trying it on with a friend

LegacyUser

i have this problem, i met this girl about a month ago and she became one of my best friends litteraly over night, shes so easy to talk to, and funny, and smart, and cute, well basically shes everything and a lot more. well you see i have totally fallen for her! i love every thing about her, but if i get with her (or try to atleast) and it doesnt work out then what? i will have lost a brilliant friend who i just can't lose.

alot of **** has happened to me with women over the years i had a girlfriend who cheated on me right infront of me and a girlfriend who wanted me to tell her i loved her every 10 minutes and wait on her every breath and txt her and phone her every day (which by the way i cant stand) i like my women independant

im thinking now is my time to shine and ask her out. but im scared ****less! what do i do? do i just keep it as friends and forego any upset but have a great friendship? or take my chances (and have the possibility of it turning out disasterous)

Mossy Monk

go for it. if the friendship is as strong as you make it out to be then you can both bounce back and be friends again

fisty

Whinge on the internet about how much you love her.
If that doesn't work you can bounce back and be friends again.

LegacyUser

well your a barrell of laughs

i know i sounded a bit sad saying i love her but if you knew what she was like you would know what im on about

but you know fisty your absolutely right as soon as i posted this i thought that i was a sad b*****d who was going to end up not asking her out and whinge on the net just like you said. but ive decided i will because i dont want to be the lad who is too much of a pussy even ask a girl out

you may have been taking the piss but thanks. knocked the sence back in to me

WhiteWashMan

now fisty, if i had posted that style of post, im sure someone would have come along and posted a strange conversation type post in order to show me the error of my ways.

strange how some people relate to different things eh?

by the way poster. if you like her then make the decision to go either one way or the other, but dont ever ever ever in life leave yourself with that 'if only' feeling.if you ask her out and get knocked back, then fúck it, at elast you tried.

go get her.

Washout

Love only happens very seldom or at least i hope it does. So of course its worth the risk.

by the sounds of it you two have become extremly close as friends....and it seems like a strong friendship so its worth asking her out

DeadBankClerk

Originally posted by fisty
Whinge on the internet about how much you love her.
If that doesn't work you can bounce back and be friends again.

lol?

Tusky

Originally posted by dunnowhattodo
i have this problem, i met this girl about a month ago and she became one of my best friends litteraly over night, shes so easy to talk to, and funny, and smart, and cute, well basically shes everything and a lot more. well you see i have totally fallen for her! i love every thing about her, but if i get with her (or try to atleast) and it doesnt work out then what? i will have lost a brilliant friend who i just can't lose.

alot of **** has happened to me with women over the years i had a girlfriend who cheated on me right infront of me and a girlfriend who wanted me to tell her i loved her every 10 minutes and wait on her every breath and txt her and phone her every day (which by the way i cant stand) i like my women independant

im thinking now is my time to shine and ask her out. but im scared ****less! what do i do? do i just keep it as friends and forego any upset but have a great friendship? or take my chances (and have the possibility of it turning out disasterous)

distract her with an RTE guide and shlide the log in :rolleyes:

johnnynolegs

Originally posted by Tusky
and shlide the log in :rolleyes:

hilarious

mada999

Grow a pair of balls and ask her out you goat. . . .

Victor

Talk to her, say you "like" her, see the response.

Or kiss her when you / her are drunk, see where that goes. [Actually last time I tried that she stopped talking to me ]

fisty

heh.
Good man, I think.....

Trojan

If you wanna make her into more than a friend then you need to make her think of you differently. To do that you need to stop acting like a "friend" and more like a possible bf.

Think about how you're gonna do that.

And whatever you do, don't listen to some of the stoopid suggestions above, particular the ones that involve alcohol.

And above all, do NOT text her to tell her your feelings when you are drunk!

If you do, I will break into Spin, find your IP address, track you down, and batter you with a large umbrella.

(It's raining today)

Al.

Tusky

And whatever you do, don't listen to some of the stoopid suggestions above

excuse me my advice was top notch and guarenteed to work by Tusk.co !

I shall repeat
" distract with RTE guide and SHLIDE the log in"

TwoShedsJackson

Originally posted by DeadBankClerk
lol?

lol.

b3t4

Hey,

Id warn you to be very careful of how you approach this one. You havent mentioned anything with to how she is feeling/acting towards you. She may just be a very friendly person. You say you've had problems with women before. Maybe the emotional intimacy you have with her is clouding your judgement. Also ye havent known each other that long.

I moved into a new house. I didnt know anyone in the house. The guy and I got on great. We were having a really good laugh together and were able to talk about most stuff. Im pretty open and also friendly. He wasnt use to this and got the wrong idea. Three to four weeks after I moved in. He tells me how much he loves me and that Im the one girl for him. Then to reinforce this he wrote me a letter telling me the same thing.

This all scared the **** out of me. He hasnt been the same with me since and neither have I with him.

If you are not getting any any hints from her that she is interested, do not go down the road of asking her out for another while anyways.

The same things happened with a best friend of mine and I was able to deal with that allot better as he is my best friend and Iv know him for years.

Best of luck,
A.

sceptre

Mostly same reply as here.

Simple formula: tell her, if she doesn't feel the same way, put it aside and carry on as normal. If you can.

mooman_00

Originally posted by b3t4
Hey,

Id warn you to be very careful of how you approach this one. You havent mentioned anything with to how she is feeling/acting towards you. She may just be a very friendly person. You say you've had problems with women before. Maybe the emotional intimacy you have with her is clouding your judgement. Also ye havent known each other that long.

I moved into a new house. I didnt know anyone in the house. The guy and I got on great. We were having a really good laugh together and were able to talk about most stuff. Im pretty open and also friendly. He wasnt use to this and got the wrong idea. Three to four weeks after I moved in. He tells me how much he loves me and that Im the one girl for him. Then to reinforce this he wrote me a letter telling me the same thing.

This all scared the **** out of me. He hasnt been the same with me since and neither have I with him.

If you are not getting any any hints from her that she is interested, do not go down the road of asking her out for another while anyways.

The same things happened with a best friend of mine and I was able to deal with that allot better as he is my best friend and Iv know him for years.

Best of luck,
A.

That definetly seems a little fukked up but surely saying or letting this girl know that he likes her is a good start..........as long as he leaves out the undying love/ur d only one for me/love letter part of course............

ButcherOfNog

Originally posted by Victor
Or kiss her when you / her are drunk, see where that goes. [Actually last time I tried that she stopped talking to me ]

you mean taking advantage of her didn't win her love? amazing.

Victor

Originally posted by ButcherOfNog
you mean taking advantage of her didn't win her love? amazing.

Actually I was the perfect gentleman about it, yes she was well merry, but no she wasn't yet at the stage of swigging from a bottle of bacardi on my living room floor.

Trojan

Originally posted by b3t4
I moved into a new house. I didnt know anyone in the house. The guy and I got on great. We were having a really good laugh together and were able to talk about most stuff. Im pretty open and also friendly. He wasnt use to this and got the wrong idea. Three to four weeks after I moved in. He tells me how much he loves me and that Im the one girl for him. Then to reinforce this he wrote me a letter telling me the same thing.

We guys really suck sometimes, this is just sad and pathetic. I know - I have done something vaguely similar in the past due to complete inexperience

Hey guys, wake up, there's about 2,999,999,999 other women in the world...

Al.

WhiteWashMan

Originally posted by Victor
Actually I was the perfect gentleman about it, yes she was well merry, but no she wasn't yet at the stage of swigging from a bottle of bacardi on my living room floor.

that was beat wasnt it?

you kids!

ferdi

if she is so easy to talk to, say it to her (that you want to give it a try). if she laughs, you've got your answer.

Sev

What exactly.. is the problem?

Tusky

he wants a girlfriend but then he wouldnt be able to jack off to internet porn alll day

I have to say its a very serious problem m8 and id hate to be in your shoes :rolleyes:

vibe666

Originally posted by Tusky
I have to say its a very serious problem m8 and id hate to be in your shoes :rolleyes:

Didn't you sell those shoes to him anyway?

Seriously tho, if you've tried kissing her (even when drunk) and got the cold shoulder then it's not going to happen.

do the old 'if neither of us is married by the time we're 30, then we'll have to marry each other' thing and move on to someone else who you've got a chance with.

No point wasting the time on something you know isn't going to happen.

Women have a concept which is alien to men. Which is a platonic friendship.

which means they can be friends with someone without wanting to shag them.

men don't have this obstacle keeping them from potential sex, so it can sometimes cause problems.

You don't have a chance mate, move on to someone you do have a chance with.

end of story.

see my sig for further info.

Caesar_Bojangle

dunnowhattodo, post up a picture of yourself so we can judge how ugly you are and whereabouts you rate on the fugly scale, to save potential embarrassment of being turned down by this particular girl. We'll be able to tell you if you stand a chance with her or not.

btw post a picture of her too

LegacyUser

now how would posting my pic up on the net keep me anonimous and make my problem any less difficult

anyway thank you all for your advice i think i will ask her out but im going to wait a little and gather up some courage and see if she feels anything towards me.

Typedef

Look it's real simple.

Take her out to some hedonistic club.... dress well... dance with her...

Take her home... have your way with her... then discard her to your best friend.... prefarably (though not always) in favour of her best friend (or sister)...... given the chance women would do the same thing.

Best to keep them in their place.

Kell

Originally posted by Typedef

Take her home... have your way with her... then discard her to your best friend.... prefarably (though not always) in favour of her best friend (or sister)...... given the chance women would do the same thing.

Not before you have got the new sports car out of them eh Typie (me winks in Typie's direction).

Heres another approach that no one has come up with yet but has worked for me in the past. Steer the next conversation that you have with her towards sex and particularly what turns her on. Then jokingly ask if you can have a bash at trying to turn her on. If she is remotely interested in a "more than just friends" relationship, she'll let you. If not, she'll tell you outstraight and remove any ambiguity from your thinking.

K-

AL][EN

Originally posted by dunnowhattodo
now how would posting my pic up on the net keep me anonimous and make my problem any less difficult

anyway thank you all for your advice i think i will ask her out but im going to wait a little and gather up some courage and see if she feels anything towards me.

I hate to say this mate but if you do that you'll be waiting from now until your old and grey. I really wouldn't wait if i were you as most of the guys and girls here have already said why not just give it a go ask her out for a few drinks to the pub (after all your not proposing to her) that's not too difficult is it?

Now lets face it no one likes to get rejected its not fun id know cos I've been shot down that many times before i could write a book about it. But look at it this way from past experience this is more than likely what would happen if you ask her out

she says no. there's gonna be that uncomfortable moment of silence between you both then the "so just friends then" bit
then you'd probably feel a little embarrassed seeing or talking to her for a while that passes and within a month or two you swallow your pride you txt or ring her one night out of the blue and her presto your mates again

OR

she says yes in which case this whole post has been for nothing really either way its your choice man if it was me and this woman's as good looking as you say she is then Fup it just go for it man why the hell not.



you know i really should try acting on my own advise sometimes as funnily enough I'm in the same situation myself but that's a whole different story!!!!