House sharing becoming difficult

What did you expect? You started this when you went to the landlord to complain.

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I really relate to the situation OP. Had a similar problem myself a few years back. Was in a 4-way houseshare for a year that was fine, but 2 of them moved out leaving myself and one other HM with the place. She was a very close friend and we got on really well so we decided to try rent out the other two. We had a mutual friend and one of her good friends from college looking for spaces. The latter guy seemed sound at the beginning and we all got along well, but it soured with similar behaviour to what you're describing. He would regularly come home late (as in after midnight when most of us were already asleep) and start playing music loudly off his phone, drinking, and turning the heat on for the whole house, so if the noise didn't wake us up the temperature would. Then set alarms for around 6am in the morning that seemed to only wake my other HM and not himself, because he was never up early. Also had a habit of inviting friends around late and making a lot of noise too, or staying up to all hours.

Despite the bollocking you're getting in the thread for thinking this is inconsiderate to do without giving notice, I do agree. Shared areas belong to everyone, and if you're going to be taking one of them over for the whole evening it's common courtesy to at the very least give a heads up to the rest of the house. In a lot of the cases I had I probably would have tried to make arrangements find somewhere else to be if I'd known I wasn't going to be able to get any peace to study or sleep for the evening. Even later on when I was subletting a room in my apartment, I'd 100% always give my HM I was subletting to some notice if I was inviting some friends over for that reason and make sure it was ok with him, and he did the same for me.

Didn't clean up after himself either. We tried having meetings to discuss rules and shared responsibilities but they never really had much long-term effect. The close friend and I were driven up the wall with him. It is very frustrating, because you feel like when you've been there first and invited them in then you should have seniority, but it really just doesn't work like that in any way. Unlike you, we actually outnumbered him and still couldn't do anything. The defacto power lies with whoever is being the most obnoxious and causing the most trouble for the rest, because they can stick it out longer. We really didn't want to leave, because it was a nice place at a good price, and we were there first, and you are basically just rewarding everything they've done to piss you off, but we had to give in eventually and get out. As others have pointed out, the LL will never really care as long as they aren't violating the lease, and even if they are it's difficult. The bad tenant could stop paying the rent, start wrecking the furniture, and sell heroin out of the apartment and it would be months of court proceedings to get them to leave anyway. Glad to hear you managed to get another place at least, and you've also learned the hard way to be incredibly cautious in future about who you invite into a place to share with you.

Good to hear Lilacnails!

I know you got some shiit in here but I think it was due to the only real solution being moving out. Your former housemates were inconsiderate by the sounds of it but unfortunately there was nothing you could do about that.

Its a shame that the more annoying people can call the shots in this situation.

Hope everything works out for you. Out of curiosity, did you get your own place?

Sad that you're stuck paying more, but I suppose you do have to do the maths on that at some point I suppose and ask how much is it worth financially to be able to live in relative comfort and peace. It's just very unpleasant living with somebody you do not like and feeling like you want to avoid being in the same room with them as much as possible.

I took the same lesson myself. In future, don't let any people onto the lease who don't need to be there. Even if they're friends, because they may not be anymore after you have to live with them. The more people on it, the bigger the headache you'll end up with. If you can pull together a deposit on the apartment or house, then do it and sublet the rooms, or if you're stuck, only have someone else you really trust go onto it. You'll have no trouble filling the other rooms in today's market.