* ALL THINGS DEBS / GRADS!! *

JayEnnis

crayolastereo wrote: »

I thought thats why we have the gay debs though, it was on the growing up gay thing. I can't tell if its like people being to afraid to try or trying and getting shot down. I know in my school (and a lot of others) we have been told on more than one occasion that its wrong to be gay/plays cancelled over gay characters/ysi projects cancelled/leaflets taken down so on and so forth, but I just wasn't sure if they had that control over the debs

Report them.

randylonghorn

crayolastereo wrote: »

As dates, as in they were gay, lol I should have been more clear! :P So the venue would let you in anyway? There won't be the principal at the door sayign careful now we don't do that here?

The venue won't care, why should they?

Really, you're the best person to judge for your own school after that.

Is your school involved in organising the debs, or is it left very much to the students? If they have a bad attitude about it, are they likely to make a fuss? It's all right saying what *should* happen, but if they do on the night will it make you and your date feel uncomfortable, or are you prepared to just brush it off and see it as their problem (which it is)?

What about your peers (probably more important in the long run in terms of whether you enjoy the night or not) ... ? In this day and age, most people your age won't give a damn, and many will be actively supportive, but if there's that bad an attitude in the school, has it filtered down to the students?

In most cases I've heard of, it hasn't been any problem, especially for 2 girls, but you're the best person to judge your own circumstances.

In one case I know of, with a guy who brought his boyfriend, a girl (an invited guest) decided to make her distaste loudly and drunkenly known halfway during the evening. She was promptly told to FO and STFU by those around her, and dumped by the guy who had brought her, who was mortified and promptly moved to sit and chat with the 2 lads, just in case they thought he agreed. Similarly, in that school, if anything the teachers present went out of their way to drop by and say hello. Schools differ, though.

tommy92

Ok so just explain everything about them to me, my girlfriend told me her predebs are next month, and i am clueless. School me on when they are usually, what the pre debs are, what you wear, what happens, etc. Break it down. Please

ArseLtd

I had my debs a while ago and didnt really know what it was either! You wear a suit or tux. At mine we all met up outside this hotel and then went up to Dublin on busses. When we got there they checked our tickets and gave anyone with id a thing to go around there wrist so they can buy drink although i think they serve you anyway. Oh and they search you there! We had dinner and after there was a night club. Night club is just like any night club where everyone forgets about the lovely clothes they are wearing and get up-ended. :pac: Then breakfast and bus back home, as far as i can remember

Not sure about a predebs tho

Big Pussy Bonpensiero

Saw the pre-debs thread which prompted me to start this thread (this may also answer his qs). In Galway city, schools have Grads, the Graduation Mass and the Debs. I've asked people I know from other counties (and other towns in Galway) how were their Grads, and they thought I meant the mass. The Grads are held around November and are slightly cheaper than debs as they are less formal, however, they are very similar. Just another excuse to get pissed with the school (not complaining:D). I was just wondering, is Galway the only place that do the Grads?

Diabhal Beag

Our Grads was the week before the Leaving.

pfannkuchen

Yeah, we had our Grad at the start of May. Great night

Ditzie

pre debs is just a night out in a pub before hand to raise money for the actual debs, no dress code just a night in the pub afaik... why not ask your gf?

jumpguy

Predebs? Sweet Jesus.

Anyway, besides that, ask your GF everything if it's her debs, it's your job to just do what she wants you to do.

S'what I'm doing anyway. :P

dee o gee

Basically it's just like any other night out except you wear a dress/suit and get a meal.
You go to your girlfriend's house and then ye go on to the hotel together from there, when you arrive you just get your photo taken by the newspaper, have a few glasses of champagne/punch, watch everyone arrive and just chat to your mates. You go into the hotel, we got searched (for drink I think ), sit down and enjoy your meal, then there's either a band or dj (basically just like at a wedding) and depending on which hotel some finish up at 12 but others can be earlier or later, then everyone goes to the same nightclub afterwards, after that it's up to you, you can find out if someone's having a houseparty and stay up all night and get breaky the next morning or just go home.

Neither the hotel or the nightclub really cared about id for ours, the hotel didn't even check and the nightclub checked but were letting anyone in with some form of id that looked vaguely like them or if they had a half decent excuse, that night nobody from our year got turned away. Make sure you have some form of id with you because it has happened in my old school that people don't get let in and end up going home around 12 while their friends get let in, it's the last night you'l probably ever see most of them so make it a good one.

HxGH

Sorry if this is in the wrong place but...

I'm looking for a tux for the debs coming up? Any ideas???

I'm based in Bray. So south dublin or so will do.

Please include price/estimate if possible.

Groinshot

Rent in blacktie for 100 plus a deposit, or http://www.thesuitandtuxwarehouse.ie/, can't remember how much think it's 130 to buy the cheapest one.
http://www.dickybow.ie/ was where a mate of mine bought mine, and it was gorgeous, for 99 euro I think, but the site seems to be down, don't know for how long...
hope this helps

JayEnnis

THFC wrote: »

Saw the pre-debs thread which prompted me to start this thread (this may also answer his qs). In Galway city, schools have Grads, the Graduation Mass and the Debs. I've asked people I know from other counties (and other towns in Galway) how were their Grads, and they thought I meant the mass. The Grads are held around November and are slightly cheaper than debs as they are less formal, however, they are very similar. Just another excuse to get pissed with the school (not complaining:D). I was just wondering, is Galway the only place that do the Grads?

What is the point in having a grad in november?

It should go like this.

Last day of school=Graduation mass+Night.

Anytime between July and September=Debs.

dee o gee

We had our debs in august and our graduation mass in may. We had to wear our uniforms for the mass then all the students just went out afterwards. We don't have a pre-debs here.

blubloblu

If you'll be using it more than once in the next year or two, consider buying.

PARARORY

Topman have really nice ones at the moment to by for 130 - 150!
Blacktie to rent are between 70 and 120 I think (depends how much you need)
Blacktie to buy are about 199!

One of my mates rented one and it came to 120 in the end because he got the whole package!

You are much better off buying one - you will end up using it at something or other in college anyway...

highlydebased

I got mine in Blacktie for 29 euro :O !

PARARORY

I got mine in Blacktie for 129 euro :O !

You must have left out a number....

But seriously , how?!

karaokeman

I don't think I would want a Pre-Debs.
Maybe for fundraising I could understand that, but otherwise a Grad Mass, Night and Debs is fine for me.
I don't really drink anyway so I have no excuse to get stoned.

Fad

crayolastereo wrote: »

I thought thats why we have the gay debs though, it was on the growing up gay thing. I can't tell if its like people being to afraid to try or trying and getting shot down. I know in my school (and a lot of others) we have been told on more than one occasion that its wrong to be gay/plays cancelled over gay characters/ysi projects cancelled/leaflets taken down so on and so forth, but I just wasn't sure if they had that control over the debs

Depends on how involved the school is in the organisation of the debs. My school had almost none.

mercury127

Right I've got a tux, a suitable corsage and transport is currently being arranged. What's the general consensus on chocolates?

Grace16

mercury127 wrote: »

Right I've got a tux, a suitable corsage and transport is currently being arranged. What's the general consensus on chocolates?

Well it was my debs a few weeks ago and the fella I was going with got me chocolates but I honestly wasn't expecting any haha

randylonghorn

mercury127 wrote: »

What's the general consensus on chocolates?

They're quite nice tbh. :cool:



(Buy a few choccies for da mammy if you're calling round to pick her daughter up, it'll put you in good! You don't have to go mad money-wise.)

Big Pussy Bonpensiero

JayEnnis wrote: »

What is the point in having a grad in november?

It should go like this.

Last day of school=Graduation mass+Night.

Anytime between July and September=Debs.

Why wouldn't we have grads??:-S As it turned out they were better than the debs and a good bit cheaper. Grads mass night was good but defo the worst of the three.

mercury127

Wait, are the chocolates to score brownie points with my date or her mother?

muffinz

crayolastereo wrote: »

Just out of interest, does anyone have any experience/know someone who does of going to the debs with someone the same sex as you? What happened to you/them?

dont worry they dont care at all, the queu of students waiting to get in is always so big they dont care whos with who, loads of people from my school brought people of the same sex, sure the venue doesnt know who actually goes to your school, they could just think they were another student at the school or whatever!

extreme56

Hi people!

Well anyway, I have the grads next year and already Im freaking out! You see nearly everyone has a gf or know someone they will bring but I only know a few girls who I only talk to on fb really. Well thing is that I dont know whether to go at all. Its all this pressure. Is it worth going? Anyone been in this situation before? When should I ask someone on fb before they are snapped up. Is it really worth going, any help please.

Cheers :rolleyes:

rainbowtrout

Stop worrying, you are not the first person in this situation and you won't be the last. I assume your grad won't be on until next summer, that's almost a year away so if you want to ask someone there's no rush. Plenty of people go to the grad on their own, it's become common enough in the school I work in, particularly among the lads. A group of them go together and they feel that they don't have to mind a girl that they don't particularly know that well, but asked because they felt pressured to have a date. They don't have to make sure that the girl is having fun because she doesn't know anyone from their school etc. It's not them being selfish, I think they are right, it's meant to be a fun night out, not a night of stress.

So you can choose to go on your own or bring someone. If you go to a mixed school you could ask a girl from your class if there's anyone you get on with or what a lot of people in your situation is ask one of your friends who is bringing a girl and see does she have a friend who would like to go. It also means the girls know each other and it's not as hard for them either.

Couldn't tell you about asking someone on facebook, it didn't exist way back when i was in LC. Depends on how well you 'know' these girls. It might be easier to go with someone you've met in person beforehand.

Of course you don't have to go. At the time it sounds like everyone in the world is going. I know that's what it sounded like when I was in LC, there were about 90 students in my year and it sounded like everyone was going and I was the only one who didn't go (my mother was supervising it!!!!) and in the end only 60 of them went, so that was a lot who didn't go.

Big Pussy Bonpensiero

Just get some one you know who's friends with a load of girls to take yeh. There was 150 in my year, a lot of whom were in your situation. Don't worry about it, girls are q-ing up to go these things.. I'm sure some one some where will take yeh! And worst comes to worst yeh can always hire someone from escort ireland!:D:D:D
(This is the problem with having the grads next year. We had ours in Nov and everybody was so excited. Also helped from the financial point of view.)

XxMCRxBabyxX

My friend had this prob for her debs this year and she just ended up asking a guy that all her friends knew and wanted to go but he had no date!