Is your life over once you get married?

I’m marrying someone that does not want kids and it will be party and travel till I inevitably die

I can still party with the best of them believe me ;) I had my 20’s, my raves my yokes every weekend etc but believe it or not it does eventually get boring.

Some of the saddest guys I know now are those “legend in their own mind” types who are desperately clinging on to their youth, waking up with the skag every weekend. Life moves on and people move on, don’t judge anyone because you are still in full on party mode. Sooner or later you’ll realise the lights are on and everyone is gone home.

I know a few party animals that are married and a few boring sods who are single. Kids put a damper on things though, don't have them or you will be caught looking after them for quite a few years

Back in the day people didn't move around so much and there was always a neighbour or a relative who would look after your kids of a night if you wanted to go partying and you'd look after theirs the next time but thats all gone now.

Not over just changed.

I have enough I’m old now

Getting married doesn’t mean that either.

Ah no 😁. That's just the beginning. All the while investing the best of character and principles into the next generation and hopefully you won't end up in a nursing home.

The saddest thing ever that I hear is when a person in their 70s or 80s calls my office and tells me they are "alone". The sadness in the voice is heartbreaking.

You remind me of myself a few years back. I said exactly the same thing, I was happy being single, going on dates, having fun little flings, travelling, doing whatever I wanted whenever I wanted. Then one day I met my (now ex) girlfriend and everything changed. She completely changed me, took me outside of my little world I was in and showed me how awesome it was being in a loving relationship and having someone at your back. Being part of a team. She expanded my world, my experiences and my thinking entirely. Ironically it wasn't until we broke up that I truly saw the value she brought and the lessons I learned thanks to her. I finally understand why people get into a relationship and want to get married and spend their lives together. It's a really nice thing.

What I'm trying to say is, you just haven't met the right woman yet. When you do it'll all make sense. You'll genuinely, really WANT to spend time with her and do things with her. And then you'll fall in love, whether you want to or not and the rest will unfold itself to you in time.

There's more than a grain of truth to this. What age are you OP? You're almost inevitably going to get to the stage where you don't have many single friends to go out with any more. And if you go to pubs and nightclubs the young ones will be giving you a wide berth because you're one of those weirdo auld lads who still thinks he has it.

It's just the process of growing up and your priorities in life changing.

We all drank and loved nights out when we were young, but when you get to a certain age and stage in life, most people don't have the interest to do this any more. The odd one for sure, for a big match, or a birthday or a special occasion, but it might involve a meal as well as drink. It becomes more about the company and chat, than about getting drunk and the shift.

Of course there are exceptions to every rule. Some people will still want to do this into their 40s, 50s, etc. But you'll stand out from the crowd, as there won't be many like you. I know a guy who is in his mid 40s, and he still acts like he did in his 20s. Partying any free night he'd get, drug taking etc. In fact he has started hanging with a younger crowd as well, as his original mates have 'grown up'. I have no doubt he'll still be at it in another 10 years time, unless his life changes dramatically. He's single and to be honest ain't going to find any sort of partner living that lifestyle.

But sure as long as he's happy....

Any of my friends who are not social now were not that social before they had wives/kids and were always a nightmare to get out of the house.

I have plenty of friends who still make time to do stuff with their mates because they enjoy it and want to have healthy relationships with others.

Nights out boozing and doing coke etc. are great craic but as you get older and you make your life more interesting it doesn't become so appealing, especially with the mental/physical pain after a sesh.

Unfortunately, for some people growing old DOES mean becoming boring. Luckily we are at an age now that we are (@@@cough@@@) middle-aged. We still lead a crazy life that most people our age do not. We travel a fair amount, we don't do nor ever have done the rave thang..... I am lucky (as is herself) that most of our friends are pretty non-standard also. Our friends are a mad mixture of married couples, singles, of all sexual persuasions and marital and non-marital status. It makes life interesting.

It depends on the people you hang out with. My friends from childhood are still my friends from childhood and we can still have a laugh like we did growing up (granted when they are out of the suit and ties, they are one hell of a lot different to when in them)

Some people DO change and become their fathers when they get married, obviously freedom/time is restricted if there are kids and rightly so. Without kids, why become the "couple" who only do "coupley" things.

Herself and myself still get up to mischief as a couple but also on lads/ladies nights and weekends away... it makes seeing each other again much more fun..;)

You know what, you're not wrong there. I'm allergic to a lot of that crap. I think you learn after your first to start finding ways to swerve anything that is a social gathering solely based on the kids knowing each other.

I can guarantee you, I am not jealous.