What do girls look for in a guy?

Silverfish

I have a six pack, a motorcycle, a tattoo and a penchant for evil..

I do NOT like six packs!! They're weird! Nobody,as far as I know, is born with one.
They're something men have to work at to achieve. Why would anyone want to go out with someone like that? He'd be spending all his time at the gym.

Now all I have to do is find a bloke who tolerates death metal without wanting me to fit into his stereotype of what he wants his girlfriend to look like......


But seriosly, not every girl wants the Brad Pitt lookalike thing. Its important to be with someone who's like your best friend, because looks fade, but personality stays.

I was going out with this guy who was in a bike crash, and made bits of himself, he was really badly scarred. I only cared because of the discomfort it gave him, but it didn't change in any way how I felt about him, or how attracted to him I was.

Chucky

Originally posted by Silverfish
I do NOT like six packs!! They're weird! Nobody,as far as I know, is born with one.
They're something men have to work at to achieve. Why would anyone want to go out with someone like that? He'd be spending all his time at the gym.

OK, I've been working out at home for 3 years and im only 20 years old. Obviously my muscles are well toned but what if the guy is only working out to make himself feel fit and healthy? Is that so bad?
I never once wanted huge muscles. Right from the word go I've just been working out to feel fit FOR MYSELF

seamus

Originally posted by Silverfish
I do NOT like six packs!! They're weird! Nobody,as far as I know, is born with one.
They're something men have to work at to achieve. Why would anyone want to go out with someone like that? He'd be spending all his time at the gym.

Now all I have to do is find a bloke who tolerates death metal without wanting me to fit into his stereotype of what he wants his girlfriend to look like......


But seriosly, not every girl wants the Brad Pitt lookalike thing. Its important to be with someone who's like your best friend, because looks fade, but personality stays.

OMG, you sound completely like a girl I work with, who keeps kissing me on the cheek when she's drunk! But you can't be her...for various reason. Her terrible spelling being one of them.

I think many girls breath a sigh of relief too when they hear that men are actually interested in personality. Frankly a woman can be completely gorgeous (and I mean Liz Hurley gorgeous), but, if after 5 minutes talking to her, she sounds like a bore/pratt/gold-digger/idiot, she'd be gone.

Although women will never believe the above regardless of how many times the say they do

(Any of the above may be removed/edited tomorrow when I haven't got a significant volume of alcohol pervaying itself through my veins. )

karma kabbage

RELIABILITY!!! So sick of being with un-reliable guys. Part of this is have some sort of money flow... But it mainly being able to take his word, if he says he'll be somewhere at sometime...then he will.

A non-smoker...someone who doesn't smoke cigarettes and who doesn't like pot.

Someone who finds 'nuts in may', 'pete & dud', 'blackadder' and other things like that funny... with my kinda sense of humour. Who is fun to be with.

An affectionate guy is nice too....

but sometimes there just has to be a spark and if you feel that *spark* she will too, then the rest doesn't matter

Zukustious

Originally posted by karma kabbage

Someone who finds 'nuts in may', 'pete & dud', 'blackadder' and other things like that funny... with my kinda sense of humour.

What's Nuts in may and Pete and Dud? Seen Blackadder.

karma kabbage

'nuts in may' is a dodgy english film (mike leigh) that i love and 'pete & dud' was my own shorthand for peter cook and dudley more (comedic duo).

It's irrelevent who they are really...they were just the examples of my sense of humour that i pulled of the top of my head ... (very good if you can get your hands on 'em)

Sev

Originally posted by Silverfish
I do NOT like six packs!! They're weird! Nobody,as far as I know, is born with one.
They're something men have to work at to achieve. Why would anyone want to go out with someone like that? He'd be spending all his time at the gym.

Hmm, Id disagree. I'd say it is quite natural and common, its just that people dont tend to be that active and healthy in the 21st century. Personally, I dont have the most well defined six pack, but its not like I actually work out either. I just happen to be naturally very slim, very low body fat percentage and have a very high metabolism. It doesn't require going to a gym.

Silverfish

very low body fat percentage and have a very high metabolism. It doesn't require going to a gym.

Alright, I apologise for saying you spent all your time in the gym. Maybe I should have put 67 exclaimation marks after it to highlight it as an obvious exaggeration? I was just taking the 'majority of...' view. Like, when someone says 'men are all ********' they obviouslyy don't mean ALL men, becasue they haven't met them. So I was just saying.

OK, I've been working out at home for 3 years and im only 20 years old. Obviously my muscles are well toned but what if the guy is only working out to make himself feel fit and healthy? Is that so bad?I never once wanted huge muscles. Right from the word go I've just been working out to feel fit FOR MYSELF

Cranky lot last night weren't we??! The title of the thread was 'What do girls look for in a guy?'

I said what I personally look for, and don't look for, and I believe my opinion is not open to negotiation. I do not like six packs. Great if you do it for yourself, fair dues. There's plenty of girls out there who like them, so you're doing this for yourself AND making yourself healthier and more appealing to some women, so that is an excellent thing.

But I personally prefer cuddly bellies.



****DISCLAIMER****

I'm frantically reading back over this in the hope it won't be quoted and deconstructed at a later date. If what I said can mean two things, and one of them upsets you, then I meant the other thing.

Chucky

What about hairstyle in a guy? Shaved head, Longish hair, longER hair!, messy hair, .....or do girls actually like that bleached blonde hair?

logic1

Originally posted by Chucky
What about hairstyle in a guy? Shaved head, Longish hair, longER hair!, messy hair, .....or do girls actually like that bleached blonde hair?

Most of the girls I know drool over that spike prick on buffy.

.logic.

ferdi

Originally posted by Chucky
messy hair

are you refering to hair which is actually messy or the "just out of bed look" which is all the rage and actually takes half an hour infront of a mirror with a tube of wax to achieve - you've got to be the biggest poser to have that - "oh look at me! i'm a rougish young trouble maker with messy hair, coz i just dont care about anything! am i not cute and loveable??!!" - that pi$ses me off:mad:

Woden

Originally posted by T.G Catter
Someone who can make me laugh... and make nice tea! Not many fellas make nice tea u know...

I make quality tea, tea is very important, i've decided i like you.

Silverfish

The same as with men, everyone's taste in tea is different.

Me, I like a good strong cup of lyons. Preferably not made by anyone with that messed hair look or the bleached blonde look.

T.G Catter, from my extensive studies in this area, I can recommend some men with good tea making abilities? There should be a 'Who's Who' published of men with vital tea / coffee making abilities.



(Um, I got an hour's sleep last night, so I apologise for the lack of sense )

Woden

Originally posted by Silverfish
The same as with men, everyone's taste in tea is different.

its getting real philosophical, tea should be made strongly with not very much milk and no sugar. None of this dishwater stuff when you dip the teabag into the water for the craic just to make it wet. Also the quality of the water is important some water in dublin sucks and the quality of the tea from these houses suffers accordingly. Its on topic i swear.

karma kabbage

see i'd have to go for a highly condensed tea making experience... strong tea, milky tea and sweet tea...

but it doesn't really matter how they like their tea so long as they are willing to make my tea as i desire it

for 'desire please read 'NEED'

karma kabbage

oh, and hairy guys all the way, long hair, facial hair
........just no hair in the tea please (not a mix'n'match situation)

pickarooney

Originally posted by Silverfish
Ahaha Drowner we're NEVER going to fall out over a guy anyway!!

What annoyed me here was (oh there's ALWAYS something, isn't there?) that a load of guys have posted here telling US what we want!!

I've found that if I'm around someone a good bit, they don't p*ss me off, they're funny, they can be serious when they know I need them to be, they mighn't be the best looking guy in the world but I will fall for them.

Although, I'm apparently notorious for my really bad taste in men, but I always think the people I go out with are great, I'm friends with them all still because I value them as people.

1) I do NOT like six packs. Bleee. I like a man with a good bit of weight on. Mmmmmm cuddly.

2) MUST have the ability to be sarcastic, and understand sarcasm.

3) er.....now here's a shallow one.....I would prefer him to like the same music as me but its not compulsory.

4) er.....'size' is definitely not important.

5) I have a car. I don't need him to have one. (my car, my music!! Mwoahahaha!! If he wants to listen to his stuff, he can get his own car and listen to it in that!)

I think if he has some/all of these qualities, I'll eventually just fall for him anyway, because I'll look for something attractive about him. If he has no personality, I won't bother looking for something attractive, he won't even blip up on my radar.

The rest of the post is negated by point number 2, right? Do I win?

pickarooney

Does anyone look for what they reckon/know the guy will become, or what they can make out of him?

Looking at things like his Da, his college course, his hairline, his share portfolio, his characterless malleability?

Just wonderin', like.

Chucky

Originally posted by ferdi
are you refering to hair which is actually messy or the "just out of bed look" which is all the rage and actually takes half an hour infront of a mirror with a tube of wax to achieve

yeh i mean the "just-out-of-bed-look". Its what I go for most days when i bother. Haha. No way does it take that long though. And you dont need wax either. You just need to find the rght type of gel.

What about "just-out-of-bed-look" bleached blonde? The lead singer from busted has something kinda like that. I think it looks pretty cool.

What do ye all think?

bug

Does anyone look for what they reckon/know the guy will become, or what they can make out of him? Looking at things like his Da, his college course, his hairline, his share portfolio, his characterless malleability?

Believe it or not (and according to the discovery channel on Friday night), and I always look for this- if you want to know about a guy and what he will turn in to you look at his mother.
A girl- you look at the father.

Also men who have unhealthy relationships with their mother's or who have overbearing, overmothering mothers, IMO, tend to be disloyal, but romantic. They get sick of being henpecked at home by their mams and tend to see potential realtionships the same. I always look for a guy who gets on with his mother but not to the point of still being treated like a child, or treating her like a girlfriend- (i've seen it its weird)

Irish Mothers have a lot to answer for.

the fnj

[QUOTE The lead singer from busted has something kinda like that. I think it looks pretty cool.

What do ye all think? [/B][/QUOTE]

The lead singer from busted :rolleyes:


Enough said

Samara

Wow, could this question be any more general, there's no magic formula, different gals like different guys - simple as that!! My own personal preferences - not requirements, I'd live without a couple In no particular order BTW

1) Sense of humour - preferably sarcastic wit, love of Monty Python and all things wacky. Ability to laugh at himself and able to take a slagging!!
2) Respect of my independence, does not sulk or get jealous if I go out drinking with either my male or female friends. Does not think I have to check with him before I make plans for myself. This indicates lack of trust, no trust = goodbye. That's not saying he would not be included in the majority of these plans, he would, but I need my space and I expect that he would too!
3) Physically - broad shouldered, not too skinny or too heavy, average is just fine, muscled physique is also just fine, just not too WWF like!! Eyes, any colour as long as they're striking! Hair, no requirements, I like guys with shaved heads, average length hair and long hair...it's the package that counts not a particular aspect. Nice bum is also a big bonus Any guy who spends longer in front of a mirror than I do getting ready for a night out is also a No-No
4) Also the main physical attribute obsessed over by men - penis, size doesn't matter as long as he knows how to use it and is not a selfish lover!
5) Any guy looking for a domestic slave can just forget it, I refuse to clean up after any guy, it's all I can do to clean up after myself. Sexist comments relating to so-called 'women's jobs' will result in a black eye for the man in question:ninja:
6) Basically a bit of give and take, willing to compromise, not allergic to either mad nights out or cosy nights in depending on the mood!!

That's not too much to ask is it????:rolleyes:

Mercury_Tilt

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Typedef

Samara

Nice bum is also a big bonus

You're in luck so.

you can pm me for my number..

evie

Some interesting quotes from the lads there! I think everyone has their own opinion but a sense of humor and the ability to carry on a longer-than-5-minute conversation would rank pretty high for me! Also a nice smile, can't go wrong!

Samara

Originally posted by Mercury_Tilt
As soon as some man trains/breaks you in on the house chores front... you'd make some one a lovely wife ....someday.

Don't make me hurt you !!

GuanYin

Originally posted by evie
<snip> the ability to carry on a longer-than-5-minute conversation <snip>

...must....resist....sarcasm......


Sorry, I just don't tend to meet many girls who fall into that catagory out in Dublin (with the possible exception of Whelans bar)

Mercury_Tilt

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Trojan

So what's next Merc - calling her by her sisters/best friends name whilst in the heat of the moment?

Good luck!
Al.

Amz

Good with his hands...

Praetorian

Nice personality

Mercury_Tilt

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Amz

Sweet jesus Merc!!

The Clown Man

That scares me.

I think I'll stay single a while longer ....

Gordon

Merc has your pen been leaking again?

Lemming

Originally posted by Gordon
Merc has your pen been leaking again?

Actually .... if you look at that pic long enough, the top "Stain" (I feel so dirty now, thinking about what fetishes Tilt has been inflicting upon the pillow) almost looks like someone had their face covered in crap, and then mashed into it [the pillow] leaving behind an imprint of their (mashed) nose and their eyebrows

And the bottom stai .... erm ... actually .. lets not go there :eek:


Tilt!!! Ye perverse bugger ye!

Mercury_Tilt

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DriftingRain

1. A nice Butt.
2. A sence of humor.
3. A person that can have fun without having ALL the attention.
4. A good dancer.
5. A nice butt, wait I already said that!!!!:p

Chaos-Engine

Originally posted by T.G Catter
Someone who can make me laugh... and make nice tea! Not many fellas make nice tea u know...

lol

Aparently I'm pretty good at the tea bit
But i'm all taken

GuanYin

Originally posted by DriftingRain

4. A good dancer.

gah, and I was doing so well up until then.

Unfortunately when I hit the dancefloor I lose my normal finesse and agility and start moving like an articulated truck.......

Typedef

Originally posted by DriftingRain
1. A nice Butt.

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?postid=854564#post854564

In reality... I need a date... any takers for Saturday night... go through screening processes in my pm box.... muhaha

Samara

Anyway…You may hurt me at your leisure Samara.

LMAO, Merc, you are one scary dude!!!!! I've suddenly been put off my breakfast by your pillow pic! Besides, I'm afraid to hurt you now in case you set HER on me:(

The Saint

I've got quite a cute little ass too Typie. Can I go?

Wolf

Originally posted by Amz
Good with his hands...

Hehe, wana get a Drink

Beruthiel

In reality... I need a date... any takers for Saturday night...

well Typie, if there's a flash dinner involved, I'm there!


Mercie, you freak!!

Mercury_Tilt

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Beruthiel

Originally posted by Mercury_Tilt
[BI think Ill have an ickle nap now. [/B]

I believe you need it!

ps
don't forget to change the sheets!

Ms Taken

jees people he is like that!!!! and hes not sleeping with my best friend! when hes not in college hes with me.

Chucky

Wow this thread has certainly changed a hell of a lot.

I definately agree with all the 'bum points' about a girl. She definately needs to have a nice, lucious bum that you just wanna........Ill stop there. haha

DriftingRain

Well, I have the nice bum part. I have the nice eyes part. I don't wear much make up unless I am going clubbing then I like to throw on a little extra. Soooo, it must be something else about me that throws a man... I must figure that one out!:rolleyes: