Moral Dilemma

ThreadKiller

Hi There,

Bit of a moral dilemma here. One of the guys in here emailed me a link for a website like hot or not, but with nudes & another one for contacts (basically alternative lifestyles), thing is it was the same girl in both & it's a girl I know very well (live-in of a mate of mine), so now I've seen her nude (everything) & got a list of her "lifestyle choices" which I'd no idea of before.

I've no idea if my mate is aware of this or if he's even involved, we're supposed to be going out with them to dinner this weekend & while I can face her no problem - her life, her choices & all that, I'll probably have a bit of a smirk on my face, I'm dreading facing him, I won't know what to say (if anything)

Should I say something to him/her/them ?

Should I let her know that I know & not say anything to him ?

Should I tell him & not say anything to her ?

Should I cancel & hopefully not have to face them together ?

Gaz

Post up the link .... it will help your fellow boardsters come to a more informed decision

Offy

Best thing to do is not get involved in other peoples relationships.
If you are going to say something it is probally best to say it to both parties involved.

chernobyl

Shut up and grow up.
None of your business.

ThreadKiller

Yeah sure DarthHomer... :rolleyes:

The two sites are www.nolinkstopornplease.com & www.imgoingtohavepizzanowactually.com

Neither sites are suitable for an open plan office BTW


chernobyl - "Shut up and grow up." ??? it's my business because I've found out about it, I'm involved now.

Durden

getting really involved in other peoples love lifes (in real world, not here... this place is here for a reason) is never good... it may be to late though... just go and see what happens is my humble suggestion... though i am underage, not in an informed position

chernobyl

..and your friend is quite obviously setting you up for this and just because you know does not entitle you to: "its my business", it is not because she has kept this information from you and decided to let random strangers on the net know but not you.

Wolf

NO NO NO dont get involved!!!!!

No matter how right it seems to get involved in someone elses relationship it will allways back fire. It something between them.

I seem to get on sooo much better with girls than I do with guys. I seem to be type of person that people open up too and as a result I here alot of things that people dont say to others. Because of this I have a hard time keeping my mouth shut. But for experience iv found that even if it looks so much like you should say something it allways turns out wrong. You will allwasy end up looking like an asshole and a busyie body.

Turst me on this one no matter what pretend like it never happened unless you are asked directly about something say nothing.

lordsippa

Same thing with people opening up to me <it's very scary... sometimes happens first time i talk to someone>. Basically... you have NO moral grounds. At most mention it to her and possibly suggest that she gets herself removed as, if you found it, many others could. That way you're not taking an incorrect moral standing and are also letting on that you know.

But bleh. What do i know eh?

BuffyBot

Hmmm..well from someone who's been in similar situations before through information I came across or was sent to me...say nothing. People are entitled to private lives. If you've come across it by whatever means, and it's of no harm - why invade something they thought was private and you discovered through random chance?

WhiteWashMan

actually, no, its not your business.
i know that leeds utd are in deep trouble, doesnt mean im going to go and tell them how to play football.
if you feel the need to get it of your chest why dont you talk to her, since she gave you the links, but that doesnt give you the right to interfere or to spread gossip.

by the way, since gordon has so nicely edited your links, can you pm them to me.
i have to admit in quite intrigued.
purely for evaluation purposes naturally......

Having had the misfortune to look at those links:eek: , before Gordon edited them, I've came up with a plan.

From the questions asked to register on the site, it seems so easy to answer them for the laugh, a comment if you like on the amount of crazy people out there.
I thought the whole site was seedy and dirty to be honest,but the form could have been filled in for a bit of a mess. And if you want to approach your friend about it tell her , you filled it in also.

Actually why don't you fill in the form, register and *ahem* have a chat with her:p on the site.

mm

Kell

I dont think peoples quirks should bother you, and without being as blunt as others, a little growing up might be in order. Though I have to say, I might smirk if I were in the same position, but I wouldn't go and say it to her. Picture the scenario:

Threadkiller: "Saw you buck naked on the internet the other day. Great muff/titty combination you got going on there".
Naked web chick: Slap. Slap, slap, slap. Slap, slap some more and then some.
Threadkiller: "Why am I in hospital. Cant for the life of me remember a thing".

Oh and threadkiller, it's not your business because you found out about it. By that rationale, AIDS and poverty in Sudan is your business because you found out about it on the BBC or something. When's the crusade to end AIDS and poverty happening? Sign me up while you're at it.

Saruman

Its entirely possible some one put her up there malicously you know.. she may not even know about it.. maybe an ex boy friend or some perv... Its far too easy posting things like that up that someone you know will see it!! Unless she is a little .. eh unintelligent? Hotornot.com you can understand maybe but not the other one...

Either way keep your mouth shut and its none of your business.

ThreadKiller

I understand all your points & won't be saying anything tonight, I will however have a great deal of trouble controling the smirk on my face... It's not everyday you get to see someone that you've known since they were 16 in all their "glory" (I do have to say she is HOT), I've no problem with her lifestyle choices as long as my mate is involved in some way if he so desires... Bit of an eye opener, I honestly don't think I'll be able to look her in the eye, although having seen the rest of her in totality (is that even a word?), I can't even remember what colour her eyes are !?!

Kell

So she's hot then? Mail me that URL in a private message. So is she actually going out with said mate or is she just a house mate?

chernobyl

Yeah, can we run a "hot or not" on this thread please.
pm the linky.

Calibos

share please!!:D PM

amen

I'm intrigued. can u share the link ?

maxheadroom

have to admit I'm intruiged too - is this an Irish site or an intl one?


Of course, PMing the links would answer the question

ThreadKiller

They're international sites, but I've been asked not to post them. One has "Rack" in the title the other has "alt" in the title

OfflerCrocGod

of course by now i presume you have seen her + company so it ok?best would have been say nothing! whats her name on the "rack" site? I can guess the rack site's name but the alt.....I think I
may end up :eek: I like everyone else am intrigued(sp?):D

Clintons Cat

If she is engaging in promiscuous sexual activities there might be a risk of HIV or other STDs.
In which case there might be a reason to tell your mate.So he can make an informed decision
If she is just posting mucky pics well i cant see its anyone elses buisness but her own.

Either way take it up with her privately,maybe say to her that someone had told you that someone had been posting pictures of her on the internet,after for all you know it might be an ex boyfriend posting up the pics for revenge.
I suspect that friend who directed you to the site in the first place would be a likely candidate to start.