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Self Pleasure Guilt!

  • 11-03-2003 3:45pm
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Ok.... I am a bloke and pleasure myself regularly, thing is I feel extreme guilt after doing it.

    I can't seem to stop myself, it seems the temptation is overwritting the guilt. it has now come to the stage that I toss myself off on average 3 times (if not more) a day.

    I do it every chance I get, in bed, in the shower, in the loo, in public areas when its dark when it safe that nobody will catch me.

    Am I going over board? Do ye think I toss off too much? Could i harm my body from doing it too often? Please help.

    I am 17 years old, and sitting me leaving cert this June. The stress of exams maybe a facture in it I donno. i have thought about goin to discuss it with my doctor, but I chickened out, its just too personal, the net is the only place i can turn to.

    Advice please!!!


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,093 ✭✭✭woosaysdan


    ah **** away just dont get caught!!!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,932 ✭✭✭The Saint


    Get someone to do it for you and then make them feel guilty for doing it. I have never heard of anyone damaging themselves from **** too much, just dont sqeeze to hard and you should be OK.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 933 ✭✭✭mooman_00


    try rubbing deep heat into your hands as often as possible, that might slow you down


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 467 ✭✭Cheez


    Why can't you stop?
    Yer just addicted to the relaxed brain buzz
    Just dont touch it exept for goin to the loo&sing
    in the shower with ur eyes closed or lookin straight ahead
    hehe i dunno
    Find something to take your mind off it like say
    Finding a woman?!
    Hedonism eh,without pain there is no gain/pleasure tho ya see
    /end wisdom


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,534 ✭✭✭SickBoy


    It won't make you go blind anyway if that's what you're thinking :D
    The guilt thing leads me to believe you were brought up in a fairly strict catholic church environment...
    Don't worry about it, it's the safest sex you can have ;)


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 6,598 ✭✭✭ferdi


    sure jayzus, couldnt you be up to worse thinks than rubbling the raddish.

    when your our age tosser, make the most of it, give it 30 years and you probably wont be able to manage it at all.:eek:

    ferdi


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,246 ✭✭✭✭Riamfada


    The average male between the ages of 16-18 "chockes the chicken" up to 3 times a day. I read that .. err.... sumwhere. (Grimes thinks:time to sign up to a different forum, whistles and slowly walks back to after hours)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,859 ✭✭✭logic1


    You're 17 your hormones are all over the place. In a few years you'll no longer be this horny enjoy it while you can.

    Also it's absolutely normal. The feelings of guilt are a product of the environment we live in. From an early age we're taught that it's wrong to touch yourself and the church teaches it's evil bla bla bla all this crap seeps into us at a subconcious level and cause these feelings of guilt and disgust to surface after the act when hormonal levels drop a bit and clear thinking comes back in.

    Basically what you're doing isn't wrong. It's totally normal, even the weird ****ed up fantasies 17 year olds have are all normal :)

    Don't worry about it, kick back and enjoy.

    You can find out lots more info on this stuff from places like jackinworld (not sure of the exact addy but google will find it for you oh and it's not a porn site)

    .logic.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,846 ✭✭✭✭eth0_


    AH come on, i'm 90% sure this is someone taking the mickey! (No pun intended)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,004 ✭✭✭The Gopher


    Originally posted by logic1


    Basically what you're doing isn't wrong. It's totally normal, even the weird ****ed up fantasies 17 year olds have are all normal :)


    You call waking up with a good feeling but soaked underpants because you have just had that dream again where the beautiful blonde ties you up,fits electrodes to your balls,releases the electric charge and beats you round the face with a sack full of bricks and jagged metal until you are a vegetable normal?
    Thats pretty cool as alot of people think I am odd for getting off on this.They thought I was mad back years ago when I advocated the joys of doing a girl doggystyle while she tries to hit you in the face with a heavy blunt object but now its all the rage in parts of the country.

    Hey,it is a pisstake thread so why not add to the blocked urinal full of it?

    And I personally think the first post looks suspiciously like this one from a few months ago by Sex Mad.
    And for gods sake why would you be concerned that you were **** too much?Sure too much chicken choking can aggrevate acne and leave you looking a bit of a mess,much like when you smoke too much hash or drink too much in a short time period.....but SO WHAT!Next to sex itself there is no alternative.

    Well,maybe hard drugs,like heroin and crack..Have you considered easing your addiction by actually shagging a real woman rather than Pamela Hand?Prostitutes are not all that expensive if you have no qualms about shagging a junkie.Wear a rubber and get a check up immeadiately afterwards if you dont want your mickey to go limp,green,crusty and fall off in 3 months.
    And wash your hands regularly before bashing the bishop to prevent the same........


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 102 ✭✭Something


    You should be more concerned about the term you used to represent your actions


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,859 ✭✭✭logic1


    Originally posted by The Gopher

    Hey,it is a pisstake thread so why not add to the blocked urinal full of it?

    I can see no indication that it's a pisstake thread except for the subject matter. People are too quick to call troll on every thread they deem strange.

    .logic.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,846 ✭✭✭✭eth0_


    His nick is 'tosser', he likes to jack off "in public areas when its dark when it safe that nobody will catch me."....and you don't have a wee bit of doubt? heheh


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,859 ✭✭✭logic1


    Originally posted by eth0_
    His nick is 'tosser', he likes to jack off "in public areas when its dark when it safe that nobody will catch me."....and you don't have a wee bit of doubt? heheh

    Well when you put it like that.. hehe

    .logic.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,025 ✭✭✭yellum


    Originally posted by logic1
    You're 17 your hormones are all over the place. In a few years you'll no longer be this horny enjoy it while you can.

    Ten years later you are going to be the exact same mate. Trust me. Hehe.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,859 ✭✭✭logic1


    Originally posted by yellum
    Ten years later you are going to be the exact same mate. Trust me. Hehe.

    I know I know, I was just trying to make him feel better yellum :)

    .logic.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I used to masterbate and watch porn a lot when I was a Catholic and I got the same guilt and I knew it was wrong but I didn't stop. Then I read a "Power To Change" book and prayed the salvation prayer in it (and meant it) and joined a Christian church and now I don't do it anymore (and I don't want to either)because Jesus is helping me, and in not just that but everything in my life.
    So if you like, I recommend praying the salvation prayer on www.powertochange.ie (you'll have to browse a bit through it to get to it) and joining a Christian church - I recommend "Victory" in 35 Westland Row (behind trinity college). It's website is www.victory.ie .

    Cya,
    a friend


  • Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 3,935 Mod ✭✭✭✭Turner


    SO you dont **** anymore is it ??


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 26 Stanley_kubrick


    A cup of cha,a joint and a toss.

    My daily life


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    This was no piss take, honest.

    I can understand how you'd think it was though. there has certainly been alot of mixed opinion about the topic, but then its not something most people talk bout openly anyway. I toss off regularly, and feel guilty about it, but from what i've read I'm guessing that I'm not alone.

    I found that jackinworld site too, very cool, thanks, its helped somewhat.

    As for pisstaking, I'd be more worried that the guest that signed in as "a friend" was taking the piss!! He/she sound kinda freaky.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,065 ✭✭✭✭Tusky


    try heroin that will take your mind off it :p anyway i gotta go....im off for a ****...


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 467 ✭✭Cheez


    "a friend" prolly wasnt messin
    dam religions&they're blind faith zombies
    to which they'd probly answer smugly "to believe in jesus
    love is eternal is the greatest thing ever..blah blah blah yakadee
    schmackadee". yea like "jesus" would want ya to be braindead
    and bigoted if he did exist to help everyone etc

    fuk sake like!

    And the bible said "thou shalt not hav a crack on an image of pammys big diddys" hehe that'd be cool huhuhuhuhuuhuh

    anyway don't too often but its better than runnin around bein a creepy pervert if ya couldnt be arsed swallowin ur pride and chattin to some female/s

    peace


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,420 ✭✭✭Doodee


    You call waking up with a good feeling but soaked underpants because you have just had that dream again where the beautiful blonde ties you up,fits electrodes to your balls,releases the electric charge and beats you round the face with a sack full of bricks and jagged metal until you are a vegetable normal?

    Ehh, not every1 has to have a blue dream in order for u to wake up with your undies soaked.

    Fact is that your penis has roughly 7 erections while u sleep, its all to do with blood flow, and sometimes that can cause u to splurg while asleep.

    Back on topic, I wouldnt reccommend u **** 3 times a day. it maybe a myth that it causes blindness, but it can cause blindness of sorts, for example, if u continue to live your life watching porn and whacking off, you will get a completely wrong impression of what women are actually like, they are not all sluts, and not all of them are comfortable to just whip off their clothes and have sex.

    I'd say that u try and cut down on it, not that its bad, but it can lead you into the wrong frame of thought. I'd suggest that you cut down on it to even once a day, or if your a strong will'd person, once or twice a week.

    I can say i went through the same phase when i was your age, but i'm also glad to say that I dont require self pleasuring reguardless of my dating state (Sex/ no sex).

    in the end its down to yourself. Hell, some ppl have even wanked 3 times a day right up till they were 80, there IS NOTHING wrong with it, and if it was bad, then why is it only natural.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 933 ✭✭✭mooman_00


    maybe if you join my religion itll help you stop its called friends of jesus who dont **** and i found it very effective in my time of need...its a very simple and fullfilling religion, you have a prayer for breakfast, a prayer for lunch and a proper dinner..you'll be gaurenteed to stop that eivil **** and loose weight in the process....

    i kinda agree with etho_, his origional thread does seem kinda suss...but if he is genuine then **** on brother,**** on....................... oh ya and that a friend guy is a wierdo!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,932 ✭✭✭The Saint


    if u continue to live your life watching porn and whacking off, you will get a completely wrong impression of what women are actually like, they are not all sluts, and not all of them are comfortable to just whip off their clothes and have sex.

    You mean they're not? No wonder I get slapped every time I ask a bird can I man juice over her tits and face with her sister watching. :p


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,472 ✭✭✭Sposs


    Originally posted by A friend
    I used to masterbate and watch porn a lot when I was a Catholic and I got the same guilt and I knew it was wrong but I didn't stop. Then I read a "Power To Change" book and prayed the salvation prayer in it (and meant it) and joined a Christian church and now I don't do it anymore (and I don't want to either)because Jesus is helping me, and in not just that but everything in my life.
    So if you like, I recommend praying the salvation prayer on www.powertochange.ie (you'll have to browse a bit through it to get to it) and joining a Christian church - I recommend "Victory" in 35 Westland Row (behind trinity college). It's website is www.victory.ie .

    Cya,
    a friend

    Praise the Lord................................whatever :rolleyes:


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 23,556 ✭✭✭✭Sir Digby Chicken Caesar


    I used to masterbate and watch porn a lot when I was a Catholic and I got the same guilt and I knew it was wrong but I didn't stop. Then I read a "Power To Change" book and prayed the salvation prayer in it (and meant it) and joined a Christian church and now I don't do it anymore

    catholics aren't christians now?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,205 ✭✭✭Tazz T


    Originally posted by yellum
    Ten years later you are going to be the exact same mate. Trust me. Hehe.

    Twenty years later and I'm still going strong:D


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,479 ✭✭✭Kell


    A friend goes through bouts of masturbation on a semi regular basis. Usually happens in the absence of sex and like Tosser, it's three or four times a day. He's thirty mind.

    And no, before any of you think it, it's not me referring to myself as a friend.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 68,317 ✭✭✭✭seamus


    If you stop, you'll fail your leaving. Every single remotely sexy female you see will have you itching to stick your hands down your pants :D You're far better off. It's not evil or perverted.

    Christian churches beleiving it's wrong, mainly has its roots in a very old belief that your manjuss holds the child, that the woman is simply a receptacle. So they used to believe that by spurting on the ground, you were killing an unborn life.

    Now we know better, so whack away! :p

    (Oh, and you'd be better off without a gf (till after your leaving). While she can do it for you from time to time, she's not going to be around 3 times a day, and the thoughts of her will just make it worse. Trust me :p)


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