationship I wouldnt want to share my girlfriend with anybody, girl or bloke. And if she asked me to be with another girl I would realise that the relationship is not all that its cracked up to be and would probably do what she wanted and then end it with her. But that's just my view. We're all different and it is about what you are comfortable with!!!

One key thing I have always learned in relationships, is always think about the situation the other way around if you are unsure about it.

Otherwise, enjoy yourself, your only 23, so make sure you always have a laugh.

The Corinthian

First of all, this is quite likely going to change the nature of your relationship with your girlfriend. My guess is that this may be the inevitable thin edge of the wedge that will eventually result in the two of you breaking up. It's a moot point however, as the deed is done whether or not my guess is ultimately correct.

So, enjoy it, as nerve-racking as it often is (we men were never really designed with multitasking in mind ) - but do use a condom if you do go further. You’re fortunate (if that’s the correct term here) to have a girlfriend who is more adventurous than the most. I wouldn’t worry about it all developing into an orgy, as long as you remember that the difference between kinky and perverted is that between using a feather and using the whole chicken.

ykt0di9url7bc3

get your girlfriend to tell you what she thinks of the situation and what she wants out of it, and come to an agreement on what happened and move from there....

but beware the green eyed monster if you pursue

LegacyUser

Thanks for all the words guys.

Had an "in-depth" conversation last night.

No she's never done it or anything like it before.

No she doesn't want another guy along for "the ride"

She's quite happy the way things are.

She'd adamant that she's not gay or bi-sexual, she does admit to being curious though & wants to try it out with just her & the mate (or mate's mate, or all three), I get to watch. I can then join in after that.

Her mate is most definatly not gay or bisexual either, she's never done anything like this before either, (although she's been propositioned several times by her other mate, which is why she's thinking of including her in a one off).

This will probably never happen again, but I've been told to keep the entire weekend free.

Guess I better stock up on Red Bull !

Jackoman

Forget the Red Bull man - get some Ginseng or Viagra!!!

CivilServant

Read the entire thread and all I have to say is you lucky b%$&tard lol

Oeneus

Read the entire thread and all I have to say is "What a Load of BULLSH!T!!!!!!"

But still amusing!

Kalina

Good luck to you...enjoy it while you can. Hope it doesn't jeopardise what you have with your girlfriend.

WhiteWashMan

i suspect most people have fantasies about multiple partners similtaneous, but no alot of people will act it out.

personally, i couldnt do it. i could never share my partner with anyone in that way. i wouldnt cheapen her by being with someone else, and i wouldnt cheapen her by allowing her to be used as some sort of sexual object.

besides, what if he was better?

Mercury_Tilt

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RopeDrink

Same as WWM - It's one thing being offered a "Dream Situation" like that when your free and single, yet if there was another half in my life I would never consider it.

It would, to me anyway, show discontent either with mine or my partners sex life / feelings towards the relationship. Otherwise it would simply be all out embarrassing and degrading...

LegacyUser

It was all bull... I was bored

Ha ! Ha !

Mercury_Tilt

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Velvet Vocals

Board or just wishful??

BoobeR

How do we know that it's the same "Unregistered" that said Ha ! Ha ! etc ?
and yes, it porbally will help others in the future

LegacyUser

BAN THE UNREGIES
remove the option, this is way out of hand and utterly sad.

some good advice though

>>Back on topic<<

Kill these muppets

Oeneus

Do you think we should have a Poll on whether we keep the Unregies option or remove it?

TacT

Have a look at my suggestions at the bottom of this thread