Is it weird to be single at 30?

It's only odd if you're weird about it.

Def no. Maybe at 40+++ that's when you worry.

Worry about what?

Really weird to be married under 25.

It is not weird to be single at 30. What is weird is to think it's weird to be single at 30. Or any age for that matter.

Married at 34 back to single for a while now. It's only weird if you make it weird.

At the end of the day, better alone than in bad company 😁

As the saying goes, a bitter ending is better than an endless bitterness.

I'm single and a complete weirdo! But the real question is am I weird due to being single or am I single due to being weird?

I got married at 22, didn’t work out because we were both nuts but that’s surely part of the deal if you’re getting married at 22. 28 now and I’d rather be single than in a ferocious mental bullfight of a relationship. Also it’s not a zero sum game where you’re in some absurd abyss or you’re in a content state of mutual love and support. Relationships have a price too, so if you ain’t done found somebody who makes that price worth it then you really shouldn’t get into one for the sake of it.

I was single at 30 and had been for years before that and understand entirely the situation with everyone around you at work in a relationship or married or whatever.

One thing you do feel is loneliness and I tended to work a lot harder/later than others.

Then one day a young pretty 27YO joined where I worked and began making an effort to talk to me and was really friendly. Soon afterwards we initially kissed and days after I asked her out. . . and she turned me down. Later we ended up on a date and started a relationship but it only lasted 6 weeks. Loved her with all my heart but she was coming from a bad place as she had left a relationship of 6 years just before she met me. I was a rebound.

Shortly after I fell into a sea of depression and sadness. . . . and I'd have given anything to have been just lonely at 30 again.

Marry by 35, be craving single life again by 45.

Who cares? Most people think the grass is always greener for the other guy. Live your own life in a way that makes you happy first, every day, and the rest will follow. If the rest includes singledom for the next 70 years, eff it, you'll still be the happy one.

Not really since I feel the average 30 year old in Ireland has the maturity of someone in their early 20s.

I think most people are just into doing their 9-5 and going home and they actually don't care about the lives of their coworkers.

It only gets weird if the person keeps going on about how lonely they are or how they're such a nice guy etc.

34 and single, kind of annoying as most of buddies are now busy on the weekends/big days out like paddys day etc and being tough to get something going...and covid has killed tinder/dating apps....,

...wait till you get to your 40's, it gets weirder!

38 and single. You'd miss the companionship, but the freedom is just about worth it!

We have a skewed perception here in Ireland when it comes to age and certain milestones. Take being 35 here vs the UK. You could be 35 and go to a festival, out clubbing every weekend in somewhere like London and no one bats an eyelid. Here, at least I found, is there is this weird cut off point of "time to get serious". The great winding down if you will.

I've seen people who only 2 years ago were out most weekends, holidays, etc. Then got into a relationship approaching 30 and were married a year after that. My suspicion is that people approach 30 as if it's a time to get married and get settled. These are people I know who would have been in longer previous relationships and all collectively have magically found "the one" approaching 30.

I find that alarming within itself. It shouldn't be some societal pressure that makes you make what is one of the biggest, if not biggest decisions in your life.

If and when I get married. I want it to be with someone who I am very very certain about and have worked out all the kinks (yes even those ones, you dirty bstrds). I want it to more importantly be built on something truly deep and meaningful because hey were going on the rest of this journey called life together. Then put kids into that equation and it's a whole new level of pressure on the relationship.

Time, understanding and true depth to any relationship. Friend or otherwise comes with experience and time. Not some fictionalised milestone we must hit.

Plus 30 is no age, at least I am saying this from a man's perspective, without speaking for everyone.

Please also read the subtext of your post OP. It screams everyone else is doing it shouldn't I be doing it? Not to sound insulting but are you 16 and following a fashion trend. No. You're a fully grown adult capable of living life on their own terms without having to justify it to anyone. Pressuring parents who are imposing their idea of what they think would make you happy (and also wanting grandkids). Your friends or anyone else settling down.

Committing to someone for life and building that life is the biggest decision you can make. It's not picking something off the shelf and thinking "that'll do".

Apologies for the looooong post. But I had similar thoughts when I was 30.

How big a boy are ya? Just thinking I could add to your woes by knocking you out? For to every one who has will more be given, and he will have abundance; but from him who has not, even what he has will be taken away. Just thinking I could be a Biblical agent of sorts and smash you down into the dust a bit. Anyway, just a thought.

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38 and single, having had my kids young ( late teens & mid 20's) and then got married at 30. I'd agree with the above. Covid and the curtailing of all social activities has made it very hard to get something started with someone and the dating apps are just dire.

All that being said I'd rather be single and happy than stuck in a bad marriage being miserable

It's not weird. You should be happy in your own skin. I would rather be single than in an unhappy draining relationship just for the sake of it.

They're the same bellends that berate people for still living at home when they're living at home themselves.