Relocating to the U.S with kids after Divorce

Similar thoughts but more you'll be denying your child access to their father. As for the states, have you ever been? You realise the costs over there particularly with kids (health insurance etc) is a hell of a lot more than here. Pre covid they were going through a bit of a housing boom also so property prices went nuts.

This is pie in the sky stuff, sorry OP. Even taking the "How do I legally remove my children from the jurisdiction without their fathers' consent" issue out of it (spoiler alert: you can't), your chances of getting a visa to work in the US are essentially nil.

I suggest you treat this as what it is - a daydream - and start figuring out how to have some kind of civil relationship with your ex.

Irish people

''I'm going to immigrate

Only countries on the planet are USA CANADA AND AUSTRALIA''

Costs here are crazy. USA is a great country to make money in, but it’s DAMNED hard to get a foothold in.

the costs alone of the visa (which is not happening at the moment due to presidential decree) not to mention the cost of living here right now, mean that you have to have a job to come to and also an employer willing to sponsor.

kids are going to cost you a fortune here. Health care, feeding clothing telephone tv are ALL much more expensive than in Ireland.then there is the rent issue, which currently is going through the roof.

imho, now is not a good time for the states, despite jobs being offered in Every single location. Thousands of them locally where I am and no takers.

How much have you thought this through? You have two children so they (and their relationship with your ex) should be your first priority.

As others have pointed out costs there can be significant compared to here. Whatever about someone with no responsibilities to anyone but themselves relocating because they want to start a new life somewhere else and it's the only place in mind so far, you have responsibilities and you need to put your children first. That can mean making sacrifices.

Because it's the only place in mind so far doesn't come across as being particularly well thought through.

Housing can be expensive in areas where job opportunities are good, local taxes can be very high in comparison, can you afford a house in the right school district, get both children into good schools, also possibly costing more than here, childcare, school costs, healthcare costs, etc.

What is a simple trip to A+E here could easily cost you a five figure sum in the US. Even with work connected medical insurance the deductable or copay can be higher than treatment would cost here.

How close to third level age is your eldest. Cost in the US can be astronomical compared to here, even more so if he might be considered a foreign student.

Have you considered security of employment? There are far fewer employee protections in most US states, some have 'at will' employment. Would you be leaving a secure job here for a probationary position there in an 'at will employment' state?

You are asking for suggestions of where, visas, timeframe and how much savings you would need to relocate to the US. This suggests you have a vague notion, not a plan. Even with a well thought out and well prepared plan courts would be reluctant to interfere with the ongoing relationship between the children and their father(s).

'Feels' is not a good reason to disrupt your children's lives. You have responsibilities. They should come first.

OP - As others have pointed out. You can't move the children (especially your youngest) without the permission of the other parent and/or a court order. So you will HAVE to talk to your ex at some stage. Whatever your feelings, it's his child too and he should have input.

If that goes OK and you're allowed to move? Why not relocate to the UK? Plenty of pharma opportunities, no visa issues and no issues with regard to healthcare as you'll have access to the NHS, being (presumably) an Irish citizen. The court might look a little more favourably on a move to the UK, rather than the US/Canada.

I'm a man, and I can tell you it works both ways and is just as much a pain when you are the one wanting to relocate with the kids.